Why does my boyfriend rarely share his feelings?

[Anonymous]

these have been dating for 3 months, the longest relationship he has been in prior is a month or two and for me was 2 years. This one is definitely different than my last, he isn’t all lovey dovey with words and he says he loves me but he rarely opens up more than that about our relationship. That is the kind of person he is and always has been but now that it’s been 3 months I’m wondering if he will always be like that or if it takes some guys a longgg time to be emotional and open up. He is a good boyfriend for sure but I overthink having anxiety and sometimes I wish he would make me feel loved more not even with actions just with his words. Please give your opinion

[Anonymous]

My guy is the same way. We've been dating for about 7 months, and he's still not a verbally emotional person. It was a challenge for me for a while too, because I never really knew how he felt or where we stood. As time has gone on though, I've gotten better at recognizing his signs that show he cares about me. He includes me in so much of his life, he spends as much time with me as he can, he has introduced me to all his friends and family. His friends and co-workers have also spilled the beans about how much he talks about me or how he's "so in love" lol.Only you can decide if you'll be okay with his lack of voicing his feelings for you. If that is something you absolutely need, that's perfectly fair. But you might find as time goes on that he is showing his feelings for you in so many other ways. For me personally, I would rather have a guy who shows me he cares through his actions instead of a guy who SAYS he loves me but doesn't act like it.

[Asker]

This makes me feel better knowing just some people are like that and it’s not that he doesn’t feel strongly about me, thanks

[Opinion Owner]

Happy to help :-) If he's consistently making plans to see you, he stays in communication, and he is progressing the relationship in other ways, I think those are all great signs.

[johnsmall23]

I'm even more closed than him. Most of my feelings and thoughts I don't share with anyone. I have had feeling for many girls for many months and I wanted them the best in life and everything but I never told them i love them. If I have a girlfriend I wouldn't want her to say to me that she is annoyed that i'm not all lovey dovey with her and to accept me just like I am. If the things he does for you show that he loves you than you should believe him.

[Asker]

Thanks, I am completely ok with this it’s just such a contrast to the only other serious relationship I had so I was confused. I think I need to not overthink so much

[Unit1]

Tell him you would like to receive verbal love as words of affirmation is your primary love language. Tell him about the 5 love languages

[mich15smith]

you should talk to him about how this makes you feel. Use "I Feel" statements