Here's why:
When you are young and through middle age, it's not THAT tough to be single. But you hit 55-60, and now being single means you may never be able to retire, and working full-time in your 60s or 70s isn't fun for anyone, but what are most women going to do in their 60s and 70s? Certainly some will still be pretty vital and energetic relative to their age, but many will not be. But without having had a "team" (marriage or long-term relationship) when she was younger, and without having children to rely on, how is she going to survive?
Many women have health issues and can't do the kinds of jobs in their 50s and 60s that they could do in their 30s and 40s, so unless she's in a corporate desk job, she's likely going to struggle. And if she doesn't own her home outright and doesn't have her own investment savings (and being single her whole life will make having those things much more difficult), then the costs of living are likely to eat her alive.
The same is true for men, of course, but men tend to be better capable of working later in life, and tend not to live as long anyway. Men also know that they need to plan for their future with investments and so forth. This isn't to say that it's easy to be single as a man - it isn't, and men face all the same challenges - but I think men tend to be more ready for them in the decisions they make. For example, men are more likely to buy a house, while women are more likely to rent, as women will prefer to have lower payments (requiring fewer work hours and/or a less difficult job) and a landlord to fix things, or to be able to move easily. But renting builds no equity. The man may only have a small, crappy house, and the woman a more upscale apartment, but the house's worth will be $500k+ while the apartment will be worth $0 as it isn't hers.
We all know that the cost of living will continue to rise. We know that single people tend to have far lower net worth than married couples (or at least, long-term relationship partners) who built equity together. And without children, you aren't likely to have family to support you in old age. So, this will mean a lot of women who lived pretty well through middle age but end up in public housing in old age, usually around drugs and gangs and theft and violence. It's a sad situation.
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Hell anyone past 30 who isn't married or in a relationship becomes uncomfortable because people treat you like a freak or weirdo for going it alone. Get past 40 and remain unmarried then you'll see the real shit show. That's when they really drag your ass through the rumor mill. I've have had close friends my own age, who enjoy being single as a way of life, had to at some point or another create and maintain fake "relationships" so people mind their own damn business and stop passively convicting my friends of wanting to be happy and alone.
Because some people have this stone age mentality that women need men to survive. Even some women have that mentality. We don’t need men. Strong women know that we don’t need men and that’s what I’ll tell my daughters too. Strong women will only be with a man because he treats her good and she loves him. NEVER because she needs just any man around. No we don’t need anyone. We are enough for ourselves because we are strong willed us women who don’t think we need men.
A lot of married woman will not allow their husbands to be friends with a single woman and a lot of married woman will not be friends with a single woman out of fear the single woman will try to steal her husband so that might limit her social chances but I think overall it also allows you to be friends with people a married person might not be able to accept as a friend such as an opposite gender friend or a single or divorced same gender friend.
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Eh?
they don’t seriously don’t understand the question.
maybe in 3rd world countries but not an issue here.
if a girl does not want to be married, and prefers to be single or simply live with a guy or girl then she can, she does not need a ring on her finger or 30 minutes in a registry office.
Society is not that concerned if a woman is unmarried, definitely sounds very 3rd world.
saying that I went to a great pagan festival 2019 where 2 of my friends got married both long term unmarried women.I suppose if she wants a husband but no one wants to marry her people will feel bad for her but no one will have any idea what to do about it. And the less well she veils her desperation the more people will be reminded of how little can be done aboutnit. Especially in smaller towns the plain fact is she will remain alone. It's similar to the discomfort people feel around the homeless - you can't do anything about it but you can't help feel a tiny bit guilty knowing your job isn't really that hard and could be done by anyone and while you coild toss them some cash right now you can't afford to basically adopt a full grown adult. But at least with homeless people you can take some comfort in knowing there are social programs, however stripped of funding, you pay into with taxes to help them. For single women there is nothing like that availible.
That's my guess anyway. I'm not actually familiar with anyone being uncomfortable around an unmarried woman.I get what you mean. There are some backward thinking idiots who think especially single women above 30s are leftovers lol. It is more funnny when old bitter fugly b*stards who are single themself trashtalk single women above 30s and think that young women would want their used up old ass.
An unattached woman is extremely unpredictable, socially. Unmarried vs single is to be debated, but since most women (80% a few years ago, I think it's around 70% now) have a long-term relationship as one of their highest goals, it's bizarre.
Same reason we're scared of spiders. Its not for venom or size, we find them creepy because we don't know what their intentions are.I don’t think society is much more averse to unmarried women than they are to unmarried men, it’s just that at a certain age, if a woman is unmarried, her single status is seen as fixed, whereas a man in his 40s or 50s might be seen as “currently unmarried”, but people still expect him to settle down one day with a young, fertile woman and start a family.
Because of tradition. Women are expected to have a husband and raise children, but not every woman wants that, and if they don't have it, then it's assumed that something is wrong with them when that's not the case whatsoever.
It breaks social norms. As with anything against social norms, society can’t control them. If you can’t control something, it often comes off as unnatural.
Some people think that it’s every woman’s dream to get married and have kids. It’s my dream but it’s not every woman’s dream.
She doesn't give in to the expectations of society.
She's strong.
Do you remember those kids, that smoked tobacco and anyone, who didn't join them was isolated out as some sort of weirdo? Yeah, that carries over into adulthood but with marriage and maxing out the credit cards.I'd add an unmarried or single who doesn't want a relationship neither partner.
I've gotten a lot of times, "I want to see that moment in wish you are with someone".
Hum... really? What's the curiosity or intention behing this? As if having a partner is a requirement for existing.Because she's letting herself to be "free" and not choosing to endure the restrictions, hardships and troubles of married women or marriage in general
I think if I was married and my wife had a friend who was single and female, it would make me awkward to be around her friend. Plus I am sure if the friend was much prettier than my wife, it would cause problems especially if my wife was the jealous type.
Please give examples of what you are talking about. What country's society are you talking about?
An attractive unmarried woman at a gathering with married couples is disturbing to the wives as they think - correctly - that their hubbies are fantasizing about porking her brains out, which is what guys are programmed to do by Mother Nature.
An unmarried woman has her own choices. She lives for herself so that might be the reason people consider them uncomfortable for society. She got her own space and we must accept her with open hearts.
I am unmarried and VERY happy with a career and if society is uncomfortable, that is their fault, I am happy, and living my single life!
People are just mean. It’s more aggressive and noticeable with older women. Folks really go out of their way to berate single women after 35
Give me some examples of society being uncomfortable.
I didn't know we did. How do you figure that? And just remember, a divorced woman is also classified as unmarried.
i don't think society is like that anymore. It probably was this way 40 years ago
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