What do you think about a man as the role of the protector? Do you like it?

[more_than_a_guy]

Not gonna lie, most men like to be seen as a strong protector figure.

Yes

No, it's a cliche

[Barbaric]

It has and always will be a man's role.

People who live in safe neighbourhoods are sheltered. They live in a safety bubble, like children. They're naive about the way the world really works. Women in particular.

They're also under the illusion that the way they live now will last forever. It won't. There will come a time when things get more dangerous and more violent because these things have and always will work in cycles. The mistake that these people make is that they think linearly. That's why they say that it's "out-dated".

The ones who say that a woman is an equal threat are also naive. The trouble with a lot of people today is that they base their reality on fiction. Their worldview is shaped by the things they see on TV. If the woman has a gun and she knows how to use it then sure, maybe she is, that's an equaliser. But otherwise no. I've trained and sparred with some very good female muay thai fighters, one of them British champion. It was like fighting a very good 12 year old boy.

Many people haven't experienced the reality of violence. Again they based their ideas on what they've seen on the TV or on video games. These people don't understand how to spot threats, or what the threats actually are, never mind how to actually deal with them. If they ever end up in a self-defence situation they tend to get caught completely off guard because they thought it would never happen to them, they panic and freeze as a result of the adrenal dump, they get the shit beaten out of them and it traumatises them.

Many people falsely think that they don't need to protect themselves or their loved ones anymore because we have the police. The police don't protect you, they turn up after it's all done. Imagine you're at home or walking down the street - it doesn't matter where, the cops aren't there - and you get clocked out of nowhere, or you hear a bang at the door as someone breaks in. Both of these have happened to me. You don't have time to call the police. If you pick up your phone rather than deal with the threat he's going to slap it out of your hand and beat the shit out of you. You've got to deal with the threat before calling the police. Even if you do somehow manage to call them, the average response time is 10 minutes. They've got to get there before they can do anything, and 10 minutes is plenty of time for your attacker to do what he wants to do and get the fuck out of there. The woman unless armed in that situation will be mostly useless. The man will also be useless if he shits himself and does nothing.

[TheLeeyo]

*It's a retarded bsimps role

[Anonymous]

That is literally my personality and protecting is a natural instinct for me. However, it seems that westerners hate anything that has to do with gender roles. Western women seem to prefer more feminine men because they seem to like being the ones in charge of the relationship. So it seems that masculinity and male instincts are frowned upon in western society and are not desirable traits to a lot of women in those countries.

[Opinion Owner]

I did not like living in the U. S. because women were rude to me just because I am a masculine male. Apparently being protective is something called 'toxic masculinity' and me just trying to be helpful is sexist. I felt like people there hated me just because I was a guy. I honestly feel bad for guys with masculine and dominant personality traits because they seem to be demonized in that country.

[navyrobin]

I would really love to hear the other side of the story.

[Opinion Owner]

@navyrobin What do you mean?

[KrakenAttackin]

OP, you are quite correct. Women have such easy lives in the U. S. they believe they do not need protection of any kind, which makes them pretty ballsy in their contempt for masculine men. The worst is how modern women treat boys in the U. S. Boys are shamed and ridiculed for simply being born male here in the U. S.

[Arabella_Rose]

I think you're mistaken. I am a western woman, Asian American born and raised in US. I LOVE LOVE LOVE masculine protective men. Just because we western women are educated, successful, independent and can support ourselves well. It in no way means that we don't like men to protect us. Women will ALWAYS be women. We have a natural instinctive need to feel protected. Just the same way why you feel the need to protect women. It is purely biological. Same reason why women always prefer strong men rather than frail weak men.

[MissDawn7961]

yes I do like the idea of the man being the protector for I am to petite to do it ! two guys have showed an interest in me ! Johnnie my mechanic and the man who lives across the street from me named Gordon ! the 1 across the street from me wears cut off tops , showing me his muscles ! Johnnie my mechanic rolls up his sleeves , calls me - MissDawn - and since I do not see him that much I feel his remembering my name means I mean something to him ! while I was sitting there in the waiting area of the garage , Johnnie asks the old lady sitting next to me - do you think you could lift this - ? she says nothing to him ( she is my sister who is old enough to be my mom ) I say to him - I would not attempt to for I think I would hurt my hand in doing so - he looked at me but said nothing ! however I am under the opinion that had I have said to him - I would like to try so put it in my hand , then once he had seen that I could not do it then he would grab my hand ( be holding my hand ) which hopefully is what he wants in the first place ! my idea is like this ! these 2 muscles bound cuties may want to prove to me that they can use their muscles to fend off anyone who may want to harm them , their girl / wife and children all together ! like Johnnie and I are out shopping with our 2 children ! some man starts something with us ! Johnnie uses his 1 fist two pullveries this bum while me and our children are safe in Johnnies other arm

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I mean, I like when I'm protected. Whether it's by a woman or a man, I don't really care.

I do believe everyone - regardless of sex - should know how to protect themselves and be willing to protect others where possible.

I do believe every partner ought to be a protector of their other. I also believe every partner ought to at least be capable of protecting themselves.

I've been the one to protect one of my exes from a possible altercation. What disappointed me most was his complete and utter lack of situational awareness. It was obvious that a possible attack was coming - that he was so blind to it made me sick. He had no idea, even after I had a dialogue with the would-be attacker.

His lack of self-awareness and situational awareness could have gotten both of us seriously hurt or worse.

Fortunately my current partner is not only aware but also is willing to join my martial arts club when he moves up to join me.

[joeblow123]

@Smoke-n-Growls

even after I had a dialogue with the would-be attacker.

Is the would be attacker a woman?

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Nope, a dude. But we were in a somewhat populated downtown area, near a coffee shop.

He was looking for an easy opportunity, and if my ex had been alone he'd have had one.

Awareness and a sure step can solve a lot of problems. It wasn't my first time in that sort of scenario.

Also, and I doubt this has any relevance to the politeness of possible assaulters, this happened in Canada. I doubt our criminals are "nicer", but maybe they are.

[joeblow123]

@Smoke-n-Growls

I'm an American and I can tell you we do not have that "nice" attitude toward those that want to attack us. If someone wants to hurt me I'm going to confront them and I'm going to be very far from "nice" about it. That I can assure you.

[KrakenAttackin]

How TF do you imagine a woman protecting a man? Women have absolute contempt for weak men. Hell, modern women will not even protect their OWN SONS. Modern women serve their sons up as cannon fodder. You idea that women somehow protect men is beyond laughable.

[lumos]

I can't think of a single scenario in my life where I thought "man, I wish a guy was here to protect me". I mean I do live in a pretty safe country but for the most part, it seems like running away would be way more effective than having someone fight for me.

[Madmegalomaniac]

Well sure. But what if they chase you lol. Or if a girl is getting raped and guy won't let her run. Or guy is abusive and manipulates her into living with him.

[lumos]

@Madmegalomaniac well what if the guy who's "supposed" to protect me gets his ass beat? How is that going to help me? There's no guarantee that a guy protecting me by fighting would actually work out, hence why I'd rather just run. Also, I'm just speaking about my own experiences, I've never been raped. If I was getting raped, I still don't think I'd wish for a *guy* to specifically be there to help, I'd be happy to have anyone help me. So of course we can sit here and think of hypothetical scenarios all day, but my point is that I've never actually felt the need to have a guy protect me. I've been able to solve pretty much all dangerous/potentially dangerous scenarios by removing myself from the situation/running away etc.

[Alex_988_2]

@lumos which country

[lumos]

@Alex_988_2 Finland.

[Alex_988_2]

Ok. Follow me

[Madmegalomaniac]

It's generally about maximizing your chances though. And then there's the fact that guys are more tolerant to physical pain due to the fact that they are physically stronger, generally speaking.

[lumos]

@Madmegalomaniac like I said, we can talk about hypothetical scenarios all day, but to this day I haven't faced a single situation where running wasn't the first and best option.

[Madmegalomaniac]

I think the world isn't as bad as it ised to be though tbh. That, and the fact that I'm living in Canada. So talking about this while living in relatively peaceful nations is probably pointless anyways.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Overall, I think it's a bit outdated.

I think in a post-apocalyptical world, I might think differently but then again, all of these yuppie city boys can't track for shit or run a 5k or tell the difference between an oak or a maple. I think what makes me uneasy is this idea of protection "from what?"

On one hand, if you are larger than me and there's a smaller than you but larger than me belligerent drunk dude trying to grope me, then yeah, it'd think it common curtsey to not let the big bully grab random people at will. But are you trying to "protect" my "fragile" mind from the hard realities of taxes or the mortgage system?

In exchange for "protection," sometimes the protector asks for too a high cost. In exchange for infrequent physical protection, I don't want to give up reading books that let me think for myself. I don't want to give up my ability to have sex with my partner according to my own free will. I don't want to give up my beliefs for a shared division of housework. I don't want to give up my ability to have a job outside of the home. I don't want to give up my ability to have opposite gender friends.

I think having a boyfriend willing to stick up for you is an attractive trait the same way having a girlfriend support you emotionally is attractive. But at the same time, you don't want a girlfriend that only emotionally supports you according to her own terms... that takes it away for accidentally checking out another girl on the sidewalk or for watching the game too much. That's when love becomes restrictive and unhealthy.

[TheLeeyo]

I see it as absurd absurdity for only retarded Men and useless white knights

We men need to get out of this disposable mentality that we are somehow obliged to protect some strange woman.

It does not matter whether it's a traditional, kind, compassionate woman or whether she some evil feminazi

Either way, why would you consider your life less valuable that hers?

I have casually observed some of these so called anti feminist women and these women are only too happy to see men blaming the feminists but the moment you talk about how men slave for women (even in Traditionalism, they try to shut you up by calling you a misogynist, loser etc.
You see how it works?

They don't want us to see the truth because the only way men can be made to go out and willing give their life and limb to save some woman's ass to be fooled into believing that women are somehow "special".

Ever wondered why Tradcons are so enthusiastic about "teaching" men how to keep the door open for her, pull a chair out for her etc?

They are training us like monkeys to plant the seeds in our heads that they are special and should be treated as such.

Chivalry is our biggest weakness.

You are not being a hero by jumping in to save a woman
You're simply a dead maggot infested brain idiot!!!
Women themselves know, even though they won't admit it, that you are being a fool.

AND the problem isn't from WoMeN
The problem is that a lotta men are still full fledged fools

Unlearn that nonsense!!!

[Syrian_survivor]

Of course I like it, it's who I am

And such a role isn't just limited to physical fights with whatever threatens those who can't fend for themselves, it extends to an emotional level as well, my instincts make me wanna help and protect those who are in a bad place, whether emotionally, mentally, or physically, and I do well most of the times, I try my best not to overdo it especially in physical situations because things get really messy there

I do this with both males and females, but honestly I do it more with females, because I think other males need to bleed every now and then, as men they should grow to become other protectors as well, I'll give them a push every now and then, but I won't be by their side so often, while women need constant support to get through something bad, because when I leave before the problem is solved most of the time they just fall back down, I'm talking from my experience from women, tryna not to generalize but it's how it goes for me and how I express my protective instincts

Oh also, a protector in a relationship makes sure nobody flirts with his girl or disrespects her, sometimes even when she's fine with it, a protector knows what is his and protects it from anything at all costs

Thanks for reading :)

[EclecticEmapath1111]

Yes but I think that it's sad that more men don't do it because they are too afraid or just tell themselves that they shouldn't have to care about protecting their wives, girlfriends or little sisters. Hell! There's even some who don't even protect their children because they abandon their families after they become father's or get divorced. When my father was alive he was always protective of his seven sisters and my mother as well as my little brother, sister and myself. There was no such thing as letting it go or saying nothing if one of us was hurt by someone or anyone tried to take advantage of us, his natural response was to knock a Motherf***er out cold or chase his ass down the street for trying to hurt someone in his family. I think that it's a man's right to protect his family from perverts, bullies and anyone who would exploit them.

[oxoxo-lover]

Well, as a person who is small and petite. I gladly will take any help I can for my protection as I am a easy target. Women in the comments can say whatever but the poll clearly shows otherwise. Also the fact that the majority of women are attracted to a man's height confirms this as well. Why look for a man taller than you? Why are women not dating shorter men? In your mind, you want to feel protected.

[Mystic_Nova]

I think it's crazy put dated. For me, it's like this, we either fight together and get the shit kicked out of us, or we come out as bloody champs. The only time I wouldn't jump in is if I was pregnant.

Guys being the protecter is way outdated. And just because women are t as muscles as men are, doesn't mean we aren't a threat. That's how you get hurt, is why underestimating your opponent.

[Mystic_Nova]

By, not why lmao

[Mystic_Nova]

*Out

[joeblow123]

@Mystic_Nova

"That's how you get hurt, is why underestimating your opponent."

Graveyards are filled with men who foolishly underestimated women.

[Not_Average]

From a general standpoint, men are physically stronger and have higher capabilities in combative situations. That’s biology, not an outdated concept lol

[Mystic_Nova]

And guess what, it foesnt take much to poke out an eye, kick in the nuts and so forth. Timing, and skills can make a big difference. And a lot of men dont have combat abilities. Strength is not everything

[Not_Average]

Sure, but men clearly have a strong physical advantage in a combative situation over women.

[Mystic_Nova]

Not all the time. And once agian. A woman can still kick the guys butt.

[joeblow123]

@Mystic_Nova

"Not all the time. And once agian. A woman can still kick the guys butt."

Only if she is going to employ an unprovoked sneak attack or she uses deception to hurt the man or possibly kill him. In a straight-up attack where the man is prepared to go to war, the female doesn't stand a chance.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I would love that. Alas it's me who does that role in several setups or situations. I have been a leader for long, protecting myself, my family, my students, other volunteers, people in my community, etc. It would be nice to take a rest, and let a man do that for me sometimes. I'm getting old every single day. Having someone reliable and trustable is definitely appreciating.

[Don-_-Don]

It's nice, but a women shouldn't be playing the role of being a damsel in distress either.
If you got a functioning body then get in shape and learn how to fight. You can easily get in scenarios when no one will be coming to your aid.

It would be a bad idea for a women to depend on her man protecting/saving her 24/7

This is real life, not super Mario Bros where Mario ALWAYS gets his ass up to save peach.

[nerdybutlazy]

I think it's kind of natural for a man to want to protect or to feel the urge to protect but I don't think it's necessary all the time. I don't mind it when my boyfriend tries to protect I think it's sweet but I don't need him to do that all the time

[Wewladdy]

Men were born to protect and raise society. Women and children are part of this. They simply are not fit for this job that men have evolved for.

Sad thing is most men are wrecks who can't even lead their own lives properly nowadays. Hence the societal decay.

[HATR3D]

And what about the role of women staying home cooking and cleaning? Its a gender stereotype, they don't need to just like men don't need to protect their partner. Women wanted equal rights so I think it's about time we treat them like equals. Men protect themselves and women should protect themselves. Let's not bring in the other gener to fight our battles, that's immature. Handle your own shit and problems

[Liam_Hayden]

Protector of whom? My friends? Sure. Randoms who might deserve a slap down? Not so much. The last time I stepped in to block a dude from beating on a girl what happened? She started hitting me and screaming at me to leave her boyfriend alone. Lesson learned..

[AmazingGuy008]

Wow. That’s so sad. But I can see it happen.

[AmazingGuy008]

Anyways, I still think you protected HER integrity during that time.

[McKellar]

I can protect a woman if the situation arises.

Women will either be very grateful for that,.. or they will give you shit for protecting them.

Sounds strange, doesn't make any sense, but it's true. They will bitch you out if you do defend them.

[Lliam]

It's generally true when we are talking about physical protection, although that is rarely necessary. Most women like knowing that they are with a man who is big, strong and intimidating, and will fiercely protect them if necessary.

[TooDrunk4Sex]

guyz r supposed 2 do dis shit. i dont know if i like it. thats what im supposed 2 do. its my job. and if people think im being some lame ass then tell me what ur job is, what ur purpose is. cuz all i see are a bunch of fags these days

[Kaneki05]

It's defo a cliche i just think everyone should be able to protect each other. So both protectors.

[Unit1]

Yep! I agree.

[angeliquedevereux2]

I'm traditional. I'm the little spoon, you're the big spoon. Even if it is a cliché, women are genetically meant to find stronger men attractive since they are more likely to protect them.

[Bananaman177]

Well, women can't even protect themselves, let alone anyone else.

I'd literally rather have a male child in charge of my security than a grown, adult woman.

[Anonymous]

Women are so screwed up in the head about this. On the one hand, they will scream about how they are independent feminists in one situation, then tell you how you don't love or respect them if you don't protect them. I just go with the flow...