My boyfriend replies very late to my texts. What should I do?

Question

If I ignore his texts and respond after hours just like he does. Will it work? Or will it only cause problems between us?

alpinestars-2002795 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't recommend playing games... personally. The last thing you want to do to a guy is anger him... if you desire his attraction... if you want immediate attention there's far better means of procuring that...

1. Be direct... boys generally don't do games very well. . They are far simpler creatures... some are sooo naive to games they won't even get the hint as your already admitting is occurring... I used to be one of those myself trust me it's more common in boys than you think.

2. Don't be afraid to be direct and say hey you I want your affection or attention... the worst that can happen is he ignores your request and if he does that should really show you how much he does or doesn't care or desire your relationship depending on the response it's either a or b...

3.. if all else fails and you really desperately want his attraction... don't forget you have items he doesn't hint hint nudge nudge.. men are extremely visual creatures... but this may not garner you the attraction you desire... it may be totally physical at first... but if you work it right over time you can use it to have him fall for you if it continues... and perhaps he got so used to you being around... it's totally situation dependent there and how well you play those girl cards that you have...

4. Always keep in mind 2 things...1. Sometimes guys really do just get busy... and it may not really mean he's not into you or cheating... it really just may be he knows he loves you and he feels that's set in stone... and that every moment he doesn't need to be smothering you or sumthing.. maybe he's evn had relationships before you where bad gfs accused him of such.. so he's purposely giving the distance... it really happens. Sometimes women create many of their own issues to one another by playing bs games it seems... so don't be one of those... listen talk it out... get to the bottom of why it's going on... ask a subverted question here or there but maybe not 3 in a row or etc... figure it out use your girl prowess...

Once you figure this out... go from there... the possibilities are really endless...

Hope this helps some at least..

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

You can't force him to reply sooner.
You can only tell him how it makes you feel (neglected, ignored, sad, missing him, or whatever you feel).

But in the larger context here you should probably lower your expectations.
Consider these:
* Just because we have technology in our lives does not mean we should at all times be tethered to it, and at other peoples' beck and call. Think about how life used to be, before we all had a computer in our pocket. It was a bit less convenient, making plans and such, but stress and anxiety levels were also generally lower comparatively.
* Men use far fewer words throughout a day and are quite often overwhelmed with the communication differences of females who prefer/require much more. Therefore what may be a long break between contact may feel very short to him.
* The longer time between contact, the more you potentially will have to talk about when you do. It is a good idea to let a person, and relationship, breathe a little. People do not like to feel suffocated. They will often appreciate the time together more, and have more stories to tell.

dark3am · Accepted Answer

Okay sis, this means one of many things. 1-he lost interest 2-he is busy 3-he is talking to another girl (not verbally, but like the stage before date and stuff) 4-he wants space 5-he is going through something you may or may not be aware of. Im sorry if it seems harsh, but i just stated what was the causes of my recent brake ups

Kaneki05 · Accepted Answer

As someone who has done this and responded late everytime due to not be into her or well struggling with the realtionship. I would say it's a bad sign.
he needs some real good reasons to be late all the time.

Also make sure when your texting him does it seem just like small talk.
does it ever get awkward silence or just small talk then he's like see you tommaro.
This will make it more abvious if he has lost intrest. the problem with some people including myself but i don't do it no more. When they tell someone they will be with them forever or get with someone and say they love each other, it becomes hard when lust leaves and turns out your not into that person to actaully just say stright you don't want to be with them.

because they don't want to look like they lied nor do they want to hurt you. Sometimes you have to push them into a coner, give them a way they can leave with no guilt.
of course never do this if things are working out but when they like this shows if they will fight for you or not.

it's really complex tho.

Goma15 · Answer

Kind of depends on the reason he doesn't do it, I would say. If it's just because he doesn't understand how incredibly annoying it is then it might help him to realize that. If it's because he's just incredibly forgetful or very busy though... it might not.

It also kind of depends on whether he would find it as bothersome as you do. If he does then that might help him understand your position better. I have found that many people fail to see how hurtful, bad, annoying, etc. something is until they experience it themselves. If he doesn't find it as bothersome as you though... I assume it won't have much of an effect.

Either way it could create a confrontation between you two or at least cause him to ask why you're doing that, but then again you might want that in order to sort things out.

I would say though if he doesn't make much of an effort to answer in a timely way then you are under no obligation to answer his texts in a timely way either.

lnva87 · Answer

Well one thing to consider is does he react and respond to he's other messages fast?
Easy to follow when you spend time together will he's phone beep and what he does.
Or if he's phone is silent that can easily explain as he just doesn't know when messages come.

I my self keep sounds on mostly as I like to know right away if there's message on phone and can respond fast if I have time.
But I know many who keep on vibrate only. While I sometimes find it bit annoying that they take long to respond I feel its fair as I know that they do it for everyone.

While we live with technology that makes it possible to be available 24/7 it doesn't mean we have to and to be honest its not healthy. And will my self ignore my phones when I have something to do and don't have work responsibilities to respond on phone.

bigmisssunshine · Answer

It won’t solve any issues, so no it won’t work, whatever you’re trying to accomplish here.

What you should do is have a talk with him about how much it’s bothering you and see why he replies that late - is it just his texting style or is he avoiding you?

spartan55 · Answer

Yeah, that's a great idea. Start playing text games to get him to fall in line and change. All because he doesn't view texting the same way as you, but why should that matter? It's all about YOU, right? Look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself is this something I MUST have in my relationship?

Mollynotgemma · Answer

Don’t play games. Text when you see the message. Don’t do what he does. Just ask him why he messages late. Perhaps he genuinely doesn’t check his phone much... and actually I think it’s a sign of how much he likes you because he’s trying to keep you on your toes!

theCobbler · Answer

Probably should find a new boyfriend... if he's always late in responding and his explanation is  " sorry " ... tells me he doesn't really care about you or your feelings!

MannMitAntworten · Answer

You have already talked with him a few times about the issue to no avail. At this point your only option is to either just get used to this or move on. Your trying the same thing will not cause him to respond faster.

I will note, if he is routinely taking a while to respond, there is usually a reason why someone does this. That might be the subject you mau wish to pull out of him.

Kezzz · Answer

Do the same thing he does and see what his reaction is. If he gets annoyed then you know for sure he's not doing it on purpose.
If he repeats this, then he's either starting to get bored or you're just looking at a potential breakup in the future.

lolcraft · Answer

Being passive aggressive in your response will only make it worse. Personally I'm terrible at returning texts in a timely manner, he could just be the same way. Often I feel there's no response necessary. Texting isn't that great means of communication anyways.

Anonymous · Answer

some people don't like texting. i used to get in trouble a lot with my ex bc i hate texting and he loved to text me all day. It was torture. It felt like i had to be tethered to my phone. try to be understanding, please. often times it's not your fault!

loveslongnails · Answer

Why don't you #1) ask him about it and #2) text less often.
Maybe you don't text much in the first place, but I'm going to guess you text way more often than he wants to respond to? I'm just guessing.

Adam1978 · Answer

That wouldn't work, because you will just texting the way he sees it which fit him perfectly. in my opinion if you want instant reply call him, if your fine waiting text him. Each media has its own expected reaction time. All text forms are slow.

slatyb · Answer

On days you don't see each other one convo at the end of the day is enough. Only people with no life can respond to texts all day.

ecfresh · Answer

Texting isn’t meant for conversations. If you want to talk to him, why not call or FaceTime?

foxrider77 · Answer

You should visit him and see who else is over. If no one then have a fun session with him so you didn’t waste your gas for nothing.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I wouldn't text you back either... this question is my example as to why.

akshay1998 · Answer

It's same with my girl ignoring didn't work. You can change him after your date that worked with me 😉

ewright_1 · Answer

You probably should put down your phone and just do other things. Text back at your own pace. Sometimes I'm able to text back quickly and other times I'm not and he's probably the same.

AaronKrieger · Answer

Get busy because that's why he probably responds late

Hannibal_Lecter420 · Answer

Either deal with it on your own or find a way to overcome it. Maybe he's just not the texting type

reptocarl2 · Answer

Have you tried talking to him about it instead of playing juvenile games?

ZELLxoxo · Answer

Communicate. Dont play games with each other.. stay honest

BlackWidow93 · Answer

Just find something to occupy your mind in the meantime.

AdithyaR · Answer

Has he given an explanation as to why he replies late?

hellacray · Answer

Maybe the guy's busy. Have you thought of that?  I've had women take a day or two to respond. Which to me is much worst than a few hours.

Walrus_au · Answer

Will it work for what? Are you really that needy and controlling? Just how high maintenence are you trying to be?

vshl869 · Answer

Show him what you have inside this wardrobe ( indubitably you have precious gift to offer to you boy) Task a bath with him Then everything would be fine

Laozi · Answer

You can do that or you can tell him directly that what's wrong about him.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t see why it would be a problem in the first place. You send a text and just do other things, when a text comes back you reply whenever and it just goes on like that.

rishabh0915 · Answer

Find out the reason first... he might giving his time to someone else... just ignore him for few days and upload whatsapp story that you find someone else... observe his reaction... either he comes back and stay with you or he just don't care

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Some of us guys do not consider our phones an appendage.

hershey1kiss2 · Answer

Just tell him how it makes you feel. If he cares enough about how you feel he will at least work to change or to improve.

Anonymous · Answer

Dont ignore him. Its just making it worse. Take some time to talk to him about it. Like i know that feeling when you think he has something more importent than you. So just talk about it.

Mystery_World · Answer

You didn't mention how busy he is.. is he a workaholic or doing some stuff where phones aren't allowed over there?

coffeewithcream · Answer

Don't take his calls.  Ask him later, "How does it feel?"

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

He's probably busy with life. It's not like he isn't texting you back at all.

ItalianGuy2021 · Answer

Because he is obviously sexting other girls so he doesn't reply to you

Anonymous · Answer

Dump him. If he doesn't text back in.267 seconds, he doesn't give a shit about you

janeross0915 · Answer

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NewZion · Answer

He's getting tired of you.

kryptocynical · Answer

Do you text back quickly?

Gedaria · Answer

It might be late to you. He might not think so...

Agem123 · Answer

Well, have you asked him why he replies late?

EnglundUberAlles · Answer

Yes, give him a taste of his own medicine.

Asianguy123 · Answer

He is sugar mama digger

Anonymous · Answer

Find a boyfriend who is text obsessed?

In_Trance · Answer

Wait patiently

steveranger · Answer

You can replace him

Anonymous · Answer

Double text him

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