If you have to choose, do you prefer a girl who is always serious or always joking? ( in a relationship )?

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Spiritwander · Accepted Answer

In all honesty, I wouldn't select a personality that was predominately one or the other, but rather, I would look for someone who acted relative to the environment and situational context...

For instance, having a sense of humor at a funeral or memorial service... maybe not my cup of tea (I don't joke about solemn or sacred things, and do my best to afford them serious attention), but everything within moderation. While I might respect funerals and weddings, everything depends on context.

For instance whereas bringing whoopy cushions on regular Sunday services might be frowned on by some, I (personally) see that as "harmless fun" which, although I can't condone it, I sure wouldn't be able to condemn it while looking at the kids like 👍😉😂😁👍

Also, wouldn't be to keen on the type of girl who treated the relationship flippantly, like either it was a dreaded chore, or never took anything seriously, "Oh, yeah, I totally slept with that guy that night I didn't come home..." (just so the one time they meant it you don't take them seriously and get in the double tear-jerker whammy).

But I think most people want someone who tries to be positive no matter what, and a sense of humor is a major part of that.
But there are WORLDS OF DIFFERENCE between the immature tomboy making armpit noises and fart jokes with the guys, and a girl who knows her timing and waits till I'm holding her hair out of the toilet while she pukes to pull out a major one-liner to break the tension...😅 (the latter being the preferred option).

GoodManDave · Accepted Answer

Having to choose if someone always has to be "on" would probably get to me as much as someone who was always so serious, but I think I could handle someone joking more often or a lot better, though I think this partly depends on if they had a similar sense of humor to me and appreciated my jokes. I think if she was always "one upping" me on jokes, and couldn't ever let me have a moment, that would bug me more than someone who was joking and had a great sense of humor.

Though, again, both would not be great long term. I need that seriousness sometimes. We have kids, they need to know and not be treated as if anything and everything was hilarious. You giggle too much about their rudeness or sass, they're going to learn to keep mouthing off. But if you're always scolding a kid and telling them off and "be serious" then that kid's going to have an unhappy childhood. You need play, as you need work.

Moonchild714 · Accepted Answer

If those are my only two choices and I can't go middle I want to laugh in life so give me the Jokester.

But in Reality, my guy has to know when to be serious, and when I need a good laugh. Like if I'm having a really bad day e serious and listen to me vent about it but then pause and cone up with something that relates but gives me a good belly laugh just to ease me a bit... Also, it's helpful to be able to at funerals share the funny stories and jokes that the dearly departed loved and make everyone laugh, many people struggle with this they think funerals are supposed to be strictly about grief and mourning but really it's supposed to be a Celebration of the Life that had Lived before us...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'd rather be with someone that was balanced. I couldn't be with someone who was serious all the time. Life would be so boring with them. And I couldn't tolerate someone joking around all the time. It would irritate me, especially if I needed to have a serious conversation with them

A guy needs to be able to have a laugh and have a sense of humor, but be serious when the situation calls for a more serious approach. I love having deep meaningful conversations, and I also love joking around and having a laugh too

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

I prefer serious people over people that joke all the time. People that joke are the time seem like they're trying too hard to make others happy or be funny, like they're hiding their own pain and sadness, or they want attention.

At least serious people will be honest and to the point with you without playing games.

mistixs · Answer

Both a good sense of humor AND the ability to engage in serious/meaningful conversations is very important to me. But if I had to pick only one, I'd choose the latter: always serious.

CherryRoseChampange · Answer

I'd like a blend, I dislike people who are too serious and people who play too much.

LordSnuggles · Answer

I don't think people understand what, "if you had to choose" means judging by the amount of people saying they'd have both. I'd rather she always be serious. If she's always joking, you can't tell what she's truly feeling and you can't build a healthy foundation on uncertainty and aloofness.

SuperManiac · Answer

If I'm forced to choose between the two extremities, I prefer never serious. I prefer fun and laughter and play to seriousness, and I figure a girl who is never serious is also never upset? That actually sounds kind of awesome if so. I guess if she's starting to annoy me, I can just leave her alone for a while until I get back in the mood for fun and laughs. And if she's never serious, then I figure she'll be just as fun-loving and filled with humor even if I leave her alone for long periods of time. :-D

WalterBlack · Answer

That's a tough one to answer. If she's the kind of person who can find humor and positivity in almost any situation, I would like that. However, if she uses humor as a defense mechanism to avoid dealing with things in a mature manner, that would be a problem. I've dated women that would say very hurtful things and then claim it was only a sarcastic joke. That sort of thing is hurtful and toxic to relationships. I don't think I'd be happy with someone who is always serious either. Life would be really dull and boring without some humor.

Anonymous · Answer

I've dated both. I hate men who are always serious because they wanna talk about their emotions and my emotions and be all dead serious all the time about everything, they also see themselves as way too important and more mature than everyone else especially fun people - in my experience.
I am very attracted to funny men although there has to be a good balance. I've also dated a man who was literally incapable of being serious even when it was necessary and he admitted that himself. He would joke anything away or just disappear if things got too serious in any situation. I do prefer men who lean towards always joking though as I am that type of woman myself.

KaitieSearching · Answer

Actually, one of the things on my “list” that I would like in a guy is someone who can be silly and laid back, but can transition easily to dead serious when necessary. I’ve met a couple people like that in my life. I really cannot pick one or the other, because it’s so important to me that a person can transition between the two.

Kapakani · Answer

I'd take a girl who doesn't take life so seriously and can post herself making a silly face without worrying what others think ANY DAY 😂.

MyLastRemnant · Answer

It should be a balance... you dont want a girl who is a bummer all the time but toy dont want a girl who you can't talk to and actually have a serious conversation about important things with. You can't be all of just one, you have to know the proper times for being goofy and serious. If we are just hanging out feel free to be goofy, but if we are talking about a serious topic I dont want to get frustrated over you not taking it seriously.

Jonad · Answer

Joking definitely would reach me better. But there's a good feeling about making a serious person smile when you do. Maybe serious people need some jokes in their life. Maybe joksters need some seriousness in their life. Maybe. Maybe maybe nobody can be described by one personality trait alone. If you joke all the time no one will take you seriously.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Should be a balance between the two. But being too serious too often is the less healthy of the two options. Playing, laughing, hugging, flirting, storytelling, bantering, etc are as important to healthy functioning as diet, fitness, sleep etc. This is why a positive, bright-eyed, and playful girl can seemingly bring a man back to life. It's the Divine Feminine in action.

Claireluvskaren · Answer

The word ALWAYS, makes this a tough choice. As I can be both, if you read my answers here on GaG you will know I enjoy a good laugh, having to select one, I'd say you need to be serious,. Isn't that funny.

laurieluvsit · Answer

Drama queens are not my thing, I prefer laughter every time! :)

sageevalentinee · Answer

I think you need to be in the middle. You need to able to flirt and be playful. But also know how to actually react in social situations and not use humour as a crutch. You got to be able to listen to other people and think deeply and critically. Cannot be an airhead 100% of the time.

Anonymous · Answer

Balance. I don't want someone who's constantly closing around even when I need emotional support. But I also don't want a serious guy who has a stick up his ass. There is a right time for everything. It can't always be joke time and you can't constantly be serious. I like a guy who has balance

holograph · Answer

Neither extreme is really good but of the two I'd prefer always joking. I think people that are too serious tend to have thin skin on average. Like they're often getting upset rather than just accepting a joke as a joke.

ecfresh · Answer

Wouldn’t continue dating her if I had to pick one or the other. Thats not s good long term fit

Dongtai · Answer

I have enough time hyping myself up to flirt with girls who look serious all the time. Why would I want one as a girlfriend?

Bubbly girls are where it’s at. Shine some of that positivity my way. Everybody likes to laugh

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

A mix, I prefer being real with my partner, and them being real with me. If we're flirting and being cutesy then it's time for jokes. If we're having a serious conversation then of course serious. Never either extreme

Daniela1982 · Answer

From what most people say on their profiles on dating sites I have been on, most say they want a girl that makes them laugh. So I'm pretty sure the reverse is true. Everyone likes a good sense of humor.

MrOracle · Answer

While a balance is best, I'd rather have a joker because a sense of humor and a positive attitude are important to me in a partner. If someone is ALWAYS serious, I would feel like they had no joy in their life.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

One can find humour in everything. To be able to make jokes is a 'positive' attitude. Even 'serious things can be made fun of.
One little restriction: 'shallow' jokes only will not be too funny on the long run.
Deep jokes will be welcome any time.

JjTheWizard · Answer

I'd have to say never serious since I think it'd be extremely boring to the point of tedium to be stuck with someone who couldn't give/take a joke. Although I would prefer someone inbetween.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Ideally a mix of both. But if I had to choose I guess always joking, you'll live longer and be happier if your laughing, plus I like to joke around a lot.

Sinusa · Answer

I personally like "Never Joking" way more scince i don't take joking often as... joking i take many jokes very serious

StephenCF · Answer

Always joking 🤣 Though I still believe in the philosophy that you can have too much of a good thing, so I wouldn’t want them to be joke after joke after joke 😕

nopedydoo · Answer

as somoeone who can't be serious for more than 1 minute in veeery dire situations... imma only ever get along with someone who is "never serious"

sawno · Answer

Healthy balance, the girl should be capable of being uplifting and be able to goof around. But everything has its time and place.

AlexanderBrunnrgaard · Answer

Why? What woman out there would only ever be serious or only ever joke all the time. That's not realistic so there's no reason for me to choose. I cannot be with someone who can't laugh and have fun, and I can't be with someone incapable of being serious about something either.

wankiam · Answer

i think the best option is a combination of the two

Agape93 · Answer

Never serious. It’s more fun that way. Yeah, it will annoy me a lot but it also grows on me. Like an enjoyable tumor.

MementoMori_ · Answer

Both can be fun. But a girl who is always serious... and also very deep... that is extremely attractive.

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

Never joking, I dont want to date a clown haha Also I am goofy enough for the two of us.  I think I work well with serious women.

ariadneR · Answer

Balance. Because if someone is always joking you never know when they are serious and vice versa.  It gets to be annoying.

Carbon-12 · Answer

Neither. If you can't do both, then you can't do me. But for the sake of the question, I'll say serious. I want him to mean it when he says he loves me.

Massageman · Answer

If you REALLY mean ALWAYS, then serious. If she know when to be serious and when to be funny, then joking, because she would know enough NOT to be joking all the time.

KrispyKrunch · Answer

Both. I heard being serious a lot is linked to anxiety, depression and suicide. ( anxiety ridden serious person, here. I want to learn how to lighten up)

Creepazoid · Answer

Im gonna be honest im gonna say serious because women are not particularly funny. And im not the type of guy to just sit there and fake a laugh if the jokes are not funny

chriscdi · Answer

a girl with a good personality, one that can be serious when she has too but can be goofy, always serious is boring

Adam1978 · Answer

Being serious remove a lot of fun in life after all.

someginger · Answer

Why would I want to date a misurble stick in the mud

whitehide · Answer

I'd rather choose neither. But if I had to, I'd choose always joking since too much seriousness can get really boring.

SufiStorm · Answer

Like joker said in the dark knights... why so serious:)

Red-Blaze · Answer

Joker, but that knows limits and is good about it, not lousy joker

MrGentleman94 · Answer

Always serious for me. Women who are always joking are always a joke in my experience.

Neeceeb7 · Answer

I need a mix but gotta take serious because joking during serious stuff might push me over the edge

Anonymous · Answer

Never?  Then neither  That would be to weird too scary  Sometimes or almost always I can accept but never? never! That would be awkwardly weird

RegularTK421 · Answer

Serious. It would get annoying if you couldn't hold a serious conversation with someone about finances, family, plans, etc.

Lightning8 · Answer

Serious. If you have to joke all the time you're running from something and can't authentically handle consequences or the truth; not my type.

scooogy · Answer

Id go for always serious, because on the one hand there are mostly lame jokes on the internet, on the other hand intellectual jokes rather stem from adult movies and tv shows.

Jon_555 · Answer

I don't want to be a child when I have kids. I am 19 and starting already now breaking my head over shit like that. Being serious doesn't mean to not smile.

the_face_of_god · Answer

Serious girls piss me off. Give me a fun jokey girl any day of the week lol

FakeName123 · Answer

I prefer a healthy balance, but if I was held at gunpoint then I would pick the one who is joking.

loveslongnails · Answer

Neither extreme is really a good thing, you realize... I hope?

Passinggas · Answer

The serious ones just take longer to open up and become more intimate than the clown.

justawhiteman · Answer

Always serious def but both would be terrible you need a perfect balance!

Shamalien · Answer

I dont want either tbh that would be a disaster. Serious when things matter joking when they dont is ideal

Anonymous · Answer

I'd like a nice balance. Not one or the other. If I had to pick... neither lol. It would bother me both ways.

OrhanKultigin · Answer

Both. She have to be serious in necessity and she have to be able to joke in proper times. 😁

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