This is kind of piggybacking on my previous question. I do admit that girls do go a little overboard with their compliments for each other and they aren’t always genuine but they still go out of their way to make each other happy. Is there a reason that guys don’t seem to do this which each other. From what I’m noticing, guys DO appreciate compliments so why don’t they start with each other?
Men do compliment each other but it's about very different things. We don't do it based on appearances or personal traits generally speaking. Rather, we compliment each other based on actions or skills "keep up the good work!" "you're an great chef" etc.
Guys place very high value on respect both when received and given. I think our compliments towards other guys tend to be focused on those things we consider respect-worthy. You don't respect a man simply because he has a good jaw-line. He didn't do anything to earn respect by it so why pay him? We compliment the things we respect about other guys.
When it comes to complimenting women, while we do still compliment the things we respect about them, we tend to focus our compliments more of the things we love about them.
Love, as opposed to respect, is something that's generally considered un-earned. It simply is or is not. When women compliment men, they tend to compliment the things they love about them. I get the impression that's generally how women compliment each other as well but I may well be wrong.
One major thing to keep in mind though, is that both types of compliments have very different effects. Complimenting the things you love about a person may make them happy and feel all the warm fuzzy feelings, but that will wear off pretty quickly. Compliments of respect have a longer lasting impact and have a way of actually building long-term character. I think this is why guys value them so much and use them whilst avoiding compliments of love.
Check out BRO Culture, my dude. It's the definite opposite of this kind of negative mindset. The purest bros truly are warm and inspiring. It's human dogpack sponsorship and it's similar to why guys join a military unit, seeking unity in purpose. They're like basic bitch versions of surfer bros but you get them wherever there's enough social opulence to produce them (rich areas); it's almost like surf bros were the evolved form of this lesser known ancestral category of Dude. And they have them anywhere there's a good beach. Gold Coast sounds like a bong ripped dream fog.
insecure guys don't compliment, or at least rip on each other in a way that opens it up for a compliment like "naaah he's alright"
I think guys compliment personality a lot - like - Joe is so honest - or Brad is so polite - or Albert is so kind to his parents - but they don't compliment superficial traits like intelligence or professional status - cause that could come out as seeming gay.
They do compliment eachother but it won't be about themselves but what they have such as nice shoes😂😂 but you're not going to hear any guys tell another man that his eyes are pretty or something. Thats just weird
I’ve actually had plenty of other guys give me compliments on my appearance. I’ve had two friends compliment me on my results from working out. One was a little more awkward cause he actually felt my biceps when he complimented me. Had another friend say, “no homo, but you look hot with blonde highlights.”
I get compliments like that rather often. Never hear about things like that from other guys. I know most of these guys aren’t gay or anything. I’ve always thought it was weird that I get compliments like that and other guys don’t. 🤷🏽♂️
Guys do compliment each other, just not as much as girls, in my area guys actually get disturbed by how much girls compliment each other because the weird thing is, girls overly compliment each other then talk behind each others back whereas guys give moderate compliments and also talk mild stuff about each other.
But girls are far worse when it comes to talking shit behind each others back and also when it comes to verbal fights.
Guys are better at being entirely honest with each other face to face regardless of our view or at least that is how it has always been for my 19 years on this planet :)
Men do compliment each other.. ALL THE TIME! It's just not in the same way women do because we don't care about the same things and have different values..
We compliment each other through companh and mutual interest. We compliment each other through giving a shit. We Men are like a wolf pack, with each other's strengths being bolstered and weaknesses being addressed bh the group. Similar to how women preen each other but not physically. We boost each other's success.
"Wow Dave, love the hair mate you look fabulous... is that Versace Cologne I smell?"... SAID NO MAN EVER!
"Hey Dave, how's things going with Maggie? Any dramas? Good dates?" And then Dave will raise issues he needs advice on, (without kissing and telling which a Gentleman does not).
Guys don't compliment other Guys cause we fear were going to be labeled as gay but let me tell you. I have told guys i love them like a brother through Christ and i don't care what people think of me.
We do but we don't do it in the same fashion as women. We give booze and atta boys or, "damn good job" or, ""nice work". So on and so forth. We also do ot in the form of knocking one another or selling a gal on our pal or whatever. Point is, we do, but go about it differently.
Guys don't need it as much as girls. Girls are more social creatures than guys, they value interpersonal relationships more than men, and complimenting others is a great way to achieve such connection. This is why a compliment from a girl (whether you like her or not, that doesn't matter) has more value than from a guy.
Whenever i got compliments from a guy (in class, not just randomly on the street), i always felt it was awkward, cause he might be gay and maybe tried to hit on me. I'm not so i thought why else would he say that then.
I don't think it's manly to compliment other men. Maybe there are rare cases when it is not weird, like someone is suddenly appears in really sharp clothes.
Or maybe men usually don't dress that nicely, so they don't get compliments, cause they don't stand out?
Men do... pro s not to the extent women do, but they do. Its because its not that big a deal I guess to guys, but if their buddy has a new hair cut, or awesome shoes and stuff, they will say something lol
i compliment other guys, and attempt to boost everyone around me's self esteem. but there are some guys that act as if a guy complimenting another guy is gay, and those guys make it so a lot of guys avoid it to avoid be called gay.
We do, it’s just that “the bois” are usually more sarcastic about it, and a lot of the time, we just straight up compliment each other. It’s just not as straightforward as you expect
Yo that is odd, I tried to say it but I just embarrassed myself :p Dutch is an interesting language though, everything is complicated to say *At least, from my perspective* :)
I try to when I can, but I think it's cause we are more emotionally reserved, either that or we like to appreciate skill more than most things, so we're more likely to give a simple "Nice job" than something like "Like your shirt"
we do compliment each other, when it's meaningful. So it's rare that we give each other compliments since we don't believe it to be necessary or meaningful.
We do just not in the same ways as girls. But basically, it's not as important to us.
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When guys compliment, it's an actual compliment, unlike when women use it as a backhanded insult toward other women. When the quality improves the quantity decreases
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