My boyfriend is a few inches shorter than me.
Though I have always cared a lot about not being taller than guys I’m with or even just interested in, I’ve realized that this preoccupation with height seems to be almost entirely what I’ve internalized from society. Like.. hearing variations of ‘oh, you’re so tall! It’s going to be hard to find a guy taller than you so that he doesn’t feel emasculated’ for as long as I can remember (even in elementary) made me subconsciously shut out guys who were shorter. Even going so far as to straight up ask my current boyfriend if he’s okay with my being taller than him- even after he asked me out.
I only stopped caring (and stopped hating the fact that I’m 5’10”) when he kept insisting that he loves my height and the long legs it brings with it.
If my boyfriend was a bit shorter than me, I would love him equally, I don't have any sort of height fetish and find beautiful men of many different heights. However, I wouldn't want him to be conscious about beign shorter... because if I'm with him it's because I find him attractive as he is, so he shouldn't worry about it.
Yes yes yes fuck yessssss🤦♂️ that shit really can bother me🤦♂️
We're in the same boat bro I'm a short guy🤦♂️ but thanks God I can always find girls shorter than me
But being a short guy is not something anyone likes to be😭 it really sucks both physically and mentally to be a short guy especially in the world that everyone just cares about physical features and no one even cares who the hell u really are🤦♂️
U know being with a shorter girl can make me feel better about myself🤣 but imagine when she's taller than me😱😱😱😱😱😱😱
It feels awful and even if I didn't mind it 99.999 percent of girls don't like a shorter guy🤦♂️
Anyway it just fucking sucks😑😑😑
I have tried dating taller women but the chemistry just wasn't there. One woman was a Police Officer and we got along fantastic on line, but when we finally met in person, she asked me if it would bother me to be with a woman that was taller than me. I told her it would not. she was only about an inch taller. I was kind of hurt and I told her I would wait for her to call me. That's the last time we talked to each other. I realize what kind of a stigma being shorter than a woman is. I see skinny guys holding hands with an obese woman or the other way around, and I also see a very good looking person that is with a homely looking person, but seldom see a tall woman with a short man.
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Okay let's just be honest about our opinions and not try to make anyone feel comfortable... like that's something called saying truth... so yeah bruh it really matters for a guy to be at least 1-2 inches taller than his girlfriend... like trust me... if that wasn't the case then I don't think I might be trying this hard to get a little more inces to my height at 18yrs of age.. I am 5.6 but it's not ideal I guess... well you might think I am over whelmed with society and thoughts about fake masculinity but wait a second... what does it feel to you to be her boyfriend... like even when caring her you can't get her in your arms and comeon guys being talller is a masculine trait that's what nature made it and if you do something un natural than nature it's obviously gonna suck... trust me I don't have any intention to hurt anyone's feelings but me myself being 5.6 hurts me and there's one thing I would say to all guys comeon try to get a little more height it enhances your personality and will also give you self confidence. just don't relax yourself by reading these girls comments... girls just be like oh comeon we don't care... love shit... bla bla.. but just anyone who is short than them just go and ask them out and see their reaction... they are just hypocrites.. nd m not blaming them for that... as every human is hypocrite but they are just a little more just to show how good they are and how feminine they are so.. hypocrisy is in their traid so don't trust them for these kinds of answers! Yeah it fuckin matters of you are a guy!!! So do something about it or just try dating a girl of your size...(I can see hatred coming at me but I don't care all the things I said was pure truth)
at 5'8.
yes it would bother me. my harsh perspective would make it impossible for me to date a guy shorter than me. So i never have. Some of those weird and odd reasons are:
Granted I am a thin girl and i feel a lot more pressure to stay tiny just because of it. I have a tendency to curl up like a kitten and I need someone to be able to pull me in and cover me so to speak and can't see that with a shorter male. i enjoy my boyfriends always being taller than me. I can wear my combat boots and heels with no issue and it nice to not hear a guy state the stupid obvious.
but then again maybe growing up as a kid boys should not be pointing out girls taller than them. If they didn't make it such a issue in elementary maybe we would have never developed that idea so strongly. It odd how are views get shaped.
I am relatively tall where I’m from (five foot eight) so it doesn’t bother me really. If we vibe we vibe, though I’ve found that guys who are shorter than me don’t love being the shorter one a lot of the times. I don't know why, for example Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas are a HAWT couple and she is notably taller than him. It’s a stigma I think should be left in the past.
I have never been close to a guy shorter than me, so I don't know. It simoly has never happened by chance. Even guys who are considered short never took an interest in me. They were usually drawn into taller women. For some weird reason, only very tall guys happen to be into me even though I am very short. Anyway, my answer is that I have no clue because nothing of such sorts has ever occured to me.
I like guys who are taller than me or those who are the same height as I am.
My is wayy taller than me but my boyfriend is about the same height as I am, slightly taller by a few cm tho.
So yeah I'm not used to being with guys who are shorter than me.
I wouldn't mind if a guy is a bit shorter than me, but the one in the pic, nah. I don't think I'd be attracted to a guy much shorter than me. 2-3cm is fine tho, it's not a big deal.
Would it bother me if my boyfriend got conscious for being shorter than me? No, not much. I'm conscious for being tall anyway, so I'd totally understand and reassure him
Nope,
it wouldn't bother me at all. It used to bug me when I was in my early 20's, but you eventually grow up and become more comfortable with yourself and realize that such small things don't actually matter. It's funny because now I love long legs. I don't think a woman's height matters at all. Unless she's 4' 10" or even 6'8" then its a bit of a different story. I have heard people say that they would prefer a tall guy because they don't want to look down on him when they wear high heels? I don't understand that thought process because without the heels you'er either the same height as him or you're shorter. Weird lol.
Am 188 cm tall (6.2) i went to a few dates with a girl that she was taller than plus she wore high heels so was about 200cm (6.6 or 6.7) and she was worried about how would people judge us (her) being with someone that is shorter than her. I wouldn't mind it but she had a lot of worries about it.
Honestly? In my opinion when you love your girlfriend enough for her to even be called your girlfriend you won't really care about height at all. Then again every case is different for everyone and sometimes it all comes down to preference. As for guys getting conscious of being shorter, i think it often comes from and usually happen because of the looks people usually give and society's sometimes harsh judgement. I know many people who experienced that but i guess if you're with someone, it's for their personality and being attractive for the way they are and that alone is enough of a reason to just don't care at all !
Few people are taller than me, but I'd be upset if my partner felt self-conscious about his height around me. There is no reason for it and I'd hope to help him feel comfortable about it.
If it made someone self-conscious then I don't think I'd be able to date them, since their height and me being tall is the cause of that. They'd need to work on their self-esteem.
Ew no that just looks wrong in everyway. Sorry. 🙁😕😟🥺😬
I'm 5'2.5" 🙃
I prefer 5'4"+, but I'm open to shorter than that. The shortest guy I ever had interest in and asked out for a date was just an inch taller than me.
I don’t care. I’ve dated people much shorter than me, and taller.
Not at all, unless she purposely wore heals, to 'rub it in,'!!! I think tall women, are great, and I would never reject one, just because she is taller than me! That's just silly!! :) :)
If we relate well, and like being together, things like that just don't matter!
Not at. all. I love tall women (I'm 181 cm tall) and would be happy to date a woman taller than me, although I never have. I have dared two almost as tall as me, and that was great.
most guys I know are intimidated by a tall woman.
and just looks weird together.
plus so many tall men are with very short women... why dont tall women date tall men?
I´m one of those rare creatures. A woman and 6´5. I´m currently dating a guy that´s 5´10 who holds my hand and kisses me in public. No problem.
I was married twice to shorter men (3-4 inches). And no, the divorces had nothing to do with height. I might have dated one or two taller guys but I am not sure.
If I was to wait around for a nice guy with great humor, great intelligence, attractive and taller than me I would be waiting around alone for a long time. As long as the guy doesn´t mind I don´t care.
And confidence is so attractive anyways.
Not necessarily no. While it is pretty hard for many women to top 178cm, it is definitely possible.
And besides, if I work on myself enough in terms of personality and making myself confident, my height would be an afterthought.
Besides, if the girl is close to my height, it'll make it easier for kissing ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
It wouldn’t bother me, but it would bother most women, based on my experience. The vast majority of women i have known in my life refuse to date men shorter than themselves. I have one female friend who is 6’4” with heels, and she refuses to date any men shorter than that. Would it surprise you to learn that she has been single for the past ten years, and that she’s always wondering where the “good men” are?
At 5'8.
My boyfriend stands at around 5'6. But in the past, I have always been attracted to shorter guys or those around my height. I think it's the confidence that draws me in when they're not bothered by me being tall. Needless to say, I wouldn't date someone who's intimidated by the height difference.
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