What do women, contribute to dating and relationships? What is the "woman's" job in the relationship?

[Anonymous]

seriously it gets very frustrating and it really pisses me off, it's like us guys have to do all of the damn work in dating and relationships, we have to make the first move and ask the girl out, do the pursuing and chasing, initiate the date and relationship, and while in the relationship, we have to take charge at all times, lead, be the leader in the relationship, make all or most of the decisions, the plans, etc. For example, this one bitch posted on her FB status saying "Men, be the Man in the Relationship, Women, let them" So what is "Being the Woman" in the Relationship?

[udolipixie]

What do women, girls, contribute to dating and relationships? Whatever the guys decide

If he wants personality then personality

If he wants looks then looks

If he wants companionship then companionship

If he wants an equal contributor then an equal contributor

For example, this one bitch posted on her

^ LMAO XD at your hostility

we have to make the first move and ask the girl out,

^ girls do this as well

initiate the date and relationship,

^ girls do this as well

and while in the relationship, we have to take charge at all times, lead, be the leader in the relationship, make all or most of the decisions, the plans,

^ maybe that's just your taste in women...for some reason guys seem pretty willing to chase passive girls with low to no initiative

So what is "Being the Woman" in the Relationship? Whatever the man decides he wants. Just like being the man in the relationship is whatever the woman decides she wants.

Since most men have low standards being the woman is generally being good looking, young preferably, not a slut, and having sex with him often.

[Asker]

i still think women have it easier

[selfishstars]

I contribute everything a guy does. I pursue guys, ask them out, make the first move. I don't expect guys to take charge all the time, and I wouldn't be happy with a guy who wanted to be the "leader in the relationship" or make all or most of the decisions or plans.

I give my partner:

- interesting, meaningful, and intellectually stimulating conversation

- an activity partner; someone to have fun with

- intimate and sexual pleasure

- someone to rely on, who will always be there for him; someone to listen to him, encourage him, and support him

- someone to share in household and financial responsibilities

- etc.

And he gives me all of these things in return.

If you're in a relationship with someone who only takes and doesn't give anything in return, you should reassess whether or not you want to be in a relationship with that person.

[cun7n1nja]

This. =D

[christian2724]

well said, your boyfriend is a lucky guy

[Asker]

God Bless You

[ImALuvrNotAFighter]

There are gender roles in relationships; that's just the way it is. Women are attracted to a guy who is confident, takes charge, knows what he wants and goes for it. Even the most independent and headstrong woman wants to be with a guy who makes her feel safe and protected. While guys are responsible for asking the women out and showing them a good time, women tend to set the pace and tone of the relationship. As the old saying goes, "Men do the picking, but the women do the choosing."

A relationship isn't just about dates; it's about human interaction. A woman contributes herself to the relationship -- her intelligence, her desire to have fun, her sweet and playful nature... Her contribution is every bit as important as the man's contribution.

[Asker]

why is taking charge and being in control, knowing what you want and going for it, how does that make women feel protected?

[Asker]

makes me feel like committing domestic violence if I ever get the chance

[moviedude714]

good question, and sex is not enough of a contribution

[kheserthorpe]

You get to decide that, and if you're not getting what you want, move on.

[Asker]

how the f*** do we get to decide that?

[kheserthorpe]

Like I said.

If you're not getting what you want, you don't need to do a damn thing. Get out.

[Asker]

and women want what we want, gosh, women are weird creatures

[kheserthorpe]

Men and women want similar but not identical things, but tend to prioritize them differently.

[Asker]

i hate women at times

[Anonymous]

link

[Asker]

that was someone else

[Opinion Owner]

its a very stupid and obvious question that I'm sick of answering. its so obvious youve been screwed over by a girl - the wrong girl and you are now tarring us all with the same brush

[Opinion Owner]

yes but it was THE SAME QUESTION which is my point

[Anonymous]

Dear god how many times is this question gonna get asked on this site...

[Asker]

it will never end, just like guys will never stop asking "why do girls hate nice-guys?"

I already know why, I just don't know how to be the so-called "a**hole, jerk, bad-boy" that girls love

[Opinion Owner]

thats like saying men love bitches - which is absolute BS. cop on

[Asker]

even girls call them jerks but stay with them

[Jay_So_Lovely]

go ask your mother

[beer3]

Free sex and bj's?

[Asker]

thats not enough

[beer3]

seems like a good trade off to me.