In my opinion if a guy can't wait for the prize he is just in it for sex and not for you. So definitely drop him if it's a deal breaker. If this guy really wants you he will wait. But never lose yourself while trying to hold on to someone who doesn't care about losing you.
I'm not sure if he is fixated on sex and selfishly wants to rush it or he wants to make sure the two of you are sexually compatible before tying the knot. Hopefully, both of you will take the time to address the other's concerns. The key to a healthy relationship is showing we want to hear and understand the other, not insist on being heard and understood. His perspective is just as legitimate as yours... the question is whether both of you care enough to consider the other person's feelings.
Probably you should split. Sounds like you have entirely different notions of appropriate sexuality. How do you imaging sex in your married life would be? How often? What activities? After 3 months you should have discussed it, instead of him whining for sex and you telling him you won't until you are engaged.
Your not compatible and you'll be feeling used, hurt and he'll feel sexually frustrated and blame you for not putting out. Date guys who share your vALUES! Please! That's why you date a FRIEND. NOT a STRANGER.
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I also want to preserve my chastity so I get what you mean, he seems to be more of a play around kinda guy, you want someone who is serious with you and can accept your reasonable conditions, no sex is very reasonable so he can't tell you it isn't. most relationships that have pre-marital sex get divorced down the road, and divorce doesn't help anything.
If you really don’t want to, that is your choice. But there is a point of, what will change if he proposes versus if he didn’t? A pregnancy that may result in abandonment? Whether he’s engaged or not if a man does not want to be an actual present Father, they’ll leave no matter what situation they’re put in that they do not want to be in.
I say find yourself someone who has the same values as you do.
Seems that this is a deal breaker for you. It's giving a lot of tension already after only three months. That leaves just one realistic option: break up.
If you can’t come to an understanding then you should really discuss the future of your relationship with him.
What’s your main fear if you have sex this month? What would change if he asked you to marry him on New Year’s Day?
If he doesn't respect your wishes, then maybe he's not the right one for you.
You aren't compatible, let him go and find someone who wants to wait until marriage.
Only if you can't get him to stop saying it by saying im tobpoint of wanting to break up over this then see if he changes his mind if not move on
Sounds like an axe is calling for you. Go talk with it, it’s got some business with you, you need to discuss. Hehehehehheheehhhhh
it is about respectfull if he does not respect your idea so you dont need to be together.
Yes, you should break up as you two are not compatible and he should have the opportunity to have sex without guilt.
GL with that 🙄
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