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yes, you should be ashamed if you did not establish a relationship at age 20. much more, ashamed upon the age of accountability. of course the relationship i'm talking about is the relationship with Jesus Christ (who is God Almighty, the body of the Godhead, that would make Jesus the Father). the longer you live without this vitl relationship, the more you will be ashamed about the past (if you were to get saved later on). but if you died without the precious blood of Jesus Christ applied to you upon your death, you'll die in your sins, go to hell, and then be brought up on the final judgment day (the great white throne judgment as we see in Revelation 20:11-15). look in God's bible (the King James Bible, not ANY of the modern bibles because they are wicked, they add, and subtract) in verse 12, where it says that the dead (they that died in their sins) will stand before God to be judged. do you think there will be shame there? yes! great shame. you'll be naked, speechless, why speechless? because all of your life will be laid out before the God and all they that open the books (i believe it will be King James Bible because we will be judged by the book according to John 12:48, further more i believe that the saints which is us true Christians will be the ones opening the books and judging). but if you were to get saved asap then the shame will be forever gone in the future. but i do not believe in child conversions (because chances are the child cannot perceive that he/she is a sinner that needs to come to God as the wicked, vile sinner that he/she is) this is easy believism where they teach there is no changed life. but we see that in John 3:3 and 2Corinthians 5:17, there IS a changed life, but God is the one that helps you change, but it's AFTER God saves you after you call upon God asking him to save you who is no good, and that out of a pure believing heart, we see this in Romans 10:8-13. but as concerning a worldly relationship (man with woman), no shame. we see in 1Corinthians 7:8-9, it's one of those things where w can agree o disagree. if one says i would like to mary, and another, i would like to stay single, the scriptures are ok with either or. but something like the Godhead (over the trinity), or the timing of the catching up of the body of Christ, or other essential doctrines, there is no agree to disagree, the scriptures spell out what must be and anything contrary wise would make God a liar therefore unacceptable. but again, to not have a secular relationship 9or even to be married), no shame
As a female there's no downsides unless you want casual sex in which case there might be a few guys who just dont have the patience but they want you exclusively for sex and nothing more.
Aside from that it's really only a good thing, men who want a relationship are not going to hope that someone was there first, it upsets people but that's the reality. As a virgin you are a far better prospect for a long term relationship in that respect.
I get shit for saying it but I simply treat women who I know not to be slutty better because I care about them more. Girls who sleep around are more disposable and guys only take them if they only think with their dicks.
That said I believe both people should be as innocent as possible hence why I've turned women down and want to wait for marriage. But being realistic there is a double standard because women are okay with men sleeping around and still respecting them, the same is not true for men. They will always lie and say they do but that's just to get sex.
No! You're only 20 not 40! Not even 50! What the hell's the rush? ! No seriously? ! You're not going to DIE just because you don't have anyone currently! Are you trying to RACE with other people? ! With your peers to say that you already have a relationship and are going to be married soon or engaged and blah blah blah? ! Do you really wanna be that IMMATURE? ! ! Think about it! A lot of people your age don't even have anyone! Their still in college trying to start their career or at least trying to get the college experience out of their way before they settle down with somebody and have children! That would be harder to go to college if you have children I heard! You'd need to get them to daycare or someone will have to take care of them. That's like going to work but you don't get paid and YOU pay them! The college that is! Anyway, seriously! What's the rush if you don't mind me asking! Also, I don't think it's correct for you to think that you will die a virgin or be a virgin for the rest of your life... Again you're only 20! How annoying! Seriously! Why do you think that you are now destined to be a virgin because you're an old hag at 20? ! Come on now think about it! ... Go meet guys at the mall, or at your school! Go online to find someone! Why are you resigned at such a young tender age? ! What gives? ! I didn't give up at 20 now did I feel resigned at your age! Actually far from it! What's the difference between you and me? ! !
No, there's no shame in that at all and please don't let anyone try to make you feel like there is.
I'm 24 and still a virgin, and I couldn't care less whether I'm still one when I'm 30. As far as I'm concerned, I will lose it when I feel ready and with someone I feel comfortable with, but not a day sooner or with anyone I don't. I personally feel that I would immensely regret having sex if I didn't feel ready or didn't feel that the person was the right one to do it with, and it's not worth me just being able to say I've had sex. What good does that do, anyway?
I think some people are just later bloomers than others (I know I am, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with this; in fact, I've found that being a late bloomer has allowed me to learn from others' mistakes before I encountered certain situations, rather than making them on my own). There is absolutely no rush to enter a relationship or lose your virginity, as those two things are things you do when you personally feel ready and feel completely comfortable with sharing with a certain person, and that's different for everyone. Don't let anyone pressure you into thinking there's a time limit or that any of this makes you "undesirable" or a "loser" (trust me, I've had some "friends" who tried to pressure me this way and it felt awful, especially when I was around your age, but I have absolutely no regrets in staying true to myself).
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Why do you feel like you should be ashamed?
Nowadays it's easier to get laid. Especially if you're a female. So if that's not happening (and your goal is to get laid), then you're doing something wrong. Put yourself out there more and you'll see that no matter what you look like, guys will come flooding in.
But if your goal is to get laid and have a deep connection with the same person, that will take time depending on your standards and how many people you're being exposed to/interacting with.
No. I lost my virginity at 27. Had my first serious relationship at 27. Its not about the age. Its the quality.
No. Because if your ashamed to be a virgin that means you hate yourself. I am hearing my 30s and proud to be a virgin. If you don't want to wait much then find a man to marry and then have sex with the one you want to marry. Stop comparing yourself to other people because many that lost their virginities are either dead, knocked up with somebody kid, have a disease they don't know, finds out they have a disease from somebody cheating, gets cheated on often if not cheat more, is horny to no end if they lack control, can't get married to stay married or on they're way to divorce if not as sexually satisfied had they waited. And a good amount had poor 1st time experiences. It's a choice to be a virgin. There is more to life than sex or a relationship. And most people do not need to be in one anyway.
Right now I say you need counseling more than that.
Lol reading these comments from men asking “what your denying hot guys asking you out what’s wrong what’s going on” they just don’t understand what it’s like for good clean girls. I lost my virginity last year after protecting myself for so long. Don’t worry about it, a guy is going to be very very lucky to have you because, I know based off how I am, you probably think like me which means you will be super loyal when you do find the right one. All these other girls that lost their virginity at 14 -16 are on their 100th boyfriend and not worth a damn to a man looking for a women to eventually marry. Don’t worry about it your all good
... lol... I don´t think so, don´t be ashamed it´s up to you.. your decision not everybody else. And you should get some confidence and smile more, then the guys will flock to you like crows. That´s what i would say. And, if you like a guy smile at him, and maybe ask him out (if you know he is single... if not it´s a 50/50 shot...) Worst case that can happen (happened to me) was that the guy (girl) laughed went to a group (of her friends) and they all laughed together at me (i was still in the vicinity)...
20 years is young. If you actively search you will find a boyfriend in NO TIME at all.
You should find the other. Don´t worry about being a virgin, but use a condom and get the contraception pills (if you are allergic stop using them - see a doctor).
Ashamed of what? Don't live by the standards society weighs on our shoulders because you will never be happy.
Figure out what you want first. If it's a relationship you want, then work on yourself to be in one with the qualities you want with a partner.
You don't need to be in a relationship to lose your virginity... but the fear of waiting for a perfect partner could be holding you back from expressing yourself sexually.
So if it's just sex you want, then start meeting guys/girls you find attractive and interact more. Eventually you'll get more comfortable and naturally want to take things further.
But do yourself a favour and stop worrying. That energy is negative and alone holding you back from receiving what you need and want.
Just accept your situation and own it. You only get one life, don't waste it worrying about being ashamed and afraid of what may never happen.
Good luck.
There is an extremely high demand for 20 year old girl from guys from ages 20 to 40. Therefore, if you have never been in a relationship it is one of 3 reasons.
1. You avoid relationships.
2. You are a 1 or a 2. No guy wants a 1 or a 2, not even if they are a 1 or a 2 because, 1's and 2's are way too fat, ugly, unhealthy, and/or severely retarded.
3. You have unrealistic standards. For example he must be at least 6'3" (only 2% are that tall), must look like Colton Haynes, must earn at least $100,000 per year etc. And maybe 1 guy in 10,000 would meet those standards. You want a perfect 10 but you are not even a 7.
It's by choice so no (: that's fine there's NOTHING wrong w/ still being single & a virgin, it means you just haven't found anyone you've connected with on that level & felt mutually for. Don't settle for less & don't rush it nothing special about losing your virginity at ANY age just to "fit in" give it time there's a lot of desperate guys out their so just wait instead...
I'm 32, never had a relationship and am still a virgin. I don't feel ashamed about it because it's not anything I chose, it's just how things turned out for me. That's not to say I don't get sad about it or ever feel lonely because I do and I hope to change my circumstances in the near future. However, for now, this is how it is.
I dont think so, I am 23 and a virgin, I struggle with social anxiety, and would prefer to wait for a woman I care about rather than just some stranger. I dont care about marriage, but Id rather have feelings for the person, maybe that's just because I'm nervous though.
no ! for a real and long lasting relationship is best for older adults ! there is nothing wrong with being a virgin ! for it means that you are mature enough to control your own
body ! for older adults know what they do and do not want in the opposite sex ! including children too ! stay a virgin until your own your on your honeymoon with your spouse if your mature enough to that is
No reason to be ashamed!
You're judging yourself against very low standards. I wish more people were like you and were more discerning about who they have relationships with. You're a shining light in a world where it's way too common to hook up.
Just be true to yourself and don't do anything because of peer pressure, and you'll be more attractive to the kind of partner that you really find attractive.
nothing to be ashamed off. I'm about to turn 23 and never been in a relationship, but I am not a virgin. There's nothing wrong with you or me. I for one am not too keen on being with someone that I don't like, I know a lot of girls that date guys that they don't really like or stuff like that. Don't worry is going to happen. If you want to have sex it's not that difficult, but if you want to wait that's cool too, there's pros and cons on both sides. You are going to be ok.
Nope I am 21 and haven't been with a girl. I'm okay with it, it is no big deal. If you rush and have sex now you will regret it. Dont be afraid of being a 30 year old virgin, if it takes you that long to find the right man who isn't using you it will be worth the wait.
Well I'm 22 and have never been in a relationship or had sex. I'm not ashamed of it. I'm trying to get out and meet new people, so I recommend you do the same. You may find someone doing that and you may not, but you will at least have fun and potentially make new friends.
Don't be little one. There is no rush. Just date and try to focus on having fun. Don't do that whole serious thing off the bat. Date a bunch of guys. Get good and socializing. Then you will be able to figure out how to get yourself in front of the guys you are really attracted to.
Take your time.
Not Ashamed, but if you haven't been in a Relationship (I'm Not talking Sex) by the time you're 35 you may have concerns I know I as a Psychologist would be concerned then. Many people will avoid Relationships until they finush their Education and/or get their Career underway, be free of distractions, drama, & continue figuring out who they are and what they in a Mate. But if by 35 you haven't had a least one longterm relationship there would be Psychological questions.
Hey, I'm 26 and never been in a relationship, I'm also still a virgin. I feel really ashamed about it too, like if anybody finds out then they will think there's something wrong with me, like I'm not worth anything.
I'm really scared I'll be like this forever too.
I guess I'm taking some reassurance in that things change so much year to year, we can't really predict what will happen. Just focus on you and try and become more outgoing might help. Obviously I'm in no position to give advice
Well my first relationship is at 22. My partner was glad and we were having fun with me being a idiot at sexual stuff.
Naively enough, we broke up soon after and she said that she is glad because i get to gain experience and this break up is the stepping stone from my future.
We depart away and I cry so much for such a long time after 2 years with her.
Is this by your choice,, or u just haven't been asked out.. Either Way ur cool , your bad ass.. And strong, I Think it's cool that made it to 20,, anyway I Think you will be fine. And Never Say that word again ,, Ashamed,,,, U Should Be Proud. And happy and probably. HORNY TO 😊 no. You will be ok
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