I’m currently testing this theory out. So far I realized the power of “but”. Which is an annoying, panty drying detail about the person that saves me from wanting a relationship.
the guy im “benefiting?” with, is a gym manager/trainer, big beautiful body, speaks French, loves wine and animals, has the cutest shy smile BUT he’s a bit of a chauvinistic douche and a Philosophy grad (they are either really chill or asinine, I've yet to experience the middle ground).
I think speaking and spending non sexual time together is tricky. We realized that after the hour long convo we had over wine before bedtime.
it’s tricky but necessary depending on your alternatives. Good luck!
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Nope. I cannot even have sex with a guy unless I have feelings for him!
That's the main reason I cannot do one night stands or friends with benefits. If I do that with someone, I expect there to be some feelings there... both of us!
Yes, I have a full 10 years experience in this which is distilled into one piece of advice:
It helps if you dislike them as a person, this will stop you catching feelings. I've had some drop dead gorgeous NSA girls with 'Bats in the Belfry', arrogant, self obsessed, divas etc.
I did my 10 years, now I'm retired and looking to settle with my girlfriend, it's time to pass on the game to IGen @Apple1996 @WhiteShoulder @SweedyPie I truly do miss my NSA and carefree life as a bachelor. Getting wistful now...
Another question for my hooker.
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Yep! As long as boundaries are clear up front I sort of put a fence around those emotions and just enjoy the sex for what it is. For me I feel that sex with someone for the simple act of two people enjoying each other and making each other feel good, as a physical activity giving your body and mind pleasure. It's not unlike eating a great meal when you are hungry. Your body is craving something and when you feed the craving a sense of fulfillment occurs. I've had sex with several women but only loved a couple of them.
No. I couldn't. I would eventually catch feelings and want something more. I'm a very emotional person.
You can - as long as both are happy to enjoy the lust and not ask questions about 'where to next' (like moving in together, having children etc)
Any relationship without commitment to a shared goal between two people is just that anyhow (but often one of the two sides, or both, assume they are going to some shared destination, and later split up when they realise they wanted to get to different places.I know some of my friends can, I can’t though. But maybe it has something to do with sexual experience? I really don’t know.
My best friend has slept with over 30 guys, and she had a fuck buddy for a couple of months without catching feelings.
I on the other hand, fell for the first guy I was with...
But all in all I couldn’t sayI think some people probably can if they can separate one from the other in they’re head. in my opinion it’s transactional like that though and not really for me. It’s just doesn’t seem like a healthy lifestyle but each to they’re own right :)
This is definitely a "Based on the Individual" issue - I might be able to do it once or twice but I would have to have "Feelings" develop and it become a romantic relationship if it were continue with same person. It would be my preference. Most of the time I would prefer not to do a casual hook up than do it.
Me personally, I would not do that. I'd rather be emotionally attached to the person first before we even begin anything sexually.
A lot of people fail to understand that intercourse is a very sacred action that two people do. Your souls are connected in a very interesting way and it is meant for two people to sort of become one (if that makes sense).It's nearly impossible. Our brains are wired that way. Unless you're just dead, or heartless.
How is that even possible? Unless you're a human who doesn't feel anything towards humanity
I think there's gotta be some sort of feelings maybe not love feelings may be even just attraction at first but something has to change for u to want to KEEP doing it with same person over and over again otherwise why not always be doing it with someone different!!
I always catch feelings. Maybe not love, but attachment
I caught feelings last time I was in a friends with benefits relationship and it sucked but it's only happened once
I have done so in the past but it didn't work like that with my current boyfriend.
I can't have sex without love... and if I did, I think I would eventually get emotionally attached.
Yes, but it's hard and doesn't always work. Especially for the girl.
Yeah. Not hard if you're just there for the sex and keep a time limit on seeing each other
Absolutely not. It's a good thing I don't do hookups.
Well you should at least like the person you are having sex with.
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I can, but I'm not interested into such things. What's the point to it if there's no feelings? It's just going through some motions for a very short sighted goal, only bringing risks without a good justification.
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