In an argument, whose side would you take, your partner's or your family's?

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The_FallenOne · Accepted Answer

It would heavily depend on the situation, who caused it, and who I believe is moraly correct in the situation.

I'm not gonna take my family's side JUST BECAUSE they're blood. If they did something wrong that caused this argument w/ my so, they are the problem and I will call them out.

I'm not going to take my SO JUST BECAUSE I love them intimatly or maybe even have a kid w/ them. If they did something wrong that caused this argument with my family, then they are the problem and I will call them out.

I judge fairly. I don't play that immature favorites game crap. I don't care how much I love you. If you're in the wrong, I won't hesitate to let you know. And that's why my sign is Libra ♎ a scale.

ILoveAnime · Accepted Answer

My family's. He might stay around or not but my family has always been here for me.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Accepted Answer

I will always come to the defense of my wife but if she's wrong in the matter then I will correct her.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I would take my partner's side if I thought she was right. Otherwise, I would probably remain neutral.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Depends on what the argument is and who's in the right and who's in the wrong...

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

It depends on who was in the right.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

I generally refuse to take sides unless someone is clearly in the wrong. I had this issue with my wife many years ago, where a situation arose and she wasn't necessarily wrong, but she was acting like a spoiled child about it and making demands that I react in a way that blew everything out of proportion. I refused to be a party to it and she didn't talk to me for 3 days.

We almost divorced over it, but I stood my ground. I don't let family or spouse manipulate me, and neither should anyone else.

Jjpayne · Answer

I think it depends on the point. I think there is not value in always taking one side but you take the side that makes the most sense to you

TonyV · Answer

That depends what it's about and who started it.
If it's something real stupid might just stay neutral and out of it.

Gonna go with who inthinknis right against who inthink is out of line.

Not gonna decide in advance to always side with someone no matter what.

Lliam · Answer

The one who I agree with. I would never embarrass her in public. I've got her back.
I would never take an active stance against my partner in an argument. If I disagree with her, I would wait to discuss it calmly in private where I could hear her full reasoning. Chances are, I already agree with her anyway.

LovingLover · Answer

I'm guessing partner means someone we are in serious committed relationship with.
Anyone committing to a hard and fast rule doesn't deserve the side they oppose. 🤦🏻‍♀️ your partner is your own CHOSEN family with offspring.. so then if you always stick to your old/ birth family without question then you're troubling yourself if you bother getting anew family.. please save them the time wastage and extra problems, and save yourself too..

nonratracereality · Answer

If you're you take the side you go with regardless of any bewilderment people may have against your judgment but if you're life has Been like the stock market that never dipped? You don't care when they say because they really dont care themselves do how can they offer an opinion or question when they stuck on stuck? Reality us to live accept and understand. No blood no contract no bet. If they ever this or that then why did they do what they did? Hey. It's hard but what's harder than life?

ThiccBoai · Answer

Whoevers opinion matches mine. It will probably be my girlfriend (I imagen having a girlfriend which probably has the same kind of view on many things). I don't care who it is. If we don't share the same opinion as, I respect it, but won't pick your side because you are family or a loved one

adoredbyher · Answer

Well if I take my partner around my family, they won’t disrespect him. I don’t allow it! It all depends on who’s wrong or right. I try to be fair honestly. I don’t want the person I’m with to resent me or dislike my family because he feels rushed every time it’s a get-together.

btbc92 · Answer

Whoever is in the right. Doesn't matter who. I don't take sides.

Starlight_Whimsy · Answer

I’m usually the mediator. In any argument both parties are going to be at fault for something, even if it’s just letting the argument get out of hand. I reprimand both parties as well as tell both parties what they’ve BOTH done wrong as well as what they were valid in before ushering them to reach a healthy conclusion

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I never had to go through that with any girlfriends or family. Still, I know me and that I am guarded of my girlfriends. In likelihood I would tell family to shut their traps and for both to change the subject.

Now if it is a matter of her getting picked on or attacked in conversation or whatever, well, my brother can attest to how I took to his making My then girlfriend cry... it didn’t go well for him. I definitely took exception.

curiouscuriouser · Answer

Partner's side. Family is more lenient and more willing to forgive you but partner is someone you're trying to create a family with and if you can back up your partner you gonna be in trouble. I would probably play both sides but lean harder towards my partner against my family. 60% partner 40% family.

apollo3000 · Answer

I have fallen head over heals - she is the only person I trust. I also find that to be the only natural state of affairs. Family first means own family, once you have it, not family-of-birth (who could be missing you - but that problem is theirs to get used to)

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

It depends on what the argument was about and what each side had to say.
Not sure how anyone can automatically pick a certain sid no matter what the argument is. To me that is saying you will never side with the other be it your family or partner. Always picking one side means you pick it even if that side is wrong.

Nerdvana · Answer

I hope that my partner and my family never escalate something into an argument. But it would depend. I rather they first learn to work things out between them without having to involve. But if they can't, then I would side with the person who is right.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

It just depends on which side I agree with. If I were in a relationship, and I had to disagree with her, I would certainly hope that I could disagree in a nice and diplomatic manner.

Anonymous · Answer

Tbh I feel like I'd have much more in common with my partner th a family anyway so it's likely to play out that way. But I'd go with whatever I myself believed to be right. Although I'd always back my partner up in public then call it out privately if I had nay disagreement.

Peuples_Francs · Answer

Whoever is correct. If the argument is just a difference of opinion, I'll take neither side. I don't care if either party gets angry at me, it will just be a valuable lesson to keep farther away from such people who try to manipulate me like that.

asshole_ · Answer

Depends of course, on what my own beliefs are, right?

theyre talking about if god exists. she says god exists, they say god doesn't

I'm going to say well, I'm an agnostic, and have a hard time believing that he does, but, like justin beiber says, never say never

Can't always be black and white

meetkitty123 · Answer

That depends on who was in the right and who's on the wrong
My man is my family and my family well that's obvious they're my family.
So basically I'm choosing between family or family and therefore I'm going to choose whoever is in the right.

jshm2 · Answer

Neither.

You take the side that is right, or not as wrong.

Doesn't matter if it's your mother, best friend, or long lost cousin. If they are wrong, then don't support them. Don't be a dick about it either, though.

FakeName123 · Answer

Depends on the context of the argument, but if my family and my parther get into an argument that is serious enough for me having to interfere, there is more at play than just the topic of the argument.

Definitely · Answer

Whoever's right. It no one's right, then it will become a 3 way argument. If I don't know the topic I'll just sit on the sidelines or research it and then shut them up.

SjE78 · Answer

whoever was correct, but tbf i have zero love for my parents, nor my sister so a partner would have my support... as long as she was right and her stance was justified

lucky840 · Answer

My man has stood up to my family for me multiple times. Sometimes it was because they were using me and I was being a push-over and other times it was because of the way the talked to me

Mo_star · Answer

In my opinion it's depending on the situation if you're married already and have your partner officially so you're gonna take the partner side but if still no marriage so you will take family side because they have More experience about life more than you and they are love you more than anybody else in the earth

jgokgotit · Answer

I will defend whoever I feel is right. Any partner of mine has to have integrity and be tough enough to handle the truth without getting upset. My family raised me like that.

bakingperfectionist · Answer

It would depend 100% on the situation, whichever side I chose though, I would treat the other one gently and I would treat the situation as a problem that needs to be solved, not a screaming match.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Well you shouldn't have to choose sides, the moment something like that happens then a deep conversation needs to be had.

BuckWild · Answer

Always take your partner's side. This ensures that you keep getting laid on a regular basis. Wisdom.

StephenCF · Answer

If it’s a political argument, knowing my partner’s views and my parents’ views, I’d always side with my partner. Every other argument would depend on the situation

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

My own side. Which sometimes could be my familys and sometimes my girlfriends side, sometimes neither side.

ellkell · Answer

Whoever the hell I believed was right in that argument. But ultimately my job would probably be to get everyone to calm down and get through it

Liam_Hayden · Answer

My immediate family is deceased, but when my parents were alive I would have taken theirs if there had ever been an argument. Never happened because my dad passed before I ever really dated and my mom loved all the girls I did date.

COMMODOREII · Answer

I was often 5aking my partners side but later found out it was misplaced for she manipulated me and caused a lot of trauma in the family. I want to find some i can rely on that will not manipulate me..

girlzruleboyzdrool · Answer

Depending on who I felt with my whole heart, who was honest and right Never change choose sides Always be fair

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Who was telling the truth? Thats the only side I try to take.

Trooper205 · Answer

During an argument, I try my best to understand both sides, and see the truth in it, and if possible, straighten the facts! So to answer your question, Both!

AdithyaR · Answer

It depends on who's right and who's wrong. If it's a situation where both sides have valid points to be right and are kinda wrong, I'd remain neutral.

LemiaOfTheCodes · Answer

It depends who has the moral high ground, I aren't gonna side with someone who is in the wrong

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

It always depends on who is right. She is my partner for a reason and my partner will be a new family. I can't always depend on my parents. It's actually a hypocrisy when i can ask my parents why they marry each other.

DaMack999 · Answer

Depends on the argument. If it's about leave her. I'll tell em to fuck themselves and move in with her. I'll be that loyal for my women. But it's a control freak chick who wants to cut me off from my family. Then she need to know my boundaries.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

I have nothing to do with it, so I hide in the shadows. Don't be afraid of the shadows, enter my shadow, join me in the shadows, let's enter the shadows, who wouldn't want to spend more time as a shadow

Thatsamazing · Answer

I don't take either side, unless someone is clearly and obviously wrong. I try to be a middleman and make everyone as comfortable as possible, is all.

KloexJayne · Answer

Depends on who has the more logical argument... duh.. lol

modeve · Answer

I would take side of my partner, and in case he is grossly incorrect, I prefer to remain silent.

KeziL · Answer

Depends who is right. Likely my partner either way though, my family can deal.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the issue. I'd listen to both sides and then discuss it with both... Unless my family has insulted my partner... then hell will break

ThisDudeHere · Answer

Whomever I thought correct. I can't let personal feelings get in the way of truth.

spartan55 · Answer

It would depend on what the argument was and the entire context.

watrewks · Answer

The right side lol. I won’t side with someone I disagree with.

Eggplant29 · Answer

It would be hard but I'd have to take my partner's side as it's better for the relationship

Avicenna · Answer

Depends on the facts involved, but I'd be more likely to take my partner's side.

SuccessfulHornDog · Answer

I have (unfortunately) been on both sides and my partner doesn't like it too much when I am not on her side

ChiTown33 · Answer

My partner's! Without question! And i want to say i really love my family and respect all of them but your partner ALWAYS comes first.

prakhindev92 · Answer

I am against the problem not the people , i will try to fix the problem not the people , actually I love the people around me for who they are , and if they make me choose all of them Lose me!

winterfox10 · Answer

My partner's, until I learned more about the situation and formed a more complete opinion.

nodnol32 · Answer

Whoever is right. But in this kind of a situation i prefer to intervene and make things right.

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