What do I do about my boyfriend telling me about his inappropriate student relationship with a former teacher?

[sarahlumpkin]

My boyfriend (high school sweetheart) admitted to at least kissing on a former teacher. I was a late night cocktail discussion at his mother's house. She pulls the glass away from his saying "o. k. darling, you've had enough."
Indeed had enough to admit (after his mother left) to a make out session with his former Senior English teacher. The vibes the woman gave in the hallway made eerie sense now. I don't know if this was the extent of it or if I "shared him shared him". Any thoughts.

Updates

+1 y

I gave him some more happy juice to talk last night. They had their tryst close to the day we first spoke. That's what I could get out of him. And let me say he get's snooty when drinking. Telling me he could have any female who is supposed to automatically fall for him because of his personal appearance. It hurts. Other girls crushed on him (some DO NOT like him) but I was the one there for him.

[Bee-Hatch]

Well unless you were dating at the same time as this 'event' it's really nothing to do with you. It's hardly a big revelation, and you don't get to control someone's past. If it's really such a big thing to you then move on, but it sounds a bit of a petty reason to do so.

[sarahlumpkin]

I officially met him that October - early in the school year under unwanted circumstances. I had noticed him since he was always in a full suit (not to mention white as opposed to any other color dress shirt). But spoke to him after a smaller and younger sophomore (5'10 to 5'7 respectively) in jeans and heavy metal t-shirt had decisively thrashed him in a fight. I had walked him home and things went quickly from there.

I saw him confiring with Ms. Splinter ( not her real name) the next day in the hall and she was nodding with a somber look on her face. As I pointed out earlier, I had gotten some strange looks from her that I didn't think anything about until now.

And even if things began in September, he was 17 at the time and she was in a capacity where 18 is irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

Talk to him (in a non-confrontational way) is the best you can do in my opinionAlso, have you thought about reporting that woman? She might very well be a child molester and you're the only one who can do something about it 😐

[sarahlumpkin]

I could but getting anywhere with it is complex. It's lik

[sarahlumpkin]

See the other post to Bee-Hatch for more complete history.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you want to know the rest of the story, give him some more happy juice and then start asking for the rest of the details.

[sarahlumpkin]

This is possible. And "darling mother" controls the legal alcohol access. But I could... appreciate it

[OlderAndWiser]

Response to update: am sure that you are disappointed with what you learned. It seems that you are much more into him then he is into you. It doesn't seem like there is much of a future with him, but you can salvage something from this experience. Think about how you got yourself into this position, being with a guy who is really not into you. If you can learn something from the experience, it is not a total loss.

[sarahlumpkin]

I'LL JUST still. Milk him for all he is worth!

[Agape93]

Gross but not much you can do without proof of what actually happened.

[sarahlumpkin]

Right. He turned 18 that February and I didn't get from him when it happened but she was his teacher and we were probably already a couple we got together early in the year (told about this in a former post).

[Agape93]

So he probably cheated on you with a teacher? If so that’s pretty scummy of him

[sarahlumpkin]

Just as angry with slut (if not more) since she violated her role and you know how guys put out on demand.

[Agape93]

True

[VVerônica]

Well, of you're really curious and worried about it then try to talk to him about it