If you have to choose, do you prefer a girl who is always serious or always joking? ( in a relationship )?

[Greta00]

also applies to boys

Never serius

Never joking

[Spiritwander]

In all honesty, I wouldn't select a personality that was predominately one or the other, but rather, I would look for someone who acted relative to the environment and situational context...

For instance, having a sense of humor at a funeral or memorial service... maybe not my cup of tea (I don't joke about solemn or sacred things, and do my best to afford them serious attention), but everything within moderation. While I might respect funerals and weddings, everything depends on context.

For instance whereas bringing whoopy cushions on regular Sunday services might be frowned on by some, I (personally) see that as "harmless fun" which, although I can't condone it, I sure wouldn't be able to condemn it while looking at the kids like 👍😉😂😁👍

Also, wouldn't be to keen on the type of girl who treated the relationship flippantly, like either it was a dreaded chore, or never took anything seriously, "Oh, yeah, I totally slept with that guy that night I didn't come home..." (just so the one time they meant it you don't take them seriously and get in the double tear-jerker whammy).

But I think most people want someone who tries to be positive no matter what, and a sense of humor is a major part of that.
But there are WORLDS OF DIFFERENCE between the immature tomboy making armpit noises and fart jokes with the guys, and a girl who knows her timing and waits till I'm holding her hair out of the toilet while she pukes to pull out a major one-liner to break the tension...😅 (the latter being the preferred option).

[GoodManDave]

Having to choose if someone always has to be "on" would probably get to me as much as someone who was always so serious, but I think I could handle someone joking more often or a lot better, though I think this partly depends on if they had a similar sense of humor to me and appreciated my jokes. I think if she was always "one upping" me on jokes, and couldn't ever let me have a moment, that would bug me more than someone who was joking and had a great sense of humor.

Though, again, both would not be great long term. I need that seriousness sometimes. We have kids, they need to know and not be treated as if anything and everything was hilarious. You giggle too much about their rudeness or sass, they're going to learn to keep mouthing off. But if you're always scolding a kid and telling them off and "be serious" then that kid's going to have an unhappy childhood. You need play, as you need work.

[Moonchild714]

If those are my only two choices and I can't go middle I want to laugh in life so give me the Jokester.

But in Reality, my guy has to know when to be serious, and when I need a good laugh. Like if I'm having a really bad day e serious and listen to me vent about it but then pause and cone up with something that relates but gives me a good belly laugh just to ease me a bit... Also, it's helpful to be able to at funerals share the funny stories and jokes that the dearly departed loved and make everyone laugh, many people struggle with this they think funerals are supposed to be strictly about grief and mourning but really it's supposed to be a Celebration of the Life that had Lived before us...

[Moonchild714]

@Greta00, thank you for the MHO.

[Anonymous]

I'd rather be with someone that was balanced. I couldn't be with someone who was serious all the time. Life would be so boring with them. And I couldn't tolerate someone joking around all the time. It would irritate me, especially if I needed to have a serious conversation with them

A guy needs to be able to have a laugh and have a sense of humor, but be serious when the situation calls for a more serious approach. I love having deep meaningful conversations, and I also love joking around and having a laugh too

[Cynicaldreamer]

I prefer serious people over people that joke all the time. People that joke are the time seem like they're trying too hard to make others happy or be funny, like they're hiding their own pain and sadness, or they want attention.

At least serious people will be honest and to the point with you without playing games.

[mistixs]

Both a good sense of humor AND the ability to engage in serious/meaningful conversations is very important to me. But if I had to pick only one, I'd choose the latter: always serious.

[CherryRoseChampange]

I'd like a blend, I dislike people who are too serious and people who play too much.

[LordSnuggles]

I don't think people understand what, "if you had to choose" means judging by the amount of people saying they'd have both. I'd rather she always be serious. If she's always joking, you can't tell what she's truly feeling and you can't build a healthy foundation on uncertainty and aloofness.

[Greta00]

my God; one who understands the question

[SuperManiac]

If I'm forced to choose between the two extremities, I prefer never serious. I prefer fun and laughter and play to seriousness, and I figure a girl who is never serious is also never upset? That actually sounds kind of awesome if so. I guess if she's starting to annoy me, I can just leave her alone for a while until I get back in the mood for fun and laughs. And if she's never serious, then I figure she'll be just as fun-loving and filled with humor even if I leave her alone for long periods of time. :-D

[WalterBlack]

That's a tough one to answer. If she's the kind of person who can find humor and positivity in almost any situation, I would like that. However, if she uses humor as a defense mechanism to avoid dealing with things in a mature manner, that would be a problem. I've dated women that would say very hurtful things and then claim it was only a sarcastic joke. That sort of thing is hurtful and toxic to relationships. I don't think I'd be happy with someone who is always serious either. Life would be really dull and boring without some humor.

[Anonymous]

I've dated both. I hate men who are always serious because they wanna talk about their emotions and my emotions and be all dead serious all the time about everything, they also see themselves as way too important and more mature than everyone else especially fun people - in my experience.
I am very attracted to funny men although there has to be a good balance. I've also dated a man who was literally incapable of being serious even when it was necessary and he admitted that himself. He would joke anything away or just disappear if things got too serious in any situation. I do prefer men who lean towards always joking though as I am that type of woman myself.

[KaitieSearching]

Actually, one of the things on my “list” that I would like in a guy is someone who can be silly and laid back, but can transition easily to dead serious when necessary. I’ve met a couple people like that in my life. I really cannot pick one or the other, because it’s so important to me that a person can transition between the two.

[Kapakani]

I'd take a girl who doesn't take life so seriously and can post herself making a silly face without worrying what others think ANY DAY 😂.

[MyLastRemnant]

It should be a balance... you dont want a girl who is a bummer all the time but toy dont want a girl who you can't talk to and actually have a serious conversation about important things with. You can't be all of just one, you have to know the proper times for being goofy and serious. If we are just hanging out feel free to be goofy, but if we are talking about a serious topic I dont want to get frustrated over you not taking it seriously.

[Jonad]

Joking definitely would reach me better. But there's a good feeling about making a serious person smile when you do. Maybe serious people need some jokes in their life. Maybe joksters need some seriousness in their life. Maybe. Maybe maybe nobody can be described by one personality trait alone. If you joke all the time no one will take you seriously.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Should be a balance between the two. But being too serious too often is the less healthy of the two options. Playing, laughing, hugging, flirting, storytelling, bantering, etc are as important to healthy functioning as diet, fitness, sleep etc. This is why a positive, bright-eyed, and playful girl can seemingly bring a man back to life. It's the Divine Feminine in action.

[Claireluvskaren]

The word ALWAYS, makes this a tough choice. As I can be both, if you read my answers here on GaG you will know I enjoy a good laugh, having to select one, I'd say you need to be serious,. Isn't that funny.

[laurieluvsit]

Drama queens are not my thing, I prefer laughter every time! :)

[sageevalentinee]

I think you need to be in the middle. You need to able to flirt and be playful. But also know how to actually react in social situations and not use humour as a crutch. You got to be able to listen to other people and think deeply and critically. Cannot be an airhead 100% of the time.

[Anonymous]

Balance. I don't want someone who's constantly closing around even when I need emotional support. But I also don't want a serious guy who has a stick up his ass. There is a right time for everything. It can't always be joke time and you can't constantly be serious. I like a guy who has balance

[holograph]

Neither extreme is really good but of the two I'd prefer always joking. I think people that are too serious tend to have thin skin on average. Like they're often getting upset rather than just accepting a joke as a joke.

[ecfresh]

Wouldn’t continue dating her if I had to pick one or the other. Thats not s good long term fit

[Dongtai]

I have enough time hyping myself up to flirt with girls who look serious all the time. Why would I want one as a girlfriend?

Bubbly girls are where it’s at. Shine some of that positivity my way. Everybody likes to laugh

[Dazed0N0Confused]

A mix, I prefer being real with my partner, and them being real with me. If we're flirting and being cutesy then it's time for jokes. If we're having a serious conversation then of course serious. Never either extreme