Guys, would it bother you if your girlfriend/wife was taller than you?

Question

I'm quite short, and I live in a region were people are usually tall unlike the rest of my country, so I'm used to my fiancée and exes being taller than me (my ex especially was much taller). Even my ex manager, who's quite a petite woman, is slightly taller, but as of now I don't think about it anymore.
What about you?
Guys, would it bother you if your girlfriend/wife was taller than you?
Girls, would it bother you if your boyfriend/husband got conscious for being shorter than you?

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend is a few inches shorter than me.

Though I have always cared a lot about not being taller than guys I’m with or even just interested in, I’ve realized that this preoccupation with height seems to be almost entirely what I’ve internalized from society. Like.. hearing variations of ‘oh, you’re so tall! It’s going to be hard to find a guy taller than you so that he doesn’t feel emasculated’ for as long as I can remember (even in elementary) made me subconsciously shut out guys who were shorter. Even going so far as to straight up ask my current boyfriend if he’s okay with my being taller than him- even after he asked me out.

I only stopped caring (and stopped hating the fact that I’m 5’10”) when he kept insisting that he loves my height and the long legs it brings with it.

AlienParasite · Accepted Answer

If my boyfriend was a bit shorter than me, I would love him equally, I don't have any sort of height fetish and find beautiful men of many different heights. However, I wouldn't want him to be conscious about beign shorter... because if I'm with him it's because I find him attractive as he is, so he shouldn't worry about it.

SALIM28 · Accepted Answer

Yes yes yes fuck yessssss🤦‍♂️ that shit really can bother me🤦‍♂️
We're in the same boat bro I'm a short guy🤦‍♂️ but thanks God I can always find girls shorter than me

But being a short guy is not something anyone likes to be😭 it really sucks both physically and mentally to be a short guy especially in the world that everyone just cares about physical features and no one even cares who the hell u really are🤦‍♂️

U know being with a shorter girl can make me feel better about myself🤣 but imagine when she's taller than me😱😱😱😱😱😱😱

It feels awful and even if I didn't mind it 99.999 percent of girls don't like a shorter guy🤦‍♂️

Anyway it just fucking sucks😑😑😑

Tommie21 · Accepted Answer

I have tried dating taller women but the chemistry just wasn't there. One woman was a Police Officer and we got along fantastic on line, but when we finally met in person, she asked me if it would bother me to be with a woman that was taller than me. I told her it would not. she was only about an inch taller. I was kind of hurt and I told her I would wait for her to call me. That's the last time we talked to each other. I realize what kind of a stigma being shorter than a woman is. I see skinny guys holding hands with an obese woman or the other way around, and I also see a very good looking person that is with a homely looking person, but seldom see a tall woman with a short man.

Tokyo212 · Answer

Okay let's just be honest about our opinions and not try to make anyone feel comfortable... like that's something called saying truth... so yeah bruh it really matters for a guy to be at least 1-2 inches taller than his girlfriend... like trust me... if that wasn't the case then I don't think I might be trying this hard to get a little more inces to my height at 18yrs of age.. I am 5.6 but it's not ideal I guess... well you might think I am over whelmed with society and thoughts about fake masculinity but wait a second... what does it feel to you to be her boyfriend... like even when caring her you can't get her in your arms and comeon guys being talller is a masculine trait that's what nature made it and if you do something un natural than nature it's obviously gonna suck... trust me I don't have any intention to hurt anyone's feelings but me myself being 5.6 hurts me and there's one thing I would say to all guys comeon try to get a little more height it enhances your personality and will also give you self confidence. just don't relax yourself by reading these girls comments... girls just be like oh comeon we don't care... love shit... bla bla.. but just anyone who is short than them just go and ask them out and see their reaction... they are just hypocrites.. nd m not blaming them for that... as every human is hypocrite but they are just a little more just to show how good they are and how feminine they are so.. hypocrisy is in their traid so don't trust them for these kinds of answers! Yeah it fuckin matters of you are a guy!!! So do something about it or just try dating a girl of your size...(I can see hatred coming at me but I don't care all the things I said was pure truth)

GraveDoll · Answer

at 5'8.

yes it would bother me. my harsh perspective would make it impossible for me to date a guy shorter than me. So i never have. Some of those weird and odd reasons are:
Granted I am a thin girl and i feel a lot more pressure to stay tiny just because of it. I have a tendency to curl up like a kitten and I need someone to be able to pull me in and cover me so to speak and can't see that with a shorter male. i enjoy my boyfriends always being taller than me. I can wear my combat boots and heels with no issue and it nice to not hear a guy state the stupid obvious.

but then again maybe growing up as a kid boys should not be pointing out girls taller than them. If they didn't make it such a issue in elementary maybe we would have never developed that idea so strongly. It odd how are views get shaped.

theronaldmcdonald · Answer

I am relatively tall where I’m from (five foot eight) so it doesn’t bother me really. If we vibe we vibe, though I’ve found that guys who are shorter than me don’t love being the shorter one a lot of the times. I don't know why, for example Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas are a HAWT couple and she is notably taller than him. It’s a stigma I think should be left in the past.

Account · Answer

I have never been close to a guy shorter than me, so I don't know. It simoly has never happened by chance. Even guys who are considered short never took an interest in me. They were usually drawn into taller women. For some weird reason, only very tall guys happen to be into me even though I am very short. Anyway, my answer is that I have no clue because nothing of such sorts has ever occured to me.

R_ūshī · Answer

I like guys who are taller than me or those who are the same height as I am.

My is wayy taller than me but my boyfriend is about the same height as I am, slightly taller by a few cm tho.

So yeah I'm not used to being with guys who are shorter than me.

potatoiswhoiam · Answer

I wouldn't mind if a guy is a bit shorter than me, but the one in the pic, nah. I don't think I'd be attracted to a guy much shorter than me. 2-3cm is fine tho, it's not a big deal.
Would it bother me if my boyfriend got conscious for being shorter than me? No, not much. I'm conscious for being tall anyway, so I'd totally understand and reassure him

LVbrando85 · Answer

Nope,

it wouldn't bother me at all. It used to bug me when I was in my early 20's, but you eventually grow up and become more comfortable with yourself and realize that such small things don't actually matter. It's funny because now I love long legs. I don't think a woman's height matters at all. Unless she's 4' 10" or even 6'8" then its a bit of a different story. I have heard people say that they would prefer a tall guy because they don't want to look down on him when they wear high heels? I don't understand that thought process because without the heels you'er either the same height as him or you're shorter. Weird lol.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Am 188 cm tall (6.2) i went to a few dates with a girl that she was taller than plus she wore high heels so was about 200cm (6.6 or 6.7) and she was worried about how would people judge us (her) being with someone that is shorter than her. I wouldn't mind it but she had a lot of worries about it.

HeroJay · Answer

Honestly? In my opinion when you love your girlfriend enough for her to even be called your girlfriend you won't really care about height at all. Then again every case is different for everyone and sometimes it all comes down to preference. As for guys getting conscious of being shorter, i think it often comes from and usually happen because of the looks people usually give and society's sometimes harsh judgement. I know many people who experienced that but i guess if you're with someone, it's for their personality and being attractive for the way they are and that alone is enough of a reason to just don't care at all !

Anonymous · Answer

Few people are taller than me, but I'd be upset if my partner felt self-conscious about his height around me. There is no reason for it and I'd hope to help him feel comfortable about it.

If it made someone self-conscious then I don't think I'd be able to date them, since their height and me being tall is the cause of that. They'd need to work on their self-esteem.

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

Ew no that just looks wrong in everyway. Sorry. 🙁😕😟🥺😬

CubsterShura · Answer

I'm 5'2.5" 🙃 I prefer 5'4"+, but I'm open to shorter than that. The shortest guy I ever had interest in and asked out for a date was just an inch taller than me.

Agape93 · Answer

I don’t care. I’ve dated people much shorter than me, and taller.

JackSmy · Answer

Not at all, unless she purposely wore heals, to 'rub it in,'!!! I think tall women, are great, and I would never reject one, just because she is taller than me! That's just silly!! :) :)
If we relate well, and like being together, things like that just don't matter!

Avicenna · Answer

Not at. all. I love tall women (I'm 181 cm tall) and would be happy to date a woman taller than me, although I never have. I have dared two almost as tall as me, and that was great.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

most guys I know are intimidated by a tall woman. and just looks weird together. plus so many tall men are with very short women... why dont tall women date tall men?

KayEyes · Answer

I´m one of those rare creatures. A woman and 6´5. I´m currently dating a guy that´s 5´10 who holds my hand and kisses me in public. No problem.
I was married twice to shorter men (3-4 inches). And no, the divorces had nothing to do with height. I might have dated one or two taller guys but I am not sure.
If I was to wait around for a nice guy with great humor, great intelligence, attractive and taller than me I would be waiting around alone for a long time. As long as the guy doesn´t mind I don´t care.
And confidence is so attractive anyways.

MuffinBoi · Answer

Not necessarily no. While it is pretty hard for many women to top 178cm, it is definitely possible.

And besides, if I work on myself enough in terms of personality and making myself confident, my height would be an afterthought.

Besides, if the girl is close to my height, it'll make it easier for kissing ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

Anonymous · Answer

It wouldn’t bother me, but it would bother most women, based on my experience. The vast majority of women i have known in my life refuse to date men shorter than themselves. I have one female friend who is 6’4” with heels, and she refuses to date any men shorter than that. Would it surprise you to learn that she has been single for the past ten years, and that she’s always wondering where the “good men” are?

Anonymous · Answer

At 5'8.

My boyfriend stands at around 5'6. But in the past, I have always been attracted to shorter guys or those around my height. I think it's the confidence that draws me in when they're not bothered by me being tall. Needless to say, I wouldn't date someone who's intimidated by the height difference.

Amedeus · Answer

It's hard to imagine how I would feel tbh. Being someone that is 6'1 it's not something I've really thought about. I don't think I would see a problem with it at all. I don't understand where the need for men to be taller came from. In nature it's usually the females that are bigger anyway. Maybe it's just another section of toxic masculinity and insecurity that holds it in place?

ShadowofRegret · Answer

Not at all!😊 I personally find it really attractive if she is taller than me!😄

kingkathyy · Answer

i’m 5’10 and personally, I probably wouldn’t date someone shorter than me but as long as you two are happy with each other, it really shouldn’t matter

Daisy007 · Answer

Like in the picture? Yes. If they're only an inch taller IDC I'm 5'6 so I'm taller then most women (some men, in uni as well)

msss98 · Answer

Im already short i don't think id be atteacted someone much shorter, same height id have no problem ahhaha

AlongCameCindy · Answer

I'm only 5ft2 so yes they'd definitely need to be taller than me. but if i was a really tall girl like 5ft10plus then i think if i really liked the guy i'd be okay with it.

Anonymous · Answer

My girlfriend is taller than me by an inch. I don't even think about it normally, so it doesn't bother me at all.

It really doesn't matter about height, small is cuter and tall is sexy. Both are things I like in a potential mate.

cath15 · Answer

I want guys to be equally tall or taller than me. If they're shorter it makes me feel unfeminine and just generally unattractive. I know that does not make much sense but I can't change it.

Honestyyy · Answer

Id like to but thats not going to happen here where i live. Girls get shamed for dating short men thanks to society and the girls perspective of a perfect man. To top that its mainly because women are scared of what other women, friends or family would think of them which is kinda sad. Choosing pride and image over love.

aly34 · Answer

I think it shouldn't bother as long as the guy is nice , caring and loving

rjroy3 · Answer

Maybe I'm weird, but I could get into the Amazonian thing. Giant goddess? Would I take issue with that? No lol

ConnorH · Answer

I personally don't mind at all and think it could be fun

clampfan101 · Answer

Absolutely not. Tall women are hot. lol Height isn’t very important to me. Although being around my height would be ideal, I would even date a “tall person” or “little person”.

Ianto · Answer

I would have no great problem, in fact, one of the drawbacks of being a short arse is not having leggy girlfriends, so it might be a plus. However, I have found there are minor mechanical problems. For example, you can't reach to kiss her when penetrating from behind.

Anonymous · Answer

I dated a shorter guy, I'm average but it was him being short for the male average. I was ok with that, it lasted some months. He was like 160 cm

MorticiAddams · Answer

It better not. Spouse is nearly a foot shorter than I!!!

cavmanier · Answer

Yes I really like being and feeling bigger than my girl. It feels sexy.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Tall, medium or small love is love & that is what it is all about.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

As long as she didn't come from the freethrow line and dunk on me.

opnbuk59 · Answer

No not at all love knows no heights no pun intended, well a little

Levin · Answer

I prefer shorter. Tbh, I wouldn't date anyone taller than me, or I'd be unlikely to.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Never dated before, but I don't think I'd bother me so much.

Quidthonian · Answer

It would not bother me at all. I would prefer having the girl the same height or taller than me. I'm itching to say that "I would have some one to look up to".

nathanp97 · Answer

I'm 6'1" so not many girls are taller than me, but although I wouldn't prefer it I'd be open to it.

Redstang88 · Answer

I’ve dated girls a couple inches taller than me, that I have no problem with but I’m not sure I’d want a girl much taller than that

jamesgoldman · Answer

I wouldn't mind... my first ex was about a inch taller than me I haven't gained any height since the crash

lifelearner011 · Answer

I think love is love in al sizes. Yet as a small height woman I do prefer someone who’s around my height 5,2-5’9 taller or smaller would be a bit too difficult.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Would a trait over which I literally have no control bother me? No.

JimmyQ · Answer

Errol Leslie Thomas Flynn, the major heart throb of the 40's and 50's was only 5' 2" tall. Height doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is what you can do with what you got.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

Things like that no longer bother me its who the person is underneath that matters.. as long as were both happy what more can I want?

KalicoMojo · Answer

Nope, not at all! I really don't think things like that matter. It all boils down to relationship characteristics that have been deemed normal - so in 2020, it's weird to see that people are weirded out when a woman is taller than a man in a relationship. Sometimes I feel like I might even prefer it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Meropatrick · Answer

No i like tall girls but not shaquel O’ neils height

Anonymous · Answer

Personally I don’t care but women make a big deal about it. I’m all for women being strong and assertive in life but also caring and compassionate as am I. I’m 5’9 if she’s 6 ft which is rare with girls especially if she isn’t wearing heels it’s up to her whether she cares or not, not me.

TallAnon · Answer

6'7, so any girl taller would probably not be too healthy, so I'd probably pass, you never know though

MichaelLujan · Answer

Just a tad bit 😂😂 I love being taller than my girl, it helps me feel more dominant when we're being sexually romantic

padreflint · Answer

I don't know, I think a few inches taller wouldn't bother me. A foot taller it might, but I don't know for sure.

BoxySama · Answer

It would bother me, but I am 6 foot, if she is any taller, she would have issues that she would know how to deal with

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

If she’s only a few inches taller I wouldn’t mind. But if she’s more than 5 inches taller I probably wouldn’t date her in the first place unless she has redeeming qualities.

COMMODOREII · Answer

Nah not really. Im 6'2" tall so to find a girl taller me than is rare.

Matt57 · Answer

No. I like tall women, but women taller than my height (about 6’3”) are super rare. If my wife/gf were taller than me, I wouldn’t mind if they wore heels either.

Plus, it’d be interesting to see how it is to be the shorter one for a change.

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