How do I stop feeling like why would anyone love me? (that’d something that I constantly think to myself)?

[pink_and_inlove]

Maybe it could be because I notice that I’m never approached by anyone meanwhile everyone has their own group? I find it hard to believe though that someone could love me and I am in a relationship right now that’s been more than a year now. I don’t know why I question so much why would someone love me. Also how do I love myself? I’m very shy and awkward and sometimes I accept my personality but other times when I’m with my boyfriend’s family i worry that they won’t like me and think that I’m weird because I’m so shy and can’t make eye contact. On top of this my boyfriend has given me a promise ring and told me that he wants to marry me so many times but inside my head I think “why would someone want to marry me?” And i don’t know i just feel like maybe he just felt lonely I don’t know any other reason why someone would would love me. I’m very affectionate but what else do I have to offer beside that and me having this full time job?

[ohshee]

I look at it this way why not okay so let me be honest I don't know you except for through your questions and your answers just do your questions and your answers alone there are ten times more positive reasons why I would then why I would not so there's that answer now you're missing one thing and one thing only your confidence find it create it get it make it it's a choice who you want to be in life it's very simple choice it's either you don't want to believe in yourself or you want to believe in yourself it's really that simple no I don't see any reason why you would not want to believe in yourself because all I do is C beautiful things a girl with a beautiful heart who cares about a lot of things has lots of passion is very loyal but she's afraid of one thing she's afraid of herself she's afraid of the. .* WHAT IF * ,, QUESTION WHAT IF , THIS THAT BLA BLA BLA. Like I said I know nothing about you ,, this it what I see and feel you have been hurt and so many different ways all your life your family is going to push you to one side you're running from something you don't know who you are you put all your eggs in one basket with this guy because he brought you into his home is life you have no other place to go you don't have the confidence in yourself figure out how to get there if you did so I don't know if any of this is true it's just what I feel right now in this. Of time in your life take this opportunity having a roof over your head having somebody who says he cares find yourself to believe in yourself and you become the real you this might sound like it's a really fucked-up answer to you but it's not don't take the words literally take the words as you see them or as I'm projecting them to you for anything no matter what it is for anyting any part of your life that you can use these words to take them use them and do something with them you are at a crossroads right now in your life this is a time for you to get it together why you have this time in space any place to do it look at your very beautiful person you have a good heart any guy would like to be with you get more confidence so you know exactly what you're doing where you're going at any given moment in life have that confidence within you to take it on the matter the challenge you can do it I do believe in that

[caring__1]

Extroverts being uncomfortable around introverts is the problem of the extrovert, not the introvert. You aren't on this earth to fix other people's problems. If you want to become more functional as an introvert, discover structures that work for you in various situations, and then use them as tools to accomplish your goals. There is nothing wrong with being introverted or shy. You don't need to be aggressive and a social butterfly to have quality impact on your life and the lives of others.

Don't ask why someone would love you, ask your boyfriend what he loves about you. Learn how you are different from other girls he's known and how that adds to his life. The issue isn't your introversion... it's your insecurity. Unfortunately, insecure people refuse to accept compliments, choosing to minimize or deny them. It's very hard to be drawn to aspects of a person and not be allowed to enjoy those aspects. If you don't get help, you'll probably push him out of your life.

[Hxxmx]

I feel a huge part of the problem is you not appreciating your self. You can start by giving yourself reasons to be happy, love and appreciate yourself.
I could give you some if you ask me😊.

You said you are affectionate, which means you are capable of showing love. Develop this aspect of you. Make sure your boyfriend is aware of this part of you so that he can help with the insecurities whenever you are both around people.
I will suggest you go an adventure, say hiking. It may help.

[loves2learn]

Do you have a therapist hun? Sounds like you might need to work through some of this with a professional.

[loves2learn]

Also, he’s clearly in love with you.

[Jjpayne]

You are amazing and beautiful person! And I want you to say those words out to yourself daily! "I am an amazing and beautiful person!"

I'd say read some self help books too. Check out kindle, last time I checked you don't need an Amazon subscription. Just an account and the kindle app. You can get free kindle books without unlimited but unlimited is so cheap too, you can get it free for a month or the last time I looked, you get two months for 4.99

[Lliam]

In my late 20s through mid 30s, I went through a phase when I felt like "I wouldn't want to be a member of a club that would want someone like me for a member." It was because my lifestyle had changed dramatically due to a great job and I gained weight.

I wound up reading various self help books as well as books on various forms of spirituality (non-religious). I eventually lost the weight I had gained, got in shape, and regained confidence. I liked myself again.

[pink_and_inlove]

Even when I lost weight and got my braces removed I still felt like this I think its because it seems like no one wants to be my friend

[Lliam]

Would you like to be your friend? That the key. You have to like own unique yourself.

[pink_and_inlove]

But I don’t know what is there to like?

[Lliam]

That's what you have to figure out.
Are you attractive? Are you thoughtful, considerate, kind, generous, understanding? Are you a good person? Do you have any skills or passions?
Aside from being shy, what is there not to like about yourself? Being shy isn't a bad thing. And it's something you can improve upon.

When I was about 8 years old on a baseball team, the coach was talking to me one time. As he did, I was apparently looking down at the ground or something. Later, my dad gave me a valuable piece of advice. He said that when someone was talking to me, I should look them in the eye. I internalized that lesson and it paid off.
I will say that I rarely look people in the eye. I tend to look at their mouth. That way I am looking at them and giving them my full attention, and I can also read their lips.
So you might practice that.
Also smile. When you smile, you shine, and you make others feel good. It's easy to do.

[DrunkAss]

There is no wisdom in questioning good things. Stop that unless you want good things to stop happening to you. Love is impractical anyway. Why are we supposed to love anybody? Why should we love your boyfriend? Why should we love him or her? Why should we even be on this planet? You can question it and question it and all you will do is suck out all the meaning and beauty out of it. Stop questioning these things. Enjoy them.

[MrCommodore]

While I would never consider dating a girl as young as you, from your previous posts its obvious that you are very attractive, regardless of whether you believe it or not.

I suspect a lot of younger guys would like you, and if you also have a kind personality, I'm sure they could fall in love with you just like your boyfriend did.

[Iron_Man]

Well without really knowing you personally it would be your looks and you're a hard-working girl that's consistent with her job. Plus you are a good relationship girl from what you have put into it

[pink_and_inlove]

How do I stop feeling like “why would anyone love me?”

[Iron_Man]

If you are so shy and can't make eye contact how did you ever meet your boyfriends?

[Iron_Man]

You have a boyfriend and you guys are supposed to get married so that should be a big Ego boost to you to bring you good confidence

[pink_and_inlove]

He looked past that and he’s the only person that I’ve been able to fully open up to

[Iron_Man]

It's natural to have insecurities and to have doubts and to second-guess yourself. But as you age you'll get passed that and get over it with life experiences. I think you are pretty good normal girl a lot better than these other crazy girls on here

[Ripper_E]

I thought you said it was just stress and you've thought and reconsidered?
This is a pattern. You always say it's fine, and then claim the same concerns later, and then again say you're fine, and then again say you have doubts.

[slatyb]

Can you talk to a therapist? I also had very poor self-esteem at your age. I finally saw someone years later and it helped but I suffered for a long time.

[Gabboo]

that is a dangerous self esteem issue for your age.. I know how you feel because I feel the same way, I don't know to help you too much, but maybe try a therapist.. I hope you get the help you meed 💔

[Bklynbadboy12]

You have to start seeing yourself for who you really are. I think you like that because of you mom she never says anything to you that positive she only points out you flaws and that sucks. Your an amazing girl give yourself a chance

[Bklynbadboy12]

Can you do that

[Romeocuck]

Look at the mirror. Tell yourself while looking into your eyes:
I'm beautiful. Guys want me.
I love you ( to your reflection ) etc. And after a while you'll see that things are starting to change

Good luck , beautiful girl

[Deku2009]

It’s a voice in your head that needs to be alien with nor given any power too

[jahaims]

By learning to love yourself

[pink_and_inlove]

How do you do that?

[jahaims]

Change the stuff you don't like about yourself

[pink_and_inlove]

I can’t change my quiet and reserved personality and the fact that I get nervous with people my parents hav even trying to change that for years now it hasn’t worked.

[jahaims]

You definitely can change that. Why do you get nervous?

[jahaims]

I am very quiet and reserved by the way

[pink_and_inlove]

No you can’t you can’t change who you are you will never be able to get rid of your personality. I get nervous because I don’t know what to say or how to act

[jahaims]

I am very quiet and reserved and that is my preference. I have a job in sales and can't be that way there. So it is possible. Why don't you say what you are thinking and act how you feel?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

This is something you need to work on for yourself

[Gwenhwyfar]

He loves you

[clampfan101]

I know how you feel.