I'd let him know I'm there for him. I'd encourage him to open up to me. So we could work together to find a way out of his dark place. If he needed therapy, I would go with him if he couldn't face it on his own. I'd also give him some space if he needed it. I'd do whatever it takes to let him know he's not in it alone.
I've been in that dark place, and I know it's even darker when you're in it on your own.. So even if I couldn't help him find the way out of his dark place , I'd be by his side
Sometimes just knowing someone is genuinely there for you, even if they can't help you, makes life more bearable.
I try to do my best friend be supportive, listen to her and be available to her. Generally when she has a bad moment I prepare her a snack and/or something to drink, as she always relaxes a lot by eating and drinking something. Then if she doesn't want to talk about it but feels like doing something else (cuddles, reading or watching something, or take a bath together) we do it.
Temporary or not, make sure she knows you are there for whatever she might need. Tell her you will just listen if she needs that. Don't try to fix it if she doesn't ask for it. Depression isn't just being down and sad. It manifests itself in numerous ways. Most people have a total misunderstanding of what depression is. It's not the same for everybody. I've suffered from depression most of my life. Those around me would never know if I didn't tell them. They try to convince me that I'm not. Only my two closest friends know when I'm depressed without me telling them. My parents didn't even know.
Not knowing what is going on with your friend makes it hard to go any further than I have. She's lucky to have a friend that is there for her and wants to understand and help.
My boyfriend has been there for me so many times and has helped me through all my mental shit so if he's ever in a dark place I'll be there for him. He's strong enough to get through anything but I'll still be there and treat him not like he's some mental case but as my boyfriend and just listen and support him emotionally.
I will let her know that I'm always there to listen to whatever is going on. I tend to be a person who always wants to offer advice and suggestions for the situation which she often likes but I have to remember that sometimes I just need to listen. If it's not something she wants to talk about then I will watch for her behavior and any changes because that can tend to be a big issue. Otherwise, little gifts and doing fun things are what can perk her up.
I would be supportive and comforting, and make sure she knows I'm there for her. My last girlfriend ghosted me when I was in a dark place and I wouldn't want to see anyone I cared about go through that.
I think have to give them what they need, some people need space and they get better. Others need engagement and discussion. It's hard when it is long term. It's even harder when they take it out on the ones they love.
I tell you the truth I never have a partner. Sorry, depression in a person is cause by a dark and anti social behavior that if let untreated the depression will cause him to take the habit of alcohol. If you believe in God I will tell you to pray but if you believe in a physician then pray to your physician to treat his depression.
With warmth, understanding, kindness and love. I try to understand what will help them, and do those things, without indulging addiction.
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Only god knows what I went through while he was in a dark place. We were in a new relationship but I supported him.
It almost broke us apart but finally I got him into therapy and meds and it was like I didn't know him really. Turned out he is someone totally different and better.
I'm always there for him but also learned to back off a little to recharge when I'm overwhelmed.
I honesty say I have never had a girlfriend fall into such a thing. I imagine all you really can do is help then weather through it in whatever form that takes.
I'm not the best at emotional support or real plausible solutions, but I sure can brighten the mood and be a great distraction to get their mind off of it
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