My girlfriend forgot me to play a game with another guy?

[bartivo]

My girlfriend had long hair, and I loved it, like a few days before she said she'd never cut it. Well today she straight up cut it, while on call with me. She didn't ask my opinion or if I was fine with it until she was halfway done cutting it. I brushed it aside because I thought maybe she just forgot about it. Then after she cut it she said she didn't want to show me till she had her makeup on. So she said she'd hang up the call so she could take a shower and then put her makeup on then she'd call me back. So she hung up. I waited 2 full hours until I sent her a text. "That's one long shower." She said "Sorry, I got on a game with Archer (her friend)" and she said she forgot about me. Because she was too busy playing with her friend, archer. This isn't the first time she has forgotten me and was playing with Archer.

Am I over exaggerating?

Should I be worried about this Archer dude?

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(It's not that I don't like her hair cut. She's still beautiful as always and I like the way it looks)

[btbc92]

I'm sorry to say but I think it's very clear she got the quote on quote "hots" for Archer. It's very clear she checked out the relationship long ago. I think it's safe to say that relationship is over. I'm sorry to say. She's only with you because she has I see you for a boyfriend. Which is about status. Sounds like to miss you has particular sexual interest in her best friend. It's not the friend that's the issue. It's who you're dating. You need to let her know that it's over. You're not going to be cheated on, disrespected, and treated as if you're not important. He's free to do whatever this says she likes, but she has no right to disrespect you. To be honest, is not about doing all these things to please you physically about an individual. It's a simple fact that she does this tablet because she wants his attention. She's not concerning about how you feel about it. How I notice? When you simply said that you loved her hair long, and even though you love her hair long, you still respected her choice to cut it. She's doing this just to get his attention. He probably always liked it him, nothing really worked out so she got you. Now that she's probably getting the attention that she likes, maybe not the attention that he's actually trying to give her, now she's trying to make herself look sexually attractive for him. So she can get him to want her. Again, it doesn't sound like he's trying to get into a relationship. But she definitely sounds like the cheating type. Both of you and this guy deserves better.

[btbc92]

A woman that does that wants another guy. She is not interested in you anymore. And she needs to just be flat-out honest instead of treating you like garbage. Again don't blame the friend. That's all her doing. She didn't forget you. She deliberately wants to see this guy. Otis Redding's if anything he probably doesn't even understand or probably even know what's going on. And if I was in your situation I want to Ask Archer himself what's going on between him and her, because every single time you try to spend time with her and go and be a couple, she seems to put more effort in getting his attention more than she is getting my attention. And if it sounds like that there's nothing really going on oh, then you know it's her being a cheater or trying to cheat behind your back. Sadly there are people out there they'll take advantage of you so they can get what they want. They'll tell you one lie and it'll tell another person to another lie to make it seem like something is okay when nothing is okay. I'm sorry to say man but she's cheating. Even if she's not physically doing anything with her friend, she still cheating.

[bartivo]

Oh, that would kinda explain why she drew her line for cheating so close to physically cheating. "As long as there's no flirting" she doesn't see it as cheating. Or so she said,

[btbc92]

Because she is a cheater. Is it has nothing to do with the flirting and it has nothing to do with physically cheating on having sex. It has to do with the intent. What did Jesus said? If a man even looked at another woman he already committed adultery in his heart.

[btbc92]

You need to tell her send her the song. "Bye Bye Bye" by NSYNC. And that's just tell her your answer. And when she tried to call you, that's when you like who is this? Block and have her deleted. 😂 I want to send something else but I'm not going to go there. God forgive me. But that chick is full of what.

[btbc92]

I need to tell you was not born yesterday and you're not going to get played for a sucker. Cut that chick loose buddy. You are 15 years old, you have no time for that nonsense, and you have no time for the drama. Your education is far more important to be having to deal with a cheetah.

[btbc92]

And her intent is, she was cheating on you, and probably like male attention. There's a reason why people like her hop from relationship to relationship. And you ever want to know why 10,15, 20 plus years later they're still miserable if they don't change.

[bartivo]

The only problem I have is, she said she'd kill herself if she lost me. And I know she's serious. I've been with her for five months, and I know she is very suicidal. And I won't leave her because I don't wanna let someone die again when I can do something about it.

[btbc92]

You need to pull up the suicide hotline oh, and you're going to need to contact your school and let them know what's going on. You are not responsible if somebody makes that decision. Don't let somebody like that try to control you and manipulate you. You can't do anything about that. Only God and only Jesus can do so. You however is only human. Don't play martyr. It's your choice to be bound and it's your choice to be set free. At the end of the day she don't give a damn about anybody else. He'll respond so she doesn't care about you, her response show that she doesn't even love you, if she wants to kill herself that's on her. Somebody was to try to kill themselves it try to use me to put me and bonnets, not going to happen. If they do it they do it. If they don't they don't. You don't want them to do it, but neither can they control you. That's where you need to call 911 and get help. Because she needs to be in an institution somewhere with people who can help her or at least attempt to try to help her. You can't be with her. Contact the school get your parents involved, you are still a minor you cannot do this by yourself.

[btbc92]

You let them know that you are in a situation where your partner is suicidal and she is not only cheating on you, but she's being abusive to you in this relationship. You care about her, but you don't want to be in a toxic relationship. But if you try to leave, she may cause bodily harm and herself and God forbid other people. That's all you have to tell them. Gather evidence, and let them know. I don't care what you got to do at this point. You contact the school board, contact your account the office, get somebody to help you. Don't do this by yourself. But you cannot be in that relationship, because as easily as she can threaten to try to kill herself, you never know when she may try to cause you bodily harm. Because don't think just because she said she's going to try it on herself and she won't do it to you. You don't know about her psychological state but it's very clear that she's very manipulative oh, the sounds demonic, and it's control. At the end of the day it's abuse. And you're the one that is suffering trauma at the end of it. She ain't concerned about her trauma, what she wants to do is control. And it also sounds like she's mentally ill. Not suicidal. But mentally ill. And you cannot help that. You can pray for a person. But you can't help that person like that. Because when it boils down to it, is either her life or yours.

[bartivo]

If it comes down it my life or hers, no matter how much of a bitch she may be, Id still take a bullet for her. I'd still die for her. I just think I'm not strong enough to get around this, at least not on my own. Getting others involved isn't a bad idea.

[btbc92]

Kid, don't do that to yourself. Why would you do that for someone like that who doesn't even give a damn about you? Do you hate yourself so bad that you feel like you're not worth living? That you're not worth love? That you're not somebody that's the value? Nobody's not saying that she isn't valuable as a person either but you try to give that to her and she act like she's better than you? She doesn't care about anybody. Doesn't care about herself. She takes advantage of people, she doesn't even care about her own best friend. Don't try to die for a person who's not going to care if you go to hell. It's not worth hell. That's not love man that you talkin. What you talkin is suicide. And she sound like she came from the devil, all the devil is using her to make sure that you die. Because that's how demons in people getting power. When there is Blood to be spilled. Don't shed your blood for that one. Only Jesus can help with that, but it is very clear of what you're saying is she interested in help.

[btbc92]

Do you not understand people like her will tell you that and then knows you're going to do it anyway because in the end they actually want you dead? If you think the stuff only happens in action, thriller, or fantasy movies, you got another thing coming. It's very real. There are people that will Target you, there are people that will try to kill you, there are people that is assigned to end your life, it ain't fiction. I had learned and experienced that throughout my youth. And I had to learn to be careful who I invited in my life. And that person sounds like she is there to assassinate. If not physically, spiritually to mentally break you down. You got witches and warlocks will have no qualms and shedding blood. That's why does an uptick in violence, that's a that's why does an uptake in shootings and killings, kidnappings and rapings, it's all done on purpose. Blood sacrifice. And you don't know who you God forbid try to link up with. And I am telling you this out of Truth and Love, and I'm telling you this out of safety. Get out of that relationship before it maybe be you in grave and not her.

[btbc92]

She isn't interested in getting help*

[bartivo]

But personally I don't see myself worthy of love. I have done a lot of things in the past that I'm not proud of at all. I don't think any person should have to deal with the person I am. And now I feel like. If I stay with my girlfriend, she won't be able to hurt anyone else.

[btbc92]

Man. You are worthy of love. And reading your other question, your definitely a man who is calles to marriage and marriage with a Godly woman. I sense that if you are not a believer in God that God is definitely calling for you to come to him, that he does love you, he wants to see you delivered, for you to repent of your sins if you haven't yet, see Jesus as your savior, and let God lead you on the straight and narrow path.

Listen to me and listen to me closely. I know and I understand very well of what you're saying you sound a lot like myself. I don't know if you have the same personality type as me, but what you're saying I've been saying my entire life and let me tell you something I'm still a virgin, I never dated, I never been married, I never been with a man, let alone anyone before, and trust me when I say I've been alone all my life what makes you think that I will put myself in that position you're in? Regardless of the things I've done in my past that I'm not proud of regardless of what I feel of myself, I know not to date and be with an abuser. She's going to hurt people regardless if you stay or go. She's already doing that to her friends, she's already doing that to you, what makes you think she's going to stop?

[btbc92]

One thing I learned in life about people, not only can you cannot control what they choose to do, you can't tell them what to do. If it's in them do evil they'll do evil. If it's in the person to do good they will do good. God has given us free will to choose and to make our own choices and decisions.

[btbc92]

Your call for something bigger in your car for something great. And this woman is trying to hinder and steal your blessing. That woman that you are dating is there to destroy your blessing, because God has a purpose for your life. But if you don't cut that girl off, she'll make sure you have nothing simply because she has nothing. It's one thing to acknowledge you don't have anything, it's another when you try to steal somebody else's.

[btbc92]

You're called for something bigger and you're called for something great*

[bartivo]

I am actually a believer but honestly, I feel my girlfriend has been pulling be a bit away from that. I have asked God for things in my life to get better, I've begged him, I've thanked him for things I had/have. I asked for a sign and got none. I asked for something so I could have a stronger faith but I got noting. I asked to be spoken to and I heard nothing. I asked God to show me something, anything just so I can know he's there, and I got nothing. God has barely done anything for me, regardless of the countless times I've repented, asked for something, thanked him, got baptized, I don't receive the slightest of a response. My girlfriend claims she's a believer too but judging by her family and her beliefs, I doubt she is one and if she isn't she isn't much of one.

[btbc92]

I sent something in my spirit when I was speaking to you. Know that your prayers have been answered. Know that God has not left you with nothing. Your girlfriend is not a believer. What she is a witch. I'm sorry to say that girl is a witch. And she's the one that needs to repent for what she has done, because it's very clear she has no desire to repent. Because if she was truly suicidal and she truly had promised she would turn to God. Should we not be using men she will not be using people that she would not be doing that to you be getting things. But know and I sense in my spirit that woman was sent from the Devil. Because Satan also knows your weaknesses and he also knows where you're struggling at. The only way for your blessing to be fulfilled in unless that woman is removed from your life. Because the longer you keep her there, the longer you hinder your blessing.

[btbc92]

Sensed*

[btbc92]

God is with you and he does hear you and he does love you. But what you have to do is that you got to put your entire focus on God, you got to start developing your spirit man, you got to start training your spiritual senses so that way you can hear from God, and you ask for God to show you and help you to get to where you need to go spiritually so that way you can be fully equipped to handle anything that the devil tries to throw at you. Because at the end of the day you're forgetting one thing, we are in the middle of a war. And what we're going through is a spiritual battle. Not just physically in, it is a spiritual war. We are in spiritual warfare. Remember what the word of God says, our enemy is not flesh and blood, but principalities in the air. Even though there are physical enemies, even though there are evil and wicked humans who will attempt to do you harm, know that God have a hedge of protection over your life and he will not allow anything to happen to you as long as you abide in his will.

[btbc92]

John 15: 4-11. Abide in me, and I in YOU!

[bartivo]

Thanks, never thought I'd get a Bible lecture off this app lol

[btbc92]

No. It's not a Bible lecture. Words the father needed to tell you. If anything, I'm just presenting the message. And I asked him in prayer that he lead you and guide you where you need to go. Believe in God, trust him, and he will show you where you have to go. He will show you the way.

[btbc92]

Because trust me when I say. This app is anything but Godly. Too many wickedness here.

[CentralPerk77]

Meh - to be honest if you give this too much credence then you’re going to end up pushing her away. If you like someone it’s ok to like her life, her friends, how she chooses to live it etc. Asking someone to be different for you rarely is a winning strat

[jasco]

Well she has friends but you can always let her know that you need to stop forgetting about me so much please

[bartivo]

I know she has friends, the 21st I'm gonna go with one of her friends and her to an amusement park. I'm fine with her having friends and stuff. But I mean, we'll be on call with each other and she'll hop on the ps4 with her friend and completely ignore that I'm on call with her. Like she won't talk to me, and it's just awkward for me. She plays a game with her friend while leaving me just chilling on a call. Hell, she's literally doing right now atm.

[jasco]

Oh well shit dude honestly every time she does this, just hang up. Find something else to do. Personally I just talk to her about it and ask her to stop doing it because its rude.

[jasco]

or hang up and find something else to do

[bartivo]

I have talked to her about it. I've told her it makes me uncomfortable, but she seems to forget it, every time. I can't just hang up. She's get upset or sad if I hang up.

[jasco]

well that's how you feel tho. You feel upset. You want time with her but she isn't willing to give you her time of day. So in short every time she does this. Hang up and tell her you will call her after a hour or so. Because what she is doing isn't right

[bartivo]

Alright, thanks man.

[jasco]

Good luck