Do you want a weak housewife?

[LaureenVO]

I just saw this question about that woman are weak and need protection ALL the time. Then someone said woman need to clean, get kids, cook and stuff like that. It honestly made me so mad, like it's 2020 and some people still think like that? Maybe in developing countries. But still. I could never ever be a housewife and the more people say woman should be a housewife, the more i feel like doing the opposite lmao. Maybe i think this way because my parents both work and i have just been raised like that? I don't know..

How do you think about this? And guys, do you actually expect this from your wife?

Please be respectful!

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+1 y

I don't like it to be depending on others at all. I also don't like it when others are depending on me. Honestly i already feel guilty when someone buys me a cookie lol. Maybe that also is a reason why i want to work myself.

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+1 y

+ i do fightsports to at least be able to defend myself a bit. I think it's pretty important to learn that.

[crmoore]

I do want a weak housewife. If I were to say "I expect my wife to be a housewife" that can be interpreted in two different ways. There are several different definition of "expect." The first way the above statement could be interpreted is that I think woman should be housewives, or at least any woman that I would marry should be a housewife or conform to one. This uses the definition of exepct that states "to consider bound in duty or obligated" (like a boss telling an employee they expect the paperwork on their desk by the end of the day), and this is not the main definition of expect. The other way this can be intepreted, which would accurately describe my belief, is that I think my wife will be a housewife because that's the type of woman I find attractive and is likely the type of woman I will pursue, not because all woman should be or that any woman I like should change into, simply because that's what I find appealing. This uses the definition of expect that states "to consider probable or certain" which is the main definition of expect. I don't think woman need to clean (in the sense that it is a woman's job rather than a man's), have kids, or cook. As for weakness, I find weakness to be attractive. Perhaps it inspires some instinct in me, but it makes me feel good to protect her. And the more weak she is, the more I have to protect her. The more I have to protect her, the more enjoyable it is. I also have a strong compulsion to take care of my romantic interests. If she's independent, I can't do that, or at least it will be to a lesser extent than someone who is particularly weak, helpless, or dependent. So to wrap it all up, I think women should be themselves. If they're not the housewife type, so be it. There's no problem with that. There are plenty of guys out there who love that. As for me, I simply find the weak housewife type to be rather endearing and that's likely what I will end up with, thus, that is what I "expect."

[LaureenVO]

I get it that it just attracts you. I appreciate it a lot that you are talking about a group of woman who are just like that and not woman in general. I respect you because it just attracts you and you don't think everyone should be a housewife.

[crmoore]

I appreciate the kind words and civility, thank you.

[chriscdi]

idc about all that, i just wanna protect a girl ☺

[LaureenVO]

Yea okay i get that :) You can also protect an independent woman haha

[chriscdi]

yep i would 😂💯

[LaureenVO]

Why do you feel the need to protect a girl btw?

[chriscdi]

natural guy instinct i guess, protecting women is just something we were born with is my guess

besides when a girl feels safe, they are happy, happiness is everything when it comes to a relationship right? 🤷🏽‍♂️

[LaureenVO]

Yes being happy is one of the reasons for a relationship! Ty for the answer

[chriscdi]

💯🙏

[Alex_andrine]

It's ok for women to want to cook, clean and have kids , etc. It's ok for women to want to work, to not have kids, to live their life the way they want. BUT someone saying women should do this and that is not ok. Like we have to categorize everything and the role of everybody depending on their gender? It's not because you have a vagina that you'll be a good mother or want to.

[LaureenVO]

Exactly. If you want to be a housewife, do your thing. It's just that when others tell you to be a housewife, or to work, that annoys me :)

[Alex_andrine]

Of course it's annoying sweetie. Don't pay to much attention to those people. I totally understand, this is so frustrating 😂

[LaureenVO]

Okay thank you haha

[cute_short_nerd]

Nah bro don’t treat me like that.

[LaureenVO]

Mood

[Unit1]

With all due respect!
Submissive housewives (who are 100% financially dependent on us), who spend their time mostly cooking, cleaning, ironing, fucking our brains out and under any other circumstances (except for emergencies) never leave the kitchen/bedroom except to bring dinner and beer and her pussy... they are at the bottom the very last types of women I would consider dating in year 2020. Living costs money and she's not bringing any modern survivabilities into it. How are they different from being a pushover?

FUCK ALL THAT SHIT!!!

I want a childfree career woman, who wants to build an empire with me and go on vacations abroad! There is so much to do and so little time and resources. Be a somebody!

[LaureenVO]

That sounds good! I personally want kids, but i also want to travel a lot. Go on vacation, be independent and free to do what i want to do.

[Unit1]

That's cool and all. I can't stand pushovers. They are the equivalent of male doormats, that let women talk over themselves. Similar to how the housewives submit to their husbands like a slave. Ugh!

[LaureenVO]

Yess exactly! That also annoys me. That some housewifes are not only being a housewife, but if the husband asks 'make me something to eat', they just do that. I mean if he had a long day i get it if he asked me nicely, but some woman just do anything like a slave.

[Unit1]

Nothing wrong with serving your partner regardless if it was a long day or not.
What's wrong is giving in to being forced and not respecting boundaries or not having your boundaries being respected.
There is a difference!

[LaureenVO]

True, that's what i meant :)

[MrOracle]

Being a housewife does not make one weak. Keeping a home and raising children well is one of the most important jobs anyone can do. Having an office job does not make one strong either. in my opinion, you are conflating several things that aren't necessarily related.

[LaureenVO]

I also did not mean to say a housewife is weak haha. I just meant if anybody would want a housewife which is also weak :)

[I-am-a-nobody]

It takes a strong woman to lay aside a career to cook, clean and do housework. My wife (who was an editor) did this plus homeschooling. I earn enough to pay the bills. It's interdependence and it's beautiful. Now that the kids are pretty much grown, she's thinking of ways to get back in the workforce. I respect her and we are both glad we did it this way.

[LaureenVO]

Well if she was okay with it i respect the choice!

[worldscolide]

I honestly dont care what a woman wants as long as she does what she wants. Meaning if she wants to be a housewife, thats ok, if she doesn't want that, then thats ok as well. My wife chose to be a housewife, which is fine with me.. Id have preferred she had some kind of career on the off chance i die or we have a divorce, so she can support her self. But again its not an issue for me.

[LaureenVO]

Okay i appreciate that! ty

[abc3643]

No, generally men don't like that.
Men want partners.
We don't want to be constant superheroes rescuing damsels in distress.

[LaureenVO]

Okay that's nice to hear.

[crmoore]

I certainly do

[Anonymous]

I think being a homemaker is an important role in a family. However nobody should have to take on that role if they don't want to. I feel that if I marry a woman that doesn't want to be a homemaker; then it would fall to me and I would take up that mantle. I grew up with my mom staying home to take care of us kids; which is probably why I value that role so highly.

[LaureenVO]

Yes you were raised with it. I've never had a stay at home mom

[nawtee_me]

I would like a wife but not necessarily a housewife. If she wants to work that is okay with me, if she doesn't then that is okay with me too but it would be her choice. I jokingly told my ex-wife that doing dishes was woman's work and she through a plate at me. lol As for having ids, well you can't do that with a woman, but that is not their sole purpose in life. However, receiving oral sex should be... ;) just kidding. I love to give a girl oral sex. sorry got off topic...

[AcidT0y]

Nah I'm not paying for a woman to live in my house rent free. If she isn't working then she can live somewhere else. If I want a maid I'll hire a maid.

[LaureenVO]

Yea i get that. I agree that a woman should just work.

[AcidT0y]

For sure. I think guys these days wanting a housewife have more money than sense xD

[Unit1]

Ha, good one! However I actually think they have neither. Either the cost of normal living is outrageous or the jobs don't pay enough. Or both.

[AcidT0y]

Exactly. If you have two people living together then you want two wages coming in or the average person would struggle to live comfortably in the current economic climate. I don't want to live my life with someone else's financial needs tied to me. That isn't appealing in any way.

[Unit1]

That's what I'm talking about!

[ShadowofRegret]

I don't, I prefer a strong, capable woman who does what she wants.

[Disguise]

Normal strengthed housewife😂, home-maker to be exact.

Its just 2020, why you acting like 2080?

[LaureenVO]

Huh?

[NorthwestRider]

Nope, why would I want a weak woman. My fiancée is very strong and independent

[KrakenAttackin]

No one wants a "weak" anything or anyone. For a woman to stay home, raise kids, run a household, and support a husband, is not "weak". A weak women works a dumb office job and whines about being "oppressed".

[LaureenVO]

Okay but what if you're wife just wants to work like everyone? And it's okay for the kids and you clean the house together? Maybe it's not weak, but what if she wants that. Do you dislike that?

[KrakenAttackin]

I want what is best for the kids. Daycare is not best for the kids.

[LaureenVO]

My mom and dad both made agreements on who works when. Because of that, there always was someone at home and 1 day in the week i went to daycare. They also tried to work more at home until i went to school. Is that not a good option? (just asking since i am very curious!)

[KrakenAttackin]

OK, that sound reasonable. My problem is with people who define a woman who wants to stay home with her children as "weak". Raising strong children means a strong family. If we had more strong families we would not have many of the social problems we have today.

Women need to realize their own value and it is not working for some ungrateful corporate master (such is the fate for most men), it is in bringing life and the ability to thrive for her children. Is there any more important job in the world?

[KrakenAttackin]

Your mom and dad seem like people who adore you. You are very fortunate.

[LaureenVO]

I don't see 'being a mother' as a job. It's part of your daily life, you don't get paid for it, you don't have vacation from it and even when you're sick you have to take care. But i personally believe that a woman and a man should take care of the kids together. :)

[LaureenVO]

And tysm! Yes they love me a lot and i love them!!

[KrakenAttackin]

"You don't get paid for it, you don't get vacation from it". You are speaking as someone who has NEVER been in the real work world. With a man at work and woman at home with the kids, what do you think the man does with his paycheck? He essentially turns it over to his wife so she can run the household and care for the kids. Women control more than 63% of the assets in the U. S. As for vacation, the man gets two weeks off each year and does what? He comes home and largely tries to give the wife a break. Yes, both parents should raise the kids together, but please don't spout the feminist propaganda that being a wife and mother is "unpaid" work, because that is a load of shit.

[LaureenVO]

It was not even meant to be a feminist comment sorry if i offended you in any way. It's just how i think about it and you clearly have a different opinion which is fine. I get it and respect that. Ty for telling me this

[KrakenAttackin]

No worries, sorry if I was a bit stern with you. I am a little rough around the edges ;)