Have you ever had a casual fling?

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SuperManiac · Accepted Answer

More often than not although I wanted something serious (my marriage should be some indicator) but lots of relationships turned into flings that didn't last long. One of the factors that made things difficult for me is that I had to travel a lot in my youth for my work. So it was difficult to stay in one place for extended periods of time.

My early attempts at serious relationships often went sour when they turned into LDRs, and after a couple of really disappointing ones, I did sometimes embrace just casual flings and having good times. At least I wouldn't set myself up for disappointment that way.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I did a few times, when I was younger. It was a momentary diversion and it was fun, but I would not do that again.

lumos · Accepted Answer

Yeah. It works for as long as you're able to be emotionally detached, which is around 3 months or so. After that, one person usually catches feelings for the other. I wouldn't recommend it for people who are actually looking for a relationship, whether they'd like to admit it to themselves or not. So as long as you can stop yourself from taking it too seriously, it can be quite enjoyable. Otherwise, I don't really recommend it.

PrincessGrail · Accepted Answer

Yes. Several times. Oh wait a minute. Define the word "casual." Are you including summer romances and guys I may have made out with before I got my first serious boyfriend in that category?

Klara-Hitler · Answer

Nope. I'm after meaning and purpose in my life and sex is a part of my life and a enjoyable one. And because it can involve babies it's even more important and meaningful to me.

Casual sex would turn that into a meaningless, mindless pleasure seeking game. That's not what I'm after.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

unfortunately yes, not something i wanted it either but didn't know that's how it was gonna go or end but it was a long time ago when i was a younger. I would never purposely do a casual fling, waste of time in my opinion. I take dating and relationships very seriously and if you don't have plans of sticking around in the end, then we have no reasons talking to one another.

Anonymous · Answer

My entire dating history is filled with “failed flings”. Oh it’s just a fling nothing serious - next thing you know I’m married with two kids - WTF!!

I get divorced. “I’m getting a friends with benefits so I can be free” I can’t even do friends with benefits that one lasted 2 years in a committed relationship!!!

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HomoFuge · Answer

Yes though at the time I thought the guys wanted something serious and turned out they just wanted sex.

Randomawkwardness · Answer

Yes, this one guy I just hung out with him in a spur of the moment thing and we ended up hanging out twice more but neither of us wanted anything

ManOnFire · Answer

Never have although I would like to. I've always been more involved in actual relationships which I think might be my problem.

Miss_Savanna_Dry · Answer

Yes, he was a really chilled guy. We didn't expect it to become a fling but it did and neither of us had feelings for each other.

Pink2000 · Answer

Yeah I had one while I had a boyfriend 😂 but I was gonna break up with him anyways. It’s complicated.

Grobmate · Answer

I tried to once. Couldn't do it. Talked myself out of it.

selfesteemguy · Answer

No, I haven't HAHA :) - I am in my good mood today, lol.

Logorithim · Answer

Only once - when i was 19

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I seem to have one between every serious relationship.

taleswapper · Answer

Yup. Had a woman I visited every Tuesday, just to get her off orally.

IKissedAGirl · Answer

Yeah, probably the best “relationship” I’ve been in.

Anonymous · Answer

No I get too attached. I thought my first boyfriend was a fling, but 3 years later were still together lol I catch feelings too fast.

TallJanne · Answer

Yes I had a few. Never with the same more than once. Guys tend to get attached after.

Lance1965 · Answer

Yes, several of them but I have never cheated on anyone.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah just a bitch in school I’ve been having sex with

SexyAshh · Answer

Mee,? No, neverrr;)😋

MoneyBeets · Answer

I had a casual fling with your mother 21 years ago.

frankinla · Answer

Yes and I found out later she was married and her husband was deployed.

Secret6620 · Answer

Never had one before 😇

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah. I used to have a trap

WhiteSteve · Answer

It was called “my 20s” lmao.

Hurlyburly · Answer

Nope, not my cup of tea.

Lliam · Answer

Yup. When I was single.

Saffygirl · Answer

You know I have, sugar...

witherwing · Answer

I have not. I just can't do casual.

Miristheiss · Answer

Nope. Always a girlfriend of fiancé.

young_old_soul · Answer

Yes, most recently about a month and a half ago.

CURIOUShErE1 · Answer

I try to avoid those. Nothing but trouble

MrBurke · Answer

Im just some virgin here to get xper points

smalls95 · Answer

yep a few times.

nonratracereality · Answer

All the time.

Bluemax · Answer

Nope.

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

Nay. Never.

ChloeStarfire · Answer

Never

Alpha09 · Answer

Yep.

Wowgirl30q · Answer

Several times too

tartaarsaus · Answer

Nope.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Nope

Dark93 · Answer

No I haven't

GayHowellMeme · Answer

No, but I’d like to

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