Do you think it's true that Men can understand Women but Women can't understand Men?

[Anonymous]

Do you think it's true that Men can understand Women but Women can't understand Men?

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[asd_nasa]

The biggest factor to anyone understanding anyone is intelligence. Generally the more intelligent someone is the easier time they’ll have reading and”predicting” the other persons behavior. It also takes a fair amount of emotional intelligence to understand their feelings motives as well. Truth is, women are on average are more “emotionally” reactive to their environment than men, while men are on average more “logically” reactive to their environment, and that makes sense given their evolutionary history. Women often cared for the young, while men had to think about how their family was going to survive (I’m talking about highly primeval times, although these are roles and responsibilities still carry on today).

It is much more difficult for a person of average intelligence to understand a person of higher intelligence, and the reverse is true. I believe that having a very high IQ developes a very high EQ with experience, which is why so many brilliant scientists, philosophers, writers and mathematicians are among the most perceptive people. It is a mans duty to his female partner to understand her, and to be emotionally aware of her feelings, and vice versa. They will need to learn from each other.

[MrOracle]

I think it's slightly more likely to be the other way around - more women understand men than vice versa.

But I think on average, there's a big division on both sides. I talk to nearly as many women who don't understand men as men who don't understand women - and that is most people.

What's worse is that when I try to explain how things really are, people's ideas (mostly given to them by well-meaning but clueless parents) are so embedded in their minds that they can't accept what I am explaining to them. Some will dismiss it out of hand, some will think about it for a while and maybe ask more questions the next time, and a few seem to get it right away. Most people struggle, though.

But even many women struggle to understand women - often even themselves...

[NightFlirt]

It's not about men or women understanding each other. Most people just don't take the time to listen and at least try to put themselves in the others shoes. Here is an example most men dislike going to the mall with their girlfriends to do clothes shopping, Girls like going to the mall to shop for clothes because they want to look good for their man. So Gentlemen go shopping with her and when she comes out of the dressing room you can see what the outfit looks like on her BEFORE she spends any money on it. She'll probably accept your opinion on what you think makes her look sexy.

[roxy_362]

I don't think this can be generalized either way. Such categorizations grossly underestimate any individual differences between people, and caters to even further misconceptions. Understanding another person, regardless of his/her gender, has the prerequisite of understanding herself/himself first. Short of that achievement, any connection to other people would remain superficial.

[MzAsh]

No. Women are more mysterious and complex. Men are easy to understand.

[B-radley]

Men are direct, women are indirect. I wouldn't call them more mysterious or complex though 😂

[MzAsh]

Well there are exceptions to everything.

[B-radley]

Yes but I'm not sure what you're referring to. My comment being the exception or yours lol

[MzAsh]

Your opinion being the exception. Since the dawn of time men have been committed to talking about how mysterious, complex, confusing, etc women are.

[B-radley]

Because we speak in to different ways haha. Direct and indirect. Just because men can't understand women always doesn't men women are more complex than a man 😂 women don't know men as well as they think they do either.

[carpentiero]

they were educated by there mother's
a secretive mother will give her boy no change to understand
her, his sister's and other woman

glad to say that granny was open and informative
She was a wise woman

[wundschrund]

No. Complex things can be understood. The reason they are hard to understand, is that they're complex. Mysterious things can not be understood, because you lack knowledge about them.
The reason that WOMEN can't be understood is, however, that only things that make sense CAN BE understood. And nothing women want and feel makes sense.
Because you lack integrity. You want EVERYTHING, even things that contradict on another. Often at the cost of men.
But because men like to think of women as perfect angels, most men refuse to see that fact, and instead declare you "complex" or "mysterious".

[wundschrund]

*one another

[MzAsh]

So you blame women for this?

[B-radley]

So as a man you don't want the best possible choice? Ok 🙄
As a man you've never been indecisive? 🙄

I get what you're getting at but acting like women are out to get you is only hurting yourself.

[Anonymous]

Women are very simple to understand. I could even predict what they will do next. I see a lot of guys in the comments talking about how complicated they are, or how no one can fully understand them. What this is... is a fantasy. Men don't want to understand women, they want them to be a fantasy, a mystery so they convince themselves of this 'fact'. Men want the opposite gender to be on a pedestal so they can worship them, chase them, kiss their ass and build them up. You can only do this to a fantasy.

In reality, all women are very simple to understand, there is no mystery, no complications, and no surprises.

[Lucina_Rose]

People are difficult to understand. There are just too many misconceptions among the two sexes. One just tends to think the other doesn't want what the other wants, and vice versa.

[Billy96]

Well im still trying to learn about girls/women
Actually i just don't understand them, well the ones I've talked to or met.. I obviously try not to campare them, like my 3 ex gfs because they were a little different but then again they were the same in some aspects. I really don't know i have to learn by my mistakes ig

[Opinion Owner]

@Billy96 The reason why so many young men do not understand women, is because they have listened to the lies they've been told by their parents, friends, society and media as they grew up. Even the nursery rhymes lie.

A very simple thing to do is to ignore everything women say, and just watch their actions and judge them from those instead. This is also part of why women get confused by men, a lot of them place too much emphasis on a mans words.

[Opinion Owner]

@Billy96 Take a look at this following example. www.thesun.co.uk/.../

[LogicBomber]

Well yes and no.
Men understand that women and men think differently and we don't shame and attack women for the differences they have.

Women don't generally understand that how they think can be different than how men think. SO they constantly try to put female mindset onto male actions and thoughts, which doesn't work.
They assume we should act like they do because that's how THEY act.
EX: We express emotions differently... it isn't that we are doing it wrong simply because we don't do it like women do. Yet you endlessly hear women complain about men "not showing their emotions"

[RetroAlpha]

I think, by design, that the level of understanding is mutually low. The problem is that men are told that we have to try to learn and understand women. Women are told to "find a guy who understands women".

Both methods fail. People should just look for someone who is fair-minded and sane, then work on understanding each other.

[Moonchild714]

I think women understand men a lot more than men understand women. And why would men understand women, we like to complicate things. We say we're Fine which means Don't come near me!! Whatever you say Dear meaning that'll never happen or in your dreams and so on... Don't even gwt me started on the Hormones...

[nathanp97]

Yet if a guy says fine women read to much into it. Are you sure girls understand guys? If s guy doesn't text for long periods, uses a period and sends short texts most women will think he doesn't care or something worse. Neither understands eachother.

[wundschrund]

Then why do women never behave like they understand?

[Knighted2170]

You can possibly gain an understanding, and empathize. But, you can’t truly understand unless you actually walk in their shoes and experience what they experience.

I have spent the better part of my life studying relationships and women. More for my own self improvement than anything else. I’m always finding something new. If I actually understood, nothing would be new to me. Even here on G@G I spot trends through the opinions.

[MlleCake]

I think we all have some barriers to understanding one another, and we all fall back on some assumptions about each other that are not necessarily true or fair.

I don't think it's just women not understanding men.

Some people come to understand one another very well, and others don't.

[LonelyWolf9025]

Well, if people actually tried to understand each other yes, we can understand each other. I have a ton of guy friends and girl friends we all know each other very well. Because we actually try to understand one another. I have a guy friend that understands and knows me better than most of my friends, and I have a girl friend that is best friends with one of the guys. I even spar and wrestle the boys as well and talk memes. We all trust each other but if y'all dismiss the others as 'mysterious creatures' and never try, you'll never understand.

[SelfishGuy]

Women are complicated stuff. They are more emotional but... can control or hide emotion more skilfully than men, in other words they are more emotionally stable than us.
They can understand us alright, they are more empathetic but in saying all these, that's the exact same reason they can be act as heartless cold b*tches... when they want.

[englisc]

No, in general I don't think most people can understand the opposite gender. In order to do so you have to be able to put aside your own biases and ways of thinking. You have to have the ability to understand why someone thinks the way they do, to understand ideas different to your own, even if you don't think that way yourself, and without judging it negatively. Most people simply can't do that, or at least they refuse to.

[Lucina_Rose]

I must admit though. Women maybe a lot harder to understand. But not because men are more clueless, but definitely because many women tend to be secretive, cruel and insecure. Men are usually better people from what I know. However, pleople in general are difficult to understand.

[carpentiero]

My opinnion is that woman are the bigest treat to woman and men.
Being secretive is a treat to modernisation and leads to suppresion, sadism.

sad to say but in buysines woman on a "search for real power trip" are a main reason for male burn out.

By expierience you will get better in understanding the world and it's habitants...

[Lucina_Rose]

I know my friend. I just hope you really meant "treat" lol

[carpentiero]

sorry bad spelling
threat
was what i wanted to say

[Lucina_Rose]

Yes I knew that. I just wish it was true. Lol

[B-radley]

It's not that black and white.

On a fundamental level, both genders understand each other fine. Women want security and men want respect.

On an individual basis, where most people want to be understood, it's based on how well an individual can read someone.

I'm pretty good at reading women but people in general are terrible at reading me. Women aren't as complex as they think they are.

[devilman666]

Women expect men to understand them but men are more likely to give in on such topics. "Weve been together for xx years and you still don't know my favorite ---------?", women expect us to get to know them and to do little things for them, but they rarely returm the favor.

[DanishSaint]

Definitely not. If any, I would say it should be the other way around. Even men doesn´t understand men. Men are just really good at ignoring the fact meanwhile in the back of our brain, we have this little "warning protocol"; very simple. All it contains is: Don´t question men and never start asking questions about men !

[Anonymous]

I don't think either sex truly understands the other. Both have a broad grasp as to how the opposite sex is. I also don't think women understand women completely. Men are better at understanding other men than women are at understanding women. Women have also been taught to always be right so they don't even need to try and understand men.

[A-man-22]

I don't know about women because I'm not one but personally I find women really hard to understand, romantically.

If it's friends or work wise then they are just like everyone else. When it comes to dates, relationships and love women just don't make sense to me.

[genericname85]

i think in lots of regards we don't udnerstand each other. however i think women are more emotional, hence more irrational, therefore they more often don't even understand themselfs xD

[Fuentes]

Nah lol not at all i feel we put in more effort into trying to understand eachother as the person i mean i don't understand any women but if we're dating we slowly just know eachother ticks and stuff so i mean it's justbsomething we work out but nobody is the same so the confusion just builds lol

[TheSoundOfSilas]

Obviously not, but it sure feels that way sometimes.
Most of my friends are starting to feel less like sisters and more like daughters. I think that's more of a "where we are in life" thing and less of a gender thing, though.

[Asker]

Why do you think they feel more like daughters?

[TheSoundOfSilas]

I have to literally mother them. Do their laundry when I'm at their house, do their homework for them, make important decisions for them because they procrastinate until the last minute, so on so forth. They're also very childish in general.
Sometimes it feels like a thankless job. But as annoying as they can get, I know they genuinely love me and I reciprocate.

[hellionthesagereborn]

I think that men can't understand women because women say one thing, think another and feel something completely different then both of those. Women on the other hand don't understand men because they cannot be bothered to care enough to try.