Do you think it's true that Men can understand Women but Women can't understand Men?

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asd_nasa · Accepted Answer

The biggest factor to anyone understanding anyone is intelligence. Generally the more intelligent someone is the easier time they’ll have reading and”predicting” the other persons behavior. It also takes a fair amount of emotional intelligence to understand their feelings motives as well. Truth is, women are on average are more “emotionally” reactive to their environment than men, while men are on average more “logically” reactive to their environment, and that makes sense given their evolutionary history. Women often cared for the young, while men had to think about how their family was going to survive (I’m talking about highly primeval times, although these are roles and responsibilities still carry on today).

It is much more difficult for a person of average intelligence to understand a person of higher intelligence, and the reverse is true. I believe that having a very high IQ developes a very high EQ with experience, which is why so many brilliant scientists, philosophers, writers and mathematicians are among the most perceptive people. It is a mans duty to his female partner to understand her, and to be emotionally aware of her feelings, and vice versa. They will need to learn from each other.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I think it's slightly more likely to be the other way around - more women understand men than vice versa.

But I think on average, there's a big division on both sides. I talk to nearly as many women who don't understand men as men who don't understand women - and that is most people.

What's worse is that when I try to explain how things really are, people's ideas (mostly given to them by well-meaning but clueless parents) are so embedded in their minds that they can't accept what I am explaining to them. Some will dismiss it out of hand, some will think about it for a while and maybe ask more questions the next time, and a few seem to get it right away. Most people struggle, though.

But even many women struggle to understand women - often even themselves...

NightFlirt · Accepted Answer

It's not about men or women understanding each other. Most people just don't take the time to listen and at least try to put themselves in the others shoes. Here is an example most men dislike going to the mall with their girlfriends to do clothes shopping, Girls like going to the mall to shop for clothes because they want to look good for their man. So Gentlemen go shopping with her and when she comes out of the dressing room you can see what the outfit looks like on her BEFORE she spends any money on it. She'll probably accept your opinion on what you think makes her look sexy.

roxy_362 · Accepted Answer

I don't think this can be generalized either way. Such categorizations grossly underestimate any individual differences between people, and caters to even further misconceptions. Understanding another person, regardless of his/her gender, has the prerequisite of understanding herself/himself first. Short of that achievement, any connection to other people would remain superficial.

MzAsh · Answer

No. Women are more mysterious and complex. Men are easy to understand.

Anonymous · Answer

Women are very simple to understand. I could even predict what they will do next. I see a lot of guys in the comments talking about how complicated they are, or how no one can fully understand them. What this is... is a fantasy. Men don't want to understand women, they want them to be a fantasy, a mystery so they convince themselves of this 'fact'. Men want the opposite gender to be on a pedestal so they can worship them, chase them, kiss their ass and build them up. You can only do this to a fantasy.

In reality, all women are very simple to understand, there is no mystery, no complications, and no surprises.

LogicBomber · Answer

Well yes and no.
Men understand that women and men think differently and we don't shame and attack women for the differences they have.

Women don't generally understand that how they think can be different than how men think. SO they constantly try to put female mindset onto male actions and thoughts, which doesn't work.
They assume we should act like they do because that's how THEY act.
EX: We express emotions differently... it isn't that we are doing it wrong simply because we don't do it like women do. Yet you endlessly hear women complain about men "not showing their emotions"

RetroAlpha · Answer

I think, by design, that the level of understanding is mutually low. The problem is that men are told that we have to try to learn and understand women. Women are told to "find a guy who understands women".

Both methods fail. People should just look for someone who is fair-minded and sane, then work on understanding each other.

Moonchild714 · Answer

I think women understand men a lot more than men understand women. And why would men understand women, we like to complicate things. We say we're Fine which means Don't come near me!! Whatever you say Dear meaning that'll never happen or in your dreams and so on... Don't even gwt me started on the Hormones...

Knighted2170 · Answer

You can possibly gain an understanding, and empathize. But, you can’t truly understand unless you actually walk in their shoes and experience what they experience.

I have spent the better part of my life studying relationships and women. More for my own self improvement than anything else. I’m always finding something new. If I actually understood, nothing would be new to me. Even here on G@G I spot trends through the opinions.

MlleCake · Answer

I think we all have some barriers to understanding one another, and we all fall back on some assumptions about each other that are not necessarily true or fair.

I don't think it's just women not understanding men.

Some people come to understand one another very well, and others don't.

LonelyWolf9025 · Answer

Well, if people actually tried to understand each other yes, we can understand each other. I have a ton of guy friends and girl friends we all know each other very well. Because we actually try to understand one another. I have a guy friend that understands and knows me better than most of my friends, and I have a girl friend that is best friends with one of the guys. I even spar and wrestle the boys as well and talk memes. We all trust each other but if y'all dismiss the others as 'mysterious creatures' and never try, you'll never understand.

SelfishGuy · Answer

Women are complicated stuff. They are more emotional but... can control or hide emotion more skilfully than men, in other words they are more emotionally stable than us.
They can understand us alright, they are more empathetic but in saying all these, that's the exact same reason they can be act as heartless cold b*tches... when they want.

englisc · Answer

No, in general I don't think most people can understand the opposite gender. In order to do so you have to be able to put aside your own biases and ways of thinking. You have to have the ability to understand why someone thinks the way they do, to understand ideas different to your own, even if you don't think that way yourself, and without judging it negatively. Most people simply can't do that, or at least they refuse to.

Lucina_Rose · Answer

I must admit though. Women maybe a lot harder to understand. But not because men are more clueless, but definitely because many women tend to be secretive, cruel and insecure. Men are usually better people from what I know. However, pleople in general are difficult to understand.

B-radley · Answer

It's not that black and white.

On a fundamental level, both genders understand each other fine. Women want security and men want respect.

On an individual basis, where most people want to be understood, it's based on how well an individual can read someone.

I'm pretty good at reading women but people in general are terrible at reading me. Women aren't as complex as they think they are.

devilman666 · Answer

Women expect men to understand them but men are more likely to give in on such topics. "Weve been together for xx years and you still don't know my favorite ---------?", women expect us to get to know them and to do little things for them, but they rarely returm the favor.

DanishSaint · Answer

Definitely not. If any, I would say it should be the other way around. Even men doesn´t understand men. Men are just really good at ignoring the fact meanwhile in the back of our brain, we have this little "warning protocol"; very simple. All it contains is: Don´t question men and never start asking questions about men !

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think either sex truly understands the other. Both have a broad grasp as to how the opposite sex is. I also don't think women understand women completely. Men are better at understanding other men than women are at understanding women. Women have also been taught to always be right so they don't even need to try and understand men.

A-man-22 · Answer

I don't know about women because I'm not one but personally I find women really hard to understand, romantically.

If it's friends or work wise then they are just like everyone else. When it comes to dates, relationships and love women just don't make sense to me.

Anonymous · Answer

I understand modern women very well look at all the likes so many women will hate men but then they get mad when and call us toxic when we speak out against them

genericname85 · Answer

i think in lots of regards we don't udnerstand each other. however i think women are more emotional, hence more irrational, therefore they more often don't even understand themselfs xD

Fuentes · Answer

Nah lol not at all i feel we put in more effort into trying to understand eachother as the person i mean i don't understand any women but if we're dating we slowly just know eachother ticks and stuff so i mean it's justbsomething we work out but nobody is the same so the confusion just builds lol

TheSoundOfSilas · Answer

Obviously not, but it sure feels that way sometimes.
Most of my friends are starting to feel less like sisters and more like daughters. I think that's more of a "where we are in life" thing and less of a gender thing, though.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

I think that men can't understand women because women say one thing, think another and feel something completely different then both of those. Women on the other hand don't understand men because they cannot be bothered to care enough to try.

Price511 · Answer

Where there is knowledge, there is a level of understanding one can have with said knowledge. But I simply cannot understand the logic of some people regardless of gender sometimes.

Honestly, why would you buy ripped jeans?

Kurαȷ · Answer

I think it's a little pretentious to say you understand anyone in general.
You need expansive knowledge of someone's ego to understand why they do the things they do.
Most people don't even understand how their own ego works.

Clarity01 · Answer

if it's a guy problem, other men can relate. if it's a girl problem, other women can relate. but most problems can happen to anyone, and those who have experience similar things can understand each other regardless of gender! :)

SarahsSummer · Answer

I dont think either sex understands the other, hence G@G.

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

Men want to feel respected and want their work to be appreciated. Women want to feel secure and accepted.  its pretty easy to understand

Boppy · Answer

I think that it's too individual. I'm still not buying the idea that being a certain gender means having entirely different thought processes, overriding culture and education.

NineBreaker · Answer

Men and women (generally) cameras understand each other because each communicates differently. There are this who understands the opposite sex well because they actually learned how they communicate.

wankiam · Answer

i have always thought of it like this... men know they dont understand women but many women think they understand men

blkhermano · Answer

There's no app called 'Guys ask Guys' or 'Girls ask Girls'. I think we were made to not fully understand each other, basically to give life more of a challenge. If we understood each other that would make things mundane.

LegendarySir · Answer

If you treat people as just part of a group, you're not gonna understand them, because the group is formed by individuals with individual thoughts.
Maybe try looking at people as individuals and that way you might get to understand them better.

Reapous · Answer

I've literally never heard any man or woman say that. I've heard the opposite where women understand men but men can't understand women.

naijagurl · Answer

Nah, I don’t think either gender really understands the other but if anything I’d say women understand men more than men understand women.

CubsterShura · Answer

Neither gender understands one another and it's almost like people don't even care about it or want to understand in the first place.

J3nny · Answer

i think neither men understand women nor women understand men. men are by far the most confusing things i’ve ever had to deal with in my life.

chuck991 · Answer

Girls, vote up if you understand this. What an absurd question. Men and women run governments and businesses. If we couldn't understand each other the world would be falling fucking apart.

KelliHolland · Answer

Personally, I thought it was the opposite. You’d think, right?

Bat-Rob · Answer

I think it's the opposite. Guys are pretty simple. Plenty of women understand guys just fine. It's women that are the emotionaly complicated ones.

Anonymous · Answer

If that’s true men would be terrible people. You can forgive someone for poor behaviour when they’re unaware, but not when they are aware.

needhelp777 · Answer

Yes my boyfriend can understand me but it hard for me to understand him because I have a hard time understanding

AynonOMouse · Answer

Women often don't even understand themselves and don't know what they want. they frequently change their minds.

Giggletr0n · Answer

Nobody understands anybody, they just think they do. The amount of stereotypes in place for either gender just don't hold up in real life in almost all cases, with some exceptions of course.

Unit1 · Answer

Men and women do not understand each other. Men are from mars and women are from venus. Unless they find a common way of mutual communication and understanding.

Passinggas · Answer

Women choose to not understand men because they don't respect them anymore.

AuroraRoseat · Answer

Nope. Plenty of these questions should be evidence of that. ;D

Lynx122 · Answer

Nah I think I can understand women a little bit, but not fully.

Edanurus · Answer

Men understanding women, good one, we can understand what to do when we see certain signs but who knows why that works. As for women. I dont know! Who can decifer what they think?

Anonymous · Answer

No. I think we can all understand each other to a degree if we really try. However, our understanding will never be on the same level of people who have experienced life in that gender's shoes.

ITGirl95 · Answer

I just know that we all don't understand each other

Anonymous · Answer

Women are easy to understand, but they lie a lot, so they seem complicated. All you have to do is forget the words they say and pay attention to what they do.

adolescentswede · Answer

I mean the sex differences are no secret granted individuality limits general gender knowledge usefullness

bolverk · Answer

Grew up with 5 women (Mother and 4 sisters) and I'm still clueless, if anyone has a handbook I'd be most grateful!

AircraftCarrier · Answer

If anything, women understand men (mostly) and men don't come nearly as close to understanding women.

JamesBoradil03 · Answer

i think both genders can understand the other, but there is a unwillingness in women to understand men (for the most part)

YHL6965 · Answer

We both can understand each other, you just have to be ready to listen and consider changing your perspective on some aspects.

MarketNews · Answer

Women are harder to understand because they are complex organisms ruled by their emotions, which they are frequently dishonest about. Men are simple creatures governed by desires for sex and football.

Anonymous · Answer

Oh hell no. NO ONE can understand women, not even women themselves. Men are very straight forward and easy to understand compared to women.

winterfox10 · Answer

No. I think that neither gender has the faintest idea what is going on with the other.

000_000 · Answer

Here on girls ask guys, 90% of what we do is argue about who the more ridiculous sex is.

Daniel3035 · Answer

In my case yh. Ironically that's true for me but by asking this question you undid that truth lmao because you understand that.

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