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Boyfriend doesn’t care about my birthday? (Page 2)
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Possibly this whole convo sounds kinda stupid to be honest why didn't you tell him what u was doing before hand lol
My manager just asked me two days ago
So why didn't you tell him then lol why is it he is asking what you are doing to find out yes you don't have to tell him but part off a good relationship is basic communication
Because he was on duty and he isn’t allowed to have his phone so i waited until i saw him face to face
Lol I see meh well it's still something you should have brought up but that can't be changed now as for why he is upset it's hard to know maybe he thinks you was hiding it or is sad he can't also go hard to guess as it could be multiple differnt things
Maybe he was planning something for your bday and he felt betrayed that you didn't ask him if he was going to get you anything and are going off with someone else for your bday
Sounds like a low quality boyfriend. Go hang out with your friends. Open the door for him by setting expectations. If he doesn't meet them. Then let him go
I think he is frustrated by the fact he cannot get you anything and that you are going with your manager instead of him.
But he didn’t offer to spend time together either
Depending on work hours, an evening shift can really ruin someone's social life.
But he’s also off the weekend
Like I said, he maybe frustrated that he cannot afford anything for your birthday, and feels that he is not performing well as a boyfriend, adding in the fact your manager is doing what he feels he should be the one doing, he probably feels very upset and frustrated right now.
Um maybe he's folling around with another girl. Seriously he coukd get you something or make you something.
Get a MSN who can provide for you.
Get you things. he's got a job.
Man
Also he can get a second job if need be.
if you don't invite him then it would seem like he's not important enough to hang out with you and you're friends.
I always invite him and he always says no
then i don't see a problem. unless he doesn't like your friends?
He’s never met them
what ethnicity and what are you if you don't mind me asking?
Female ages 22, African American boyfriend 30 also African American
unless he's broke, he's saving up for something. it sounds like a better life. whether or not you're in it i don't know. not being able to spend a little as a gesture on someone you love is not a good sign.
He is broke
He told me not to but him a birthday gift and i asked him “why” and he said “I’m not getting you anything for your birthday because i don’t have the money”
do you make more and work more than him? why doesn't he have any money?
He has a hard time going to work he hates his job
they keep him anyway?
Yes they already wrote him up for coming in too late 4 times last month
that's tough. i hope he finds something new. he probably wants to buy you things.
Whatever his problem is, it's his problem.
When he wants to put on his big boy panties and use his words like an adult, then maybe you can find out.
You’re right thank you
I mean maybe he was planning some kind of surprise, but you need to open your mouth and talk to the person, or have your plans bounced by everything.
Or maybe, and I don't know the guy, but maybe he's just being a childish dousche-nozzle.
I asked him to hang out for my birthday and he said “i can try to be available but I’m not making any promises “
Well, work is work and can be a nightmare. But you should be at a decent point on his priority list.
He's not worth losing sleep over. Or much else for that matter.
Hi, I just saw this request. What is your question and has the Friday birthday event already happened?
P. S. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Did you invite him? If you couldn't, did you tell him why?
Maybe he was planning to dress up for you and show you a good time at home?
I stopped asking him to go out because he always uses the excuse he has no nice clothes and no money
He’s jealous that you are going out and that he can’t take you out
I didn’t ask him to take me out
You don't think there's a probelm with someone else taking you out for your birthday?
My boyfriend said he can’t promise to be available on my birthday
So i went ahead and made plans without him
So... seems like a jealousy thing to me, if anything at all
My manager is a female
Still in the sense someone can do for you what he can't. Sure, maybe he just got upset that he got wrong that you didn't really want to go, or maybe that he can't go, but it certainly seems like whatever it was is centered on you going out.
But when i asked could we see each other he said “i can try to be available but I’m not making any promises”
Being unavailable, or unable to make the time, or even not wanting to go, does not mean he can't be jealous, emotions are seldom ones to make sense.
It’s my birthday is make sure i saw him on his special day
Maybe he did have plans but you chose your colleagues over him and that might be why he is bitter or cold.
He didn’t. I asked could i see him/spend time with him for my special day and he said “I’ll try to be available “
That's not a definite no though.
This guy is trying to make you feel bad on your birthday, wow what an asshole. Not even a present because he says he can’t afford it but he works!! A birthday present can be whatever he chooses. Girls do break up with guys before special moments for this reason. I’m afraid he’s just using you for sex and this isn’t an actual relationship.
Wrong message. He’s not getting her a birthday gift or bothering to come because she’s disrespected him.
I guess he feels sad because he can't give you things on your birthday. He's not mad at you, he's angry with himself.
But he didn’t even offer to hang out
Try this. Tell him you'll cancel all the plans with your friends if he wants to spend his time for your birthday, even if it's just going to a burger joint.
Okay thanks
Anytime 👍
Weird for a couple to not spend it together.
Weird.
Ok what I’m seeing is that he’s insecure about you, money and people who’re around you but that’s what I think okay
Happy birthday,
Money is not everything, he can do other things too TBH,
He didn’t even offer to hang out
That's bad , what are you going to do about it?
Abandoning on the birthday, that's a dick move
Sounds like he doesn't like the fact that you are going to a club without him
Ask: Would you like me to spend my birthday with you instead of with my coworkers?
Possibly he has plans ti surprise you and you planned around them.
No he didn’t even offer/ask to hang out
Again, surprise...
But who knows.
He probs feels guilty because he has no money to take you out
But he also didn’t plan to come see me either
He still feels guilty and is taking it out on you
should of asked to you mind if I make plans with friends 1st in case he had plans like sat what time would you want me to get back home sense were goung. out
Well since he doesn’t have any money and you’re going with your manager he probably isn’t happy about that
But he didn’t even offer to hang out with me
Well you already said why he can’t but I don’t think he likes your other option but since he didn’t offer you could do something inexpensive with him instead on your birthday
He's probably just a little bugged that you made plans with coworkers instead of him.
I asked him to hang out he said “i can try to be available but I’m not making any promises”
No idea then. Maybe he feels bad because he can't afford to do something cool for your birthday then?
Is your manager a dude? Perhaps he feels inadequate that he can't take you out?
I work with all females and he knows it
you are going to a club that is likely well out of his league- he's not happy about that.
But he didn’t offer to come see me or hang out
That's his way of expressing his feelings, I guess.
He probably feels bad and embarrassed and thinks you are going to leave him cause he doesn’t have money
I’m going to leave him for not spending time with me
Well id say, money is like toylet paper here now gone... You should find out more about him.. Less about his wallet..
He might have secretly had something planned, but I have no idea.
I highly doubt it
Why is your manager taking you to a club for your birthday?
It’s nit really a club she owns a clubhouse on the beach
He's probably envious that your manager is taking you out
He didn’t offer to do anything
Sounds like he thinks your possibly cheating on him
How do you think that from the post
Some guys can get defensive or cold if they hear their girl is going somewhere special with another guy
My manager is a woman
Does he know that?
Yes lol that’s why I’m confused
Hug. Might be stress from work because it is night shift or he is hiding something
*huh
A girl going to a club without her boyfriend means one thing. She is looking for new cock. Every guy knows it. So does your boyfriend.
I didn’t even tell him i was going to a club i said my manager was taking me out and he knows my manager is a female
he thinks your gonna be checking out guys , and you probably are, he better step up his game or he might lose you.
He doesn't care about you and he's a tight ass with his money and don't have respect for his own mother
Wow! You can do better he's a waste of your time. Your better than this and you deserve better.
I know i know
Sounds like he is undecided on how good a friend he wants you to be
What?
Ask him. Flat you. If someone is acting weird ask them what's going on
I don’t know maybe you should cut your losses and find another man
He might be upset that he can't celebrate with you. Or, maybe he has a surprise and he needs you to be somewhere? There's always the possibility that he's controlling, but I don't want to say that.
his mind is going back and forth... he's acting insecure
About what
th situation... u going out wit yr boss and maybe because he can't treat u nice and be there
This dude sounds like a tool. Go clubbing and kick this guy to the curb.
He’s ashamed of himself for not being the man for you.
Your making him feel inadequate as a man and another man is taking you out
My manager is a woman and he knows it lol
He should be cold. You’re going to a club while you’re in a relationship.
The fact that you go out on a club with your manager put him off---
Think about it first
My opinion is that he's a baby and u would be better off with out his tightwad ass
Sounds like a little on the cheap side or selfish side.
Sounds like he didn't want you to go lol
But it’s a female outing
This guy is a dick. And that's all i have to say
He sounds like a child. Dump him.
He's just wants to be Greedy.
Your ruining his surprise party
No I’m not
Sounds like he feels inadequate.
But he didn’t even offer to hang out?
Dunno about that. He has an evening shift, so that might have to do with it.
He doesn’t care
He's been with you that long, he's gotta care.
He isn’t acting like it I’m so upset
Stop shaming your boyfriend you little bitch! You didn’t put him before anyone else. You’re the problem and his reaction to your disrespect you’re now coming here to shame him. Go suck on a woman.
Just go and have a nice time.
Admit u don’t wanna go
He’s probably wanting to surprise you.
The real issue is that he's a little bitch.
What do you mean lol
The conversation you relate and that he's acting cold. Only a little bitch would do what he did.
He doesn't deserve you
Why do you say that
Why did you invite me to this question?
He could be planing a surprise party.