What is the female's role in a relationship?

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thegirlwonder · Accepted Answer

I have a naturally dominant personality, so I am not suited to being submissive or following a man's lead. There's no man leading my household - none of that shit, ever. I prefer an equal partnership over anything else. We can lead in different areas, but I don't agree with traditional ideas of how that should go. I think major decisions should be a discussion and compromise/agreement, not lead by the man based on mere "input" from the woman. I'm very independent, intelligent, and a critical thinker by nature. It's just not in my nature to allow someone to make major decisions or all decisions *for* me, while just giving my opinion. I'm an active participant in my own life, not a passenger. My parents didn't even succeed in trying to control me or lead my life - I've always had my own mind - so a guy definitely isn't going to be able to play that role with me. I do think it's important to make space for each person to lead on different things or make decisions on certain things. What that looks like depends on if it's a girlfriend/boyfriend thing or a marriage and boils down to the couple.

At the most basic level, my role is to show affection, be supportive, get to know the other person as I hope they want to truly learn me as well, peel back layers for deeper understanding, and try to be as safe and accepting as I can be for the right guy. I think the accepting part is why compatibility is so key. I think challenging him to follow his goals, ambitions, dreams is important (though he should already be the kind of man who does this for himself, to be compatible with me) - uplifting him and being the affirmative voice always to remind him he has someone in his corner who is proud of him, sees how hard he is working, and believes he can do anything. I think those emotional support details are way more important than the other things like who is cooking lolol BUT I think we should both cook for each other :D I can't be in a relationship where I am the main one cooking and cleaning - that's a major issue for me. Domestic labor is constant and needs to be shared.

I remember some guy got offended because I criticized his politics as sexist (I'm very feminist). He later made a joke that I'd be a bad wife because I'd call a guy sexist for asking me to pass him a bagel lololol It's not true at all though. Context. I give so much for the people I love, and I would never be in serious relationship with a man who didn't align with my values (including politics). So a feminist man who has the right politics and cooks / does for me? I'll cook for him easily and enjoy doing it, give him foot rubs, suck his dick every day lol, etc. If you treat me and other women well, then I treat you well - easy. Having said all that, I do like all of these things in return. (Well, I don't have a penis, but you know what I mean.) Not saying it's exactly the same because we will both struggle in different areas, but the goal should be to both show each other this kind of support and just build a space/relationship/home filled with affection, love, support, open communication - and the hard work and dedication that makes things last. And let's not forget holding each other accountable - the part no one likes :)

Beautyforeverybody · Accepted Answer

To put your femininity on display.
To take care of your man mentally, support him, make him comfortable enough with you that he isn’t shy to share his emotions.
Women aren’t designed to do everything that men do. Indeed, we are designed to do the things which a man can not do.

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

To usually stop the guy from being a complete twat at parties (common theme lol)

to offer advice and support.

be an active member of a partnership.

. being there when things are good and bad..

. a load of stuff but the actual role will vary between couples..

In some she’s the main bread winner in others she’s not.

the world has changed, we are in the 21st century and roles are more dynamic and so they should be, I have a female manager on £80k a year, it’s twice her husbands salary, he’s looking to take early retirement.

Admittedly some guys and especially some cultures are still living in the 6th Century. One of my female devs was telling me her husband was ashamed she was working, she’s on £70k a year and a fair chance to be a department head in two years with a significant jump in wages. Yeah ‘cos wives can’t work’...

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MasseurDeMojo · Accepted Answer

The Woman is there NOT to be slave to the man! But, rather a help to him in all things. She is equal to him, but at the same time she looks to him to make the right final decision, based on what he has discussed with her, and all the inputs she has made.

Many a man has discussed a matter with his wife, and did not head their advice, ending up in a world of hurt, and in some cases, all alone!! Men!! It is not a dictatorship, it is a partnership; her opinion and inputs are very important to every decision you make for the both of you!!!

MrOracle · Answer

I think that is for each couple to decide. But that means that it needs to be discussed, at length, in detail, and with honesty. It also needs to be understood that authority comes with an equal amount of responsibility and accountability.

For myself, I tend more towards traditional relationship roles, but I can be comfortable in a more modern arrangement AS LONG AS she accepts the responsibility that comes with whatever authority she's wanting to take on. You don't get one without the other. But given my personality, and the kind of women I tend to attract naturally, I end up leading and she ends up following, and trusts me to lead us to better situations.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Mainly obey. But in general, anything to make the mans life easier and more stable especially at home. This way he can focus on work and make the most money possible and then be pleasant and relaxed at home to still have a good family life.

Cooking cleaning sex massages child care etc

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

In today’s world, the females role is to be a partner. To be successful where her man is deficient. If you want to take and take and take, you’re not being a partner. Working part time and refusing to do cleaning, while your man works full time and comes home to do laundry or cook is not teamwork. Women want the world but don’t want to work for it; they want supermodel men without ever stepping foot in the gym themselves.
If you want a successful relationship you have to be a partner and look at your effort input objectively.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Nurturing, support, maintenance. He builds (or buys in this day and age) she maintains, he protects her phsyically she protects/provides for him emotionally, he puts food on the table, she cooks it, he makes sure she has all of her physical needs met and she makes sure he has all of his emotional needs met. He is the body she is the soul (if you wish to be poetic about it).

YourFutureEx · Answer

Some say it's just to provide sex
Some say they need someone who can cook for you
Some say they want their dishes to be washed in time
Some wanted their clothes to be ironed better
Some really wanted to make babies.

Personally, I just wanted a softer pillow to cuddle with.

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The role of women is to provide the feminine perspective to the things that men are incapable of.

SomeBlondeChick · Answer

Partner. It is literally that simple. Many marriage vows say it for both men & women - to love & support.

That doesn't mean slave. That doesn't mean unworthy of respect. That doesn't mean shut up and do as told or "obey". People who put their significant other in a lesser role should never cry when they end up alone & forsaken by their spouse & their children. They literally asked for it by their own behavior.

libsaretards · Answer

It is her role to be a true equal. Your wife is supposed to be your best friend and the one person who knows EVERYTHING there is to know about you. She is supposed to enhance your strengths and supplement your weak spots. She is supposed to be a man's peace and safe spot. Same applies for men too.

chapawapa · Answer

That is dependent on the people in the relationship. So this is an individualistic question for couples not so much general. But I'll share my opinion of how I view myself in a relationship.

That we have no roles.

We are partners ensuring a fulfilling life for ourselves and each other.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

The Bible says that God created Eve as the helper and complement of Adam (Genesis 2:18). The Bible also says that the man is the head of his wife (1 Corinthians 11:3). So, the wife can be spoken of as the heart of the relationship; the heart is just as important to the body as the head!

NorthAfrican · Answer

It depends on the dynamics in their home.
If the 2 are working or one is a housewife. To me it's this:

1) housekeeping/cooking
2) taking care of kids
3) intimacy
4) emtional support
5) companionship

Kas19 · Answer

Whatever the partners agree to. Not every relationship is the same and not every man and woman are the same.

kamalravi25 · Answer

The duties of women in a relationship is totally same for men too.

Support her man in his tuff times.
If he is making any wrong decision she has to guide him to the right path.
Always do what is right for him even if it means to sacrifice yourself or leaving him forever.
Help guide and build confidence in him to achieve his goals his dreams his ambition.
Last and the most important thing is unconditional selfless dedication to him.

MyNameJames · Answer

First and foremost her role is fundamentally the same as a males role, before all else that is to be a good partner anything further is purely on a case by case basis. This applies to all types of relationships, yes even same sex ones too. If either party fails to preform this very important role then everything will fall apart, the only way to mend this is to have an open and honest discussion about it either with or without a counselor to guide you.

Siren777 · Answer

Love, support, care, loyalty & feminine energy. Put in the effort and appreciate him for his kindness 💗

HOAAH · Answer

Depends on the two people in the relationship but i do everything except work and make monry.

IraqLobster · Answer

To get a man's back while he will get hers.

To show she cares for him through simple things like cooking a meal, wanting a baby, knowing what makes him happy and most importantly loyalty♥️👑

And she can be who ever she wants he will be there for her.

OddBeMe · Answer

Barefoot making dinner Legs open  Oh and have a full time job

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

To be an equal partner and the other half of their partner. Neither is above the other. One does not serve the other. It's just to be the other half of a whole.

slatyb · Answer

Depends on the relationship. My wife’s role is to run the household. But that’s just one way to get the necessary things done. If she were working then I would hire someone to clean, and do my share of the rest. Why do partners have to have roles?

jaclyndavis · Answer

MOST OF THE TIME  To be used in  Absolutely. Every. Way. Possible. According to the guys that are in a monogamous relationship..

scarlett96 · Answer

Same as the dude - supportive, loving, trustworthy partner that should fit into your life like puzzle piece

Mofunfour20 · Answer

To be fit, feminine, able to give me a sense of peace i can't find anywhere else, cooking, cleaning and capable of supporting her protector and provider.

TacoLovesYou · Answer

To be kind, caring, and loving, just like her significant other. Gender roles in a relationship aren't near as "old school" as they used to be. Though as a giy, i absolutely love spoiling my girlfriend and being a "true gentleman" when we're out and about (paying for meals/dates, holding doors, buying surprise gifts to make her smile)

liel443 · Answer

Keeping his balls empty ❤️

Acxx30 · Answer

🤔😅😂

IveGotNoName · Answer

There is no specific role, it depends entirely on the relationship.

MzAsh · Answer

Whatever role she chooses.

AndrewMG · Answer

To be my mate... we'll work out the rest from there, but that's a good starting point.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

That's something only for the two people in the relationship to discuss. Not all relationships are black and white.

danielp27 · Answer

Men - Provide and protect Women - Raise children

BakedBeanieBabie · Answer

Whatever the fuck she wants it to be because we have rights and shit.

Redxdevil · Answer

To suck her man's cock whenever he wants her to 🤣🤣 seriously though there isn't a role you are both equal so take it in turns making dinner and doing the washing etc 😊

DaveToo · Answer

Exactly the same as the males. Just as she should be treated the same as her male partner in the home, she should be treated that way in the workplace.

Newhead · Answer

To keep the man on a leash.

In_Trance · Answer

It depends on the female and the male. Every relationship is different. Every person is different. We establish boundaries when we meet someone. That defines how we will act and react thought the entire relationship.

cjmtherfcker · Answer

A womans most valuable asset. Will forever and always be the ability to provide her mate, with HIS offspring.

Phoenix98 · Answer

To be my partner/girlfriend no different then what my role would be for her which would be to be her partner/boyfriend.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

In the modern age, there has to be some negotiation to take place, but there should always be a nurturing nature from her.

Djaay · Answer

To be the main arch beam of the home and to build her home through kindness. To reconcile condescending circumstances that are mitigating in her relationship.

madgoat · Answer

To be loving and warm and bring the best of feminity to the relationship.

KatherineJ · Answer

Whatever the two people in the relationship agree on.

BillHe1 · Answer

To set the beginning of a very sensual and sexual relationship.

more_than_a_guy · Answer

Whatever is best for the relationship agreement, that means they are both need to fit to each other to create a whole.

Shark_61695 · Answer

Whatever it turns out to be... as many different roles as there are relationships.

Waldoe · Answer

Honest, about how she sees him, and who she wants him to be. Also... Honest about how she is and what she feels... so HONESTY

Jamie05rhs · Answer

The same as a man's: to provide love and sex.

clampfan101 · Answer

Genders don’t have rolls in relationships besides being equal partners.

lsksni · Answer

Compromise, help, always stand for support, rise together. Same goes for men.

TallAnon · Answer

Why would there need to be roles, just live life and see what ends up happening

Iron_Man · Answer

Well your role is very different and you know what you want

karaspara · Answer

Impossible to answer different for every couple

mynewsworld · Answer

to love his boyfriend, to maintain the house, to take care of the household and the children

DaMack999 · Answer

Fuck me, feed me, shut the f up. Period. As Chris Rock said lol on his stand up comedy.

Smegskull · Answer

Whatever they agree to at the start of the relationship.

KloexJayne · Answer

I don’t believe in roles...

Selliebeanz · Answer

Depends on the type of guy.

windia · Answer

Whatever role they want to be! It isn't restricted based on gender.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

To be gazed at adoringly kinda kidding 😊

joeldalton · Answer

Keep his balls empty and his stomach full

Property_Of_Jocker · Answer

The one she wants to endorse.

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