I think that unconditional love is a type of love that people have when they don't want anything else from the person and that they only want to be with them, I would call it a true love of sorts but since there are other forms of love I can't tell you that it is the right love to have.
You have different personalities and to each one people may say a different love is true love, like a more sexual love is their true love since they are more erotic with their personality, or perhaps they have a type of love that is conditional which is not common but can occur and I find it to be unwanted but some like the idea that a task must be completed to earn affection almost like a goal of sorts?
While I feel that it IS possible for people outside of family to love unconditionally, I feel it is also very difficult to do so since you would have desires towards that person that you would not have with family.
In conclusion I would say true love depends on each person :)
Unconditional love doesn't exist bro. Why u love ur wife? Cuz she's beautiful, she cooks for u, she makes money, she's kind to u, she helps u, she has sex with u Would u still love her if she doesn't do any of them? So unconditional love is bullshit
I believe any type of love can exist, it's just that unconditional love is the minority in the categories and that makes people less open to thinking it exists when in society conditional love is becoming more common than unconditional :/
It isn't a case of should but rather do. Think about it in the sense that close friends love one another unconditionally and family do and some relationship partners will where they don't necessarily plan on having sex.
But while it does exist, it just isn't as common as the conditional love we are more familiar with
Love is, to me, a prerequisite for Unconditional Love.
Unconditional Love is like when regular Love gets a second playthrough, with all the power ups.
You know the things that would have made for conditional love in your first playthrough, but now, you realize those moments are small in comparison to the greater majority of times when your conditions for love are met.
I saw the video and it further proves that people can't love without conditions.
As far as a parent and their child most of them won't eventually love without conditions. I think the closest a parent gets to unconditional love is in some cases when the child is born and hasn't done anything yet to disrupt that parents love for them. But that child starts killing animals or tries to kill them you can bet that love for them will be disrupted.
In romantic love we all have conditions whether it's the person loving us back, not cheating on us, not beating us, etc...
We all dislike things about our partner that we love. Its impossible to love everything about someone. But we still except the bad with the good. And to me that's love. I agree loving someone with the Hope's that they will change is not love.
I don't trust the idea of "unconditional" here. It brings to my mind images like Stockholm syndrome, and I have to question that sort of love. I find much more value in the sort of love that involves a very conscious choice, and a very conscious choice, in my opinion, suggests certain boundaries that cannot be crossed.
Of course, there might be a high degree of tolerance, incredible levels to forgive, patience and tolerance, and a genuine desire to work things out. But "unconditional" is too strong of an adjective in my opinion. It suggests to me a helpless kind of love lacking will or any form of restraint or choice in the matter, and I value a choice in the matter. I can understand it from parent to child, they have no choice, but it's not the type of love I would find comforting to receive or give to a romantic partner or friend.
I have to question the type of love of someone who sticks with a partner who repeatedly abuses and cheats on them, for example. I don't think that type of love is healthy, and it doesn't suggest to me any kind of sense of will or choice... it seems rather "helpless".
I'm not the type to try to hold a monopoly on what "love" means. I think people experience in different ways and I don't want to delegitimize their own ways. But it's like if someone can truly love unconditionally, like continue loving someone in spite of repeated abuse, cheating, etc, then you might say I would at least question their sense of dignity and self-worth... if they have any love left for themselves, or if instead they've enslaved themselves to the other and sacrificed more than any person with a sense of dignity and self-worth should sacrifice. So anyway, I find the idea of "unconditional" love, if we take it literally, to be a disturbing idea... and certainly not the way I want to love anyone or for them to love me.
I honestly think that it is. It's love that does not hold grudges, does not judge appearance, does not demand things, it keeps no record of wrongs. It's a love that does not end even when a person is at their lowest. I get that those who give this type of love may struggle with it but to receive it, is priceless and life changing
I don't think it completely exists... But I've seen very close to it. My pastor may even be close to meeting it completely, I'm not vain per say to say that he's one of best I've known but he's out of everyone I know, including more than 20 pastors. He always reaches out to others and goes out of his way for people. So I'm claiming him... But I believe it's a concept that not many people can pull off...
It can't exist romantically. Unconditional love is unconditional.. If you cheat on your partner.. The love stops, that's a condition, if you hurt your partner, as in abuse, the love stops that's a condition..
Granted those are dispicable examples but those are conditions.
The only place unconditional love exists is between parent and child, and even that is limited.. Say the child becomes a murderer, or a rapist... Or between human and pet..
I might be wrong but I think true love IS unconditional. My definition of love states it's not about a heartbeat or butterflies, it's knowing no matter what fucked up thing someone does or is you'll always love them. This love is not only between parents and children, that's why I personally never just say ’I love you' but then again, we're all different
I agree that it’s a completely idealized view of what ‘love’ is. Plus a perfect way for people to justify behaviours that quickly leave them in abusive relationships that leave them as a shell of their former selves.
It does exist.. Like between parents and their children, sometimes siblings... And sometimes even unrequited lovers can love unconditionally.. But don't think it exists in relationships... There are always some or the conditions
I don't believe in truly "unconditional" love. Maybe affection but love is a balance between you and another person, if love was unconditional then it shouldn't be able to be lost or damaged regardless of what the person of affection does.
Is it wrong to tell everything about you to a girl because I need her to love me for me? When they leave me I feel betrayed, as I trust them and say many things about myself. They listen to me like they care. But they just leave me like they don't remember anything... leave without even saying goodbye.
Unconditional love is for parents to have for their kids.
other types are all conditional.
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Unconditional love? That's where you let the other person cheat, take advantage, drag your name through the mud, abuse you mentally and physically, destroy your life and you're family, and still live them anyway, right?
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