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It's when u say your manager is wanting 2 take 2 a club. Well his attitude is the hell with it. By going out with ur manager. That tells it all. Meaning u work with him. Which means u see him all the time. Now u are going clubbing. Throw in the towel. It's over
I told him my manager was a female
Well then he should man up and see if all 3 of u go out. Still my point female or male he's getting jealous. The problem is he needs 2 step is his game. Meaning he needs 2 stop being a cheap and. As I see it u and ur girlfriend 2 be will have a good time
Well talk to him (also that's bullshit, he can afford something. He may not be able to afford jewelry or what have you but something (he could cook you dinner or what have you. That seems like a redflag in my opinion). Point out that since he has not made plans before, has not let you know of any plans that you made your own. Then just go from their.
He didn’t even bother to ask me to hang out
Yeah that's a pretty big red flag to me. But its your relationship so I would say point that out, talk to him, tell him what you need in the relationship what you expect and if he isn't inclined to do anything for your birthday then you have no obligation to sit around doing nothing for it too. But again, these seem to be pretty big red flags, I'd be concerned to some degree (unless this is the only circumstance this occurs in which case he may just be really odd or socially awkward). But yeah, point this out to him, point out that he never asked, never bought you anything and never seemed to care so you made plans on your own to celebrate your birthday (something he should have done to begin with). If he has issue with it then ask him why because again, he made no attempt to even suggest he was going to celebrate your birthday.
I asked to come see him on my birthday and he said “i can’t try to be available on your birthday but I’m not making any promises “ that’s why i went and made plans
I'm sorry but that is a huge red flag. Why can't he make time? What is so important that he cannot take some time out of his day for you? I mean I get it if it was something that was short notice and his job is very strict with taking time off, but that's not this situation. That to me is really kind of messed up. But with that response you should tell him just that, because he refuses to do anything with you for your birthday you made plans for yourself, he doesn't have the right to be angry if he refused to make that time for you and refused to do something for your birthday himself.
Sounds like he's jealous of the Manager, from where I sit. Or he thinks that because he can't afford to take you out or buy you a present that he's being replaced. It may be a blow to his masculine ego.
Then again, I'm on the outside looking in, so if my reply doesn't fit, wad it up and toss it out.
But he didn’t even offer to hang out with me
There are two possible reasons why he acts that way
1. He is angry that he can't afford to do anything for you. So maybe you should reassure him that him being there is enough for you, that he doesn't need materials to prove his love or other things like that... if, of course, you feel this way.
2. He's jealous that you're going out without him.
But he didn’t even suggest us to hang out
You said yourself that he's working...
But he works super late so i could come see him that morning
People who work at late night shifts usually sleep in the morning and wake up around noon... so it makes sense that he didn't suggest it.
Why don't you ask him what his plans are for the day? See what he has in mind...
I think he wishes he could take you out somewhere like that and perhaps he's a little jealous your manager can take you out.
I'd say if he's that tight with money Judy drop him. I mean I know that sounds pretty crude bit think about the way you feel about him. Being in a relationship is certainly not about getting presents and gifts but it is nice to be treated like a princess by your beau. If he can't afford to do anything for you then is it even worth it?
He didn’t even offer to spend time with me
You might want to think about your choices here. You deserve someone that's going to spoil you and treat you right and bring you out to have fun.
Just plain tell him you didn't think he was doing anything for your birthday, so you decided to accept the offer from your manager. Tell him you didn't meant to irritate him, but someone was showing interest in your birthday, so you took them up on it. I don't know if he is mature enough to learn from this or not, to accept that he should have said something before, if he wanted to be with you and do something.
I asked him to hang out he made it seem like he had plans
notirerealm: If you asked him this before you made plans with your manager, then he has nothing to complain about. He's just moping for some reason. He needs to be more concise and to the point in his communication, if he was actually wanting to spend time with you.
She didn’t answer you because that’s exactly what she did. She made plans before she spoke to him. This girl is here simply to shame her boyfriend even more than she already has done. What a bitch.
This guy is so pathetic
Even if I would live on the street, I would collect beer cans to buy at least a rose for my partner for her birthday.
>.."Not sure what the real issue is? "
He is a control freak and tries to manipulate you with his indifference
In his opinion you have to sit alone home at your birthday and to wait enthusiastic on his text.
He tried to manipulate me how
Sugar bread/whip method
he gives you compliments and affection if you do what he wants
being indifferent "he’s been acting cold" if he wants to punish your disobedience
Well, according to the conversation he doesn't want you to go and is trying to make you believe that you don't want to go. He could have trust issues with you going to a club, or he could have a surprise planned for you. It is very hard to tell, but he seems like he's trying to manipulate you into not going.
He didn’t plan anything for my birthday so why does he care
That is a good question, I honestly don't have an answer for... the only person who does is him. It could be a multitude of things, but the only way to find out is to ask him about it. I can tell you 10 reasons why he might care, but ultimately, the only person who knows the reason is him. Just try to tslk to him about it and be very understanding. Communication is a key factor in relationships.
In his mind it's as simple as this "It's her birthday, but she wants to spend it with coworkers and not me."
I'm not sure I'd have positive thoughts about it, either, though I would still accept it without whining if I'm still spending enough time with you overall.
That’s something petty to get upset over. It was stored in your short term memory and considered unimportant because you were likely thinking that nothing more than you’re going somewhere fun on your birthday.
Then again, he could be thinking that you purposely aren’t telling him the name of the club and is jealous or hurt. It still makes him seem petty. Ask him.
I've been in this situation before and it was horrible. I never got birthday gifts or anything and even though I said it didn't bother me, it did.
I'm sorry but he's just making an excuse. He can't even buy you, your favourite chocolates or take you out for walk somewhere. A picnic? Anything.
He didn’t even offer to hang out
Yeah honey, go out with your coworkers and have a hood time. Dont be miserable on your birthday
The people special in my life whether my Mom or a girlfriend
i would buy them something for their birthday and get them cake
and even take them to dine out. I just think he shouldn't be jealous
even if your going to ladies night out he should be happy for you since
he can't do anything for you cause of money wise.
He could spend time with me
Yes i agree with you
I'm honestly baffled by this - I don't know if your manager is male or female but maybe he's insecure and a bit down that he wasn't able to provide you a gift. Gifts doesn't have to associate with money - it's the thought that counts and I would still want to celebrate my gf's birthday regardless by creating something original and meaningful or even just spending time with her. If your manager is male, he could be jealous. But like I said, I'm baffled
My manager is a woman he knows she’s a woman and he didn’t even offer to come see me on my birthday
Yep, wouldn't have a clue - he sounds pretty immature
I agree with @AmandaYVR, This guy no matter How long you been together sound like an ass. So what He doesn't have money for a dress or perfume, He has paper and pens, he could quite easily write I handmade card and create some couple tokens for you.
He didn’t even ask to hang out
Can You really call it Love if he doesn't want to hang out, I would give anything to spend my girlfriends birthday with her.
He's weird and passive agressive. Just let him be if it's really important he would tell you why he's annoyed.
Too anyone can afford a gift... He don't need to spend hundred on money on it he can just go buy something super cheap. His whole excuse just seem to cover the fact he's a cheap person.
He sounds like a douche like iv seen and known people who didn't have barely any money at all and they still found a way to give someone something like a card a home made dinner a walk in the park a arts and craft are even just chilling with you dump him and go in and party with the girls.
The guy has some growing to do. I don't know either of you but I have been through some seriously tough financial times and always got my girlfriend at least a token for her birthday. He may be mad your boss is taking you to the club but that is on him, he should make an arrangement for your birthday but has not. he has some serious growing up to do and he is the only one who can do it.
Money doesn't go as far as it use to, but he still could have found a way to make it work if he was saving some money months ahead of time. Maybe I'm wrong about that, but I have a hard time believing it. Personally, I would have expected a breakup if I didn't get my girlfriend a birthday gift. I don't think he wanted you to go to the club. He definitely sounds insecure, but he has a valid reason to be if he's that broke.
He didn’t even offer to hang out with me
I feel bad for you. Don't change, you are too sweet.
Sorry and not sorry, but how on earth did this guy even get your attention, and what made you stay with him? I could understand a budget, I have one myself. But you still can do things without money and he doesn't even try? You might not want to hear this or heard it plenty of times. You should most likely leave him. Find a man that can appricate your relationship. You make an effort, he doesn't seem to. He's very lazy? Is there something else? Well I hope you resolve this.
He doesn’t put effort into anything
The real issue is you're not connecting effectively. You lack respect for him because of his choices.
Isn't it as obvious and plain as day to you that there's just nothing there?
So how long are you going hang out with someone you're way less than gaga about? NEXT!!
Your total focus is on YOU. This will be your undoing. I guarantee it.