How do you reject someone who's very delicate without hurting their feelings?

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Bluemax · Accepted Answer

Searching for a way to reject someone without hurting his/her feelings is like looking for El Dorado. It doesn't exist.

For most people, their feelings *will* be hurt no matter how you phrase it. However, there are ways to help minimize the person's pain. The best way is to be direct and unambiguous. You can do so politely, but do it quickly and clearly.

Also, accept it if they don't want to hang around with you for a while, or even indefinitely. This doesn't make them bad people, it just means they are hurting in your presence.

If they reach out to you in friendship at a later date, then wonderful!

slatyb · Accepted Answer

Their feelings are not your responsibility. All you need to do is be honest about your lack of interest. Don't get into specifics, that never leads to anything good. "Sorry, you are sweet, I'm flattered, but I don't think it would work." is all you need to say. If they press you, say little more than "It's just a feeling and I don't see it changing."

SexyAshh · Accepted Answer

Come on, dont be delicate! Just tell them like it is Its easier to be straight up and honest, save ya’ll both the time.

SarahsSummer · Accepted Answer

let them know how extremely flattered you are and mention something like another time and place and maybe...

StingRayxoxo · Answer

Straightforwardly so. Politely but not so much that it might lead them to think there's an opportunity where there isn't.

Iwant2kno · Answer

Acknowledged their good qualities and politely say, thank you but no.

PrincessGrail · Answer

Tell them they're beautiful and you value their friendship

Logorithim · Answer

I'd be extremely nice about it. I would tell her what I like about her or give her some compliments but then explain that I am just not interested.

HOAAH · Answer

I am not ready for a relationship... just leave out the "with someone like you" part.
Or give a wonderful compliment before the rejection.
Then say something hopeful like, and i am sure that there's a very special person out there who will love you very much... it's just not me...

curiousnorway · Answer

I just says: "Sorry, but I'm not interested".

I do it simple, because I knows it's impossible to avoid someone's feelings and I wants to be clear about it so they can't misunderstand it. I tries to avoid giving compliments to avoid misunderstandings.

btbc92 · Answer

You reject them. But it's still going to hurt their feelings. They want you. They can't have you, that's it. Don't lie to them or smooth it over. That's the worse thing you can do.

IlyaTheImpaler · Answer

"listen, Jerry, I know you're a smart guy, you're studying mechanical engineering, you can certainly implement a simple SVM on your own, so I don't think for this assignment my code from last year is gonna be helpful to you, like the previous three assignments"
(No, I didn't actually say this, just gave my solutions to him, because he's a good friend)

sarahburberryy · Answer

There isn't a way really , if the person loves you, it's inevitable to not hurt their feelings no matter what you do to pull back.

ivannna · Answer

Is it the same girl you talked about half a year ago?

Hannah591 · Answer

Remind yourself that you're not responsible for someone else's feelings and you shouldn't have to put up with someone just to protect them. You have to be selfish sometimes and stick up for your own wants and needs.

Anonymous · Answer

By saying in slow morion " nooooooooo noooooot wiiiiiiith youuuuuuuu". Lol

No but seriously this isn't a troll i've been rejected A LOT. And though it's in my nature to want to be gentle. But i remind myself i get rejected 10 times to every time a woman rejects me. I just smile tell her i'm flatyered but i'm not interested. And then i try to push it out of mine. Because at this point it's her problem not mine. :)

Anonymous · Answer

Mandy by telling them what they did wrong in the first place? If you’re going to be grumpy and ignore someone on purpose, have the decency to tell the why.

Darklydarkened · Answer

I just say I'm not interested. I don't care much about people's emotions, if they have no reason to be offended.

sockandshoes · Answer

“thank you, but im not interested. nothing personal.”

OlderAndWiser · Answer

What @StingRayxoxo said.

Rangers · Answer

Just tell them you're flattered, but you aren't interested in them in a romantic way.

Agem123 · Answer

Might sound harsh but I don't care if I hurt their feelings if they don't mean anything to me. I just tell them

Pulimuli · Answer

Tell them they smell and not even if they were the last human on earth Or just tell them that you are flattered but not interested

HornetsFanAllDay · Answer

wel first off be nice and kind about it, and honest

stuntbrain · Answer

Respect them enough to be painfully honest. Lies that spare their feelings are an insult

_dude_ · Answer

You can´t. Just be honest about it, that makes it easier for the rejected party to move on.

Taylor_C · Answer

Honesty is always the better option.

Secret6620 · Answer

Just thank them for the effort and be honest 🖤

Lance1965 · Answer

You just say you are not interested and walk away.

Anonymous · Answer

By politely saying no

ROCKS128 · Answer

By being yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

Text them

Anonymous · Answer

I would just say your too damn ugly

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