Which Is The Better Option: Being A Heartbreaker Or Being Heartbroken?

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Sangita93 · Accepted Answer

Someone once said you should not get married until you have been dumped at least once and dumped someone at least once. Those are life experiences everyone should go through. But each one is different one. Having been on both sides, I would say that having your heart broken definitely hurts more, but you can suffer as an innocent victim, and then heal. Dumping someone else is just scarier, and even if you know it was the right thing to do, you feel bad about it. Most people do not even like to think about it years later. Being hurt affects you emotionally, but hurting someone else strikes at the heart of the type of person you think of yourself as. Even when it is the right thing to do, causing hurt really sucks. Understanding life with deep insights and evolving with greater dimension.
The guilt is totally unnecessary and completely on me. This isn't every person, for sure. But if that were to change, if there was someone who could break my spirit, then I would definitely rather be a heartbreaker than heartbroken. You need to be somewhat irrational, crazy, clingy or needy to be heartbroken. It is not usually a matter of preference. It is like asking to choose between love and hate.

SydneySentinel · Accepted Answer

They both fuckin suck. Pardon my language, if you must.

FatherJack · Accepted Answer

Neither really , but being heartbroken , you may gain sympathy... far more especially if you are female , the usual advice to men is " STFU... and get over it !! " I have a heart of stone towards human beings , apart from my children , mother and my few decent friends ( quality aces quantity by far ) , what broke my heart recently was the accidental death of my beloved pet ferret , Miss Woolworth , back in July , we love and miss our adorable furry girl so much.

Bloody_Claw · Accepted Answer

Haertbroken, I can't stand the though someone going through this misery because of me. Dont get me wrong that feeling sucks but better me then cause this feeling for anyone else.

rxm_bxl · Answer

Heartbreaker. You made the choice. You're the one breaking a heart so you're heart still is in intact.
So either you didn't really feel much as the one you chose to leave.
Being heart broken just fucking sucks bottomline.

SueAnon84 · Answer

I'd rather be the heart breaker if I just had to chose one! At least it won't take a toll on my self esteem/self worth!

... In this scenario, do I actually get the guys I want though? And not the ones I don't? ! So that makes a difference!

MusicMayhem · Answer

Heart breaker. Usually means you have options so you aren't so fussed about losing the person you dumped. Having said that most people don't break others hearts on purpose so they won't have a guilty conscience for ending things.

Lavinnykins · Answer

Being heartbroken... pretty sure it makes you stronger in the long term where if you're the heartbreaker, you're usually in a position of power and control.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Never gonna be the heart breaker since i would never get with someone i didn't fall in love with.  And then been heartbroken is awful so i cannot say...

trishhhxx · Answer

heartbreaker - I've been heartbroken too many times, and although I know how to take it, it'd undoubtably be better to be the heartbreaker but only with certainty that its the right thing - not out of pettiness

Nxtawm · Answer

Being a heartbreaker, I tend to never get too emotionally involved in relationships and prefer to keep it that way

R_Cakes91 · Answer

I think it’s better to be heartbroken because at least you can walk away with some wisdom. Heartbreakers never learn how to treat people right.

jojouzumaki · Answer

Heartbroken, in that way I know that I haven’t hurt the other. And I’m pretty sure I’ll come out better from the healing. And the process of me being better will be guaranteed.

JeremyT · Answer

Used to be the heartbroken, I never saw it coming. Now I'm the heartbreaker, girls want to be whit me. But I'm not emotionally involved anymore. More aware of what I bring in, and what I get from the relationship.

AntreTheHelot · Answer

Neither Is Good, But, Being Heatbroken Hurts More For What That Matters. It Takes A Cood Person To Knowingly Break Another's Heart

lernulo · Answer

It's much better being a heartbreaker obvious. Being heartbroken just brings pain. Other thing is that if you are a heartbreaker, it's very likely you won't find love, which is sad.

cinderelli · Answer

I've been both and being heartbroken definitely hurts much more and wayyyyyyyyyy longer.

BlackRoseFairy · Answer

Both are bad... maybe I am too emotional, but I was never good at breaking up.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

I dont want to be either but if I had to pick I'd day heartbroken I dont want to hurt in my opinion that's some fuck shit

worldscolide · Answer

Neither is good, one is rational self interest, breaking someone's heart, the other hurts for a long time.

abaloch · Answer

In both cases you feel bad and if you are real human beings then you will prefer to be with broken heart rather than heart breaker... as the main purpose of human being is to feel the pain of others instead of giving other pain

hdbluz · Answer

Heart broken... I can forgive  I don't know if others can...

ITGirl95 · Answer

Heartbroken.. wouldn't wanna do that to someone's son.

HeyMikie · Answer

This is a fact of life and I have experienced both sides. I would rather be heartbroken myself than to cause another to feel that pain.

ashley1996 · Answer

Heartbreaker, you dont have to feel the pain and emptiness for years.

mario_with_no_luigi · Answer

Heartbroken hands down! I wouldn’t want to be the reason somebody sleeps crying.

Daniel3035 · Answer

Personally don’t have that choice it’s usually because im forced to break her heart.

Lightning8 · Answer

The guys are so noble here, chosing the heart broken so often

clampfan101 · Answer

If you’re heart broken, at least it’s not your fault.

Maggsxo · Answer

Heartbreaker, hands down. Fuck that being heart broken been there done that don’t wana go back

Edanurus · Answer

Heartbroken, I can deal with rejection but hurting someone else makes the guilt do me in.

wyatt2295 · Answer

If you really love the person isn't the same either way

Kimekka · Answer

Getting heartbroken, I’d feel bad for breaking someones heart.

Gramkabir · Answer

Nothing is good but it all happens in life and happens for a reason... So you've to deal with it...

Dirtyoldman73 · Answer

Being heartbroken because the heart breaker is the guilty person not you.

Saltsen · Answer

Being a heart breaker but not because it’s my fault

aliatherpeerzada · Answer

being heartbroken you may get other girl sympathy that way and tend to get in relation again faster

TheGURU70 · Answer

Been on both sides... But to be honest heartbroken is the worst... Hence I'd never again

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think either are good but I've only been heart broken

justcurious2019 · Answer

i would say Heartbreaker everything ok with your boyfriend?

Creepazoid · Answer

Heartbreaker - its literally like ripping off a band aide. Heartbroken means dwelling on it for a long period.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I think both aren't any good to have to deal with.

Ally247 · Answer

I'm a heartbreaker to avoid being heartbroken

JHNS98 · Answer

Heartbroken is the only thing I've ever been.

Neeceeb7 · Answer

Heartbreaker for sure

Midnight_Kiss · Answer

Neither, both make you feel crappy.

djmzes · Answer

Simple

SexyAshh · Answer

Heart breaker🤷‍♀️💁‍♀️

Clarke510 · Answer

Better a broken heart than no heart at all.

Xavier1954 · Answer

I have been both and dislike them intensely. Each is horrible.

Tony1Kanobi · Answer

Im really no fan of getting a broken heart.

Totti94 · Answer

May I get one more chance please

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

Heartbreaker all the way

ranthemill · Answer

Neither. Amicable breakups are better than either.

Dog20 · Answer

i'd rather be the heart breaker...

LuWe22 · Answer

Heartbreaker. Clean cut

Anonymous · Answer

I’d say it’s better to have your heartbroken

Mrblooo · Answer

Heart breaker cause it easier on the wallet😁😂🤣

dad2ddsj · Answer

Being the rebound fuck

dog1712 · Answer

I hate hurting people so heartbroken

TalloranShade · Answer

Heartbreaker, easily, it's not even a competition.

Anonymous · Answer

Being A Heart breaker

saeyamazaki · Answer

Heartbreaker 😭

Anonymous · Answer

Being a heartbreaker 😼

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