How do you respond when your partner is in a dark place?

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This could be temporary or something more long term like a period of depression.

Fitness-Fanatic · Accepted Answer

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I'd let him know I'm there for him. I'd encourage him to open up to me. So we could work together to find a way out of his dark place. If he needed therapy, I would go with him if he couldn't face it on his own. I'd also give him some space if he needed it. I'd do whatever it takes to let him know he's not in it alone.

I've been in that dark place, and I know it's even darker when you're in it on your own.. So even if I couldn't help him find the way out of his dark place , I'd be by his side

Sometimes just knowing someone is genuinely there for you, even if they can't help you, makes life more bearable.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Be there for them for the ups and downs and never ever make them feel they are alone...

Logorithim · Accepted Answer

Try to help them solve the inderlying problems and give them lots of love and emotional support.

RSav4013 · Accepted Answer

I'd probably turn the light on for them, unless they're sleeping.

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

I try to do my best friend be supportive, listen to her and be available to her.
Generally when she has a bad moment I prepare her a snack and/or something to drink, as she always relaxes a lot by eating and drinking something.
Then if she doesn't want to talk about it but feels like doing something else (cuddles, reading or watching something, or take a bath together) we do it.

CherryRoseChampange · Answer

I try to support them in whatever way I can and help them get out of it

America1st · Answer

Temporary or not, make sure she knows you are there for whatever she might need. Tell her you will just listen if she needs that. Don't try to fix it if she doesn't ask for it. Depression isn't just being down and sad. It manifests itself in numerous ways. Most people have a total misunderstanding of what depression is. It's not the same for everybody. I've suffered from depression most of my life. Those around me would never know if I didn't tell them. They try to convince me that I'm not. Only my two closest friends know when I'm depressed without me telling them. My parents didn't even know.

Not knowing what is going on with your friend makes it hard to go any further than I have. She's lucky to have a friend that is there for her and wants to understand and help.

MemeSupreme · Answer

My boyfriend has been there for me so many times and has helped me through all my mental shit so if he's ever in a dark place I'll be there for him. He's strong enough to get through anything but I'll still be there and treat him not like he's some mental case but as my boyfriend and just listen and support him emotionally.

Mark_C · Answer

I will let her know that I'm always there to listen to whatever is going on. I tend to be a person who always wants to offer advice and suggestions for the situation which she often likes but I have to remember that sometimes I just need to listen. If it's not something she wants to talk about then I will watch for her behavior and any changes because that can tend to be a big issue. Otherwise, little gifts and doing fun things are what can perk her up.

young_old_soul · Answer

I would be supportive and comforting, and make sure she knows I'm there for her. My last girlfriend ghosted me when I was in a dark place and I wouldn't want to see anyone I cared about go through that.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I think have to give them what they need, some people need space and they get better. Others need engagement and discussion. It's hard when it is long term. It's even harder when they take it out on the ones they love.

SonOfJacobIssachar · Answer

I tell you the truth I never have a partner. Sorry, depression in a person is cause by a dark and anti social behavior that if let untreated the depression will cause him to take the habit of alcohol. If you believe in God I will tell you to pray but if you believe in a physician then pray to your physician to treat his depression.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I would be there for him. Listen to him, walk that journey with him. Thats what a partner is suppose to do.

ChiTown33 · Answer

"Look like somebody has a case of the mondays"! I know i'm an A-hole

MlleCake · Answer

With warmth, understanding, kindness and love. I try to understand what will help them, and do those things, without indulging addiction.

Anonymous · Answer

Only god knows what I went through while he was in a dark place. We were in a new relationship but I supported him.

It almost broke us apart but finally I got him into therapy and meds and it was like I didn't know him really. Turned out he is someone totally different and better.

I'm always there for him but also learned to back off a little to recharge when I'm overwhelmed.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I honesty say I have never had a girlfriend fall into such a thing. I imagine all you really can do is help then weather through it in whatever form that takes.

Finchie40 · Answer

All you can do is tell them you are. there for them and that you care about them

markanthonypeace · Answer

If I don't know how to respond because they have yet to sort it out I support with an understanding silent patience. Try to stay ready to talk.

neurolove · Answer

Be supportive and ride it out with them. Take it day by day.

BurlyMan · Answer

I always just leave her alone and let her figure out things on her own. She's a big girl, she doesn't need me to be her clown and make her happy.

ItsyBits · Answer

I'd give him love and support and let him know how important he is to me.

Anonymous · Answer

Ehhhh unfortunately the most part people expect you to be out of that “darkness” before you be in a relationship

Therisinghero12 · Answer

I'm not the best at emotional support or real plausible solutions, but I sure can brighten the mood and be a great distraction to get their mind off of it

Kabluie · Answer

Pain is temporary, leave the doors open but don't force them in anyway.

xkforcesc2 · Answer

Asking them what they need from you that would help them. Let them know that theyre not alone, that you are there for them

bhavy24 · Answer

Help them in every possible way and try to get them out of this quickly

Anonymous · Answer

He stops speaking and wants to be left alone. I give him space and peace

MamaBearFromHell · Answer

Ask him what he needs from me, and if I get no response, then just being present as a shoulder to cry on is what I’ll do.

ivanhunterjo · Answer

ask them if there is anything you can do to help them

LittleRedKat · Answer

I listen to him and let him vent. He knows if he needs anything then to ask.

stuntbrain · Answer

Turn a light on for them

Texaskid1 · Answer

Bring them a flashlight.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

I use to cheer up my partners but a few I had to dump cuz they were so depressed an wouldn't get help

codycccccccccc · Answer

Hand they a loaded gun and say shape up or ship out

Anonymous · Answer

Be there to listen to them, Try to help them work it out or let them have their space as a mental break.

analyzingall · Answer

Be there for then as much as possible in any way with an open ear or whatever else

Anonymous · Answer

Respond by handing them a flash light.

needhelp777 · Answer

I will be there whenever he needs me

ashley1996 · Answer

He used to just hold me.

Deus_ExMachina · Answer

I offer my compassion and understanding.

Gabriella90 · Answer

Try talk with her or get her therapy.

red_knight · Answer

Through physical and emotional support..

Razal · Answer

Talk and stay positive

daisydukeso · Answer

Sit down and talk

DakotaNorth · Answer

I'd turn the light on.

jimmy13x · Answer

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