Which Is The Better Option: Being A Heartbreaker Or Being Heartbroken?
Someone once said you should not get married until you have been dumped at least once and dumped someone at least once. Those are life experiences everyone should go through. But each one is different one. Having been on both sides, I would say that having your heart broken definitely hurts more, but you can suffer as an innocent victim, and then heal. Dumping someone else is just scarier, and even if you know it was the right thing to do, you feel bad about it. Most people do not even like to think about it years later. Being hurt affects you emotionally, but hurting someone else strikes at the heart of the type of person you think of yourself as. Even when it is the right thing to do, causing hurt really sucks. Understanding life with deep insights and evolving with greater dimension.
The guilt is totally unnecessary and completely on me. This isn't every person, for sure. But if that were to change, if there was someone who could break my spirit, then I would definitely rather be a heartbreaker than heartbroken. You need to be somewhat irrational, crazy, clingy or needy to be heartbroken. It is not usually a matter of preference. It is like asking to choose between love and hate.
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They both fuckin suck. Pardon my language, if you must.
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Neither really , but being heartbroken , you may gain sympathy... far more especially if you are female , the usual advice to men is " STFU... and get over it !! " I have a heart of stone towards human beings , apart from my children , mother and my few decent friends ( quality aces quantity by far ) , what broke my heart recently was the accidental death of my beloved pet ferret , Miss Woolworth , back in July , we love and miss our adorable furry girl so much.
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Haertbroken, I can't stand the though someone going through this misery because of me. Dont get me wrong that feeling sucks but better me then cause this feeling for anyone else.
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Heartbreaker. You made the choice. You're the one breaking a heart so you're heart still is in intact.
So either you didn't really feel much as the one you chose to leave.
Being heart broken just fucking sucks bottomline. -
I'd rather be the heart breaker if I just had to chose one! At least it won't take a toll on my self esteem/self worth!
... In this scenario, do I actually get the guys I want though? And not the ones I don't? ! So that makes a difference! -
Heart breaker. Usually means you have options so you aren't so fussed about losing the person you dumped. Having said that most people don't break others hearts on purpose so they won't have a guilty conscience for ending things.
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Being heartbroken... pretty sure it makes you stronger in the long term where if you're the heartbreaker, you're usually in a position of power and control.
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Never gonna be the heart breaker since i would never get with someone i didn't fall in love with.
And then been heartbroken is awful so i cannot say... -
heartbreaker - I've been heartbroken too many times, and although I know how to take it, it'd undoubtably be better to be the heartbreaker but only with certainty that its the right thing - not out of pettiness
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Being a heartbreaker, I tend to never get too emotionally involved in relationships and prefer to keep it that way
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I think it’s better to be heartbroken because at least you can walk away with some wisdom. Heartbreakers never learn how to treat people right.
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Used to be the heartbroken, I never saw it coming. Now I'm the heartbreaker, girls want to be whit me. But I'm not emotionally involved anymore. More aware of what I bring in, and what I get from the relationship.
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Neither Is Good, But, Being Heatbroken Hurts More For What That Matters.
It Takes A Cood Person To Knowingly Break Another's Heart -
Heartbroken, in that way I know that I haven’t hurt the other. And I’m pretty sure I’ll come out better from the healing. And the process of me being better will be guaranteed.
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It's much better being a heartbreaker obvious.
Being heartbroken just brings pain.
Other thing is that if you are a heartbreaker, it's very likely you won't find love, which is sad. -
I've been both and being heartbroken definitely hurts much more and wayyyyyyyyyy longer.
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Both are bad... maybe I am too emotional, but I was never good at breaking up.
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I dont want to be either but if I had to pick I'd day heartbroken I dont want to hurt in my opinion that's some fuck shit
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Neither is good, one is rational self interest, breaking someone's heart, the other hurts for a long time.
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In both cases you feel bad and if you are real human beings then you will prefer to be with broken heart rather than heart breaker... as the main purpose of human being is to feel the pain of others instead of giving other pain
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Heart broken... I can forgive
I don't know if others can... -
Heartbroken.. wouldn't wanna do that to someone's son.
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This is a fact of life and I have experienced both sides. I would rather be heartbroken myself than to cause another to feel that pain.
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