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I don’t think so, I think it’s an excuse to let yourself go and get lazy once you’re no longer trying to attract a partner. When I had my first crush on a guy, I went out of my way to finally lose all my baby fat in order to attract him and to feel more confident about myself and more comfortable in romantically pursuing him. We dated for 2 years, and I never gained back the weight I’d lost even when we got to the point where I knew he was blindly in love with me and would probably have stayed with me no matter how my physical appearance deteriorated. I liked feeling good about myself, and I liked the confidence I’d developed because of my body.
Some people aren’t like that though. Some people feel relieved when they no longer have to eat healthy or work out because they know their partner now loves them too much to leave them, so they let themselves go and gain weight. Then they use having fallen in love as an excuse, as if that somehow makes it fair for them to take advantage of their partner’s emotional attachment to them.
Yes. If you carelessly pop in oral contraceptive pills you will gain weight as a side effect. Explains why a lot of women start gaining weight after marriage. Look for other alternatives of birth control.
Besides that, trust me, anyone who is in a good satisfying love life, especially a good fulfilling sex life, knows that dolling up and being perfect at all times isn't necessary and these things really don't matter (of course it doesn't mean you genuinely won't care at all, but it makes you low maintenance overtime). Which isn't a bad thing, by the way. I've even heard people saying that if a woman in a relationship is still dressing up and being all pretty, unless she really has a passion for skincare and fitness it just means that her current physical relationship isn't satisfying her enough.
Relationship weight gain certainly is a real thing. Not everyone goes through it, but some people might become low maintenance in other areas of life, such as clothing and accessories. It's not necessarily a bad thing always.
Many people try to get in shape or retain a good shape. While trying to find a relationship. However depending on who there are. Many often stop trying to hard to keep there physically looks over time. So they slowly gain weight or loss muscle tone/mass. Has been a thing for a long time. However there are also those. Who try to maintain or get into shape while in a relationship. Either for themselves or for there partner.
I think weight gain is more of a getting older thing. When a girl becomes single though, they do tend to put effort into losing weight of course because they know they'll get more attention. Then they ease up on it once they find their next person. It's like reloading the fishing hook with fresh bait.
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I think a lot of people try to stay slim because they are lonely and want opposite gender attention and once they get it they might let themselves go. My cousin when she was in the middle of a divorce was very very thin - like 90 pounds or so. When her husband and her reconciled and they decided not to get divorced after all - she gained 60 pounds.
My other cousin wore a size 2 and after her marriage she discovered her husband didn't care if she was fat and she went up to a size 8.
Yes. Being in a relationship makes you more comfortable and couples enjoy eating together a lot so there is in fact a tendency to gain weight.
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It’s an effort to keep the weight off but it can be done as well.
I usually lose weight... because I know someone is going to be seeing me naked so I want to look good!
My husband has put on a little bit of weight and I gained some for a while when I had kids.
I'm in my 40s now and taking much better care of myself.
Of course. It's called 'fat and lazy' for a reason. Neither is on the hunt any longer.
But it's all a big mistake, for nothing in life is guaranteed, and if your spouse becomes disillusioned they're highly likely to shut down, cheat bail, or any combination of.
I've seen it happen to other couples... I think it's when a sudden change happens quickly and then you immediate fall into a state of "comfort" that the weight begins to pile up. I'm in a great loving relationship and haven't gained weight yet but I'm also like you and terrified of it (since I've seen it happen to people)-- but I think if you are dedicated enough into making it not happen and dont fall too deeply down the "comfortable" path, it can definitely be avoided
It's called happy weight. People get into relationships and they get happy and comfortable so they aren't really watching what they eat and such. They're focused more on just being happy and in love. I watched it happen to my best friend. She's been smaller all her life. Had her son and bounced right back. Then she got with her current boyfriend and has been happier than ever and she got thick. Her lucky ass got thick in all the right places tho.
Well in realty it happens due to many reason but mostly, when they become too comfortable with their relationship and too confident to care enough about maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
Besides, how will you keep the flame burning when you're losing the initial thing that ignites the attraction and passion between the two of you.
well with my boyfriend and me, we are both fit people. He plays hockey and football and has a very nice six-pack. And I play basketball and badminton, but also work out five days a week. I'm not as fit, since I do have a little here and there, but still.
Been together with my wife for 20 years and married 12. You get comfortable and when you also have life stress or family things you are not worried about if they will see you as far and leave you. I was when first dating 200lbs and working out. Out of high school I was 190lbs. I am not 275 lbs and I mean to get back to 190 or lower (15% body fat) if I have to starve lift and run till I drop.
I think it might be. Know a girl whole gained weight fast as soon as she started dating a guy. Last but she was chubby but when the broke up she lost weight. Friend says some women who are really happy or in love tend to get bigger. Not sure if that's true but this one lady it's been that way.
I am in a loving relationship and we are both skinny af so umm probably doesn't apply to people with fast metabolism who eat like pigs but don't gain anything 😂😂😂 like my partner and I lol
You don't necessarily have to get fat but you might gain a few extra pounds. It's just a comfort thing, you eat together and even when you're not hungry, if the other is eating you don't want to feel left out so you eat too.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself. . Just be happy. 🥰
It does happen, I've noticed that a lot. And it might be because people are like "Ok, so I got this person. I don't need to try anymore." But that's where they're wrong. This person chose them as they are, and of course this includes personality too. It's like acting like you're a good person, and then when you finally get into a relationship, your shitty side comes out.. Like, no dude, no thanks!!
Every divorce I have ever witnessed involves a woman wo decides she needs to get back to the gym "for herself", followed by herself seeing other selves. People who aren't health conscious and are driven by the aesthetic let themselves go once they secure their mate. When the time comes that they want to move on they rationilize what they are doing but it almost always is happening to appeal to a new partner (s).
Eating together is a convivial pleasure, which probably encourages extra calories. There is also the influence of a partner in crime to say "Oh, go on then." to a desert or an extra glass of wine.
I gained about 4 stone over the course of a marriage, and have lost 2 stone in 6 months of separation.
Not true. It's the change in activities, diet, metabolism changes as you age, etc, that can contribute to that - not loving someone. That said, if either partner thinks "well, I've got my guy/girl now and don't have to concern myself as much with staying in shape" ... then you're headed for problems.
Not for me, because I'm very particular about what I eat, and I don't change that in a relationship. Women don't have the same metabolism as guys do haha. Plus, I like fresh, light food anyway... If my boyfriend wants to order in a pizza, I'll get a salad and some grilled chicken instead.
Me and my girlfriend were fat before but since we started dating we both had lost upto 15kgs togthr
People don't need to care as much about their looks when they're in a relationship. So they have a higher chance of gaining weight than before, because keeping an attractive figure isn't as important. They already achieved what they sought by looking attractive
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