Do girls wait for the guy to always text first or no?

[GGJared]

I always end up texting first and sometimes I feel like I’m bothering her. I don't know if I’m actually bothering her or if she wants me to text first.

[jeremythedrummer]

Rule of thumb: If you are interested, just text. doesn't matter who texts first.

In my experience I've always texted first. And its to some extent bothering that girls dont want to take the initiative most of the time. Look , we know you girls are nervous about it, but us guys are too! Whats more , from my experience guys are more scared of rejection than girls due to the pride factor; if you get rejected your mates will make fun of you instead of making sure you ok and whatnot. But i understand that to make a move is not easy for both parties. If no one starts a conversation then both parties lose out. Girls, if you like him, be bold and confident about it. Guys , if you like her , be straight up about it.

[GGJared]

Well said

[EPunn]

No way, I once had a girl who messaged me nonstop before and after school. I never got a chance to initiate a conversation because she always did first. Don't get me wrong I did like it but after I learned some things about her that I didn't like, I started to enjoy talking less and less.

[Lmb09]

I totally get you. This guy and I like each other, but I'm always texting first. I tended to feel like I would be bothering him. If we just wait, no one's gonna do anything. I read that people on the shyer side, tend to prefer when the person they like texts first. So that's one of the things that keeps me going; plus if she replies with full sentences and doesn't blow you off, that's a good sign; that's what the guy I like does.

I also text him every once in a while. But it's different for you since you're a guy. You actually get an easy answer: yes! Do text us first.

[jeremythedrummer]

hmm is it a must? It can be as hard for guys as it is for girls.

[jeremythedrummer]

I mean there is no hard and fast rule dictating who texts first

[Lmb09]

@jeremythedrummer You really think so? Even if you confessed feelings for each other, could the guy still not text first because he just doesn't know what to say or do? But genuinely like you? Thanks!

[Lmb09]

@jeremythedrummer That's true, that " rule " was society's doing. lol

[jeremythedrummer]

Well not as difficult in the aspect of texting after confessing but just as difficult, if not more , actually texting before confessing. Worried about being annoying? Guys are worried about that too. Talking too much? Guys get worried about that too. And we constantly debate, just like girls may do, if they are just being nice by replying. And when it comes to the confession... Our egos and pride are on the line. They take a severe beating upon rejection, so one can imagine how nerve-wrenching it is. Im not trying to argue, just bringing in another perspective from a guy's point of view.

[Lmb09]

@jeremythedrummer No, no I get it. I just said " you really think so" because I was agreeing with your comment. It's interesting how similarly guys behave to girls. I'll keep that in mind thanks!

[jeremythedrummer]

sometimes guys behave similarly, other times no. But in the end we are all human.

[Lmb09]

@jeremythedrummer Ya we are! Thanks for the help!

[SherbertKay]

ALWAYS TEXT US. If we tell you were always busy or give you short answers all the time then you know to back off bc we aren't interested. Otherwise, please text us. More than likely we are waiting for you to text. We get excited and we like it. Especially if it's a good conversation or if you're inviting us somewhere. I think girls are just at the point of where they are done chasing guys so seeing guys put effort into it is FANTASTIC!!

[Demised]

I strongly disagree.

[oftheHowl]

"done chasing guys" that has never been in a thing since the dawn of mankind. Let's say you're on tinder, and you get a match. That means you both swiped right, which means you're both obviously interested. I'd say 1/100 girls send a first message, and you all say it's because you want to know the guy is interested. It's bs lol you already know we're interested, you're all just lazy and like being chased, making guys do all the work. Imagine if you had to send hundreds of messages out, you think they're always going to be interesting and lead to good conversation? No, because we're jaded from having to always message first. Learn to take the initiative if you truly want "balance."

[GGJared]

Same dude

[Andrewlongguard]

Why not say your not interested instead of "shorty response and busy " and since when did girls chance guys? 😂😂

[jeremythedrummer]

I've never heard of "done chasing guys" because most girls i know of are afraid to chase guys. And most hints they drop go unnoticed (guys are dense). So if a girl likes a guy, dont hesitate to text or she might lose him, and if a guy likes a girl, he should grab thr chance to talk as well.

[Poohbear2002]

Sometimes but when I know that he not the type to text first then I don't bother
But if ik he texts first sometimes then i might not wait but I'd expect a text rofl... But waiting is a waste of time, I'd just do something else. Maybe if I'm doing nothing and just laying down I'd day dream or whatever but not waiting😂😂😂

[Allie_Oops]

I wait because guys have way too many rules when it comes to women looking desperate. Texting first is one of them.

[jeremythedrummer]

i dont know where you come from but here guys are pretty open to girls texting first; no one gets labelled unneccesarily.

[ImagineSketchy]

Guys don't have any rules like that.

[Demised]

Um. No. Not even a tiny bit. Sorry.

[Finchie40]

Their is a no win answer to this one, considering if a male texts first the girl can be a bitch and take it as we r desperate or needy vice versa , so it just depends on the person if intent someone and they don't respond then I just look at it like they aren't interested and move on

[Roseyred96]

If your not in a relationship most girls will wait for you to text first. Its just one big game that I got tired of. I'm glad I found someone

[GGJared]

But it seems like they are uninterested a lot so I quit texting first.

[Cathrine11]

Yeah i get tired of this "game" as well.

[GGJared]

Same

[Mythtech]

If girls have the right to expect us to make an effort to start a conversation. They can at least respond in a civil manner instead of ghost us when we try it that way.

Otherwise. Guys texting first can be out the window for all I care 😁😁😁😁😁

[GGJared]

I agree completely

[lomimore]

Trust me most girls will be waiting nervously even if they like you a lot for you to text if you are bothering her these will be the signs (mmh, k) just at the begining of the conversation.

[isweatergawd]

Don't worry man just do what u feel is right. If u feel that way look up what other guys when they over text someone. Some girls do wait thanks to social media posts.

[GGJared]

Thanks

[witherwing]

I find texting first to be overrated. If you text first and actually don't have anything to say, it's worthless.

[cara551]

Yep, most girls wait for you to text them first. But you should pay attention because texting her all the time could make you uninteresting and easy to get, if u know what I mean

[blubblubblub]

i generallly wait for the guy to text first, else i feel clingy. but i dont mind sometimes msging first as long as i get a prompt response.

[helloiamme1996]

Guy first generally. Except the guy I'm with thought it was girls first. And the two of us played chicken for like a month both waiting for the other to text

[ikEVERYTHING]

Majority of times the guy should text first, however with personal experience. It mostly depends on the other person, if you get the vibe that they like you but haven't texted yet then maybe you should go first

[ChronicThinker]

The only time I wait for him to text first is if he got my number first.

[Lilmeri99]

I wait most of the time, but I do send whenever I want to make him know he's not forgotten and I too make efforts

[Rebecca_Tonkin]

It's equal :) But if she texts back then I guess you're not bothering her. Maybe try not texting her for a day or more days and see if she texts you first. At least you've given her the chance then.

[grilled_cheese_1129]

sometimes girls want to be texted first, they feel like they're bothering people

[madhatters4]

not all girls. in fact i wouldn't say most girls. it really depends on the person

[4everalone]

I normally wait for the guy to text me first but I occasionally initiate the conversation.

[shan_shan]

No if are in a relationship, i don't mind texting my boyfriend first

[strawndmt]

Yes, for me it would be nice if the guy text me first often

[Demised]

Why?

[strawndmt]

@Demised I like the feeling that he cares about me but if I like him back too I would text him first once in a while too not just let him start all the times. Like I would say if you start 5 times already I would feels like oh I need to show him that I'm interested too so I would start the conversation.

[Demised]

Ok 😊👍

[melissasnyder004]

I love it when they text first, but if they don't i'll do it, but i'll feel guilty doing it

[Tanguy7]

Why so?

[melissasnyder004]

@Tanguy7 because, girls feel the same way as what your feeling "Is he getting annoyed" "Will he get mad?"

[jeremythedrummer]

Dont worry. Most guys respond positively to girls texting and will likely reciprocate.

[amalsudhan]

Y you all are feeling guilty like living in a virtual world full of ego.
Know one thing, this is life, if u wanna do something do it, if u wanna get something then go and get it.
These ego and imaginative situations won't give u back the time u spoiled over ego. Just give it a try. One life v have. Don't loose time over ego. Everyone need to be cared. U shall reap what u sow