The intent was to cheat and therefore I consider it as cheating.
I place it par with emotional cheating which is, for example, watching pornographic content while in a relation and without the knowledge or consent of the partner.
Perhaps here is only remorse or an unforeseen event that prevented the cheating to take place but the intention was indeed to let it happen and cheat if the opportunity arose.
To me, that is no different than the act of physical/emotional cheating in itself.
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Use of the word "cheating" is counterproductive because people get into arguments with parsing words to try to minimize the significance of their behavior. So forget "cheating."
Here's the important question. Did the guy do something that violated his partner's trust? Did he do something that he hid from his partner because he knew it could cause the end of their relationship? Did he do something that is going to cause his partner to doubt his loyalty in the future?
You know the answers to all of those questions even though you may not want to publicly acknowledge the answers. Final question: How would you feel if your girlfriend engaged in that same behavior with a guy from her past?
Intention of cheating is cheating.
1.) He didn't book two rooms
2.) He made it clear, "He thought if things happen, he will let them happen".
So while some look at the fact that it never occurred, he didn't go out of his way to protect his relationship with his girlfriend.
Look at his actions and intent, he put more effort in cheating than respecting his relationship.
That is cheating and she's in the right to be upset and frankly, this is grounds for ending the relationship. The guy has confirmed through his actions, that he doesn't have the willpower and discipline required to be in a relationship.
If he's supposed to be in a committed relationship with the girl, then arranging to go on a date with someone else is a betrayal of trust. It is cheating, because the motive for his actions was to date another girl. It's irrelevant that he didn't actually go in the date.
The guy in question is trying to justify cheating with manipulation. I bet if did go on a date with another girl, he'd still say it's not cheating. He'd probably say "we only had a meal together, so I didn't cheat " lol
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It's called being unfaithful... because he had planned it in his head he was unfaithful to her and very disrespectful toward their relationship.
So who cares if it's labeled cheating... being unfaithful is worse.The intent to cheat is cheating. It’s literally just one step away from doing the down and dirty. If you’re okay with cheating then it shows you are not happy in your relationship or missing something to where you’re looking elsewhere for it. Cheating is a form of high disrespect towards your partner. In my opinion if someone has the intention of cheating it’s only a matter of time they do. I personally wouldn’t be able to trust someone who has the intention of cheating as you’d be like sitting there wondering when they gonna to do it. A relationship is all about trust without that it’s nothing and it the intention to cheat was made known then that’s the trust gone from there on is just a slippery slip down hill.
Even though he may not have intentions of cheating, his actions are inevitably trying to create a situation where he can't avoid cheating or at least be tempted to cheat.
What is this nonsense "instead of two room, he only booked one", and "if things happen, he will let them happen"?
He is obviously asking for trouble, by creating a lot of unnecessary misunderstanding.
Firstly, no communication, no sense of responsibility, doesn't seem to have the basic respect for SO. Why are they even together in the same place?Cheating = Anything you keep secret from your partner that could be potentially harmful to the relationship.
What I'm wondering is why he decided to tell his girlfriend about this "thought crime" incident if it never came to fruition. What would be the point?
Perhaps he is really just looking for a way out, but doesn't know how.In my opinion actual cheating and the intent to cheat are pretty much the same in terms of seriousness. Because regardless of what happened or not, the (intending) cheater's massive disrespect for his partner is the same either way. That it didn't happen does not take away from the fact that he was uncaring, cruel, and so utterly disrespectful of her and their relationship that he wanted/hoped to betray her.
If he was unhappy in the relationship, and didn't want to discuss the issues, they should have simply broken up.Absolutely. He was planning on cheating but was unable to because he got sick. That doesn't excuse him at all. He still would've done it if he was able to. If the intent was there then it's the same.
It is cheating in my opinion. The only reason he didn't cheat was not because he felt bad or he had remorse or changed his mind last minute. He only didn't go because he got sick. So, I agree with the girl. He intended to cheat and would probably do it again seeing as he doesn't even feel bad or remorseful.
No but I think that if you catch your boyfriend or girlfriend attempting to do this that you should have the right to attempt to forgive them then change your mind quickly and kick their ass to the curb... Preferably in an unwelcome situation with friends or family watching too, to add salt to their wounds and humiliate them. Why not? They did it to you first, afterall.
Depends on how far and what evidence is available. If you can get charged for intent for a crime then yes intent of cheating is cheating.
Where it became cheating was the planning ahead and also booking one room knowing the odds of something happening were likely. Also excluding the information about said overnight trip to the girlfriend until after plans fell through.No I would definitely say no Sometimes when your feeling alone You wouldn't necessarily sure the empathy is there to talk about how they are hurting So it leads to possibly talking to someone but have no intention of meeting because they don't want things to fall a part in their current relationship Its most probably a cry out to you to have a heart to heart and sort things out to how they use to be
To me it is, because if everything fell right you would have cheated. Just own it, break up with your girlfriend before you go out burying one in some other chick.
no... thats the problem in some serious legal matters... you can't charge someone for intent, except for a self proclaimed (or other PROOF) intent to commit homicide...
the person left to their own decisions may have went through with it, but this we can never know, and neither can they...
but if it didn't happen, it can't be considered as something that DID happen... if it didn't happen, no one cheated... case closed!Where's smoke there's fire.
Therefore - to me personally - it is the same cheating as his penis being thrusted in and out of her vagina!If you're in a relationship and you planned on cheating and you were actually going to do it but something came up you're guilty as charged
"when he discloses that information to his girl,"
You fucking dumbass.As an ex-cheater who's been through it all and corrected his ways, I say yes, yes it is, period.
Imagine it happening to you, your girlfriend downloaded Tinder on her phone and she's seeking new guys but she hadn't actually done anything with any guy yet, how would you feel?It depends on the person's definition of cheating. If your partner includes thinking about the chance of having sex with someone other than your SO as cheating, the guy cheated. Some only consider sex as cheating. To me, the guy cheated.
It's not technically cheating, but it does show that the guy can't be trusted.
It's cheating cause of the health issue didn't exist he would have cheated.
No. It's not cheating. It's a sign that they may have some issues.
And if SHE insists it's cheating, they definitely have issues.
But it's not cheating, no.
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