How do you make yourself irreplaceable in a relationship?

Question

What kind of qualities and traits do you look for with someone in a relationship? Is it their trust, their empathy, maybe their communication skills with you? After a lot of thinking lately and talking to my girlfriend about some serious matters that came up, I feel completely disposable within our relationship and I don't want to feel that way.

Aguysopinion4799 · Accepted Answer

I agree with how @cynicaldreamer stated, there isn't a surefire way to make yourself forever irreplaceable but you can however make yourself LESS replaceable by the means of showing more traits that are desirable to the individual but also rare, this would make you even more valued because you have those parts that are not easily found in other people thus making you a rarity. But ultimately you cannot make yourself 100% irreplaceable, this is because in the whole world there will always be someone else that can also do what you do even if it is in one aspect, you just need to ensure you are better in it than the ones around you, this can be in the form of your social skills, empathy, your romantic behaviour, maybe in hobbies, your humour, just things that people appreciate when you display them :) Like with having more kindness and perhaps being a person who likes to just talk about a couple of their own embarrassing stories or secrets and likes to be involved in the life of others or perhaps is very emotionally open when speaking to the point it makes people laugh at times depending on the persons emotional display, just something that makes you more approachable, more desirable and seem unlike others around your current place and have traits that, while may exist in others you have them at a much higher level ^_^

Jjpayne · Accepted Answer

It's a really good question!!! Important moments! Moments that are not safe but adventurous. No one has strong emotions just sitting at home. Be bold and fun. Take her on adventures.

How do you make yourself irreplaceable in a relationship?

Make her remember you and remember having fun with you.

Then be there for her family and friends.

Be there for her. You become irreplaceable the same way you become irreplaceable in a job, trust, reliability, and open honesty.

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

I guess finding someone willing to 'put in the work.'

I feel like that's one of those things that makes someone worth staying, the idea that it'll get better, that they will improve, that you will become stronger as a couple together.

Fights happen but we can all work on ourselves, examples being to argue without swearing or yelling or arguing for a common outcome rather than 'proving who is 'more' right. It's a common trap for young people, particularly logical young men to think that because something is logical, it is a 'better' way to do things. There are two 'I's in relationships, so the only
Best outcome is that which the two parties AGREE is the best outcome. Both parties have to decide what's worth bending for.

We can work to talk about our concerns before we've reaching our limit. We can apologize for the hurt caused even if we don't agree with it. We can recognize that as much as we may dislike our partners in that moment, we still should treat them with basic respect.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

As a disclaimer, there really is no way to guarantee or make yourself irreplaceable in a relationship.
You can be the most loyal, attractive, sweet, honest person out there... but that might not be enough for the wrong person- as in someone that's not meant for you, or values you the same way you want them. Meaning your partner has to be receptive to what makes you special, and hope that's enough to keep them around.

With that being said, there's a plethora of things you can do to make yourself seem irreplaceable or special to a potential partner or love interest: how receptive you are to their feelings, listening to them (good communication skills are ALWAYS a plus in any relationship), fidelity and showing them that you only have eyes and interest for them...

Or just being in their life when they need someone to be there for them. Basically, show them that you love and support them.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Accept that you will always be replaceable.  All you can do is to pledge, every day, to be the best partner that you can be, and hope that she appreciates all of the good that is in you.

Lela2121 · Answer

Truth to be told, everyone is replaceable.. You can spend 10 years with someone and realise (either one of you) that you're not compatible, break up and find someone else.. Not to mention cheating and things like that, that can happen and break the relationship apart no matter the duration..

The point in dating is to find someone who will accept you fully, every single flaw of yours and every single good thing, who will respect you and therefore be honest with you.. Every relationship will teach you something.. Those are traits I'm looking for in a partner - for them to be respectful, honest and to accept me.. So, when you find someone you accept fully, you will have no need to find someone else, to replace them, period. You choose people that suits you, that you accept and that you're comfortable with, whether it's a friendship or a romantic relationship..

So yeah, you are replaceable and there's nothing you can do or change if a person decided to find someone else.. And frankly, you shouldn't change yourself for someone else to accept you.. Be who you are and aim to be better - the right one will be there..

romeo_and_cats · Answer

The question you made it's very important in the relationship topic, people here are just lazy as fuck. If they don't want to improve, let them be left by someone else not you. You cna always improve that's the core of self development and that's the main skillset that made us human beings to be alive until today. We always had to be creative, inspiring, sometimes catastrophic to generate a new world and a better future for our existence. Focus on the major question, never listen to girls what they say, but interpret their talking it's always based on emotions, so she felt in a way, what she asked for; security? Adventure, passion. I'm not saying give all to woman, I don't even believe they diserve it. Just think macro, and be a leader put a direction towards the mud

MrWolf · Answer

Nothing can make you that and yet Everything.

Just there isn't a sure formula to success.

Either it works or doesn't but for it to work takes to much from both parties.

Sure they are like so many reasons my wife is irreplaceable but only takes one bad choice and thing to destroy all that happiness.

Because i don't forgive mistakes or accept lying or bad secrets that are going to reveal themselves later on.

If you aren't so happy atm have a conversation with her and work it trough both of yourselves.

rjroy3 · Answer

Ultimately you have to develop yourself into a high quality person whose presence is felt when he is around and absence noticed aswell.

If she knows nothing else other than she feels really good when you're around, that will go a long way. If you don't already make her feel good when you're around then that's step one.

But you have to develop character traits that girls in general find attractive. Be that guy, then everything else you do gets easier. Your girl should be thinking/feeling things around you like "I've never met anyone like you" in a way that is appreciative to the unique value you bring her

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Well as a man i focus on:

1. Making her feel safe as much as possible. Ie go to gym, shooting range, mma practice
2. Being the financial source ie earn more money, be the responsible one
3. Great sex ie fuck her a bunch, keep it fresh, make her feel desired.

As a man if you can fulfill these 3 things better than most men, your girl will NEED you. She will be desperate to be with you. She will do anything for you. No matter what girls say they are highly attracted to these things subconsciously. So easy game plan to achieve in these areas.

Anonymous · Answer

Everyone is replaceable. The more other people want you, the more value you have for your partner.
Imagine a Chad, girls stay in a row to date him. He gained 15 kg weight due addiction withdrawal, his magic disappeared. He becomes a pile of trash for his long term partner who loved him before, but then started to cheat on him and finally dumped his ass. He loses weight and girls start to orbit him. Suddenly his ex found him attractive again and does everything to be part of his life. What do you think goes in head of this guy when he realizes, love, affection... all that BS girls talk about is in reality double think? When he realizes his personality, humor, thoughts and feelings mean nothing, only his butt matters? When he realizes, he is only irreplaceable in a relationship if he is capable to replace his partners effortless?

Souvikkun · Answer

You don't need to do extra efforts! People asks you to be yourself because you can't give your girl all the attention you have a life lol. You have to improve yourself too! You don't exist for he. just because she is your girlfriend does not mean she is your property she is she your lap pillow! If she is not satisfied obviously she will leave, same goes for you! There is nothing called absolute true love! Have you been watching too much slice fo life animes or what?

Unit1 · Answer

If you're a man, then these will do just fine. You'll be  irreplaceable . Guaranteed results!

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Everyone is replaceable.

it’s wrong to try and make yourself irreplaceable, as you end up doing false stuff.

Just be yourself every day, show respect, be nice, honest be there for them, give space when required etc

Exotic_Insinuations · Answer

You are always irreplaceable in relationship. Question is for who.

You can be the best possible version of yourself and still your partner can find someone else, because you two are not that compatible. And you can just be yourself and, if you two are made for each other, that's it. Anyhow, treat your woman the best way possible.

Floppy2112 · Answer

You can't. It's a risk. If people could do that, than 90% of the relationship problems people have wouldn't exist. Get used to the idea that everybody is replaceable in all situations. The world turned when you weren't here and it will keep turning after.

Siren777 · Answer

Belief - believing you are irreplaceable. When you are confident in your thoughts & believe that you are. It's pretty easy. As you won't need to seek validation. Things fall into place when you believe.

Biancam13 · Answer

Just someone who makes you feel a certain way. It’s hard to describe- I think that no matter what qualities a person has, it’s the way they make you feel when you’re with them that makes them replaceable or irreplaceable.

Medlife · Answer

Tbh im tired of relationships, The ones I like turn out to be liars or douches and the ones I do not, get offended and call me names. I think am done🤷‍♀️

BlackPrince1 · Answer

Big pp makes a guy irreplaceable Lol there are a lot of questions in this one question.
I'm not picky but I like intelligent, caring and brave people.. And also honesty If there is something wrong I want the girl to tell me immediately. But if we are talking about irreplaceable then honestly it's a girl who is super beautiful and has all the personality traits I like.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

In this relationship I know I am irreplaceable. based on the following...  share same value. He failed all in his past relationships. I am the only who can work well with him.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

No one is irreplaceable, you should always have some small amount of fear that your partner could leave you. It keeps you involved in the relationship.

StacyMeet · Answer

Nobody is irreplaceable. If you feel this way, perhaps it's not the right relationship and the problem is actually in your partner. Nobody should make you feel this way.

Coulis · Answer

Be yourself and bring out the best in your partner with patience.

SphynxUK · Answer

I’d like someone to be able to make me laugh, but ultimately I’m only concerned about whether we click or not. Everything after that is a second.

TonyV · Answer

You can't make yourself irreplaceable, its terrifying but true, you never know if someone will just be done and move on one day.

Stylishgirl444 · Answer

Nobody is replacable on this earth. Maybe you can get a more attractive , loyal or world's best person ever but still that person will be irreplacable coz every person has his /her own value. God have made every creature with its uttermost value !!!

VanillaSalt · Answer

Be rich and hot... no seriously even if she leaves you got a replacement the next day.

exitseven · Answer

My wife and I depend on each other. We are both indispensable.

mazeltov · Answer

By being perfect? But nobody is perfect. We are all different and special in our own ways.

fonduegirl · Answer

Depends on your partner, tbh. All you can do is give your 100% and hope for the best.

Browneye57 · Answer

Looks.  Money.  Confidence.  The rest of all that bullshit is just superfluous.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Do you feel disposable, or do you feel she feels you're disposable? Very different things!

OddBeMe · Answer

Being stronger in what attribute they most lack. Yin yang.

Anonymous · Answer

Buy a long cruise for all the others of your gender.

katiesmuff · Answer

You don't; Everybody is replaceable!

Man_wearing_a_tie · Answer

Frankly, I do not work for it.

BlacklightShade · Answer

Keep the antidote someplace secret.

IveGotNoName · Answer

No one can be irreplacable.

ChiTown33 · Answer

There's no such thing.

Iron_Man · Answer

By being the ultimate gentleman to the girl

jhnny1331 · Answer

Just be there without judgment

Tedyruckspin · Answer

I don't get in one lol

Waldoe · Answer

I have to say Honesty, and openess

anylolone · Answer

There's no way, you wouldn't want it to be a way.

misanthropistkev · Answer

With money and good sex

kingykringy · Answer

Be the best version of yourself

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

No one is indispensable.

陈美嘉psa · Answer

Make yourself more perfect

ıdontcare_ · Answer

I don't work for it.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

Ny being yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

Chain myself to her.

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