My boyfriend gets mad if I fall asleep without telling him first what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months and most of our relationship has been long distance, when we started dating I had little to do all day because it was nearly summer and I didn’t have a job so I could stay up all night texting him. I never been the routine type of person I don’t have a set bedtime or regimen before bed and now that I’m back in college full time and working I find myself just falling asleep more often without warning, and this really upsets my boyfriend because he feels as if I should send him a text or warning every time I fall asleep, I’ve tried that and I've tried to explain to him that I have a hard time warning him because most of the time I just doze off and I wake up a few hours later to passive aggressive text from him saying that he doesn’t understand why I just fall asleep like that. I don’t want to invalidate his feelings about this but at the same time I wish he would be more understanding that I get extremely tired sometimes. I’m frustrated because this has been an ongoing battle between us for the past few months, how do we come to a middle ground?

[JackSmy]

Maybe a foreshadow of how he will CONTROL you, in a relationship? I would move on, and find someone that isn't such a demanding prick!
Sometimes, when you are talking, long distance, with someone you love, in a different time zone, and you hear their voice, and you feel so relaxed, and you don't mean to fall asleep, but, falling asleep to the sound of the voice, of the Lady I love, what could be better and more wonderful, for peaceful sleep!
Yeah, and she has fallen asleep on me, too, and I just say nice things, and best wishes, and cut the phone. I NEVER get angry, or take offense!! WTF?

[yucychan]

What middle ground are you talking about?
The fact is you are tired and you fell asleep. I don't see anything wrong with that and I also feel there's no need to compromise on this.
If I want to sleep, I will just go and sleep. What is there to be angry about?
If you and your boyfriend were talking over the phone and you dozed off, he should have known it after a min or two of silence. Then just hang up and continue the next day, what is there to be angry about?
Why is your boyfriend so petty and childish?

The solution is very simple.
Either you and him only talk on days that you are not that tired or
You tell him to support you through college and life so that you do not have to work. Tell him to pay for everything. Then you do not have to work and won't be so tired. So now you can talk with this asshole you called a boyfriend everyday.

[Danny_dan92]

He expressed a concern of his. Either you make changes to appease him. And you have all the right to do the same back (express things he does that bothers you)


And if either of you choose to not respect each other’s wishes? Time to breakup. Cause that’s gonna cause problems later on

[Anonymous]

Well, I think it is more to do with him waiting rather than you sleeping.

I would come to an agreement for another neutral time slot. Where you both would be available. Apart from that slot, he could be busy or you could be. It shouldn't matter.

[Unit1]

Get a new boyfriend. He sounds controlling.

[Raghuyadav]

Give him sleepinh pills in drinks.. hahah

[Newhead]

What? break up.