In an argument, whose side would you take, your partner's or your family's?

[Desconhecida]

[The_FallenOne]

It would heavily depend on the situation, who caused it, and who I believe is moraly correct in the situation.

I'm not gonna take my family's side JUST BECAUSE they're blood. If they did something wrong that caused this argument w/ my so, they are the problem and I will call them out.

I'm not going to take my SO JUST BECAUSE I love them intimatly or maybe even have a kid w/ them. If they did something wrong that caused this argument with my family, then they are the problem and I will call them out.

I judge fairly. I don't play that immature favorites game crap. I don't care how much I love you. If you're in the wrong, I won't hesitate to let you know. And that's why my sign is Libra ♎ a scale.

[ILoveAnime]

My family's. He might stay around or not but my family has always been here for me.

[LovingLover]

I'm guessing you aren't religious.

[ILoveAnime]

@LovingLover nope, but I was raised catholic. I'm not exactly sure what you are implying tho.

[LovingLover]

Not an insult or anything just an observation.
Well at least in abrahamic religions, it points out that we leave our family by choice and shouldstick to our new family who we chose ourself and be responsible to our children and spouse...
Even if it was arranged and by force why would you chose the people who force you anyway but I'm mostly focused on the majority of us who choose...

Tho often non religious persons live by same principles... marriage or serious relationshuos ares already difficult so makes no sens to marry in my opinion if I side with my parental family without question , every time.

[ILoveAnime]

@LovingLover I can see your point but it's my family. Of course, I want side with people blindly and defenitly not with everyone but if it came to the point of me chosing like between my mom and him... Well sorry but it's my mama.

[LovingLover]

Hmmwell hopefullythere are no children in the equation as they need both parents for the best foundation... and hopefully it never happens, that is so rare your mother falls out with your husband and and asks you to break up with them even tho you had no problem with him on your own... I suppose a loving mother would not do that anyway , and I 99.99 sure it would not happen as you think like this now cause you haven't been in love.

[ILoveAnime]

@LovingLover yes, my mom would never do that, I just stating I would side her. I'm childfree so you don't have to worry about future children :)

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I will always come to the defense of my wife but if she's wrong in the matter then I will correct her.

[OlderAndWiser]

I would take my partner's side if I thought she was right. Otherwise, I would probably remain neutral.

[NorthShoreCalling]

Same

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Depends on what the argument is and who's in the right and who's in the wrong...

[aWes0MeNeSs]

It depends on who was in the right.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

I generally refuse to take sides unless someone is clearly in the wrong. I had this issue with my wife many years ago, where a situation arose and she wasn't necessarily wrong, but she was acting like a spoiled child about it and making demands that I react in a way that blew everything out of proportion. I refused to be a party to it and she didn't talk to me for 3 days.

We almost divorced over it, but I stood my ground. I don't let family or spouse manipulate me, and neither should anyone else.

[Jjpayne]

I think it depends on the point. I think there is not value in always taking one side but you take the side that makes the most sense to you

[TonyV]

That depends what it's about and who started it.
If it's something real stupid might just stay neutral and out of it.

Gonna go with who inthinknis right against who inthink is out of line.

Not gonna decide in advance to always side with someone no matter what.

[Lliam]

The one who I agree with. I would never embarrass her in public. I've got her back.
I would never take an active stance against my partner in an argument. If I disagree with her, I would wait to discuss it calmly in private where I could hear her full reasoning. Chances are, I already agree with her anyway.

[LovingLover]

I'm guessing partner means someone we are in serious committed relationship with.
Anyone committing to a hard and fast rule doesn't deserve the side they oppose. 🤦🏻‍♀️ your partner is your own CHOSEN family with offspring.. so then if you always stick to your old/ birth family without question then you're troubling yourself if you bother getting anew family.. please save them the time wastage and extra problems, and save yourself too..

[LovingLover]

Hard and fast --> without question

[nonratracereality]

If you're you take the side you go with regardless of any bewilderment people may have against your judgment but if you're life has Been like the stock market that never dipped? You don't care when they say because they really dont care themselves do how can they offer an opinion or question when they stuck on stuck? Reality us to live accept and understand. No blood no contract no bet. If they ever this or that then why did they do what they did? Hey. It's hard but what's harder than life?

[ThiccBoai]

Whoevers opinion matches mine. It will probably be my girlfriend (I imagen having a girlfriend which probably has the same kind of view on many things). I don't care who it is. If we don't share the same opinion as, I respect it, but won't pick your side because you are family or a loved one

[adoredbyher]

Well if I take my partner around my family, they won’t disrespect him. I don’t allow it! It all depends on who’s wrong or right. I try to be fair honestly. I don’t want the person I’m with to resent me or dislike my family because he feels rushed every time it’s a get-together.

[btbc92]

Whoever is in the right. Doesn't matter who. I don't take sides.

[Starlight_Whimsy]

I’m usually the mediator. In any argument both parties are going to be at fault for something, even if it’s just letting the argument get out of hand. I reprimand both parties as well as tell both parties what they’ve BOTH done wrong as well as what they were valid in before ushering them to reach a healthy conclusion

[MannMitAntworten]

I never had to go through that with any girlfriends or family. Still, I know me and that I am guarded of my girlfriends. In likelihood I would tell family to shut their traps and for both to change the subject.


Now if it is a matter of her getting picked on or attacked in conversation or whatever, well, my brother can attest to how I took to his making My then girlfriend cry... it didn’t go well for him. I definitely took exception.

[curiouscuriouser]

Partner's side. Family is more lenient and more willing to forgive you but partner is someone you're trying to create a family with and if you can back up your partner you gonna be in trouble. I would probably play both sides but lean harder towards my partner against my family. 60% partner 40% family.

[apollo3000]

I have fallen head over heals - she is the only person I trust. I also find that to be the only natural state of affairs. Family first means own family, once you have it, not family-of-birth (who could be missing you - but that problem is theirs to get used to)

[MysteriousDarkness]

It depends on what the argument was about and what each side had to say.
Not sure how anyone can automatically pick a certain sid no matter what the argument is. To me that is saying you will never side with the other be it your family or partner. Always picking one side means you pick it even if that side is wrong.

[Nerdvana]

I hope that my partner and my family never escalate something into an argument. But it would depend. I rather they first learn to work things out between them without having to involve. But if they can't, then I would side with the person who is right.

[ArrowheadSW]

It just depends on which side I agree with. If I were in a relationship, and I had to disagree with her, I would certainly hope that I could disagree in a nice and diplomatic manner.

[Anonymous]

Tbh I feel like I'd have much more in common with my partner th a family anyway so it's likely to play out that way. But I'd go with whatever I myself believed to be right. Although I'd always back my partner up in public then call it out privately if I had nay disagreement.

[Peuples_Francs]

Whoever is correct. If the argument is just a difference of opinion, I'll take neither side. I don't care if either party gets angry at me, it will just be a valuable lesson to keep farther away from such people who try to manipulate me like that.