I can understand his reservations. How is this a career? How do you make money from it? And I don't buy this "oh he's insecure and a loser nonsense" those people aren't in his situation and are unnecessarily shaming him.
But you said men aren't involved, men are certainly watching though. Which is the point I imagine. Which is the reason he is uncomfortable with it. And that's a reasonable thing to feel. Should you leave your "career"? I'm inclined to say no, as it's clearly a passion you have and to me that's more important than a relationship that might not even last. Possessiveness is not inherently a bad thing by the way, don't listen to those who immediately claim it is. This is a very complex situation and no simple answer can be given I'm afraid. He and you will need to talk about it and you both will need to express tour feelings bout the situation as openly and truthfully as possible, even if it's hurts. If it does hurt then the appropriate action afterwards is to cover and heal the wound in whatever fashion you/him or both of you decide upon for yourself, hisself, and/or yourselves.
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If you are dancing provocatively with men or even just in general, no your boyfriend is not being unfair to not be okay with that. Most guys that want a monogamous woman would not feel comfortable with that. You are mainly going to attract promiscuous guys and guys into swinging or sharing you and they actually get aroused by showing their girls off. Those are going to mainly be the guys cheering for you to do it because that fits what they do in life.
Porn and stripping is obviously a more extreme level but it kind of reminds me of what you're talkin about. Those girls have the same or worse relationship problems that you do.
Of course he is unfair. I bet when he met you he was very impressed with that and found it hot, but now that you are with him you need to stop because he does not want other guys looking? tell him to grow up. it is what you have been doing before you met him, it's a career and your passion, not some bad habit like smoking he has no right to randomly ask you to give that up. he seems selfish and insecure.
Ugh I’ve been there with jealous men. Believe me, these guys aren’t worth giving up your passion. If you did, you’d regret it forever and you’ll grow to resent him. Next thing know, you’ll be single again and lost many years for nothing. Don’t make that mistake. Your career passion is priority.
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Ok, he seems very possessive. Has he shown signs of this before? Like agressiv behavior when other guys look at you, or if your talking with male friends?
Him being unsupportive seems to have maybe some deeper cause, either that or he's just insecure, and that can have different reasons again. I bet you felt pretty wronged by how he treated you... How does he treats you normally?He's not being unfair. I've gone out with dancers and actresses - dirty dancing leads to cheating and sex ALL THE TIME. So either you're lying about being a dancer OR you're playing dumb.
SO yes, it's your career, your life and your decision so just leave him. He's not the bad guy in all this and has the right to feel how he feels.I agree with him that the dancing is overtly sexual in nature, but if there are never any men present, and you aren't posting videos online or anything, I don't see how it could possibly be a problem.
dont listen to him he's acting like a psycho. follow your dreams and passions in life and fuck what other people say because they're not gonna make you happy only you can make yourself happy dont depend on other people to do it for you
Lose this guy. There are plenty of guys who will be thrilled to date a dancer. We make choices in a relationship, we don't give up things because they make or partner uncomfortable.
He's too emotional weak and has low confidence... he's scared you're too sexy and will attract someone hotter than him and you will leave him then
Why does every girl that "Dance" dance like that now? its vulgar and overly sexual. I wouldn't date a dancer unless she was a ballerina.
if he is making you choose than obviously you need to choose your career beautiful! <3
He's allowed to not want you to do it and you're allowed to do it anyway. If it becomes too deep a rift between the two of you, you have the option of deciding to no longer be with him, if that's what you want. You all may just not be compatible.
you pick your career your boyfriend should be supportive of you not make you chose
If you were dancing like this for guys, I would have a problem with it. I'd probably end the relationship.
Time for a new boyfriend, who respects you. He's starting to be controlling and killing your autonomy.
Dump him. He needs to be ok with your choice of profession/hobby or he can kick rocks. You did it before you two met and he knew that, right?
If he’s not supporting you dump him.
He sounds awful and way too controlling.
Always focus on job over boyfriend.
Your career he'll get over it
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