Why do men take pictures of other women and teenagers in their bikinis when on vacation with their?

[Anonymous]

significant other? My fiancé, who is 50, when we recently took a vacation together, took pictures of women in their bikinis frolicking on the beach and some butt shots too. There were also pictures of teenagers. There were pictures of me, but I was to the far right as the teenagers walked up the beach. I would say up to 17 pictures were taken. On one stretch of beach a lady was reading a book, standing in the water in her bikini, watching her son and he took a full picture of her from behind and then a butt shot of her as he walked by her. There were about nine shots of a woman in her bikini at the front of a sailboat. My fiancé was sitting below and beside her while she was standing to the side of him. He took several shots of her from behind, a full body view, and with the sails mast. He always says he is going to walk up the beach a bit. Surprisingly, he didn't hide the pictures from me. It made me sick to my stomach that he did this.

[dave216]

Becoming sick to your stomach at the thought of your husband photographing nature's beauty is troubling. You are exhibiting an unnatural reaction to a fairly natural behavior of your male spouse. You may want to seek some professional counseling in regard to this feeling. It is very common as a woman ages to become jealous of her spouses attentions to younger females. And most men will display the good manners to largely hide their observations from their spouse, but they all still look. I an guessing that your husband feels his appreciation of the youthful female form to be perfectly natural and so felt no need to be clandestine about it. He could use better manners, but you should not be overly concerned about it.

Let me give you an analogy that you can perhaps identify with. If you were a life long horse lover, attended horse shows, were into horse racing, etc. And you acquired a beautiful horse for your very own. Would you then lose all interest in the horse shows and the races? No, you would not. You may love your horse dearly, but you would still enjoy the beauty of the species and observe closely the new generation of horses just reaching their prime. That does not mean you no longer want your horse, and your situation in no way indicates your husband no longer wants you.

I think you are letting your insecurities, and we all have them, get a bit out of hand. It is still you he comes home to every day. It is you he goes on vacations with. What you and he have is far deeper than physical beauty. Share your feeling about this with him, but try to understand him also. Perhaps communication and mutual understanding will help him to behave in discrete mature manner and you to feel less insecure. :)

[elliesaur]

The QA can own one horse, or she can own 200.The horse is the equivalent of a slave, not a wife.Your comparison is idiotic.

Also, 50 year old man taking pictures of teenagers sounds alright to you?It's not "appreciation of the youthful female form", it's fap material of minors.And the fact that he did this in front of her is disrespectful.

Kudos for the big words you used though.

[Xia90]

dude it is wrong taking pictures of teenaged girls (not to mention if their possibly underaged teenaged girls). Totally wrong and disgusting on his part.

[Observer373]

I'm a 51-year-old male and I can speak to this. I don't think he should take photos of women if you don't like it, as the way you describe it. I take lots of pictures of women in bikinis too, but I'm not married or anything. My suggestion is that if he likes taking pictures of women in bikinis, he should do it when he's not with you. Like go to a bikini contest or bikini car wash at a sportsbar like Twin Peaks or Harley Davidson. But you should both be honest with each other; he should not do it behind your back. And taking pictures of girls does not absolve him of his responsibilities to his home, wife and regular life.

[Anonymous]

Lady, you seriously underestimate how the suggestive/semi-naked/partly-unclad female form turns on the average man.

Your guy (like me) is of an age where he has just passed mid-life crisis. He needs to "prove" himself again...

If I were you, I would not worry myself too much though...

* I get turned on by the female form, and would have no hang-ups about watching images of random nude women, in, say, p*rn.

* I doesn't matter to me if a woman is 50, 30, 18 or 17. An attractive body is an attractive body (and sometimes I'm willing to ogle at even less-than-attractive). There's no way I would want to have sex with anyone of these. I'm in a long-term relationship.

* I doubt your partner wants these images for masturbation. There's so much stuff on the Net anyway. He just wants some memories of a trip, and would naturally go for what he finds most "attractive".

Lastly, I'd caution you against the comments of some younger folk. They don't know what they're talking about, and might believe that people of their parents' generation are bereft of any traces of sexuality. Wouldn't you be better off just asking someone of your (or your partner's) age? I would suspect so...

[Anonymous]

I guess I'm one of the only ones who thinks this isn't that big of a deal. he's taking pictures of pretty women. it's like taking pictures of animals at the zoo. you get home and have all these pictures of giraffes and monkey's and you're like "ok at the time I was like wow you don't see this every day but now I have a lot of pictures that basically are meaningless" he just saw them, took the pictures cause it was visually interesting to him. If my husband did that I'd tease him mercilessly about it for months but I wouldn't be mad about it. I'd frame one as a joke and give it to him for his birthday at his family birthday party of course ;) with his mom there cause ya know he ain't as perfect as she thinks he is :P

yes I'm evil! bwah

[Xia90]

It is wrong people are not like animals at the zoo otherwise my girl would be in a cage in the dungeon hidden beneath my basement.

[Opinion Owner]

some girls like that :P as long as she isn't there against her will then I'm not here to judge you're filthy S&M tendencies. I still say it's not wrong and people are overreacting. As for the teenage pictures now that's another story...depends on the age of the teenager...17/18? no biggie...13/14 that's gonna be a problem for me and something is gonna get said and respect is gonna get lost.

[Xia90]

do you check out young guys? that's wrong too even 17 is wrong. 18 is fine adult.

[Opinion Owner]

how can you tell the age difference while on the beach between 17 and 18 though? now 14 vs 18 yes you can tell and that's icky. if I were to see a hot guy who looked 18ish on the beach I'd look at him yes should I ask him first if he's 17 1/2 or 18 and one day first though? I think we're splitting hairs here now. it's not like this guy goes to the beach a couple of days a week to play pervert it was one trip and a hand ful of pics. I'd tell him to stop with the pictures if it bothered me.

[dave216]

Legally speaking, you have no expectation of privacy in a public setting and it is perfectly legal to take photos, and age is not an issue. Even if the children were preteen and nude, the pictures are legal. Many people don't realize that it is not child p*rnography unless the child is involved in some sort of sexual act. This what makes traffic cams and news photografers legal. As long as you are in a public setting you have no reasonable expectation of privacy and you can photograph what ever.

[livelifetothefull]

Ummmm, this is kind of pedophile-ish, and perverted.

I don't know where you live, but where I'm from, taking pictures on the beach, for 'personal' purposes, without the object of the photographs consent, is against the law!

And your fiance would be tagged as a sex offender (yes, that far) and maybe even a pedophile considering some of these girls were 17!

This is not right, its in fact, sickening.

Creepy..

Don't put up with this in future.. :s

#Livelifetothefull#

To think, some creepy 50yr old man walking the beaches taking photos of innocent girls in their bikinis, :S

[Anonymous]

I have to agree with Drowned its likely for masturbation. My husband never takes photos of strangers and that your man is 50 and looking at teenagers I would be concerned. Yes men masturbate (so do women), yes they will check out an attractive woman (woman! not child), and yes many do look at p*rn (I admit to looking at p*rn) but honestly I don't know that anyone of my friend's mates are taking pictures of strangers that's well creepy.

[Anonymous]

Welcome to the digital camera age. Men can archive the images of what they love.

What straight man doesn't like to look at a hottie? A woman's body invokes passion and gets the heart pumping. It's a physical / primal reaction. The pictures are sort of like collecting trophies of their fantasies. This is offensive to some but it's the truth about the mind set.

Man needs to exercise control over his primal desires though otherwise they'd be running around like neanderthals with their d***s in their hands banging whatever they could get their hands on:-) Again I believe it's a normal impulse.

What will make matters worst is to cause a man to hide and withhold his feelings.

If there is insecurity in your relationship then address that, not what he looks at or takes pictures of.



Think about the old days when masturbation was considered an awful sin and how anyone that did it was sick, going blind, and going to hell. What makes people crazy and the real reason people do sick and bizarre things is the suppression and denial of desires and pleasure.

[Night4lover]

I don't know what this is about give him some p*rn, why do you want to marry him to make him miserable. I'm 38 women do crazy stuff to get my attention they flirt and it's fun even youths. I guess he could be considering it as them giving him approval. If he wants to take a few pictures, the way to approach it is ask politely and get the best pictures you can it's so fun to do. I guess he could use them but, really that is dumb too considering that p*rn is so much better.

I feel sorry for you because you don't see how life is and everyone you have had relationships with must have lied to you.

[sigsauer45]

if your fiance is taking pictures of woman and you may what to think about marrying him because he a pervert for taking pictures of woman that are not you and if he is taking pictures of they butts what make you think he won,t mess around on you after you are marred if he taking this kind of pictures now do you real think he going to stop taking pictures of sexy woman on the beach or by the pool some place if you are not in his pictures now what make you think you are going to be in them after you are marred it my be time to think real hard be for you do this guys his age should only be looking at the one they what to marry I don,t what to be mean here but I don,t think he real what to be with you that bad if he is looking at woman

[Anonymous]

Eh. . . what he's doing is just a more blatant form of checking out hot girls. Every guy does it. True, we don't all take pictures, but he's clearly taken the saying "take a picture, it'll last longer" to heart. If he were taking the shots in front of you AFTER you'd voiced your upset, then he would be being inconsiderate. The least he could do is keep it on the DL. Same goes for guys looking at hot women.

But yeah, taking pictures of hot girls at the beach, while a little off, isn't really a big deal.

[soe11]

I don't mind someone taking pictures of my girlfriend on beach, if do not want or she doesn't want to be taken her picture, she should not be wearing in public, simple as that.

If I take pictures of my family, can not be avoided other people from background.

[lovelylife]

I'm sorry but your finance is an idiot. It's completely disrespectful to you, and the girls that are being photograph without there knowledge. Forget the fotos and reconsider your future with this guy.

[DrownedInBananaMilk]

unless you are very naive you exactly know why he takes pics of them. he needs masturbation material.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

That's your SO, not all men.