I’ve liked him since I was 12... i’m now 20?

[Anonymous]

Hi so this is so bazar, i’ve really fancied this guy since i was 12 years old. No kidding, 12. I’m now 19. He had a girlfriend when he was 16 and they broke up and now me and him are talking and we have met up, he always says how beautiful i am and how i’m lovely to be around and likes seeing me and when i post a picture he will message me randomly saying how beautiful i am and asks to call me, thinf is with him when it comes to relationships he always starts of as friends with girls is what i’ve noticed which is what i love too! Although now he’s older he’s a lot more shy reseeded since like a lot of trauma has happened to him. He tells me he finds it hard to like commit and that he’s strange when it comes to dating. Since we last met he’s asked to call me and we have and compliments me but i have asked him to meet and he keeps saying he’s at work and tbh he did send me a snapchat of him at work but i feel embarrassed to ask again? But he’s very shy and insecure so i always feel like i have to ask to meet but is there to much? I mean this will be the second time asking and i don’t wanna seem desperate. I know he likes me but there’s just something holding him back and i don’t wanna be too forward He also got arrested for a few years (pls don’t mention this it was for the wrong thing) . I’ve been waiting for him for 8 years so i really do believe it’s worth it.

We have finally started to meet since like he’s not in jail and anything and it’s going well but i just can feel something holding him back, shall i just put in effort or not ever message him again now?

[caring__1]

You say he always starts off as friends, so he'll probably continue what is familiar to himself. The question is whether you are comfortable with that or if you want more. Maybe neither of you have much experience in relationships. He comments on your looks, because he feels that's what girls want to hear, but he may not know what a relationship or how to develop and nurture one.

You can tell him that you believe most relationships fail because people don't take the time to truly understand the other person, how that person sees things and what's meaningful to that person. Suggest the two of you come up with terms associated with relationships. Put each term on a separate piece of paper and put all those papers into a container. The two of you can pull one term out at a time and explore how each of you define it, give examples of what it looks like and discuss how it has impacted you in the past. Some of the words could be teamwork, respect, consideration, love, playfulness, responsibility, sensuality, sexuality, comfort, nurturance, love, marriage, family, safety, communication, support, security, special, belonging, connection. Any time you think of a word, just add it to the container. There's no rush to get to all of them, but each discussion will give each of you a deeper understanding of each other. We all have but one fear, and that is the fear of the unknown. The more you show your curiosity to understand, and the more you learn, the more comfortable both of you will be come and the closer you'll feel with each other.

[boggboss]

Well if u want him not messging him ain't gonna help

[Asker]

I know but i don’t wanna seem to desperate i mean i guess he is the busy one since he works everyday

[Asker]

4 times a week^

[AntiChrist66666]

Grab some popcorn and put it on his face and use your mouth to help him put the popcorn in there while rubbing his penis.

[jaybee281]

What did he get arrested for?

[Anonymous]

How old is he. What is he doing for work?

[Asker]

He is 20 and he’s a amazon worker, used to work there and it’s 10 hour shifts 5 times a week