I've heard in some cultures where women don't go to male doctors but I think that is a really bad idea because the best doctor in your area might be a male doctor. I have a really good male obgyn and I've gone to him for over 20 years.
He's gone through a lot with me. A pregnancy, a really, really bad postmenopause and he removed some precancerous cervical cells which were not HPV related. He watched me bawl in a hormonal haze about my marriage problems due to my ex drinking and he looked right at me and told me it's not going to get better. He let me get a HPV vaccine even though other professionals say I'm too old to have one but I figure better safe then sorry.
Is he perfect? No I think he's made some mistakes along the way with my care but there have been more pluses and minuses. He's going to retire at some point because he's well into his 60s so I'll have to start all over again with someone new. Check to see if the man you are going has a good rating online and on yelp. I've gone to some female doctors who I did not like and some I do.
If you had a medical emergency at some point you might get a male doctor. I think he needs to grow up and get over it. I've been around Muslim people through my marriage and this is one thing that would bug the heck out of me about certain men. My ex husband was not at all like this.
Ethical male doctors always have a second person in the room during the exam. Usually a woman. If he doesn't then leave or request a second person. Don't go to a doctor who doesn't have a second person in the room. He's assuming that you will be safer with a woman but not all women are straight. I don't think my GP is straight but who knows.
I think he's just concerned about another man getting to examine my body parts.
No. He is not overreacting. He doesn't trust another man to do such things, and look, he is a man, he should know how another man would react seeing you. Either way he is your husband, do listen to him before you may lose him. You married him for a reason. No matter what you feel on the matter, at leats honor him. But if you do get a male always HAVE a female assistant in the room. It is the law for a female to be there.
Is this a good gynaecologist? Does he have good reviews? Is he knowledgeable/experienced/trustworthy? Will you be getting the best possible care?
When it comes to your health, those are the only issues that should concern him. It shouldn't matter if the doctor has a penis or a vagina, only whether his wife is receiving the best doctor/care that she can get.
Yes, I think he's overreacting. If you were seriously injured, and needed CPR, would he let you die, rather than let a male doctor touch your chest?
I think he just doesn't like the idea of another man examining my body.
I understand that, but my point is that it's in a medical setting, so that should be completely irrelevant. He sounds incredibly insecure, and that shouldn't interfere with you going to the doctor.
Yes I've told him that. But there is an argument that could be made that a medical setting won't prevent a male doctor from looking at a woman sexually, as in the past there have been doctors who have sexually abused their female patients. These things do happen. I'm just not sure what to do.
Well, he has made a bad choice showing weakness and ugly jealousy but its not like there isn't substance to it.
I know you are all going to cry professional, but I am a professional too and while I might not do anything inappropriate in my working environment I dont cease to be human.
Well everything seems to be nice and tight and as it should be Mrs Honeybee and may say what a beautiful cunt you have, it was an absolute pleasure doctoring for you.
What job do you do?
Why does it matter? ;)
Just curious. You don't have to tell me if you don't want.
I would rather not say :)
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It’s a doctor. Tell him to grow up and get over it. No offense but why would you marry a guy so immature?
Oh for christs sake! Are you in the habit of shagging the people who provide health care to you?
No?
Then he needs to just effin relax.
I see you are 20. Im betting that makes him 24 or younger. As a group, early 20s guys are the most jealous men on the planet. They live each day with the fear that the girl that hung around to deal with his bullshit juuust might wander off.
Good luck with that one, honey.
Sure, tell him that. That will fix it all.
You're brilliant.
Make your feelings go away.
That's logical... you aren't allowed to feel what you feel.
You must like gaving some guy sit down with his face down between your wifes butt naked vulva so he can examine it under a bright light.
100 lady doctors can do it... but let's get a guy.
But you aren't allowed to have feelings.
You know it is the 21st century... women are walking dead. They'll keel over dead at any moment unless they have 200 pelvic exams in their life.
Tell him he is jealous, bad... do not feel.
Feelings aren't allowed.
Internet guy said so.
Some guy sticking his fingers uo your wife is part of marriage.
Requesting a non opposite sex doctor for an intimate exams is madness.
How dare anyone have insane ideas.
Men examining wiives vulvas, women doing rectals on husbands is how it should work.
Wow. Just... wow.
It sounds like, to me, that you are worried about someone seeing your wifes vagina and being worked up into a sexual lather. Am i right?
I dont know if u heard, but there is this new thing out.
Its called a "lesbian".
Men aren't the only ones who might keep the exam gloves to sniff later. Ladies are well equipped to do the same thing. I hate to be the one who tells you
But women do a rotation in urology. Both men... and women... are qualified to work on the human body.
If you, or this girls dude, are ao freaked out by the idea of a male gynecologist, id like to know why. As in, what exactly do you think is gonna happen?
Good point. But to be fair I would suspect that the vast majority of female gynaecologists are not lesbian, whereas the majority of male gynaecologists are heterosexual.
But what percentage of either have molested their patients?
My husband isn't worried about the male doctor molesting me, he just doesn't want another man examining my intimate body parts.
Ok. But what does he think will happen during and/or after the examination?
I think he's more concerned of what the doctor is thinking while examining me. He doesn't believe that a medical licence will prevent a man from being a man.
Would reminding him that the dr is in the perfect spot to get his face kicked flat in the case of misbehavior? Or... something my wife pointed out to me, (she is a medical assistant in a family practice where the docs do routine gyne checks) a male doc is not permitted in an exam room with a gyne patient without a female staff member, as well.
That's between you two. If you are a very attractive girl, there's a secret I can tell you: male doctors are human. Don't believe that? I know it's true because I know many doctors. I hear what they say at parties. Of course they are professional but what your husband probably doesn't like is the idea of him looking at that part of your body that closely and feeling an attraction. Whether or not you should see a male gynecologist is up for you two to talk about though.
And what do they say at parties?
Honestly? If you have the option of going to a female gyno, why not just switch? If I were in his shoes, it'd be less about the actual prospect of a male gyno examining her body, and more about the fact that she was so insistant on specifically seeing a male one, on principle of not "giving in", that it outweighed her desire to make me feel secure and comfortable in our relationship--especially when she'd know damn well that I'd do the same for her.
Is there a reason to go to a man... spread eagle, bright light, 100% graphic exposure?
If you can choose either sex... you can even choose not to go, why intentionally stress your marriage if he doesn't want a guy to see you that way?
So you have the 100% choice to go to either gender but you are choosing the one that stresses your marriage?
It is your choice.
Deal with the extra stress.
I haven't deliberately chose a male doctor. A male doctor was chosen for me by the hospital.
Yeah, I don't care what gender my wife's gyno is. Go with whoever you feel is most qualified or you are most comfortable with. My wife's OB/GYN is male, I have no problem with it. Last time I went to a urologist, it was a female urologist. I highly doubt she had an issue with that either.
He’s overreacting and sounds like he has insecurity issues , what’s the gynecologist going to do have sex with you? He c’s vaginas everyday , I don’t think he is going to lose his job and take the chance of getting kicked in the balls lol
I think he just doesn't want another man examining my body
He's not trying to stop me getting medical help, he just wants me to go to a female doctor for intimate exams.
Maybe. I'll probably switch to a female just to avoid any hassle. I just wanted other people's opinion.
Almost a year and a half, and he's 25.
Your husband is emotionally insecure and an idiot.
@Thatsamazing I can see his point. I'm undecided what I'm going to do.
You know I've always wondered why women get the “intimate exams” its not like female doctors look and feel a mans junk to make sure it functions (gets hard, ejaculates) all she does is touch our balls as quick as she can almost like she is disgusted
Is it important for you to go to a male one? If it is, then why is it important?
If not, then why not just change? It would be easy. Why purposely do something that bothers your SO when it isn't even important to you?
Yeah no dude is sticking his finger in my wife. WTF. Why is this even a question? Should he have a girl play with his cock and balls a little, give em a rub and put their face right up to it so close he can feel her breath on his dick? I mean if you are all into this stuff maybe try an open relationship?
When it comes to your own health what your husband what’s is irrelevant. Are you comfortable with a male gynecologist? If not, and you don’t really have an immediate concerns there is no harm in asking to see someone else.
overreacting i think. these are professionals, is he really choosing his jealousy over your health and well being?
Aaah.
Woman doctor... bad for your health.
Male doctor... good for your health.
Sexist much?
Health?
Is this part of that you have a vagina so unless you have 200 lifetime invasuve exams you'll keel over dead because vaginas are deadly?
LOL, docs have women conditioned well.
What? You are 20 and haven't had a pelvic, are you insane? You'll die!!!
Vaginas are deadly.
what are you even talking about you loon
Well I’m a doctor - but not an gyno - and I’d never be ok with my girlfriend going to a male gyno. As other people have said, men are men and it doesn’t matter where we are. In my clinic I enjoy looking at attractive women just like any other guy, including my doctor friends who are also male. If my girlfriend can avoid that, then she needs to. Emergency situations are different. But when she has a choice, I’d be pissed if she deliberately went to a male doctor for that kind of thing.
Yeah he's being ridiculous. My last girlfriend pointed out that there's usually a wait for a female Gynecologist despite making up the majority of the field. If you agree to this i guarantee it won't end here.
how old is your husband?
if he is around your age group then he has major insecurity as most guys around your age group do have insecurity (18 - 30)
if he is older.. still insecurity
its your choice.. his role as a husband is to support you and promote you.. not to tell you what to do.. he has no legal authority over your body
It's understandable. You can just take a new appointment with a woman this time, I think it's better rather than fighting about this. This is a stupid fight that can be easily avoidable.
He's not over reacting. You doing go to a female gynecologist anyway. A male one only if a female isn't available and you need an appointment quickly.
Lol i never thought about this one yes i am with him on this one men are all the same even doctors they have the same sex drive not saying they won't be professional and behave but if you are hot and your legs are spread open ahem 😳
Just find one that's old and ugly. That's the next best thing. But in reality, yes he's overreacting, but putting up with unreasonableness is the foundation of every relationship. Find an ugly ass, old gyno. Problem solved.
“putting up with unreasonableness is the foundation of every relationship.”
Lmao so true isn't it
He is overreacting, doctors are ethical in that regard its not a sexual act.
He is way over reacting. Should you ever require emergency surgery shall he also insist that your surgeons, anesthesiologist, nurses, techs, are also all women? After all, they all see you too?
I prefer females looking at my dick... I just feel they're better suited for looking at junk.
He’s probably overreacting as most gyno’s are Very professional. That said, I’m glad mines a woman.
A doctor should be professional. It shouldn't matter what the physicians sex is,
I am happy and grateful because my wife never goes to the gynaecologist. The whole thing is humiliating and degrading.
So, who is more important to you? your gynaecologist or your husband?
Yes, overreacting. Doctors are professionals and gender of the doctor you see shouldn't matter.
Perhaps he heard about the perverts one... Some of them are really cringe.
But if it's not about this he's overreacting.
There are more male gynecologist than female so it’s not a quick switch, they are professionals and see all types, he is overreacting but you’re pretty young and maybe he is insecure about you being seen by an older male
no. girl on girl is ok.
but a guy feeling your vagina while he is busy at work making money for you to live on. No never
He is overreacting...
It is a doctor
He look at dicks and pussies all day long.
Are you saying that doctors never get turned on by a female patient?
Of course they get turned on sometimes.
But remember that his biggest fear is probably that he don't follow standard procedure and the women will turn his name to the police.
It is not like that every time we men see a pussy we will get turned on.
You are probably a good looking and sexy girl, but if you came to me and asked if I could just help you check downstairs for something, it doesn't mean I would be turned on.
I would check and tell you about it and go back to what I was doing before.
And I am just a normal man.
But if you hit on me and moved in a special way to make me horney, then it would be different.
So if your man don't like you to go to see a man gynaecologist, he probably trust the doctor, but he don't trust you.
He does trust me, he just doesn't trust the male doctor because he said that he's a man first and doctor second.
No because he doesn't get to see and examine naked women like a male doctor does.
He is overreacting. The doctor has a job to do. That's all.
Depends. How often does he get to play with your vagina in comparison?
Kind of overreacting but if he's uncomfortable just try to find someone else
He shouldn't unless he is really in secure... Ask if he can go in with you at the same time
He's overreacting. Seems a bit immature to me.
It's a doctor be needs to be realistic
Yes, he is overreacting and clearly an idiot.
yes he is, reminds me of old me 😂
What concern could he have?
I can definitely understand where he’s coming from
Please elaborate.
Totally overreacting. It's professional business
Sounds like he doesn't trust you
He does trust me, he just doesn't trust another man examining my private body parts.
No, hun, he's literally telling you, he doesn't trust you
No, he's made it clear he just doesn't like the idea of another man examining my body parts. I can understand his concern. I'm just not sure what to do.
Understandable
He's being insecure
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