Always texting first?

[Anonymous]

• So there's a girl I've been talking to since November, we've never met. She told me that she's working three jobs and her dog is pretty much dying and she literally has no free time to do anything, but when things slow down then we can meet it's been on and off but since her birthday a few weeks ago we've sent some text back and forth every day but I always initiate. Should I back off for a few days and see if she texts first or just keep going because she seemed to respond positively? For the record I am talking to a slew of girls but she's the one I like the most and I sort of wonder if I back off if it could pull her in and make her want to make free time or squeeze me into her schedule somehow, or is that just childish?

[Sel666]

I think maybe you should try and see if she texts you first cuz if she's "so busy" then why can she answer when you text, but not do it herself? Just a bit weird for me. Trust me, you don't wanna always be the one who initiates the convo cuz it sucks lol. If she doesn't text after like a week or so, she just doesn't care. Then text her then and tell her like hey why do I always have to initate the convo and you never do so? Just effort isn't there, which suggests that her wanting to "meet up" will also end in her not giving effort and she'll cancel on you.

[Sel666]

by the way if you're talking to a bunch of girls, maybe you should focus on one! Cuz if not let her live her best life and also talk to a bunch of guys lol

[Asker]

She texted me first just a bit ago :D , one thing I've leared over the years is if you just focus on one person before things get serious then a lot of times you end up getting burned, so i talk to a handful so when one burns me i still have others i can go to, really softens the blow

[Sel666]

Yeah I get that but if you honestly really like her maybe mention it or stop talking to so many girls.

[lexiflexs]

“Really softens the blow” if you were confident in yourself you wouldn’t need a bunch of random girls to give you validation. Be at peace with being alone and focus on YOURSELF.

[Sel666]

Trueeeeee but it's hard sometimes and honestly they're just talking so it's no big deal to chat with other people. Howeverrrr, if y'all are sending nudes or hooking up, that's a whole different story and you should totally stop doing that with other girls since it's more than just talking.

[Anonymous]

On Snapchat?

[Opinion Owner]

And if you’re talking to “a slew of girls” why do u care? Clearly you’re not serious so why should she be overly invested in you? Let her live her life

[Asker]

yes on snapchat, and thats how the dating game works, you dont go exclusive until you're dating seriously. we are both single so being exclusive would be foolish, for all i know she could be talking to 10 guys

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly you don’t wanna be exclusive so don’t complain. She had no commitment towards you