Fell in love with a 17 year old guy, and im 23 year old girl?

[Anonymous]

So we've been talking for 3 months now, and we fell in love with each other but the thing is, he's from the US and im from SEA. And he's scared being committed bc obviously we're sooooo far away from each other and he thinks that were doing illegal but the truth is, were just so in love :( I don't know how I can handle this situation, i want him and he's the sweetest person i know, i dont want to lose him :(

[Emii_Urashima]

I am just amazed at how many people freak out about a 17 year old being in a relationship. I could understand a little better if you were a middle aged woman, but at 23 you are close enough to have similar interests and like the same music, etc. Western cultures like America have come a long way over the past few decades, but they still have a LONG way to go before they can overcome their religious indoctrinated puritan views towards relationships and sex. It is very ironic because the "virgin" mary they idolize is considered by biblical scholars to have been no more that 13, and perhaps only 12 when she married the widower, Joseph, who was at least in his mid-30's and perhaps early 40's. I definitely do not agree with such an age difference in that situation, but the idea that a 17 year old guy would somehow be emotionally harmed by a relationship with 23 year old just boggles the mind. Most every American has grandparents and great-grandparents who married and were having children younger than 17. Look it up. You guys wouldn't be here today if they were as close-minded.

[ChrisMaster69]

@emii_urashima fully agree, we have teens married from 16 upwards.

Here in the UK, it’s fairly common as both could be at college and or going to pub etc

[Dazed0N0Confused]

LDRs rarely work. My suggestion is to move on. you're going to do whatever you're going to do, but if you're not going to him & he's not going to you, it is a fantasy world you live in where you both believe that not having sex or physical touch is going to work.

A personal opinion, but best of luck.

[ChrisMaster69]

The ages are really close.

in a matter of months he would be 18 say.

its a distance relationship, you are hardly cradle snatching.

for the UK, that’s like normal stuff, it would be a guy meeting a girl at college or in the pub etc. And one of them would be 17 and other 23. No one would bat an eye lid over it.

[ChrisMaster69]

@ Pretty Pink Anon thank you most appreciated

[DisappointingHope]

It's a grey area, stay away from grey areas. If you were a 23 year old guy talking about a 17 year old girl half way around the world; things would look a lot worse.

[neeeeeeeko]

International law is a difficult subject, but as I understand it, unless you're both from Europe, it's usually very uncoordinated, so even if it is illegal you'll likely have zero if any legal issues with having an international boyfriend who's 1 year underage.

[DangpMango]

Stay far away! because if you were male that's what everyone would be yelling right now. I do think Long distance is just a shit show but you do you. It's different for everyone.

[loveslongnails]

You need to wake up and snap out of it. He's 17 years old !!