How do you reject someone who's very delicate without hurting their feelings?

How do you reject someone who's very delicate without hurting their feelings?

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  • Searching for a way to reject someone without hurting his/her feelings is like looking for El Dorado. It doesn't exist.

    For most people, their feelings *will* be hurt no matter how you phrase it. However, there are ways to help minimize the person's pain. The best way is to be direct and unambiguous. You can do so politely, but do it quickly and clearly.

    Also, accept it if they don't want to hang around with you for a while, or even indefinitely. This doesn't make them bad people, it just means they are hurting in your presence.

    If they reach out to you in friendship at a later date, then wonderful!

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  • Their feelings are not your responsibility. All you need to do is be honest about your lack of interest. Don't get into specifics, that never leads to anything good. "Sorry, you are sweet, I'm flattered, but I don't think it would work." is all you need to say. If they press you, say little more than "It's just a feeling and I don't see it changing."

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  • Come on, dont be delicate! Just tell them like it is

    Its easier to be straight up and honest, save ya’ll both the time.

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  • let them know how extremely flattered you are and mention something like another time and place and maybe...

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    • 5 d ago

      First part yes! It let's them know you appreciate their effort. That always makes me feel better it softens the blow of the rejection to follow.
      The second part NO! Absolutely not! Unless you really mean another time and place, maybe. Don't say it! Because the only thing you're giving him is false hope. Don't leave the door open unless you truly mean it. That's just mean.

    • 4 d ago

      I can understand that.

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  • Straightforwardly so. Politely but not so much that it might lead them to think there's an opportunity where there isn't.

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    • 5 d ago

      That's the way to do it! Ladies listen to this!
      I personally think some women leave it ambiguous because they don't want him to stop trying. Not all just some.

    • 5 d ago

      I tried for a long time to sugarcoat it... but they held on to the "sugar" part thinking that I wanted him to stop trying.

  • Acknowledged their good qualities and politely say, thank you but no.

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  • Tell them they're beautiful and you value their friendship

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  • What @StingRayxoxo said.

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  • I just says: "Sorry, but I'm not interested".

    I do it simple, because I knows it's impossible to avoid someone's feelings and I wants to be clear about it so they can't misunderstand it. I tries to avoid giving compliments to avoid misunderstandings.

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  • There isn't a way really , if the person loves you, it's inevitable to not hurt their feelings no matter what you do to pull back.

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    • 5 d ago

      You're right there is no way to NOT hurt their feelings. But i'd rather a woman tell me i have no chance in hell. Then her give me a wishy washy response that has me questioning whether my tactics were wrong, whether i needed to try harder etc.

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    • 5 d ago

      Since i would NEVER do that i don't have a hard and fast response to that. I would say the tesponse would have to be case by case.

  • I am not ready for a relationship... just leave out the "with someone like you" part.
    Or give a wonderful compliment before the rejection.
    Then say something hopeful like, and i am sure that there's a very special person out there who will love you very much... it's just not me...

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  • Is it the same girl you talked about half a year ago?

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    • 4 d ago

      No, different person.
      She's apparently taking it well, although she had proposed me something slightly different than a relationship.

    • 3 d ago

      Nice to hear your love life is progessing :)

    • 3 d ago

      Thank you 🙂.
      We just talked about this over lunch, she took it surprisingly well and said she just hopes things to not get weird now.

  • You reject them. But it's still going to hurt their feelings. They want you. They can't have you, that's it. Don't lie to them or smooth it over. That's the worse thing you can do.

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  • Remind yourself that you're not responsible for someone else's feelings and you shouldn't have to put up with someone just to protect them. You have to be selfish sometimes and stick up for your own wants and needs.

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  • "listen, Jerry, I know you're a smart guy, you're studying mechanical engineering, you can certainly implement a simple SVM on your own, so I don't think for this assignment my code from last year is gonna be helpful to you, like the previous three assignments"
    (No, I didn't actually say this, just gave my solutions to him, because he's a good friend)

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  • “thank you, but im not interested. nothing personal.”

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  • I'd be extremely nice about it. I would tell her what I like about her or give her some compliments but then explain that I am just not interested.

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  • Might sound harsh but I don't care if I hurt their feelings if they don't mean anything to me. I just tell them

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  • I just say I'm not interested. I don't care much about people's emotions, if they have no reason to be offended.

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  • Tell them they smell and not even if they were the last human on earth

    Or just tell them that you are flattered but not interested

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  • Respect them enough to be painfully honest. Lies that spare their feelings are an insult

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  • Just tell them you're flattered, but you aren't interested in them in a romantic way.

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  • You can´t. Just be honest about it, that makes it easier for the rejected party to move on.

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  • wel first off be nice and kind about it, and honest

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  • Honesty is always the better option.

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  • Just thank them for the effort and be honest 🖤

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  • By being yourself.

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  • You just say you are not interested and walk away.

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  • Mandy by telling them what they did wrong in the first place? If you’re going to be grumpy and ignore someone on purpose, have the decency to tell the why.

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    • 4 d ago

      Not by being grumpy or ignore, but it's better to outright tell them nothing is going to happen as to not give false hopes.

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    • 4 d ago

      Actually yeah, something did happen. I just figured it out. It took a little bit but at least I know what the issue was.
      Thank you.

    • 4 d ago

      I hope it's going well 👍

  • Text them

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  • I would just say your too damn ugly

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  • By saying in slow morion " nooooooooo noooooot wiiiiiiith youuuuuuuu". Lol

    No but seriously this isn't a troll i've been rejected A LOT. And though it's in my nature to want to be gentle. But i remind myself i get rejected 10 times to every time a woman rejects me. I just smile tell her i'm flatyered but i'm not interested. And then i try to push it out of mine. Because at this point it's her problem not mine. :)

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  • By politely saying no

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