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Is there a point in dating someone who doesn't believe in marriage? (Page 2)
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Girl break up then and just be honest "look if I waste 5 years in this relationship I might not find Mr. Right because I am with you I want to get married I don't want common law marriage or just be someone girlfriend" he can't get mad at you for being honest.
If he doesn't believe in marriage, but holds the same mindset or loyalty as one 'should' if they are married, it should not matter. You may not be able to expect him to be super excited about the marriage thing, but you could probably get him to go along with it and 'confirm' the relationship with you by getting married anyways, even if he doesn't believe in it.
That's something only you can answer for yourself. But at your age, this probably isn't a "forever" relationship anyway.
Just know that when a man tells you something like this, you need to believe him, and you should not expect him to change his mind. This is why it is so critical to "interview" a guy about important long-term relationship issues BEFORE you get into a relationship with him - because you need to know what you are getting before you choose to be with him. After, it's too late.
If you know for sure that you want to get married and your partner does not, then I think it's pointless to stay together since one of you will ultimately be unhappy. Most people don't change their views on things like this so you shouldn't stay together expecting him to suddenly change his mind one day. The decision to get married or not is a pretty big issue that you need to agree on when getting into a new relationship.
You two are not equally yoked. It will cause problems later on. You're hoping that he change his mind about marriage, but what if he doesn't. You'll be hurt and worng. Hurt for wanting something but never being to receive it. And wrong because he told you were he stood from the beginning. You're just wasting his time and yours.
Why do you want to be married?
If he is with you and loves you for the rest of your life why does it matter?
If it were illegal to be married, could you be happy with him for the rest of your life, not being married?
I get what you're saying, but there are some good reasons to get married. For example, if he's on life support, and his parents wanted to pull the plug, she wouldn't have much say so in the matter (this is on a state by state basis but still).
Look at this way, people have fought to legalize gay marriage for a reason.
@Sparda20xx Filling out a "final directive" easier than getting married.
@Sparda20xx What does your sexual preference have to do with the logic of marriage, how does it change the reasons to get married or not. Same rules apply to traditional and same sex couples.
And do you really think that is the reason she wants to get married... to have the right to pull the plug. That probably hasn't even gone through her mind until she read this thread.
Final directive can be over run. Two I never said that was her reason for getting married. I'm merely pointing out the legal ramifications. Third, if just loving one another was enough than why would gay people fight so hard to legalize gay marriage. One must think on that
You asked what if marriage was illegal. And in yet people who are gay have been fighting for years to have their marriage legalize. If simply loving one another was sufficient than why fight. There's OBVIOUSLY a deeper reason than just Oh we love each other as you stated
@Sparda20xx What I mean is traditional and same sex both want and don't want marriage. But same sex couples wanting marriage doesn't validate the reason to get married. The are no different than traditional couples... all it proves is the want it too... no one is denying that. What I"m saying is same sex doesn't make the idea of marriage more valid.
Yes. I have been with my guy for over 2 years, and we do not intend getting married. We are happy just living together.
Does marriage really make you happier, than much wealthier, live longer, more faithful? Getting married is actually a waste of money.
You should ask yourself if you rather stay with him "forever" as a girlfriend or leave him and marry someone who would like to be be married.
One of the first thing I said to my 9+ years girlfriend is that I will NEVER marry her, and she's OK with this (she has the same vision of life) and she knows what gonna happen if she put me "pressure" about this (witch will not happen).
It's your choice : THIS man... or a ring. Choose wisely.
Of course, if you love them then being married or not doesn't matter and in my opinion opinion marriage has lost its meaning over the years like it's beautiful to call someone you husband or wife and the idea is great but it's not what it used to be and you don't need a piece of paper to prove your love 😊
Don't bother unless you agree to be her boyfriend for life. If you keep on with her even if she said that, after yes she will leave you just to say yes to the next dude. Dont make your lifr complicated, plenty of fishes in the sea and your marriage aspirations are not crazy
*girlfriend *he ;)
Many couples can stay together happily unmarried their whole lives but if you truly have your heart set on it, I suppose
it's possible he could change his mind.
Also, if you feel that strongly about marriage and he doesn't then maybe it would be better to split now.
Women are the only ones that stand to benefit from marriage and I'm very sure your boyfriend knows this. There is no point in men marrying anymore. It's in fact dangerous for a man to get married, should the marriage end for a man he stands to lose his children if he has any and everything he owns along with his livelihood.
I am looking for a girl to marry me. My ex girlfriend said the same thing to me a couple of years ago and she said that she’s not the marriage type. But now she wants to come back to me. So I told her if you want marriage to come back as I told her I want to marry her. I can’t find anyone my age I’m 47 that even wants to re marry again at all where I do actually want to be married two to three years from now.
That is hard to say
Many young people who don't believe in marriage change their minds as they grow older or at least become open to it as the pragmatism of getting older sets in
But ultimately it depends on your feelings for the guy
Do you just want to be married or do you want to be married to him specifically
If he says he doesn't want it or that he won't even concider it in the future, believe what he says. Don't count on him changing his mind. Not saying he won't change his mind but it's a big risk if you really want to be married someday in the future.
Your boyfriend is smart, marriage is a sham. But I would suggest that you either get used to never getting married or find someone else, it is unlikely that he will change his mind (depending on why he is anti marriage) but not impossible, he may decide later on that he does want marriage.
Marriage is a big risk for men. I would be in a committed long term relationship and not get married. The only only time id marry would be to a very religious virgin because she's going to be just as freaked out at me leaving her as ill be at her leaving me because she will never have the chance for a perfect religious marriage again.
There are many behavioral styles today and some choose to be without being committed. Sort of as a pastime which will always be up for suggestion. Some can and some can't but if you don't know don't go. Smell the "real" coffee.
I think the answer to this question is pretty damn obvious. If you want to be married at some point and you know he doesn't, you shouldn't waste your time in the hope that he will change his mind. Move on from him.
He already was very clear with you. You need to choose so you won't say in the girlfriend title forever. If it's that important for you then moov on now and no need to waste your time and his