I'd want to be told they did, and then I'd likely break up with them because if they are running around and sleeping with half the town behind my back, clearly they are not in the right relationship for themselves at the moment, or should not be in a relationship until they know what they are looking for and have some more stability in life and know what they want. Some people also just don't enjoy being in relationships and would rather just be with random people more for the thrill of a new body and then never see them again.
You have asked a few questions on this topic recently. Is that currently a problem in your life?
The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Someone who had cheated on you once is much more likely to repeat that behavior. Would you want to know if someone intended to cheat on you in the future?
My ex did cheat on me. And yes, he, or rather the other woman confessed to it. Was I upset? Yes. Angry? VERY.
But I knew the truth and it allowed me to get rid of said garbage so I could be happy! I rather know the truth than live in ignorant bliss just for the sake of being in an unhappy relationship.
I won't forgive it no matter what ! And if I said that I have forgiven my partner that's a lie. So for me, I absolutely want to know, but if he regrets it and knows that he'll never do it again and that was mistake he'll never do it again, I'd probably don't want to know otherwise I want to know.
But why would you want to stay with someone who would cheat on you? And if you don't know, that means he didn't even come clean about it, which signifies no remorse unless it's a one time only, but usually if someone gets away with it, they'll usually keep doing it... You deserve better than that... So yes, I'd definitely want to know to end it... As much as might hurt, would hurt far more to stay with someone and find out years later
I definitely want to know the truth so i can leave and move on. Why stay in relationship with someone who can't remain faithful/dedicated to you and just want to live the single life? I've heard that a lot, people not wanting to know if their partners cheated or are cheating. I don't know how people can be comfortable living a lie/ fake relationship. That is not healthy what so ever and in the end will only hurt you and your self esteem. People need to know their worth and not just settle for anyone or anything. You're worthy of having someone who wants you and only you.
This is a tricky one because there are so many factors to consider. Married? Kids? Economic stability/instability? Emotional vs physical affair?
It's easy to destroy something and many people say that the person cheated on didn't break them up; that the cheater did. Sort of like excommunication in the Christian church. They say that they don't kick you out but that your actions have removed you from the community already.
I would want to know so that I am prepared for any diseases shee gets or so that I could try to fix the underlying problem that caused it.
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I have cheated. And regretted it, because it was wrong. Even though before hand I had caught him emotionally cheating. Flirting on Facebook with his girl friends. Telling them he could be so much better to them. He also had a habit of ignoring me and berating me for being "too clingy"
I told him my self. Because I was under the impression that he loved me and I was sorry and promised never to do it again. And I never did. But he never stopped doing all the things he was doing. And when I brought it up to him. He blamed me for cheating... even though he'd been talking to other girls before I cheated...
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In fact you've probably spoken to him on here already. He has answered many of your questions.
@SicilianSlice Eh. He's ran around on several social networks talking about his terrible ex and how she cheated and what not... throwing himself a pity party for likes and sexts... but never brings up the fact that he has his own tail to step on...
@QooLipBite Yeah. He is. He made a whole ass case about how women are cheaters. Because of me. But he fails to mention how many times in the years of our relationship I have had to ask him to stop talking to other women the way that he does because it made me feel really bad about myself. He hid it from me many times. His excuse was that he never touched them, ergo he never did anything bad.
@QooLipBite don't get me wrong. I'm mad at what he's doing, but if I oust him, it doesn't make me a better person. I cheated 8+ years ago and I haven't done it since. To him or my new partner. But he still cries about it. He would come to my house every day to see his kid... he would secretly watch me undress and when I caught him, I told him to stop. It was somehow my fault. But he has had several relationships, I was never aware of because he always made it seem like he was still there for me. His partners knew about me. But he didn't tell them he kept breadcrumbing me. And he has been here sexting other females while being in real life relationships.
100% YES!!! I am one that could never stay with a cheater. Thinking about someone else touching her, his hands on her, her wanting him, her mouth on his, her mouth on his cock, him inside of her, his fluids in and on her... I would never want her again ever no matter what. She would be dead ro me. I would want to know so I could get the hell out of there.
I was once told by an ex of mine, that he cheated on me actually it was about 10 mins after he did it, he came home he said " Yeah I fucked that bitch she look like you from the back to that's what turned me on, but first she sucked my dick then I turned her around and fucked this shit outta that bitch, I was thinking of you though. I still love you boo and yeah I'd fuck her again, I think we should have a 3 sum."... My jaw dropped. I didn't know what to say or how to react, but I can tell you one thing I don't think I ever respected someone's honesty so much ever. Yes I was hurt but from them on I realized, even if the truth hurts it's better to be told the truth and be hurt rather then to be lied to and be hurt knowing it's a lie.
Yes, I do think that cheating can be sub categorized into many different areas, people can emotionally cheat and physically cheat, i think that we obsess over the physical component, however I would want to know both tbh, if my girlfriend was with me but in love with another that’s just as important to me than if she had a random 1 nighter.
Honestly? I don't know if there's a right answer for me... If I don't know then I'm happy not knowing... Obveously I would want to know about it, especially if I found out I'd rather find out from her. But I also know ignorance is bliss... So if I don't know, that I don't know it... I'd still be fine... I don't know it's weired
Wow... the asker really surprised me. If it we me I would want to know. You can get an STI /STD if ur partner cheated and picked up some thing. I hold honesty and trust in high esteem and I will not be able to stay happy after knowing I was cheated on. I think I'm a catch and an honest and faithful woman and I deserve the same. I'd rather be alone and happy than coupled with a cheater. No one can be truly happy living a compromise.
I should disclose that every girlfriend I ever had cheated on me at some point. Most I found out about and others I suspected, but in hindsight, the suspected ones left unquestionable clues, I just didn't know it at the time.
Because of this, I assume nearly everyone cheats, and scientific studies have confirmed it. Most people would rather not know, according to those studies.
I would have to say yes I would want to know if she has cheated on me because I don't know if it's in my mind or? Because if I don't know I feel like I'm being made a fool of and what I mean by that is I don't want to have some guy or Guys snickering behind my back laughing and smiling saying I slept with his ol'lady last night but hey that's just me and I really hated to get jealous because in my past I have had to beat a few guys up to teach them a lesson
If you have cheated then you tell your partner or no its depends on you. Because when you cheated, it means you have fallen down in your own eyes and Once a person loses respect in own eyes, he/she will have to regret his whole life. But if your partner forgives you, then do not do it again.
Yes, because not telling me is the same thing as continuing an affair, so as long as I don't find out, they are cheating, and I'm in a false relationship. It's my life and my choice and you are robbing me of that choice by not telling me. I could forgive if I'm told. However, if I have to find out the hard way or a very long time after, you are dead to me.
yes. because i value trust higher than loyalty. if i can't trust you, i don't even care if you're loyal or not. i can't have a relationship with someone i can't trust. if you're not loyal, i will probably still break up but if there's lack of trust, there's no chance of it working.
Yes, as much as the truth hurts.. It's absolutely necessary that you and your partner are on a certain level of trust, this plays a key part in having a healthy relationship with not only your Female/Male.. But with friends, family, strangers/everyone!
Well I know 1 of my exes had confessed about cheating on me once... and after her confession of her cheating on me, she broke up with me & began dating the new guy. ... and just to really rub things in & finally putting the nail into the coffin,... she marries him.
I wouldn't be able to handle being lied to, so I would definitely want to know. I'd rather hear the cold hard truth than live in an illusion and trying to explain to myself why my intuition is telling me something if very off.
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