My girlfriend got jealous, cause I was talking to a old sex buddy, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

So me and my girlfriend went out to the club last night, went out with my sister and my dad. Me and my girlfriend were standing next to each other, my old FB was walking past us a few times staring me up and down. Then she did again and said flirtly “hey... (and my name)”, i said “oh hey there” and my girlfriend stepped up and told her to f off and kept saying it until she walked outside.

l will admit it was pretty funny, then i got my girlfriend to leave, cause she was ready to bash her. We walked home and she didn't talk to me the whole time, then she said “im going to my mums and find her”. I told her to “fuck off and dont come home” she said “you were ready to talk to her, in front of me. Why would you?”, i said “fuck off, go on. Fuck off”. She went off and didn't turn up to her mums, she was missing for a few hours, i ended up finding her at the park. With her phone turned off, at least 10 minutes after she left.

i begged her to come back, she told me that my old FB only talked to me to start drama, the fb has been going around saying my mum is a meth addict (she not), she's startinf shit at my girlfriend work and now started on us, my girlfriend gave me tough advice and it hit my like a brick. But i still think my girlfriend is in the wrong. Is it normal for her to react like that and get that pissed/jealous?

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It happened again, the fb spoke to me again at the store. I am just trynna be nice. My girlfriend was with me and she got to the car and said “again? Seriously?”. I said “dont start”. Then my girlfriend went to her mums to pick up a parcel, she messaged me and said “im hated for being jealous, you probably get a spark out of me being this jealous. But i dont, it needs to stop, i have enough to deal with. With what i found out today, just ignore her please”

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She also said “if you know it makes me this upset, why do you keep doing it? Please stop. My doctors appointment didn't go well and you want to push me down even lower. Just stop” i didn't tell her off this time, i did speak to her nicely and she wasn't being mean about anything. I didn't shove her away when she became upset, im pals with her inlaw and sister (they are married), im trying to keep the peace with them. By talking to the fb

[ItsTheNephilim]

Kind of an idiot, aren't you? There is a point of time where it's not appropriate to entertain old flings or exes.. and you did that in front of your girlfriend. Her response was accurate.

[igravenbunny]

Dude.. just how much of a fucking cuckold do you have to be to not even know the answer to this? its almost like a sense of dignified jealousy os foreign you to. absolute fucking mong. Your fb literally shat in your girlfriend's face by flirting with you in front of her, you stupid bastard... Man, what a dense motherfucker.
"iS d IS noRMuL"

[shanshu]

OK I'm not reading all that but seriously dude, your girlfriend is insecure, you talking to an old sex buddy especially when she eyeing you up, you should of been on your girlfriend's side

[Asker]

I know i should of, like at the time i thought that i wasn't doing anything wrong. I thought that it was just a friendly hello, like i didn't really see the harm in it. But when she asked me what would i do if the tables were turned and it was her talking to a old fling, i said “well id be jealous too”. She said “so. Why was it completely fine for you to talk to her and flirt a little in front of me. But me getting jealous was wrong?” You see, i am friends with the flings brother inlaw and sister, well from my girlfriends point. She said that im not, they haven't been to my new place or asked me to hang out for months. I knew if i didn't say “hey” to her back, she would whinge to them. Then id have my girlfriend down my ear being jealous and them on the other side whinging, the fling spoke to me again at the store and i spoke to her again and my girlfriend said that in the 2 updates above. My girlfriend had a fling with someone over 4 years ago, but she said told me they are in jail and as if shed talk to them. The night i spoke to the old fling and girl tried to make my girlfriend go to the bar to chat up some guys there and she wouldn't. The problem is too, the fling works at the supermarket we have to do shopping at and thats how she talks to me, cause she knows my girlfriend can't tell her off. The reason why my girlfriend is a little insecure about this is because i did a stupid thing, a really fucked up thing and i hated myself for weeks, even after she forgave me. So I actually ditched my girlfriend to be with the fling (this happened at a year and 3 months ago), i ignored my girlfriend when she told me she liked me, then 2 weeks later i came back apologetic to her. She didn't want to really let me back, but gave in. It was the most stupidest thing i ever did to her, cause my fling actually dumped her ex and me and moved countries to be with someone else, the fling came back 2 weeks ago and this is what is going down rn

[shanshu]

The thing is you can talk on passing like in supermarkets where it can't be help but a friendly hello but just be aware if your girlfriend is near by and your fling is too, it's not the fact of ignoring your fling but when your being overly friendly, that's just gonna piss off your girlfriend, it's like if a ex fling of your girlfriend was there instead like she put, but it's not the fact of you feeling a little jelous, it's like what if she was chatting and smiling and laughing with him and he was eyeing her up and down, what if he was working at the supermarket and she was friends with his sibling.

You just god to put yourself in her shoes and hers in yours.

That's all, you made a mistake it's understandable, just be aware next time

[Anonymous]

I usually try not to be rude to people on here, but bruh, telling your girlfriend to fuck off after that? Just stay single til you grow up.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Stop talking to the old fuck buddy before you end up fucking her again and lose your current girl that actually cares.

[dancingbird]

Why won't she be jealous

[Anonymous]

She doesn't deserve you.

[knight2468]

Clam her down. Talk to her it will work

[Asker]

She seems okay today, but i know she's still upset. She said that she went to speak to me to start drama, then when my girlfriend told her to fuck off and go. She said “i hate her, i will throw my drink if she does it again”. Everyone turned on her, my dad and sister told her to leave, that she is a jealous idiot. While my of FB walked around with her nose in the air, my girlfriend then told my sister what she said about my mum and that me and the girl used to be fb. My girlfriend was then talking to another girl and the girl was trying to drag her to the bar to chat up this tatted guy there, but she started crying saying she couldnt. We left and then when i found her and got her home (we live together) she broke down in the bathroom saying that she spoke to me to cause drama and that her brother inlaw and sister ain't my friends, that they use me and talk about her like she's a paper. She said “i can't talk to you about anything thats worrying me, every time i try to talk about my emotions you go off at me. I bottled all this up”. The girls inlaw and sister spread it around that i was a abuser to my girlfriend, by hurting her and telling her off. She said “friends dont do that and they dont see you, they haven't even came to our new house and you think they are just perfect. Stop please, they only want to know you when you have money and alcohol. They aren't friends” she wasn't nasty about it, she was being cruel to be kind

[knight2468]

Stuck to my advice and everything will change

[Asker]

It slowly is, like im pals with the FB brother inlaw and sister, im trying to keep the peace with them. By talking to the FB, but its making my girlfriend upset. She told me she needs reassurance and that she has been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, weight issues and other problems too. My girlfriend isn't fat, but her doctor is making her do all of these things, due to medical problems. Im just trying to be nice and i myself dont see a problem with it, but i can see the hurt in my girlfriend eyes when i do it. Its just weirdly set out, she told me it needed to stop, stop while she cares atm. Cause she said that once she doesn't, she will just walk off and leave me to talk with her/be with her, that she won't care. she's pointed out everything we have i dont want to loose it, but i dont want my pals down my ears too

[JoyGirl]

You are not ok.