I've been single my entire life lol and I'm in my early 30s, no sex either. Yes, I have gone on dates girls throughout the years but that's it. Do I feel depressed? No. But, as you get older you do want to find someone and settle down. I don't want to be one of those guys where if I don't have a girl in my life I'm just going to walk around salty, jealous and mad at everyone else in life.
The true test is getting through life alone and being patient and nice regardless, and then coming across someone special who makes you into a better person. I've met girls who are bitchy, dramatic, non-religious, so what I am trying to say is, I don't want to just settle and find a girl who is not compatible.
I can relate. lol im not really a guys first choice so even if I tried tinder I wouldn't have any luck, so in reality for me It dropped my self esteem, already, im only 18, but I realized I wasn't beautiful, so no matter how good I do in my life, my love life will probably not exist and im okay with that. Its cheaper to be single a anyways, and reading erotica becomes a lot more fun and you dont have to be guilty about a lot of things another plus Side is you get to be yourself. You dont have to throw on a shit ton of make up just for some dude that settled for you anyway to notice you. You can say fuck it and do your own thing. Love is being too hyped. Just get a hot guy, have sex with him and ignore him right after that will boost up your confidence so high u won't even care to marry anyone anymore. people get divorced all the time, its a waste of money, love is only promoted so much because its glamorous looking and people have nothing else to do.
you may find yourself not beautiful physically, but somewhere, there is this person that not only sees your physical appearance but the one that is hidden inside yourself and that is your intellectual beauty and that is the more important one, at least to me.
here i gonna make some changes , its not like being single make you depressed , the depression is caused because you're not with one you wanted to be or you did'nt have them with you might be your ex or someone who is out of your league m being single is fine upto 19-18 of age i was happy being single , but then comes the shot , there was a girl who clicked with me , at that time she had a boyfriend so i was away , later she was single , we have been together for sometime like 6-7 months hanged out like 2-3 times , but later on i just gave her up , then i went back after 3-4 months she got a new guy !! so thats how life is what makes you depress is the things that happen its not about being single now only chances i have is to wait again or to date some other girl to be honest i don't like to talk to women around and i find a girl attractive rarely , but thats how it is enjoy!! , you got some advice for me drop it
Hello. You know, life is too complicated to create additional problems and to drive into depression. Take a look at yourself - you are young, successful, smart, you work, you have your own home and even your favorite dog. The fact that you are divorced is no reason to despair. It is an experience, albeit a sad one. Believe me, the one you are waiting for will definitely appear and you will have a family, a child. In the meantime, enjoy life, find new hobbies. Communicating with new people you will find new friends, and maybe love...
I been single for life and have never felt depressed at the thought of being single. I think what you need to do is not be obsessed over being single. If you are obsessing over being single then it will drive you insane. I would recommend finding yourself and enjoy being happy if it's possible and just find something that will keep your mind off being single. Get a hobby or ho out with friends who are single like you and just enjoy life. Being single isn't the end of the world. There's more to life then wanting to be in a relationship. Though I understand feeling like you tried to be in a relationship and have it not work out for you. I believe some people just aren't meant to be in a relationship no matter what they do.
I've gone the online dating apps and I've met some very nice people but the most meaningful relationships that I've had have come from meeting new people in my day to day life. I don't think being single and 29 is a bad thing. I had married and divorced by 23.
I've had to learn a lot of things the hard way. It's important to be happy with who you are and if your not happy with who you are then to work on that. It's important to also go out of your way to meet new people like doing a community activity or volunteer for something.
There is nothing wrong with being single it doesn't cause depression per say but it's the loneliness you feel of constantly being by yourself up until about 6 months ago when I met the girl I'm with now clear back through about a little under halfway through my previous relationship that ended in February of 2018 I had felt it. The world works in strange and mysterious ways I tried a lot of the different dating apps my self tinder, eharmony, match, etc and most of the girls I met never lead to anything most of the time not even a first date but to say they dont work to me is far fetched. I met my current girlfriend on tinder by complete chance I was bored watching TV and decided to go swiping on tinder that day. I guess what I'm trying to say is have patience Mr. Right will appear in your life when you least expect it
28 year-old kissless virgin who never went on a date. I learned to not care and not want to anymore. So I never get bothered by it. I always tell people to focus on the positives and ignore the negatives. Search for ways to move forward rather than holding yourself back because of this singleness thing. Having the "Single" status doesn't say anything bad about you. It doesn't mean you are any less of a person.
Personally I don't. I'm pretty independent. But it does get irritating when couples keep talking about how being in a relationship is so much better as if your life is a failure if you don't have a relationship. That's stupid. Life has so many things to offer. I'm sorry that you're going through a tough time. I hope you find the strength to overcome it.
oh i'm depressed about it, it's not just because of how lonely i am but it does play a huge part in it. i've tried getting dates and i had one set up and that girl ended up skipping me on the day, than i was talking to one girl and one of my friends decided to be a fucking dick and fuck shit up for me. i just fucking wish i could get a date.
No, in fact my mental health is far better when I'm single. Far less stressed, no one is second guessing my intentions constantly, and life is far less complicated.
Don't define your success in life on whether you're married with kids or not. Sounds like you need to spend some time ensuring you are happy in your life as-is and not depending on someone else to show up and provide it for you
Hmm, Doing what ever I feel like doing without having to please anyone else? Does that sound depressing to anyone? No way.
However, I'm not invisible to the opposite sex, I see them eying me up all of the time, and even the ones I don't know can't keep their hands to themselves sometimes. I'm just not interested in investing my time and / or energy into anything relationship wise.
Used to when i compared to others success. But i dont compare and fill life to fullest. Diff for female... yoir clock is ticking... i know.
No responses online... something is not right... you need some help w image... healing. Usually women get a lot of activity... its giys who jabenit hard. Thus... prob some work needed to upgrade self...
I think Buddah said this, or else I'll claim it. Wanting what you don't have will make you motivated or depressed. Accepting what you have with gratitude, but looking forward with faith and hope will give you joy. It's that simple... you are welcome..
I have my days. Sometimes it bothers me to see all my friends in relationships especially since they’ve all been in long term relationship while my longest has been short of 2 years. I’ve been single for almost 2 years now and before that the relationship was long distance so I’ve learned to spend a lot of time alone, so I also enjoy being alone. For me it’s more like I’m 27 and want a family and feel like the clock is ticking.
Yes, us too. I've experienced the exact same. After a while you start to think "something must be wrong with you", but obviously that's not it because there are others experiencing the exact same thing! Keep trying, it'll come eventually. You truly never know what tomorrow will bring. Where do you live? I'm single also! lol
When I was younger, it used to make me depressed but as I got older it didn't anymore because I realized being with someone doesn't necessarily mean they add to you or are a benefit to you. In this case, you are pretty much better alone then with someone.
Im 47 and im still singel always been single and i have no kids eitehr but at my age kids are really out of the question. Im nto dating ayone at the moment and I dont have a boyfriend or guys ask me out either. I had alway sbeen single my whole life never dated eitherr. So you are jsut 29 im 47 and always single so what do u think i could feel now?
@Muhammad1999 too risky anywa for my age but imtoo old to startraising babiesanyway i dont have the patience to do that anywy but imnot even married or have abf for that and it be theame if i adopt them I dont have a man for support anyway and like i said i dont have thepatience to raise a baby
Being married again would drive me to a stress induced heart attack !! I'm a single dad , but far better as I am , despite it's many challenges , than enduring the marriage I ended. I am not bitter / misogynist , I like women as arms length platonic friends only , relationships are not for me !!
Also , if you do want a man , there are more available men than women , as men outnumber women , and you are in THE most desirable demographic , twentysomething & female. Your male counterparts will have it much tougher winning over a woman.
I think it's only only natural, what with Homo sapiens being such a social animal. I have always been single, and have never gone out on a date. My circumstances are different,, though, and though having a close female friend may be possible for me, dating and all that comes with it would go badly. I do feel sad about it sometimes (not synonymous with depression - that's worse), but it is one of those things I have had to accept.
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I've been single my entire life lol and I'm in my early 30s, no sex either. Yes, I have gone on dates girls throughout the years but that's it. Do I feel depressed? No. But, as you get older you do want to find someone and settle down. I don't want to be one of those guys where if I don't have a girl in my life I'm just going to walk around salty, jealous and mad at everyone else in life.
The true test is getting through life alone and being patient and nice regardless, and then coming across someone special who makes you into a better person. I've met girls who are bitchy, dramatic, non-religious, so what I am trying to say is, I don't want to just settle and find a girl who is not compatible.
I can relate. lol im not really a guys first choice so even if I tried tinder I wouldn't have any luck, so in reality for me It dropped my self esteem, already, im only 18, but I realized I wasn't beautiful, so no matter how good I do in my life, my love life will probably not exist and im okay with that. Its cheaper to be single a anyways, and reading erotica becomes a lot more fun and you dont have to be guilty about a lot of things another plus Side is you get to be yourself. You dont have to throw on a shit ton of make up just for some dude that settled for you anyway to notice you. You can say fuck it and do your own thing. Love is being too hyped. Just get a hot guy, have sex with him and ignore him right after that will boost up your confidence so high u won't even care to marry anyone anymore. people get divorced all the time, its a waste of money, love is only promoted so much because its glamorous looking and people have nothing else to do.
you may find yourself not beautiful physically, but somewhere, there is this person that not only sees your physical appearance but the one that is hidden inside yourself and that is your intellectual beauty and that is the more important one, at least to me.
here i gonna make some changes , its not like being single make you depressed , the depression is caused because you're not with one you wanted to be or you did'nt have them with you might be your ex or someone who is out of your league m being single is fine upto 19-18 of age i was happy being single , but then comes the shot , there was a girl who clicked with me , at that time she had a boyfriend so i was away , later she was single , we have been together for sometime like 6-7 months hanged out like 2-3 times , but later on i just gave her up , then i went back after 3-4 months she got a new guy !! so thats how life is what makes you depress is the things that happen its not about being single now only chances i have is to wait again or to date some other girl to be honest i don't like to talk to women around and i find a girl attractive rarely , but thats how it is enjoy!! , you got some advice for me drop it
Hello. You know, life is too complicated to create additional problems and to drive into depression. Take a look at yourself - you are young, successful, smart, you work, you have your own home and even your favorite dog.
The fact that you are divorced is no reason to despair. It is an experience, albeit a sad one.
Believe me, the one you are waiting for will definitely appear and you will have a family, a child. In the meantime, enjoy life, find new hobbies. Communicating with new people you will find new friends, and maybe love...
Who said anything about divorce? Lol, giiiiiiiiiirl, what are you talking about?
Sorry, apparently not understood correctly.
I been single for life and have never felt depressed at the thought of being single. I think what you need to do is not be obsessed over being single. If you are obsessing over being single then it will drive you insane. I would recommend finding yourself and enjoy being happy if it's possible and just find something that will keep your mind off being single. Get a hobby or ho out with friends who are single like you and just enjoy life. Being single isn't the end of the world. There's more to life then wanting to be in a relationship. Though I understand feeling like you tried to be in a relationship and have it not work out for you. I believe some people just aren't meant to be in a relationship no matter what they do.
I've gone the online dating apps and I've met some very nice people but the most meaningful relationships that I've had have come from meeting new people in my day to day life. I don't think being single and 29 is a bad thing. I had married and divorced by 23.
I've had to learn a lot of things the hard way. It's important to be happy with who you are and if your not happy with who you are then to work on that. It's important to also go out of your way to meet new people like doing a community activity or volunteer for something.
There is nothing wrong with being single it doesn't cause depression per say but it's the loneliness you feel of constantly being by yourself up until about 6 months ago when I met the girl I'm with now clear back through about a little under halfway through my previous relationship that ended in February of 2018 I had felt it. The world works in strange and mysterious ways I tried a lot of the different dating apps my self tinder, eharmony, match, etc and most of the girls I met never lead to anything most of the time not even a first date but to say they dont work to me is far fetched. I met my current girlfriend on tinder by complete chance I was bored watching TV and decided to go swiping on tinder that day. I guess what I'm trying to say is have patience Mr. Right will appear in your life when you least expect it
28 year-old kissless virgin who never went on a date. I learned to not care and not want to anymore. So I never get bothered by it. I always tell people to focus on the positives and ignore the negatives. Search for ways to move forward rather than holding yourself back because of this singleness thing. Having the "Single" status doesn't say anything bad about you. It doesn't mean you are any less of a person.
Personally I don't. I'm pretty independent. But it does get irritating when couples keep talking about how being in a relationship is so much better as if your life is a failure if you don't have a relationship. That's stupid. Life has so many things to offer.
I'm sorry that you're going through a tough time. I hope you find the strength to overcome it.
oh i'm depressed about it, it's not just because of how lonely i am but it does play a huge part in it.
i've tried getting dates and i had one set up and that girl ended up skipping me on the day, than i was talking to one girl and one of my friends decided to be a fucking dick and fuck shit up for me.
i just fucking wish i could get a date.
No, in fact my mental health is far better when I'm single. Far less stressed, no one is second guessing my intentions constantly, and life is far less complicated.
Don't define your success in life on whether you're married with kids or not. Sounds like you need to spend some time ensuring you are happy in your life as-is and not depending on someone else to show up and provide it for you
Hmm, Doing what ever I feel like doing without having to please anyone else? Does that sound depressing to anyone? No way.
However, I'm not invisible to the opposite sex, I see them eying me up all of the time, and even the ones I don't know can't keep their hands to themselves sometimes. I'm just not interested in investing my time and / or energy into anything relationship wise.
I think it's different for most women.
Used to when i compared to others success. But i dont compare and fill life to fullest. Diff for female... yoir clock is ticking... i know.
No responses online... something is not right... you need some help w image... healing. Usually women get a lot of activity... its giys who jabenit hard. Thus... prob some work needed to upgrade self...
I think Buddah said this, or else I'll claim it. Wanting what you don't have will make you motivated or depressed. Accepting what you have with gratitude, but looking forward with faith and hope will give you joy. It's that simple...
you are welcome..
I have my days. Sometimes it bothers me to see all my friends in relationships especially since they’ve all been in long term relationship while my longest has been short of 2 years. I’ve been single for almost 2 years now and before that the relationship was long distance so I’ve learned to spend a lot of time alone, so I also enjoy being alone. For me it’s more like I’m 27 and want a family and feel like the clock is ticking.
Yes, us too. I've experienced the exact same. After a while you start to think "something must be wrong with you", but obviously that's not it because there are others experiencing the exact same thing! Keep trying, it'll come eventually. You truly never know what tomorrow will bring. Where do you live? I'm single also! lol
When I was younger, it used to make me depressed but as I got older it didn't anymore because I realized being with someone doesn't necessarily mean they add to you or are a benefit to you. In this case, you are pretty much better alone then with someone.
Im 47 and im still singel always been single and i have no kids eitehr but at my age kids are really out of the question. Im nto dating ayone at the moment and I dont have a boyfriend or guys ask me out either. I had alway sbeen single my whole life never dated eitherr. So you are jsut 29 im 47 and always single so what do u think i could feel now?
It's still possible to have kids
@Muhammad1999 too risky anywa for my age but imtoo old to startraising babiesanyway i dont have the patience to do that anywy but imnot even married or have abf for that and it be theame if i adopt them I dont have a man for support anyway and like i said i dont have thepatience to raise a baby
Being married again would drive me to a stress induced heart attack !! I'm a single dad , but far better as I am , despite it's many challenges , than enduring the marriage I ended. I am not bitter / misogynist , I like women as arms length platonic friends only , relationships are not for me !!
Also , if you do want a man , there are more available men than women , as men outnumber women , and you are in THE most desirable demographic , twentysomething & female. Your male counterparts will have it much tougher winning over a woman.
It was strange at beginning, but now I learned to like my single life.
Online dating only gave me false hopes and people rarely look what you expect of their pics on there...
Just join some dance classes or martial arts, if you miss being touched, you will get plenty of that there...
There is plenty of after work activities in your part of the world too.
I think it's only only natural, what with Homo sapiens being such a social animal. I have always been single, and have never gone out on a date. My circumstances are different,, though, and though having a close female friend may be possible for me, dating and all that comes with it would go badly. I do feel sad about it sometimes (not synonymous with depression - that's worse), but it is one of those things I have had to accept.