lol u dumbass.. most precious thing in your world and you shat on it. you can try less talking and more showing.. do things that show you love her.. small things.. but have no expectations or conditions in return.. cus then they aren't gifts they are bribes. you broke it.. so now you fix it. and that is with love and compassion and humor she finds funny.. leave yours at home. .. do things for her.. like dishes.. cleaning.. running to the store.. take her on nice dates to places and things she will find interesting and fun. show her what she means to you.. and stop apologizing till she's ready to believe you. talk is cheap.. ever hear that? give her a hug and a smile when she needs it..
Those seem like very cruel things to do: talking bad about her body and making fun of her for it. And trying to make people jealous on purpose is always a bad idea. That is being manipulative. Commenting on her nose, weight and teeth was mean also. I guess this has been a lesson to be careful of the way that you treat people. There might not be much you can to to heal her, but you can try never speaking negatively about her again, and never mentioning things you like about other women or comparing her to other women.
What strain of hoof and mouth disease do you have? Talk about an insensitive idiot!! You may have destroyed this relationship with that barrage of insults. Where in your education did they skip the part where negative comments on any woman's body isn't just off limits, it's punishable by death, slowly and painfully?
You need to break your piggy bank and buy her some bling or failing in that, some really, really nice roses, preferably delivered to her office so all the ladies see it with a note of humblest and sincerest apology.
I can't heal your consciousness on this one, this is all you by being mean to her. Your going to have to life with that guilt until you made up for it i am affraid. But the good part is that she is giving you the chance to, so be genuine with her this time because you got in this mess by lying to her about how you truly feel. Let time heal it and show her the love she deserves. Because you have been very cruel to her and she deserves better, so be glad she is giving you that chance and become the boyfriend she deserves.
Yeah, I mean I get jokes and whatnot but you did kina bully yo girlfriend if the jokes were as frequent as you said they were.. Now if y'all had an established relationship where y'all banter constantly about each others looks, than I would understand.. But it seems like you were the one constantly makin the jokes and she didn't find them very funny.. But just don't tell the jokes anymore and uplift her with all yo might.. Let her know how much you love her.. It'll take some time to gain her trust with that back.. But you can do it..
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Do you have a death wish? You're lucky she didn't leave you immediately. I highly suggest some therapy because the way you are dealing with male/female relationships is not the way to go. By chance do you come from a family where teasing your SO is considered normal. If it is you need to rethink it.
Tell her how you feel. Tell her everything you just said. Just at first, get her alone away from distractions. Grab her hand, look into her eyes and have her sit down with you. Tell get you sometimes forget that she's sensitive, tell her you love her and can't imagine a day without her. Then tell her everything you wrote on here. The tell her you never realized how much she really valued your opinion of her. Tell her your embarrassed by your actions and that if she forgives you, you'll never do that again. This should get there ball rolling in the right direction. Then you'll have to comment her, a lot. Good luck!
First of all thank you for being open and honest. It really takes a lot of courage to write what you wrote. Of course, it goes without saying that what you did was totally wrong, unfortunately we can't change the past but we can learn from it. The fact that you wrote your true feelings is a sign that you are a good person, now it's time to fix it, it's time to fix what you have broke. I suggest to be the best boyfriend in this planet.
Be super nice to her, take her to the places that she likes, invite her to restaurants and buy her things that loves. Tell her compliments to heal the old wounds, tell her jokes to make her laugh from her heart. You really need to do your very best to fix what you have done wrong!
It is hard to build self esteem in your partner. Many times you tell her she is awesome and in the back of her mind she will say, or well you are just my boyfriend. Its just like when your parents say you are handsome or pretty. Its just not that believable. But it can be done. It will take time and you will need to be her rock when it comes to her appearance. Yes today girls and guys a like are met with unrealistic ideas of what they should look like and even someone who is attractive is often met with jealousy from people will try to break them to make themselves look better. You can help each other really by being honest with each other and never tease by looks again.
This is so hard to read... There comes a point where you can’t heal someone. Unfortunately you’ve broken her trust and now she feels self conscious. I can’t believe you would think it’s okay to compare her to porns or someone you hooked up with. If MY boyfriend did that I would leave him so fast. That’s horrible. I don’t know what to say, but I think your relationship is doomed ☹️
Damn bro You are an asshole Here is what you can do. You need to stop watching porn. You need to unfollow all females on instagram. You need to put in more effort to show her that you love her. You need to never mention another woman again.
Eventually you should propose and make her your wife. It's going to take like a year for her to get over this.
Wth dude? Her quietness for the first time should be a clear indication to you that she didn't like the way you joked about her. Did you ever try relating to her? What if she compared you with other guys? Looks? Dick size? Body? All you can do is shut the fuck up when you want to say such things or just break up with her for good. Just own up the mess you have created, reassure her every time she asks you questions about herself and don't be an idiot again.
she deserves better then a boy like you for a boyfriend / boyfiend ! if you want her back then take her out to eat at the fanciest restaurant there is ! buy her flowers and have them sent to where she works and lives ! some expensive jewelry would be nice too ! do your best to stop talking to her about her flawed body parts for your not great either when it comes to looks or your mean and cruel insults to her ! thanks
Sorry mate. I think the damage has been done. It can have a lasting impact. My girlfriend's ex called her a giant for wearing heels and it really shattered her confidence so much that it took her 3 years to wear heels again and that too after I encouraged her. If you love her, you bring out the best in that person.
I already did but she said “jokes” aren’t jokes If I say the same stuff over and over again It doesn’t matter how much I say it playfully, I mean my comments and serious about them
You may have ruined it. Once some seeds are sown there isn't always a way back. Learn from it. You can banter with your mates. Picking out physical attributes of a woman, especially one so young who may not be fully body confident, to be target of your jibes is a bad idea.
Dude... what the hell were you thinking that you thought that would be a good idea? YOU NEVER compare a woman to the women in your past. You can't repair the situation. Just love the hell out of her, keep your sense of humor to a minimum, don't mention other women, and give her time to heal. She has to relearn how to feel desirable to you.
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''I feel like the biggest jerk ever. ''
And those are the most popular and most sought after guys. The fact that she is still with you says it all.
I see girls in the comments section talking about you making a big mistake, or that it made them angry. But if you had been loving, avaliable, complimentary, and a really nice guy, she'd have left you already.
''she doesn't want me gone despite all.''
Exactly...
In fact, if guys have relationship problems and are concerned about breaking up without drama, all they have to do is be really nice and the girl will end it for you...
You must be very young or clueless as it's concerning a woman and how fragile and soft they are. Believe me I guess I will suggest first that you show her this letter that you have written. Explain to her that you have made the most regrettable unforgivable mistake of your life and you are going to be trying to make up for it for the foreseeable future. Keep on cleaning up the wreckage of your attempted humor and leave the jokes to the professionals.
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lol u dumbass.. most precious thing in your world and you shat on it. you can try less talking and more showing.. do things that show you love her.. small things.. but have no expectations or conditions in return.. cus then they aren't gifts they are bribes. you broke it.. so now you fix it. and that is with love and compassion and humor she finds funny.. leave yours at home. .. do things for her.. like dishes.. cleaning.. running to the store.. take her on nice dates to places and things she will find interesting and fun. show her what she means to you.. and stop apologizing till she's ready to believe you. talk is cheap.. ever hear that? give her a hug and a smile when she needs it..
Those seem like very cruel things to do: talking bad about her body and making fun of her for it. And trying to make people jealous on purpose is always a bad idea. That is being manipulative. Commenting on her nose, weight and teeth was mean also. I guess this has been a lesson to be careful of the way that you treat people. There might not be much you can to to heal her, but you can try never speaking negatively about her again, and never mentioning things you like about other women or comparing her to other women.
What strain of hoof and mouth disease do you have? Talk about an insensitive idiot!! You may have destroyed this relationship with that barrage of insults. Where in your education did they skip the part where negative comments on any woman's body isn't just off limits, it's punishable by death, slowly and painfully?
You need to break your piggy bank and buy her some bling or failing in that, some really, really nice roses, preferably delivered to her office so all the ladies see it with a note of humblest and sincerest apology.
I can't heal your consciousness on this one, this is all you by being mean to her.
Your going to have to life with that guilt until you made up for it i am affraid.
But the good part is that she is giving you the chance to, so be genuine with her this time because you got in this mess by lying to her about how you truly feel. Let time heal it and show her the love she deserves. Because you have been very cruel to her and she deserves better, so be glad she is giving you that chance and become the boyfriend she deserves.
Yeah, I mean I get jokes and whatnot but you did kina bully yo girlfriend if the jokes were as frequent as you said they were.. Now if y'all had an established relationship where y'all banter constantly about each others looks, than I would understand.. But it seems like you were the one constantly makin the jokes and she didn't find them very funny.. But just don't tell the jokes anymore and uplift her with all yo might.. Let her know how much you love her.. It'll take some time to gain her trust with that back.. But you can do it..
Do you have a death wish?
You're lucky she didn't leave you immediately.
I highly suggest some therapy because the way you are dealing with male/female relationships is not the way to go. By chance do you come from a family where teasing your SO is considered normal. If it is you need to rethink it.
That's not worth killing for. You only do it for reason. You could slatra. I will slatra. She will slatra. We all slatra.
Tell her how you feel. Tell her everything you just said. Just at first, get her alone away from distractions. Grab her hand, look into her eyes and have her sit down with you. Tell get you sometimes forget that she's sensitive, tell her you love her and can't imagine a day without her. Then tell her everything you wrote on here. The tell her you never realized how much she really valued your opinion of her. Tell her your embarrassed by your actions and that if she forgives you, you'll never do that again. This should get there ball rolling in the right direction. Then you'll have to comment her, a lot. Good luck!
First of all thank you for being open and honest. It really takes a lot of courage to write what you wrote. Of course, it goes without saying that what you did was totally wrong, unfortunately we can't change the past but we can learn from it. The fact that you wrote your true feelings is a sign that you are a good person, now it's time to fix it, it's time to fix what you have broke. I suggest to be the best boyfriend in this planet.
Be super nice to her, take her to the places that she likes, invite her to restaurants and buy her things that loves. Tell her compliments to heal the old wounds, tell her jokes to make her laugh from her heart. You really need to do your very best to fix what you have done wrong!
It is hard to build self esteem in your partner. Many times you tell her she is awesome and in the back of her mind she will say, or well you are just my boyfriend. Its just like when your parents say you are handsome or pretty. Its just not that believable. But it can be done. It will take time and you will need to be her rock when it comes to her appearance. Yes today girls and guys a like are met with unrealistic ideas of what they should look like and even someone who is attractive is often met with jealousy from people will try to break them to make themselves look better. You can help each other really by being honest with each other and never tease by looks again.
This is so hard to read...
There comes a point where you can’t heal someone. Unfortunately you’ve broken her trust and now she feels self conscious. I can’t believe you would think it’s okay to compare her to porns or someone you hooked up with. If MY boyfriend did that I would leave him so fast. That’s horrible. I don’t know what to say, but I think your relationship is doomed ☹️
You really don't have much understanding of what you do to people who care about you and trust you, do you?
you are right :( I need to be better
Damn bro
You are an asshole
Here is what you can do. You need to stop watching porn. You need to unfollow all females on instagram. You need to put in more effort to show her that you love her.
You need to never mention another woman again.
Eventually you should propose and make her your wife. It's going to take like a year for her to get over this.
Wth dude? Her quietness for the first time should be a clear indication to you that she didn't like the way you joked about her. Did you ever try relating to her? What if she compared you with other guys? Looks? Dick size? Body?
All you can do is shut the fuck up when you want to say such things or just break up with her for good. Just own up the mess you have created, reassure her every time she asks you questions about herself and don't be an idiot again.
she deserves better then a boy like you for a boyfriend / boyfiend ! if you want her back then take her out to eat at the fanciest restaurant there is ! buy her flowers and have them sent to where she works and lives ! some expensive jewelry would be nice too ! do your best to stop talking to her about her flawed body parts for your not great either when it comes to looks or your mean and cruel insults to her ! thanks
Sorry mate. I think the damage has been done. It can have a lasting impact. My girlfriend's ex called her a giant for wearing heels and it really shattered her confidence so much that it took her 3 years to wear heels again and that too after I encouraged her. If you love her, you bring out the best in that person.
Why don't you tell her all these things?
Explain to her how much you love her and that all these things were jokes that got out of control.
Literally tell her all that staff just like you wrote it in here
I already did but she said “jokes” aren’t jokes If I say the same stuff over and over again It doesn’t matter how much I say it playfully, I mean my comments and serious about them
You may have ruined it. Once some seeds are sown there isn't always a way back. Learn from it. You can banter with your mates. Picking out physical attributes of a woman, especially one so young who may not be fully body confident, to be target of your jibes is a bad idea.
Dude... what the hell were you thinking that you thought that would be a good idea? YOU NEVER compare a woman to the women in your past. You can't repair the situation. Just love the hell out of her, keep your sense of humor to a minimum, don't mention other women, and give her time to heal. She has to relearn how to feel desirable to you.
''I feel like the biggest jerk ever. ''
And those are the most popular and most sought after guys. The fact that she is still with you says it all.
I see girls in the comments section talking about you making a big mistake, or that it made them angry. But if you had been loving, avaliable, complimentary, and a really nice guy, she'd have left you already.
''she doesn't want me gone despite all.''
Exactly...
In fact, if guys have relationship problems and are concerned about breaking up without drama, all they have to do is be really nice and the girl will end it for you...
You must be very young or clueless as it's concerning a woman and how fragile and soft they are. Believe me I guess I will suggest first that you show her this letter that you have written. Explain to her that you have made the most regrettable unforgivable mistake of your life and you are going to be trying to make up for it for the foreseeable future. Keep on cleaning up the wreckage of your attempted humor and leave the jokes to the professionals.