Should I stop questioning my boyfriends loyalty when everything I've confronted him on he's proved me wrong?

[Anonymous]

Why am I so scared

[Finchie40]

The best thing for you to do is to value yourself worth , and realize you are a beautiful person, we can’t force someone to love us all we
Can do is guide someone , if your boyfriend is doing things that are making
You feel insecure then you need to sit down with him and explain to him why you are feeling this way , but your first thing to do is value yourself , we can only treat someone the way we want to be treated we can’t force them to love us and stay faithful to us , we can only treat someone the the same way we want to be treated if he chooses that road of being unfaithful and selfish then their will be consequences to his actions and leaves the ball on your court if you want to stay with someone like that , and that will be something he has to live with knowing he was a piece of shit and vice versa if you did that to him , The thing is you can’t be happy if you are constantly feeling insecure and allowing insecurities to take the best of you , so you need to find you inner happiness , meaning value yourself worth and realize you are a beautiful person , that’s the only way you can kill insecurities, Everyone has insecurities whether they say they do or not if they say they don’t they are talking out their ass, it just comes
Down to how you handle them. Cuz again you can not be happy in a relationship being insecure all the time , another thing , put your phone down , social media does not help insecurities it fills people’s minds with false reality. Look at the world around you and Realize most the shit you see on social media is a bunch of bullshit

[jmr2191]

Guys like to solve problems. It's the reason that when a girl asks us to just listen to her vent, a lot of guys are more likely to propose a solution. Try approaching it by telling him you appreciate how great/loyal he's been, but because of an ex, you tend to be somewhat insecure about it and that's why you confront him a lot. You're trying to work on it, but it's a slow process. If he offers to help or support in some way, think about what he has to offer. It might be helpful. You phrase it like this, he will be more likely to respond in a positive way and just may show you how helpful he can be when you really need him.

[SabinaV]

I greatly understand where you are coming from. Especially if the relationship matters. It is natural to feel this way.

You have to trust your man
trust him even if you are scared.
Allow him his time, freedom.
He will want you more for it.
Never constrict or accuse, because this will lead people to have enough of the relationship.

Sometimes being distrustful ruins a relationship most of the time.
You have to trust despite if you feel afraid, it is normal to feel this way.

Be confident of him
Support him and him to you

[AmandaYVR]

Yes, stop doubting him until he gives you reason otherwise.

Don't do this to yourself. Don't do this to him.
Pushing him so that you won't get hurt, may, in the end, make you get hurt because he won't be able to stand your doubting him.

Keep doing what you're doing, and you may push him away. You might create a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Insecurity is one of the big reasons relationships end.

[Skankhunt]

Should I stop questioning my boyfriends loyalty when everything I've confronted him on he's proved me wrong?
Yes, you should stop with that. Action speak louder than words, you have nothing to worry about.

Why am I so scared
Because you are insecure. You have a low self-esteem and low self-confidence. It can also be because you still don't trust him for 100%.

If there is no trust in a relationship, the relationship won't last. Should I end the relationship?" If you can't trust him, you can either end the relationship or try to trust your partner.

[FilmGuy93]

You're doing it because you are insecure, but you should definitely stop all the questioning. Having been a loyal guy on the receiving end of this treatment, I can tell you that you are eroding his trust so quickly that you would be shocked. If you aren't careful, he'll just leave one day.

[boggboss]

Yes this is the behaviour that pushes a man to break up with you or better yet cheat as if he is labeled as a cheater for doing nothing might aswell cheat

[Asker]

How do I get better?

[boggboss]

Learning to trust whats the point of him being loyle if u don't trust him

[Asker]

Okay thanks

[boggboss]

Learning to trust again will always be hard because its learning to put yourself in a situation like the last where u got hurt but it is that simple there is no potuon to fix the fear u just have to do it thats why people tend to not get into new relationships when they still can't trust

[Asker]

I trusted him before. But when we started dating not official boyfriend and girlfriend yet he was staring deep into my best friends eyes like he wanted her and ever since then I've been insecure about him. That was the same night he was telling me to trust him and he Hope's I trust him... like wtf... and when I confronted him he swears he wasn't looking at her and was looking at me too🙄 I've tried breaking up with him but it's been a year and a half and he's loyal and doesn't cheat but I wouldn't know cause I dont look through his phone lol

[boggboss]

So then thays somthing u need to deal with my girl dont check through my phone but knows I dont cheat because she has trust if him looking into the eyes off your friend once is reason for u not to trust in not sure u are ready to be in a relationship unless there is things u left out

[Asker]

Nope didn't leave anything out... he's really good looking too

[boggboss]

All you doing is showing how your insecurities are destroying your relationship how is him being good looking a factor if he wanted to cheat he would u checking his phone is not why he dont cheat Jesus im really not sure why you decided to get into a relationship when you are this broken hun u need to learn to trust

[Asker]

Cause I was lonely. And I know that's not why u get into a relationship but we were friends and I fell for him. I really hope I get better... thank u for all your help

[boggboss]

Well that makes it worst it mean if u drive him away with overthinking not only will u lose a partner but a friend

[ohshee]

First ask your self why you feel the need to confront him what is it that make you think the way you are thinking

[Asker]

Everything goes back to my ex and I just dont want to be screwed over like I did in my last relationship

[ohshee]

Yes that's what I kind of felt I'm sorry that happened to you that really sucks and this is what happens when that happens to I hope you can find your way out of it because you're probably missing out on a lot of just having fun it's a beautiful thing to believe in somebody but I understand your point of view and what you go through I started that once but I caught myself and I realized it hurt is somebody's going to do it they're going to do it you can't stop them and why would you want to you want him to do it that way you can find out and walk away but it's just a crappy have to eat in between

[Dchrls78104]

So you've tested and proved your boyfriend in every way for loyalty, and he's passed all your tests; what then? Would he be correct to do the same to you? And, more importantly, will you be as loyal to him as he is to you?

[Asker]

Of course

[Dchrls78104]

Then don't tell us; tell him, and, more importantly, show him.

[jahaims]

I mean don't ignore red flags but at the same time work on yourself because you are like that because you are insecure or are projecting past relationship experiences onto the current one

[Asker]

Honestly how do I get better?

[jahaims]

Well for one like I said don't bring past relationships into a new one. If you are insecure their is a reason for it. Look into yourself and find out why.

[Asker]

I am insecure csuse my last boyfriend cheated on me multiple times dogged me out and mentally abused me. I'm actually getting therapy but I don't know how to tackle the issue. She just says to trust him but it should be more deeper than that

[jahaims]

What do you mean by deeper. You should start a relationship with a blank slate of trust until they are untrustworthy.

[Asker]

Like a deeper understanding for me.. but you've pretty much explained it to me thank u

[jahaims]

Glad I could help. Good luck working on yourself. Being cheated on can be rough and lower your confidence I get that. I would just be really honest and let him know why you are insecure and let him know you are doing your best to not being that to this relationship. It might sound weird but maybe make a list of all the good stuff you bring to a relationship so you can see your value. Maybe even make a list of the cons you bring to the relationship so you have a list to work on. Maybe tell him some things that he does that makes you feel insecure and talk through why he does what he does. Maybe understanding more about his actions will make you feel better about the relationship. It is okay to be honest and vulnerable in a relationship. That is the whole point.

[jahaims]

Bring that to this relationship*

[FlutteringFeelings]

Love is supposed to bring you peace and a clearer mind. If you’re questioning his loyalty then you’ll have to ask yourself why or what is he doing that is making you question his loyalty.

[DiscomfortZone]

Or you could keep pushing until he dumps you and goes with somebody who trusts him.

[Asker]

Good point

[The_Maphio]

Definitely. Stop it.
Unless you prefer going back to singledom.

[Mofunfour20]

Because youve been hurt. Therapy helps strengthen relationships.

[jasco]

Yea you should stop, because some dudes can't handle that constant worry. He seems to be able to but your scared for yourself and you feel like your being used

[slatyb]

Get some therapy to figure out why you are unable to trust him. If you continue doubting him, you will drive him away. How was your home life growing up? Was your father deceitful?

[DanishSaint]

you got hurt growing up. somehow, plain, sad and simple.

[Twalli]

Because you're insecure. The fact that all. your fears about him have been proved wrong should make you trust him more.

[Siren777]

Stop. You might ruin a good thing and he will leave you if you continue to do this.

[Smashingdoozy]

Have you had an issue with a previous relationship? That could be why you struggle to trust him

[Anonymous]

Cz ur a dumb fucking slut who shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with.

TF, is the problem. It's a yes or a no.

Clearly, and quite loudly. Ur saying NO!!

So stop lying to urself and do the world a favor. Be horny. Be slutty. Be good. Not this bitch I'm feeling right now.

[Asker]

What?

[Asker]

I've been loyal to 1 person gtfo

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, ur right. So, what's with the questioning ur boyfriend?

[Opinion Owner]

It's very hurtful, and u might be pushing him to cheat on u.

[Asker]

I'm just insecure...

[Opinion Owner]

Well... tuff. it's a yes or it's a no. Don't drag things longer than need be. Face ur fears and don't be taken. Go be a sexy fly ass big booty lady who isn't scared if some fucking asshole guy cheats. Y, becz that's how u know. He is now the past.

Else, u will be looking over ur shoulder for a very long time.

Don't do it for them, fuck them. Do it for u... Good Luck...

[UnlovedWife]

Yes stop questioning him and leave. Find someone you trust

[jirwin7979]

your most likly worried about being cheated on i am like that always wondering if i am good enough

[RCLJT]

Sounds like you are on a witch hunt, maybe you should ask yourself why you continually test his loyalty. you obviously have trust issues, and he knows it.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes you should stop, otherwise he will dump you for not trusting him.

[Browneye57]

Cuz you listen to trash and have been duped.
I'd tell you to stuff it.

[Waldoe]

yes, or he will GIVE UP trying to win your trust and leave you for someone "better" and more "trusting"

[Aakash_Hangargi]

No you should keep questioning untill one day you can prove him guilty then leave him

[KrakenAttackin]

He needs to dump you:

Insecure women are suspicious women.
Suspicious women become angry women.
Angry women become dangerous and damaging women.

[friendzoned4life]

You shouldn't have qurestioned anything in the first place. A good relationship depends on trust.

[Asker]

Ypure right but my head plays tricks on me

[friendzoned4life]

Only thing I can tell you if you keep pushing him he will finally break and actually end the relationship with you or finally do as you was afraid he would do and make you end it

[Joshua0213]

Yeah if you keep questioning him, he will think you don't trust him and break up with you lol

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

been cheated on before

[Asker]

Yes...

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

there's your answer

[Dinosaursandanime65]

It’s just part of of the human genome. Like animals. Grow up, fuck, leave.

[Teddu]

You just need him to give you more importance and attention I have Been through that so I say..

[queenkarma2]

Yes you should Bc he is showing you that he is loyal

[KloexJayne]

After 10 years I still do this lol

[Alpha4U]

You are a pain in the ass. yikes

[OddBeMe]

Are you projecting? Are you flirting with guys?

[Asker]

What does am I projecting mean? Not really flirting with other men

[OddBeMe]

Psychologically, when we question others about their behavior it’s because we’re ashamed of our own.

[Nazgol]

You're insecure & have trust issues

[HongKongMong]

Yes, stop bugging him already

[Shy_Steve]

If you keep doing it he will eventually leave.

[SpaceGalaxy]

Yes, STOP. He is running out of excuses

[H8INCHES]

Sounds like you to question your trust issues.

[Kelly6]

Yes you should stop

[Anonymous]

Trust your guts