Is it OKay to be friends with your ex while in a new relationship?

[Wowgirl30q]

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+1 y

I don't think unless they have children, that is cool at all.

[worldscolide]

It really depends. I have 2 ex's that I'm still friends with. One is 1800 miles away, and we broke up in 2007, she was my friend for 5 years before I dated her, we tried dating and discovered we work better as friends. And left it alone. she's married now but he is an abusive piece of shit.

The other is an ex from 19 years ago, she's married with kids, I keep in touch because she was my first, I dont have feelings for Her beyond hoping she is ok, and happy.

Anyone else I cut them from my life.. if it's like my situation than I believe it's ok, but if it was a recent ex one that you're still getting over, or might still have feelings for, than no.

[Kapakani]

I think so. If you didn't end on bad terms or just decided you're more compatible as friends than lovers, then why do you have to cut that person from your life or blacklist them as if they have the plague lol, just because you have a new lover in your life. I always found that weird but then again I'm weird so 🙃

[StingRayxoxo]

Why would anyone need to be friends with an ex? Unless there are kids involved

[Wowgirl30q]

Nothing...

[I_smell_Ducky]

I don't see why not. As long as your Ex isn't a crazy person.

[Wowgirl30q]

Valid point

[Shiv1024]

No. Strictly no. I say this because it might affect you partner since you are still in a new relationship.
If your current partner knows about your ex then they might be insecure because your ex knows more about you than your current partner. And if they do not know about your ex, then you are not being honest.
Also, your ex might try to sabotage your relation out of jealousy.

[EclipseoftheHeart]

It is always best if you can leave as friends instead of enemies like most Exes are. Just because your relationship with your ex wasn't right there is no reason to hate each other. Who knows, maybe they can do you a good turn in the future or you them. The more bridges you burn the worst your life will be and the more regrets you may have. You will never be able to go back so keep your past relationships on good terms.

[AuroraSS]

Depending on how and why the relationship ended and how you guys feel about each other after.

Still have feelings for that ex? Well then you really shoulnd't be in touch with that person, especially if you're in a new relationship. It's not fair to your new SO. They didn't sign up to help distract you from your feelings for your ex.

[djmzes]

Simple

[luvstoned4him]

it can work but only if you are casual friends or more like acquaintances.

[ArrowheadSW]

I have in the past. There is only one ex that I am in touch with, so yes I've had girlfriends since her and they knew about her. One had issues with it at first but then lightened up.

[Tatiana230]

I don’t date men who keep in contact with exes. Just my dating policy.

[amandeep09]

Depends on when they dated. If they dated recently I'd have a problem with it. I'm still friends with my exes but they're from 7 years ago

[Drumlin2001]

Circumstances depend.
If you were in love, then it would be dufficult. If it was more a friends with benefit type arrangement then you can do.

[scotty01]

Nope. My ex girlfriend did that and her ex caused me and her a lot of drama completely. I told her to get rid of him completely now she has and he’s still trying to stop me and her again.

[DiegoO]

I think is fine, as long as you are not best friends, which exclude the possibility of been too intimate.

[Wowgirl30q]

Your a bigger person then me. Ain't no damn way

[Wowgirl30q]

There isn't a damn thing they need to talk about 😂

[DiegoO]

Lol, one of the reasons it doesn't bother me much is the fact that I can't do anything about it. She is like 8000 km away from me, so what's the point of wanting something more with her? Besides distance, I think what done, is done, you gotta go always forward.

[Wowgirl30q]

ain't
No ocean deep enough
Ain't no mountain high enough
To keep me off your ass baby😂

[DiegoO]

With an ex you can touch certain topics but it doesn't matter how good friend you are with an ex, there will always be some untouchable subjects.

[Wowgirl30q]

he's touching no topics
Not on my watch
No sir,😂

[DiegoO]

xD, that's until reality sets in.

[DiegoO]

Oh, well, you can always ignore him. :)

[Wowgirl30q]

Not on my watch
This is something that isn't even kinda okay to me

[Wowgirl30q]

I'm out if so

[DiegoO]

Wait, so your actual boyfriend is in contact with his ex? Or is something you randomly came up with?

[SunnyCaliGirl]

Yes being friends is fine, as long as your both fine with it and no weird vibes are involved

[Dolemite510]

That’s just weird u were never friends to begin with

[Wowgirl30q]

I say not just no but... No

[Wowgirl30q]

It's really weird

[Lance1965]

Depends on the ex but in most cases it rarely works.

[Glen68]

Your partner should trust you enough but at the same time you've got to know how uncomfortable that makes them

[Poormanscomedian]

it is technically her choice , but I would prefer she didn't

[Izumiblu]

I think it’s an unnecessary bad life choice.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I don't see it working but hard to say.

[Jjpayne]

it depends on what your boundaries are

[Wowgirl30q]

Staying in touch with your ex seem to be mine.

[Jjpayne]

a boundary could involve just texting or meeting in public places

[Wowgirl30q]

Yeah anything at all like a letter

[Wowgirl30q]

No way.

[blondfrog]

It rarely works. Seldom blues.