It's his problem, not yours that he can't here you out.
I ask my boyfriend to talk all the time if something is going on. He responds well. I've never tried to play him or throw some game at him and so he doesn't expect that's what it's going to be. There are times when I'm really upset (completely unrelated to him) and I say "Can we talk, I'm really upset and I need some one to talk to" and he's there for me right away.
Maybe try coming at it from a different angle. If you have a problem with something he did instead say, "Hey when you ____ it bothered me. Can we talk about it? I'm confused/upset/worried/appropriate emotion here and I'd like to just talk it over, that would really make me feel better." And if he gives you sh*t say fine and leave. Not break up just walk away. There is no reason why you two can't talk like adults when something (whether related to him or not) is bothering you.
If he gives you the glazed look 'Great this sh*t' look/tone then f*** him. He's being a d***. No guy should assume you're against them or accusing if you haven't set them up for it before. And it sounds like you haven't. He's just being a jerk. So let him be. if he doesn't want to talk about it say fine, well it's really upsetting me so until we can talk about it like adults I need to go away. And if he still refuses then clearly he's not mature enough to handle a real grown up relationship yet.
No boyfriend should give you sh*t for asking to talk, that's stupid and really makes me angry. Seriously, take a stand, he has no reason to do that.
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you are over 30. not guy at that age has a right to say he does not want to hear a woman say we should talk. tell him to f*** a doll if he does not want to talk. if he is in a relationship he will expect to talk. I do not know any guys who do not feel the right to talk whenever they see fit, so why do you have to walk on egg shells?
If you can not talk to him, you guys are not good for each other. He is not respecting you.
How do you now he loves you. If he is undermining your attempts to make things clear for both of you, and he thinks that's reasonable, perhaps he does not understand love? Stop smoothing things over, when he has a tantrum,. make him talk to you like an adult. You are babying him & encouraging him to behave like a child. You guys are becoming a mom & a boy not a couple.
i think he feels guilty about something so he gets defensive. I don't know why else he would get mad when talking to u. Ask him why he gets mad when you guys talk. And tell him you need to talk to him so you won't explode on him later without him knowing y.
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