Exactly to the last part!
Exactly!! This 💯 here!!! Couldn't agree more!
Girl, get out of my head lololol exactly this here!!!💯👍👍
Right!!! Want fresh start, but in same old bullshit... Like yeah no...
Yea dont give in. Its 2021 and the Lord is dropping toxicity from our lives for a reason
👍👍👍 but then I can have a drink right 🤔 lol just kidding I ain't drinking today 😂
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Depends on the screw ups, little screw ups happen, it's that someone is really trying or trying not to screw up that is important.. And if they admit the screw ups or lie, deny, or blame someone else where I'd think that's when they become an issue
Great answer... And I agree... Some people do deserve a second chance... But they have to change their ways then and not just keep repeating the same actions or behavior, cuz then that's not really a "fresh start"... It's them just expecting you to put up with just anything
Yes. Third chances are something else entirely.
👍👍 even second of there's no change
We may be talking about different things, bbb. I mentioned second chances from parents, school, work and the criminal justice system. I get the feeling you are talking about relationships. Am I right?I added the last paragraph of my initial comment to cover relationships.
It could apply to anything tho right? If you're given a second chance at school, you had to change your behavior or grades right? You had to acknowledge, admit there were things they needed changing... Any fresh start/second chance can't happen/won't be successful with old actions...
A second chance is having faith that the person and that they will learn their lesson. It's saying "I know you are a good person." It's realizing that people sometimes make mistakes or do stupid things. If a person re-offends, it's a mark against their character. That's why consequences are more severe for those who don't learn their lesson the first time.
👍👍👍 except for one thing, if there was something lacking in the relationship, shouldn't the working on that happen before/instead of the cheating 🤔🤔🤷🏼♀️
Agreed! Cheating should never be the place to change, it should always happen before that as much as it possibly can
Glad you were able to work things out with your mom
I didn't I texted her once, as did my twin, if I ever meet her it won't be from a place of vulnerability.
Oh okay but you forgave her
That's true... Especially those that expect you to be there in THEIR difficult times but were/are never there in "yours"...
Couldn't agree more 💯👍
Right!!! Exactly!! Love the meme ❤️👍😂
Thanks! I picked it because it also has a comic element to balance out the deep part loll.
Yeah cuz that would be the face I'd be making it someone pull that shit with me 😂😂
Bruh 😂😂 truee hella true.
Ah I meant same loll but yeah honestly I would too.
Yeah that's true.. Someone has to care to care how they treat you and if their lies and actions hurt you...
Yeah unfortunately for many they think their shit don’t stink. It is kinda true in this day and age women need men like fish need bicycles. Half of them are on drugs anyway, when has a fish ever needed meth. People need to get their priorities straight, That’s when you have good relationships.
Exactly! Couldn't agree more
Well little things are one thing... But obsessive lying, cheating, things like that... I agree 💯
Don't know why someone would do that thinking they can get a fresh start and not realize fresh start means fresh attitude fresh actions 🤷🏼♀️
If they deserve it, and are willing to work for it... Some people do deserve a second chance but some don't... But it should be earned, not demanded
@Brainsbeforebeauty Yeah I agree LOL
That's how I feel. I mean some people can grow and change, but then there would be proof of that in their actions or behavior. But if there's not? Well to me, I'd take that as someone who won't be any different and wouldn't deserve a second chance
What possible valid reason could there be the? You really do deserve someone who wouldn't do that to you
Yeah. They know who they bees🧐I dares them 2 try to walk up in this life still actin like sum bum ass. Cuz we fightin🦁
Right again!!! Like hello, I'm blonde not fucking stupid... Not all females incapable of thinking logically... Some guys just think that... Don't work out in the long run, cuz I can think logical enough to recognize when someone on nothing but BS
Sorry you went through that... And yeah sometimes, some people really are sorry and really can/will change... But I personally seen to much of the opposite to give that much chance of success
I am a strong believer in forgiving that is why I forgave that woman... but in the end result there has to be some sort of understanding... to me personally I liked her physically... and gave her a second chance to say " hey I have a hot girlfriend ( sad excuse) I was young and stupid and I've learnt my lesson... but you have to make sure they actually change... AMAZING QUESTION...
Exactly!!! You can't ask to start over and exhibit the same behavior that was what was causing issues in the first place 🤷🏼♀️
Amen to that
Right! Not saying people never deserve a second chance, but they don't if they don't own up to their past mistakes or do anything to change
Right! Or people incapable of telling the truth... But more so, when they won't OWN up to their mistakes... How can you really change of you can't admit to any wrongdoing or try to shift the blame to someone else. I can't have respect for people like that... We all make mistakes in life... But the first part to getting through or past those mistakes is to admit, own them land then work on not repeating those same mistakes
Who said I was the one needing a second chance 🤔 And agree, everyone needs to own up to their mistakes... But that's just the first step, you also have to change behavior and not repeat the same mistakes...
Most people that own up to their mistakes, don't continue the same behaviour and change for the better. Not always but I have found it to be true most times. I didn't mean you specifically needing a second chance. Should have said people. Sorry, poor choice of words. See even I make mistakes and own them.
😂😂 my bad lol see, so can/do I🤪🙂
I agree... But clean slate 1- means you can't start with the same bullshit that was causing issues in the first place... And 2- that has to be a clean slate for both, not just one...
Well yeah change don't happen overnight, it's a work in progress... But the first step is admitting and owning up to the issues and mistakes, and then working on ways for those things not to repeat themselves
Giving someone a second chance isn't always a bad thing... But there should be a change in behavior or actions or it's a chance they don't deserve
Yes I always try and make sure the gals have just one way out at least. It's grate when they run free 🤐
👍👍 sometimes gotta walk away, other times gotta run 🚪🏃♀️🏃♀️
Untill then there's rope?
For? To tie em up 😂 or give em enough "rope" to let them hang themselves with (I mean that figuratively not literally)
You have no idea 🤐
You can forgive someone without giving them the opportunity to hurt you further.
I forgave my first husband for all the physical abuse I went through,(more for my personal healing,) don't mean I would of went back, gave him a chance to abuse me more..
Ouch! Im sorry!Sometimes if someone forgives someone, Its a kick in the head to stop, but there's a chance where it won't happen, so therefore, the boot needs to be directed at the ass, along with his bags in the front door.
Well yeah divorced him, and had 20 years with my second hubby till he passed 7 years ago...
Great! but... sorry again!
It's good, well that's life anyways, right 🤷🏼♀️
Very true!Keep your head up! otherwise you'll spill your soup!
🤣🤣 what's worse.. Spilt soup or Spilt milk 🤔🤣
LOL depends on what color shoes you're wearing on what foot!
Lololol I'm barefoot 😂
Right!! That's double hell no 💯🙂👍
I hope it worked for you
It worked very well Gave him chance when we were in college
That's good!!! Glad it worked out for you
So, let's say for example: if someone was lying to you, you would still give them a second chance, if they didn't own up to the lies or they were still lying to you as saying they wanted a fresh Start? You can't have a fresh start with the same old actions, And you can't leave the past in the past if the same things are happening, right 🤔 cuz then it's not really just past actions but present actions as wellOr another example:If someone was fucking around on you behind your back, would you forgive them if they still couldn't own up to it or take responsibility for it? What faith would there be that things would be different if there's no owning your mistakes trying to work past the issues, and not repeat past mistakes. Noone is obligated to forgive someone or give them a second chance. But if you have someone that is, then shouldn't you do what you can not to hurt that person further?
I don't believe so either 👍🙂
cheaters and abusers are strong examples/
i honestly don't under why you'd go back in either situation.
Yet people do all the time
Right! Fresh start can only happen with fresh behavior... You can't keep exhibiting the same behavior that caused the issues in the first place, right? 🤔🤷🏼♀️
Yes, unfortunately that is correct!
As hard as it can be to walk away sometimes, sometimes it's the only thing can do, and the best thing in the long run