Boyfriends who are Gamers?

[Anonymous]

How would you girls feel if your boyfriend was into gaming to the point that they’re called a professional gamer who actually makes money out of gaming too? Would that turn you off or would you be supportive? Also, to those of you who game, what are your thoughts on RDR2?

I will dump his ass

I will support him

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+1 y

I totally understand what you’re saying! Gamers do actually tend to favor gaming over anything else going on in the lives when they’re all in! Fortunately, I still have my priorities set straight lol.

For RDR2, it’s a great game and I recommend you try it out.

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+1 y

Just to make it clear to anyone who answered: if your boyfriend is a professional gamer but you’re not his priority, then you need a new boyfriend. I was talking about a balanced gaming lifestyle lol if that exists at all. A lifestyle where one would have a career, enjoys fruitful relationships, play sports but also games on an amateur level to make extra cash (not trying to go full blown Ninja here lol). Peace y’all.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

As someone who formerly dated someone who was literally addicted to video games (we're talking this guy reached for his controller the minute we walked in the door as if it was an inhaler or some sort of a life saving device and would be glued to the TV like a zombie for hours on end, and let this lifestyle rule his entire life and would neglect relationships with his family, friends, and me over them; he played video games at least 12 hours a day on most days and would also routinely be late or try to convince me to keep letting him play and make us both late for functions, and he'd get annoyed with me for wanting to spend time with him because he was too obsessed with the games, etc, etc, etc.), it would really depend on how the guy conducted himself.

If he was responsible, had self control, and didn't spend every waking moment of his life on them, it would most likely be fine with me. But, I would never date a video game addict ever again. You know when your calls, texts, etc. go ignored for over a week at a time and he gets short with you over wanting to spend a couple of days a week with him when he plays games the other 5 days and part of those 2 days, that you're not even valued or loved as much as an inanimate gaming system, and that hurts.

[Asker]

One of my ex best friends was exactly what you said and slowly he started closing up on himself until he lost all his friends (me included) as well as his girlfriend and his brother stopped talking to him. It’s really scary when you cross that line as I feel it’s like addiction. I’m sorry you went through this, it’s tough!!! :(
Basically I just play two games now Fifa and RDR2 (the game in the question’s picture) and not other games.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Yeah, it's really sad. This guy was actually shocked that he had no friends and people quit contacting him, but it was because he ignored all of their attempts at contacting him and they eventually quit trying, and who can blame them?

I definitely feel that it is an addiction with some people.

Thanks, it sucked a lot. :(

I definitely think playing games is fine just as long as you don't enter addiction territory and let it rule your life and interfere with your responsibilities and relationships!

[Asker]

And I agree with what you said a hundred percent. Gaming excessively is unhealthy and it’s a relationship killer for sure.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Yes, definitely!

[yeonwu_oh]

I think that recreational gaming is fine, I used to do that all the time in Korea. I have a friend who dated a guy in Korea who decided to go pro for gaming. Suddenly he stopped spending time with her to play the game, so she felt replaced. I certainly wouldn't want this to happen to me so I'd dump him because the training professional gamers do is grueling and time-consuming.

To answer your second question, I haven't played RDR2, but I've heard great things about it. In korea, I played StarCraft, Halo, and Overwatch. I was never very good, but it was fun.

[Asker]

I totally understand what you’re saying! Gamers do actually tend to favor gaming over anything else going on in the lives when they’re all in! Fortunately, I still have my priorities set straight lol.

For RDR2, it’s a great game and I recommend you try it out.

[SpacedCharr]

I'd be so fucking supportive of it.
Also I'd make sure he knows the business end of it because, well, it's his career.

He better take that seriously.

I'd also be cautious not to tie myself in too strong to his streaming. If our relationship goes south, I'd hate for him to face possible backlash or lose viewers if they only came on for me (no idea why they'd do it, but I'd put an act on to get him more viewers if I could).

If we're set on it, I'd want to find ways I can help him run his channel. Like moderate chat or run a special series or something.

It's important to support your partner, in my opinion.

I haven't played RDR2.
I'm waiting for Cyberpunk 2077.

[Asker]

Oh wow! Honestly, I never expected someone to be this supportive of the idea! This gives me hope, thank you! And you’re very correct. If you’re with someone then you have to support them fulfill their dreams no matter what it takes! Beautiful answer!

[SpacedCharr]

Well, I wanna stream as well, so I'm a bit of an odd duck in that sense.

But I agree that supporting your partner is a good idea. Pro streamer or just even if they're happy they beat Dark Souls or something. Being genuinely interested in a person is a good thing.

[Asker]

That’s very cool! Actually nothing is hotter than a girl who games and streams so go for it by all means!

All the best!

[AiahZ]

I voted B. Men have been supporting women who don't work outside the home for ages. So long as the guy I was with took care of the home when I was away and we both really got along well, I don't care if he works or what he does otherwise (so long as it's legal and doesn't hurt anything else). There are so many gamer guys I bet there are a lot of them who're terrific potential partners. And if gaming makes them happy, so long as they have a way to survive financially, I don't think they deserve any more disapproval than artists or musicians or anyone else outside the traditional 7AM-7PM work world.

[Asker]

I meant gamers who actually start making money out of gaming! Some professional gamers are making millions of dollars a month now but I’m talking amateur of course (I do have a full time position). Gaming is just on the side. It does bother my girlfriend a little though.

[AiahZ]

I'm pretty sure most girls don't care what a guy is doing to earn millions of dollars a month... After all, even the mafia have girlfriends and wives. ;)

[Asker]

True that! They’d be sitting with their goomahs eating gabagool as we speak.

[AiahZ]

LOL! I heard that like Joey from Friends reruns would say it.. :)

[Asker]

Lmao! I thought you’d say Tony Soprano or Paulie Walnuts

[Anonymous]

Just like with anything one considers a job, if you are in a relationship, or have kids, or pets, you need to be able to turn the job off and go interact with the world. This question gets under my skin because I dated a serious gamer who was trying to get into it professionally, and I was that supportive girlfriend to a point, and that point was him forgetting I existed or making me feel bad for wanting to hang out with him, and not him ONLY if he was gaming. No one wants to feel like they don't matter to someone they should matter to. This guy got married to the girl he dated right after me, which was cool with me because she was a friend but he never learned. She divorced him within two years because she wanted to have a life outside of them staying home all the time and gaming. It was crazy to think that a doctor divorced a gamer because HE is too busy all the time, but you really have to prioritize and decide what's important.

[Asker]

I’m really sorry you went through this! You’re right, there’s a very thin line between gaming and pathological gaming, which we should never cross. I honestly have a friend who is exactly like that and I no longer can call him a friend, so I exactly know what you mean. To me, it’s kind of a thing I do on the side. After I finish my working day, my daily workout, etc. I game for 4 hours at night. That’s about it. Professional gaming is hard and that’s what’s making me want to quit before I even start. I won a fifa tournament in Chicago and I was paid $3000 which was awesome, but it comes at a heavy cost if you want to make a life out of it. Thank you for the feedback!

[Opinion Owner]

You live and you learn. When I started my own business, the starting bit, you really have to be all in, so what I took from that relationship is that, yes, you can work or play and you have to get stuff done, but then if you want to have a life and relationships outside of those worlds, you have to say it's 6pm, and that means time with my boyfriend or time to see family and friends. I think you develop a healthy life that way, because you set the boundary that before then is game time or work time and after that is life time and then commit to both. Good luck with everything!

[Asker]

That’s beautiful talk! You’re 100% right on this, but unfortunately not too many people understand that the universe is all about balance! Good luck to you! 😊

[MissKittyz]

I would definetely support him because I love gaming as well! I'd probably play with him too and help him practice. My fiancé and I spend a lot of our time together playing video games lol
He used to play magic of the gathering competitively against other people in tournaments and I've always supported him. So I would with video games as well.

[Asker]

That’s awesome! Glad you support this! ☺️😊

[sagevalentineee]

I've never dated an actual, so I'm not really able to give an opinion. All I can say is... I fully recognise that I love attention and a gamer would not go well with that. My boyfriend and I never watch tv, we don't really have the time for it as we're both busy. And even if we have lazy times, I'd rather us be lying together in bed and for me to have his full attention, rather than him gaming away while I'm on my phone. To me, that's a bit of a waste of time.

[Asker]

Fair enough! Thank you for your feedback

[erandal]

As long as he takes our relationship seriously and knows how to ‘switch off’ from his job then I will be okay with it.

The story mode for RDR2 was fantastic. So good I am tempted to do it again as soon as I have redone RDR1 to finish the story.

[Asker]

I’m doing the story mode for the second time with all the Easter eggs and everything the game has to offer. I didn’t play RDR1 but I watched a 25 min video that walks you through everything that happened so you’d have the story fresh in your mind.

[BitterSweetApplePie]

I'm a professional gamer, so I'd be the happiest girl in the world. We could just both stay home and make bank doing what we love with who we love!

Unfortunately competitive/"pro" gaming that you get paid to do is fairly difficult to get in to, so yeah chances are sliiiiim. Definitely wouldn't dump his ass.

[Asker]

Oh that’s amazing! Always good seeing there are a lot of gamer ladies lol.

You’re right, professional gaming isn’t an easy thing to get into, and it’s grueling honestly. Not easy at all, but very lucrative.

[taksuga]

My girlfriend is a gamer, and I totally support her. It's just like any hobby or profession, you have to set boundaries and still make time for your partner. Also RDR2 is without question the best video game I have ever played. Like. EVER. (Not the online one, the actual game.)

[Asker]

I totally agree with you! Boundaries are important and RDR2 story mode is the best thing I’ve ever played! Thank you for your feedback! :)

[Jooying]

I myself also love playing games so if my boyfriend is a pro gamer yes I would support him, I would also ask him to teach me if possible.

RDR2 I like that game. I love the story, the pace is slow, very friendly to me of a not so good gamer Lol.
But honestly, its online mode sucks...🤣🤣

[Asker]

Online mode is so hard, you’re right! And the storyline is slow but it’s so worth it, I love it!

It’s cool seeing girls who like gaming and support their gaming man lol.

[Rapidash]

Sure why not! But like with anything else, if that’s the only thing to your life and you prefer your games over me then... we’ll goodbye. But this isn’t just a gaming situation, it can be any other job or hobby, I don’t think gaming per se makes a difference.

[Asker]

You’re absolutely right! There are other priorities in life that should be set straight and your significant other is absolutely one of them! We agree on that.

[proteus912]

My boyfriend is a recreational gamer and I think he would like to be a full time gamer, but he won't do it. He likes to work and go out and do stuff and also spend time with me. So he will keep gaming but also know there are other things to do. And he loves rdr2. I also enjoy watching him play and he makes a point to let me chose what horses he gets and stuff (Because I love horses haha)

[Asker]

That’s very cool! I love horses too and my girlfriend watches me play and she loves it, especially when I pet random dogs and they wiggle their tales haha. Yes, I didn’t mean like doing this full time. I’m not on that level either, though I gotta say, it can be pretty lucrative.

[MajesticTwelve]

RDR2 Online is fine, on PC. Not much to do though, I've found. I mostly run around and explore which is fun, but not very gamey. I couldn't handle the story line. So much SJW/white guilt stuff going on, it turned me off of it.

[Asker]

I mean I’m white but slavers and the KKK existed, so I didn’t think there was any white guilt games going on! All the protagonists were white too lol for the most part. If you want to have fun, go do all the Easter eggs in story mode.

[Kida317]

I don't mind if my boyfriend likes gaming, I just don't think he should prioritize it over our relationship. So like go play whatever just please have some time in a day for me too.

[Asker]

You’re absolutely right! And of course a gamer’s significant other should be the priority!

[Anoniemus]

Nope. Sounds like he has little else to do but play games. Not into bigger men just like a lot of men aren’t into big women.

Recreational gaming is cool. As a profession? I’m out.

[Asker]

Lmao, I don’t mean he doesn’t have a life. I’m a gamer and I’m also very fit and I weigh 165 pounds lol. But I know what you mean! I didn’t mean a full time gamer.

[Anoniemus]

Lol. Then that’s fine.

[Hurlyburly]

I'd be jealous 😂 and obviously supportive 😊
Haven't played rdr2 yet, I wait until it goes on sale in steam.

[Asker]

That’s awesome! Honestly, there’s nothing more attractive than a girl who games! And trust me, this game is worth every penny! I’m playing the story mode for the second time and the Van Der Linde gang is like my family now! 😂

[Hurlyburly]

My boyfriend played it for about 5 hours or so when it came out (he had it for ps4 from a relative) and told me that he found it kind of boring and that's pretty much the reason why I haven't played it yet 😅 we have a similar taste in games therefore I'm a bit careful

[Asker]

You have to give it some time and it grows on you! 5 hours is nothing honestly! It’s one of the best if not the best video game that was ever made.

[Hurlyburly]

I know that 5 hours are nothing in an rpg and so does he. But we do usually both enjoy games from the beginning 😅 he also said that he could just aswell not have been in the right mood for it so I'll see 😊

[Asker]

Yes, give it a chance! And do all the Easter eggs! 😊

[Hurlyburly]

If I like it I'll sure will xD I'm a completionist through and through. Except for multiplayer stuff since I'm not much of a fan of it.

[Asker]

Yes, maybe try watching a few YouTube videos here and there and get a feel of the encounters and the game. That’ll hook you up for sure.

[alice55]

I will support him I like video games and I can get quite obsessed about it (I'm not pro but I easily play 10 hours a days).

[Asker]

Oh wow! That’s awesome, but make sure you’re on top of everything else too.

[alice55]

Thank you ^-^
What do you mean by " on top of everything else too" ?

[Asker]

I mean make sure gaming doesn’t make you slack. Like have everything under control; your job, your relationships, etc. I know this is unsolicited advice lol but I know how much gaming can be.

[alice55]

I don't have anything under control because when I play I kind of ignore people for weeks ><
It's hard to control it, when I like a game all I want to do is play and I even think about my game when I'm at work.
It's not unsolicited it's a true advice that I would really need to follow *-*

[Asker]

Yeah, I’ve been there! Gaming is the best but we need to set boundaries I guess!

[alice55]

Yes but it's hard to so ><
Especially since nobody care if I play a lot, they just let me do

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is already a gamer and I like playing games too 😎 but he does not play video games all day. Being obsessed with only one thing in your life is definitely a turnoff

[Asker]

Absolutely! I didn’t mean gaming to a sick level! Max of 4 hours at night.

[yeolsb]

my brother is in all this... and he doesn’t have any time for anything else except games. barely see him , he’s always in his game room, so I doubt supporting this.

[Asker]

Well, this lifestyle is dangerous, I agree! You have to set your priorities straight.

[Anonymous]

If he makes money from it then great, I don't care. If he can't make time for a relationship it's not gonna work though.
Most men i've dated has been gamers to some degree.

[Asker]

He must make money for it to work for sure and priorities should be set straight and you should be a more important priority for sure!

[kales96]

My boyfriend is a gamer, but he will pay attention to me as a girlfriend even tho he’s plays games. He now chooses me over it

[Asker]

You should be his priority for sure! No question about that

[kales96]

I am now

[Martinasita]

If they are paying bills what are you bitching about.

[Asker]

lol you’re right

[thenewgirlll]

Happy he is able to do what he loves AND for a living

[Asker]

Glad you support this! 😊

[thenewgirlll]

Of course! I would want someone to support me like this too

[Asker]

For sure! You must not settle down for less

[that_one_chick]

My boyfriends a gamer and I love it! I like being able to play games with him

[Asker]

Awesome!

[KoolaidPizza]

That would be cool, in my opinion, if partner made money off playing videogames. I'm kind of a gamer myself anyway.

[Asker]

That’s cool! ☺️

[Anonymous]

My response would be to get off your ass and get a real job and stop being a bum gamers to me are so friggin lazy it's like they can't live unless they play everyday

[Asker]

I already have a full time position ma’am. Generalization doesn’t always work, just saying.