I ruined my girlfriend's self-esteem and I feel horrible? (Page 2)

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I love my girlfriend and she is a fox but I made her feel ugly. I thought I was joking with her. Since I felt comfortable around her and she seemed confident I didn't think she would take it serious. I commented about her breast being saggy, I lifted them up and told her "they would look good", she didn't say anything and played cool so I thought it was ok and I kept commenting for the next months. I also compared her to porns and a girl I used to hook up with and told her how perky they were. I just wanted to piss her off and make her jealous, she is cute when she is annoyed. She told me that natural breasts don't look like that and I said that they looked hot and I wanted that way. She seemed very upset I kissed her and told her she was the best. I also commented on her nose, weight, teeth in different times. One day she bursted into tears and asked me why would I do that, told me I caused her sleepless nights and mental breakdowns, she said she was trying so hard to love herself despite all the pressure in todays world and I ruined it. I feel like the biggest jerk ever. I didn't mean to hurt her and didn't think she would care. I always compliment her since the day we met but she is only stuck with the "insulting jokes". I apologized deeply I compliment her body and nose now but she doesn't seem to believe it. She used to be cool, now she is fragile, cries a lot, needs reassurance, jealous and obsessed with her looks. Even though I'm in love with her I tried to break up with her, I couldn't forgive myself and had a bad conscience she told me to stay because she loves me so much. 2 months have passed, she gets defensive when I mention an another girl, she randomly asks me If she is ordinary, would I like her more If she had longer hair and a smaller nose. It breaks my heart. She is gorgeus and out of my league. How can I heal her? I love her and she doesn't want me gone despite all. (I didn't use to be like this, I had low self esteem in the first place this year)

TeddyGotT · Answer

Yeah you were joke and obviously you did means these things, saying them over and over again in a playful way doesn't mitigate the "realness" of the comments.

The better questions would be, do you want make it up to her to make you feel better or her?

OddBeMe · Answer

I guess I don’t know what you said about her teeth, nose etc. But she sounds very unhinges emotionally. I’m also unhinged at times, its called “manic” and comes with depression/anxiety. I actually there’s some spectrum of bipolar disorder and prob me and your girlfriend is on a lower scale.

Does she seem manic a lot, or clinically depressed?

Browneye57 · Answer

You're an asshole. Ya got some learn'n to do.  On the flip side though, YOU are NOT responsible for her FEELINGS. She OWNS them, she gets to decide.  You ruined nothing but YOUR reputation.

ThatGuy133 · Answer

Only time will heal that situation. Don’t make any dumb comments like that anymore and spend the rest of your days showering her with praise. Definitely don’t compare her to other women... even if she asks you to.

Anonymous · Answer

When you love someone you accept and embrace the good and bad (flaws). Action is better than mere words, show her you love every single part of her.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Well your in the dog house no 1 wants people cutting down there body parts its like a girl saying you got a fat beer belly so only thing that mite make her forgive you is to do something she wants you to do for her like get in shape or help do any chores she ask

Bandit74 · Answer

I don't know, just explain it to her like you did here and stop making insulting remarks about her body.

Avaemmaa · Answer

Really there’s nothing you can do. Once it’s said you can’t take it back. Just keep giving her your best self. That’s how she will heal.

Archerer · Answer

You sound like a fucking asshole, she deserves better. You clearly aren't mature enough for a relationship.

Lemia · Answer

Girls are extemely sensitive about her breasts and when a partner jokley mocks them it amplerfies. Actions speak lounder then words.

simplelikeme · Answer

That is one mistake you do not do. You never compare your girlfriend to anyone else oh, that's the worst thing you could do. Honestly I don't know how I could tell you to save this. But if I were you I would start kissing a lot of butt LOL

thekissesofthesun · Answer

Omg you ruined it real bad. Just stay away from her now.

Justacatlady · Answer

Dude you did mean it. Or you wouldn’t have said those things. You were an ass. I hope she breaks up with you a dates someone who lifts her up the way you should have from the get go.

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

Q - Q I don't know how to fix a fuggup this bad... at least she stll loves you... you might be her main guy... a side piece wouldn't have got this kind of treatment...

Anonymous · Answer

Messing with a woman’s confidence is the fastest way to lose her, shame on you, fucking prick

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Yes u didn't do the right thing.. imagine her holding ur dick and saying it's not gud enuf.. and comments on other guys dick.. I m sure u won't like it

Clayaya · Answer

Dude you ain’t shit. Get therapy so that you aren’t ruining other people’s self esteem. She deserves better.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Damn, dude. Note to any other guy reading this: Never pick on a woman's breasts. That's just something you don't do.

MrTaboo · Answer

Why the hell would you do that? Yes you should feel horrible. Itll take ten times more work to fix that.

CindyRuns · Answer

You're an absolute slimeball... she deserves better !!!

KristaGrym · Answer

"She is a fox". No more questions your honour. If you "talk"like that in an App imagine in real life. You are an abuser possibly and you shouldn't have partner

Iron_Man · Answer

Make it up to her and explain to her in great detail everything and ask for forgiveness

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like the other guy she is chilling with is probably gonna fix this problem best.

Her guy friend since Grammar school that has patiently been waiting in the friend zone dugout is now being called up!!! 😈🤣

markcrums101 · Answer

Just dont insult her so often tf its fully your fault for being a dick

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

You deserve this. Your jokes suck. Mine are better. what happen. Your weapon malfunction

Bella431 · Answer

Honestly you sound like an asshole and you don’t deserve her.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

I will get shot before I believe you did this by accident. If you did, you're a moron. How do you fuck up this blatantly?  Idiot. 🤦‍♂️

Figure09 · Answer

Stop letting these people walk all over you. Go talk to this girl and tell her all of this. Tell her how much you care.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Dude you were basically verbally abusing her. You're toast & you kinda deserve it.

Heartonmysleeve88 · Answer

god I'm glad I never date when I was in my teens and 20s. Y'all sound like a huge mess. Just stay single and learn from your stupidly

msc545 · Answer

After verbally abusing her like this, what the hell did you expect? Gratitude? A blow job? She really should leave you.

An_Impulse · Answer

this is why you should be alone in the wilderness.

JesseCraft · Answer

You don't deserve her

OfDeath · Answer

Get her jewelry. Works every time.

BillysBabe · Answer

You're an ass

Clyde_123 · Answer

Oooh she deserves better.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I totally understand her and she should leave you.

Chunkysalsa90 · Answer

Dude, you're a dick.

DiversityHire · Answer

Oh neat, your immaturity bit you in the ass.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Then you should feel horrible. Live with it.

Anonymous · Answer

You should. Fuck off douchebag.

Cryptic-Game · Answer

Maybe you ought to try apologizing to her.

Anonymous · Answer

I hope she dumps you

JessieBellll · Answer

You are just you

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