It's a bit long, so please bear with me.
So, I have been a part of group of 3 friends, since 3 years. Last year, Jess ( one of them) started feeling for me. He confessed this year, and after taking some time (3 months) I decided to give it a shot. Things are really good and I genuinely feel for him. I love that guy, I really do. Its a long distance thing.
But recently, I have made a new group of friends (aboout a month or so), and one of them, say Sayan and I have become fast friends. We have a very playful friendship, where we joke around, tease each other. Sayan has a long distance girlfriend of about 5 years. Everything was fine, up until a week ago, where a mutual friend of mine, pointed out that he might have feelings for me, cause she had never seen him being this comfortable with anybody else. We sleep on each other's lap sometimes for head massages, hold hands sometimes and that's about it. After worrying for a bit, I asked him straight if that's the case, and we clarified that it wasn't that way.
But now, I am starting to see him in a different way I guess. I sometimes long to hold his hand, or to sleep in his lap. Sometimes we meet up, just the two of us without telling the rest of the group and hang out. He playfully calls it a date. Once or twice I have felt like kissing him.
I hate feeling this way for him. I love Jess, I really do, but what can I do? How do I deal with such feelings? Who do I feel for? Is feeling this way normal? A friend said it is, but you have to make the choice to stay commited to one person.
Please, any advice will be appreciated. Hugely.
So, I have been a part of group of 3 friends, since 3 years. Last year, Jess ( one of them) started feeling for me. He confessed this year, and after taking some time (3 months) I decided to give it a shot. Things are really good and I genuinely feel for him. I love that guy, I really do. Its a long distance thing.
But recently, I have made a new group of friends (aboout a month or so), and one of them, say Sayan and I have become fast friends. We have a very playful friendship, where we joke around, tease each other. Sayan has a long distance girlfriend of about 5 years. Everything was fine, up until a week ago, where a mutual friend of mine, pointed out that he might have feelings for me, cause she had never seen him being this comfortable with anybody else. We sleep on each other's lap sometimes for head massages, hold hands sometimes and that's about it. After worrying for a bit, I asked him straight if that's the case, and we clarified that it wasn't that way.
But now, I am starting to see him in a different way I guess. I sometimes long to hold his hand, or to sleep in his lap. Sometimes we meet up, just the two of us without telling the rest of the group and hang out. He playfully calls it a date. Once or twice I have felt like kissing him.
I hate feeling this way for him. I love Jess, I really do, but what can I do? How do I deal with such feelings? Who do I feel for? Is feeling this way normal? A friend said it is, but you have to make the choice to stay commited to one person.
Please, any advice will be appreciated. Hugely.
