I have been together with my boyfriend for 6 months now. I know he loves me a lot and has done many things to keep the relationship going. He has helped me grow, gave me prospective and always made an effort to make me happy. He has always been communicative and he is a wonderful person. He says that I have done a lot of things for him and he is really very grateful to have me in his life.
So he is a great person. I make him happy. But there is one little problem that bugs me. He has done it all from drugs to sex to partying to playing around to being in in serious relationships and is now ready to settle and sees me as his potential partner. I, on the other hand have been with very few guys, never have been in a serious relationship, have not done any drugs, never played around or rather how should I put it "I feel like I've never lived my life". I feel insecure.
We are very different. We have different thought processes and don't really agree to all of his opinions. I have tried to break up with him 2-3 times in the past but he always came back and asked me to stay. I can't pin point exactly what is going on.
I have never been in love before. I don't know if i can classify my feelings for him as love but I have never cared and thought anyone as much as I've thought about him. I've tried to tell him my insecurities but I've never got any satisfactory answers. I have no clue what is happening. I know one thing for sure, things can go slow no matter how hard we try; he sees his future with me and about me I don't know.
Not a lot of guys wanna serious relationship and not a lot of guys love their partner that much.
My boyfriend was into drugs as well, and i threatned him to stop or im leaving, and he's stopped, bc just as you im not into that stuff.
I'd say leave him so he can see what he is doing is wrong, bc youve done nothing you've tried to have a talk but he doesn't seem to care, and leave him as a friend, bc love is when you'll do anything for someone, and everytime you see them your stomach jumps in joy and you miss them every moment your not with them, you always worry when they don't answer right away. Love is complicated but i dont think your in love if you dont see a future with him.
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"Have been with very few guys, never have been in a serious relationship", so you don't consider your relationship serious? This guy deserves better, break up with him so he can find someone who actually appreciates his love. That way you can be a whore and do all the drugs in the world.
I would then go talk to a therapist to find out why you are wasting your time with people like him because if you meet the same kind of person again you will end up hurt either mentally or physically or both.. nothing good happens when drugs are involved... most people that are in prison were committing crimes because of drug use and check out a hospital emergency room and ask a doctor how many people were admitted a day resulting from drug and alcohol use? Good luck!!!
"I don't know if i can classify my feelings for him as love"
I don't care if you have never been in love because when you are YOU will know it. There is no "if" or "maybe"
I think what you really struggle with here is not that you haven't lived an exciting life... it's whether or not you want to live the rest of it with him?
I think you should stay with him if your only problem with him is that he's had more life experiences than you. And as long as the differences in opinions aren't serious enough to upset you or make you angry, I don't think that's a major issue either.
You're simply not ready. He is. But I guarantee that you'll never catch up, and going out and living will change nothing. So break up, date others, experiment. And figure he'll find someone else. Be willing to let go, it's part of growing up, reaching full maturity. You win some, you lose some. Let the chips fall where they may.
This is one of those bizzare woman things - you're happy and so unhappy about it (considering you should bang more guys - so you can feel worse about yourself). Who is filling your head with that - because someone certainly is - and that someone is most probably heavily jealous!
You're not missing out on anything every other relationship will be similar. It's all about being with the person who annoys you the least over the longest period of time. Stay with your man as long as he stays. Breaking up just takes you into a never ending cycle
You want to break up to party and do drugs? Lol what a goal in life. Just tell that to him : I want to do drugs just like you did and party and have sex with more guys. He will show the way so you can do all this in the best condition possible so at least he'll be useful at the end.
Lol typical lady trying to see if she can find a better guy. Smarter, better lifestyle, bigger bank account, bigger... typical. he should leave you. What's his phone number I'm going to handle this for you you ingrate.
why? cuz he did stupid shit like drugs and whatever? ok but seriously now, shrugging off your partner's insecurities is bad living your life isn't sex parties and drugs, well not to most people at least, its doing what you love and having healthy responsible fun, he didn't necessarily live life better than you or something because he got wasted in parties
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