Too many women are building men up for the next woman while he's damaging you for the next man. Agree or Disagree?

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Rica_ChicaUSA · Accepted Answer

As MzAsh said, not if the woman is choosing her partner properly... I actually tend to believe the opposite: that women bring the men down and men build the women up.

If you don't believe me, GAG is clear evidence. The men talk about how much they've been rejected and how insecure women have made them after they've supposedly been so good to her and all that. I've seen women post some of this too, but it's mainly the guys. And you'd think it would be the other way around, like in the question you asked. Biologically speaking, that's how it's supposed to be, but now we have feminism and MGTOW and all that.

No. It's definitely the other way around. The guys are becoming more insecure, and the women (mainly feminists) are becoming stronger, although I'm not a feminist.

Moonchild714 · Accepted Answer

I think it's true with Both Genders actually. It's just that it is more Pronounced with Women Building up their men than Men building up women. Usually society sees Men in Strong Support Role and woman in the Weaker Submissive Role. But their are plenty where Men Build up their Woman and some of those Women Damage the Men just some Men Damage the Woman that Builds them up.

MzAsh · Accepted Answer

Uuhh not if those women are filtering their options properly. He shouldn’t be damaging.

FatherJack · Accepted Answer

Disagree , as shit people come all varieties. The rates of socio / psychopathy , and other personality disorders are even between the genders , it 's the " Women Are Wonderful Effect " at work , in which BOTH genders view females much more positively than males , know this too well , esp as a single parent !! The BS Western " media " inflames this , and has a default very negative view of males , males are depicted as defective , innately evil , sex crazed moronic idiots , that needs a woman to wipe his arse for him , whereas females are portrayed as angelic beings that do no wrong , and can do it all... and " don't need no man " too !! One of many reasons why I do not date , is that the takers far outnumber the givers.

NineBreaker · Accepted Answer

I usually tend to hit agree or disagree with your questions, but this is a definite OTHER. This is one situation where I would say: I fail to reject the premise here.

Are there women who experience that? Definitely. Are they many? Probably. Are they "too many"? Maybe. 🤷‍♂️
In any case, even if it's just one, that's one too many if you ask me.

Out of my personal observations: I can think of 2 specific couples where that happened. However, I've observed many more couples where a women supports her man until he becomes successful, and they stay loyal to each other.

LaVillaStrangiato · Answer

Wow - that's a pretty deep question coach. And kind of one-sided, dontcha think?
While this may happen a lot - no idea what the numbers are - I think the opposite is happening just as much. And hundreds of other relationship scenarios.
I have this mindset because every person in the world was brought up differently, and they all have different ways of handling various types of stress.
Plus, I just totally disagree (personally) with the statement. :-)

IlyaTheImpaler · Answer

This is essentially a longer version of the lock and key metaphor (each time a key opens a lock, that lock basically adds to its functionality, each time a lock gets opened by a key, that lock is basically damaged from the perspective of the next key). Men who agree with the lock and key metaphor and disagree with this are simply sloppy thinkers.

Ellie-V · Answer

😂 that’s hilarious!!!
To a degree, yes I believe that to be true. Sometimes, there will be men out there who allow and encourage this “ride or die” mentality only to leave you when they’ve finally gotten to where they wanted to be in life.
Same thing with women of course but I’ve personally seen this type of thing more with guys.

MotherEarth2020 · Answer

I believe it goes both ways. Some men will stay with a woman that helps them for as long as she is of use to them. Woman the same. Some people are not out there to find a lasting relationship, just ones of convenience and for what that other person can do for them, or what they can get. Once those options are depleted, they move on. Sometimes leaving behind a heart broken and devestated heart. Sometimes an overdrawn or depleted bank account or both.

Morbidwolf · Answer

I think it goes both ways. I've had a couple of girlfriends completely destroy me. One spent 6 years destroying my confidence, destroying my independence. She was emotionally, physically and financially abusive and left me broken for a long long time.

Almost 10 years later I still carry a lot of that baggage, the insecurity etc.

I have "repaired" a couple of broken women, both being in relationships with them and as friends.

I dont think gender really matters, I think both males and females are just as capable and likely to leave a former partner destroyed. Both males and females are just as capable of building their partner up as well.

1828avaava1828 · Answer

No man can damage me! I’m either too resilient or too oblivious! I tell myself the former

Ivory02 · Answer

I've been w/a guy who literally pretended to be the type of guy that I liked just to use me & then completely stopped talking to me like I was a nobody. I know there are a few guys out there that are not like this but most of the time these are the type of men I run into so it makes it hard to want to be genuine to a man that is deserving.

Avicenna · Answer

It seems to be the other way around for me and my most recent ex. I clearly built her confidence up and got her used to a man's company to the point where she thinks she is dateable (albeit incorrectly).

On my side, she's greatly damaged my trust in women thanks to her lack of honesty and other issues as well as the way she handled things (or didn't handle them, in some cases). Apparently, I've been lucky for the most part prior to her.

EpicDweeb · Answer

If you aren't both building each other up in a relationship there is something severely wrong.

cth96190 · Answer

I disagree.
Women have caused me so much psychological damage that I no longer have what is considered to be a normal range of human emotions.
Also, I expect rejection, or betrayal, before it happens.
I have yet to be wrong, which is why I do not believe in unicorns.

VIVANT · Answer

No. We all learn from relationships whether we want to or not. It’s how we use it going forward that determines if we are damaged. Once someone is fine they are gone and how you are depends on you.

I do think there are some serious sociopaths out there in any gender.. but it only works if their partner ignores what they want or accepts what they don’t want.

We all know if something feels right.. we have to listen.

hahahmm · Answer

Oh brother. Let’s compare the number of women who actually ‘built’ a guy up to the number of men who have carried 2-5 women on his f’king back like deadweight & provided 95-100% of everything they wanted yet at the end of the day she divorces/dumps him for a broke dude or a guy with more resources. But let’s not call that damaging to the guy because who cares about his feelings.

CubsterShura · Answer

I disagree. I don't think it's a matter of gender, it's something rather individual. Your attitude will determine how you cope with broken relationships and how you carry your lesson forward. Man or woman it applies to all.

R_Cakes91 · Answer

Unfortunately I learned this the hard way. Fortunately, there is nothing damaging about my current partner

Gods_Gift · Answer

If there is any amount of this, it is too much. But that doesn't mean there's a huge amount of this, or that it happens more that way round than the other, or that there aren't related but different patterns that are more common.
Therefore the answer may be "Yes", but not in a significant way as the question seems to imply, which is why I chose 'Other' in the poll.

demonics · Answer

Every woman is damaged with every subsequent relationship... I think the two are mutually exclusive. I don't think i've ever seen an AWESOME boyfriend leading a woman to treat subsequent bf's better and better. Hell the divorce rate shows how that ends up. Hypergamy and pair bonding won't allow it.

OH look at that split lol! Its not even close.

nuberu17 · Answer

I think the situation used to be like that... now a days is 50-50...

redpanda_ · Answer

Most relationships I've been in, the guy has gone onto be with other women and treated them better than they ever did with me. Is it because I've 'built him up' or is it due to age that he's learnt the way he treated me was wrong.. Who knows?

Anonymous · Answer

Women don't build up nothing. They just tear down. They're juicers they squeeze all the juice out of a guy and move on to the next one.
This is why a guy should NEVER define himself by what any woman thinks of him.

Dali-chan · Answer

Yep. That’s why I have high standards and I never date broke men with any kind of issues.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

I'd like to see the evidence of that. So far as I can tell I would say its the exact opposite.

nerms123 · Answer

I feel low key attacked 😂

Philyouup · Answer

May happen for some. But I bet it works the same in reverse. It’s a blanket statement basically enforcing a stereotype. People who are the stereotype are way fewer in numbers that the “ stereotype would suggest.

CandacePerry · Answer

I am too harsh. So I might say thing but. It more then one cents.

JSmuve · Answer

I disagree. I'm sure there are quite a few instances where the girl tears the guy down the guy to feed her fragile ego and then cheats on him for no other reason than because she can.

OddBeMe · Answer

I don’t what the fuck you’re talking about honestly. I’m seriously lost on this one. I will say labeling all men or women with one thing or another is misguided. Either or could make a toxic partner.

kinetic198336 · Answer

It was completely reversed for me. I built her up and helped her get to a better place and be a better person. She did nothing but put me down and make me feel like I was nothing. I should have been working on making myself a better person.

ChronicThinker · Answer

No, because I don't deal with men who try to damage me.

HOAAH · Answer

Only if most women treat their men well, and most men treat their women badly.

arabgoddess · Answer

Omg totally agree! That's what makes me furious and frustrated even more aaaaghhhhh

gothgirl997 · Answer

Unfortunately, yes.. It's sad to see how most people lack any respect for themselves and other people, nowadays

Shamalien · Answer

Men naturally get confidence from having been with many chicks but girls get confidence from one loyal partner only. Men get confidence from a loyal partner too but it's not the same as women

Annie12234 · Answer

What kind of damage and it’s depends how much damages is it?

Dav1ss · Answer

Sortabht more like if you are with someone that works well with you you won't have problems

NerdInDenial · Answer

It should be too many men are building themselves up so the next woman can tear him down.

shimmeryns · Answer

What kind of damage exactly?

thelokisniper · Answer

This seems very one sided. Women are capable of great damage to men. The thing is that unless you take the risk of getting hurt, nothing ever happens.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Too many bad choices by both genders damage them for the next one because of the incorrect mindset held by so many that says "all are like that."

YHL6965 · Answer

No, you can switch the genders and that happens too?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Probably true, unfortunately. Though in a lot of cases women do damage men.

tonykeyboard683 · Answer

Honestly it's dependent on the relationship it can swing either way. I would say it's pretty ignorant to try and categorise that kind of behavior under a single gender.

Funistwo · Answer

It takes 2 to tango. This is a set up question assuming all men are jerks. A couple no matter whom , should always encourage and build up the other.

MewsterMeow · Answer

That's like assuming all men treat women badly and all women are saints. Nope. Women and men are equally good and evil when it comes to relationships.

updog45 · Answer

What an absolute bleak way to view a relationship LOL

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Oh, somebody call the fucking waaaaambulance for these whining sluts.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Bull. A person is responsible for who they get with. Don't blame men or women.

DDpsy · Answer

Nope. It's mutually fucking up each other for the next two people.

MoscowMitch · Answer

No idea what you're talking about coach. Are you still taking your meds? Your questions have gone to shit recently.

Anonymous · Answer

Women like being damaged while correcting the bad boy. There are plenty of good mature guys out there if you get damage from your relationship , then you are the problem. You have chosen that person.

Aaliyahvcxz · Answer

Stay off of Instagram.

Wowgirl30q · Answer

I try to ruin them for the next woman.

leahzrc · Answer

i dont understand

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Generally, I think that's what actually happening.

Blitzkrieg_88 · Answer

It's called friends with benefits.

melodymichelle · Answer

hmmm I've never thought about it like that before

CT_CD · Answer

Coach you have done it now.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

In these days, it's happening more often

nomazi · Answer

Agree

Anonymous · Answer

Yes...

BrabusBoyBand · Answer

Sure if you're dumb

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