Is it true that if a guy isn't okay with having a housewife he is either broke or passive?

Question

Isn't a stay at home wife ideal? Also, if you can't afford to take care of your partner should you really have one?

MudRucker · Accepted Answer

Housewives add much value to the economy even though it is not measured in dollars.

More importantly, motherhood is under valued.

Most working mothers are good mothers, but not having the pressure of having to earn a paycheck to pay the bills allows a woman to do more for her kids.

bamesjond0069 · Accepted Answer

On point. I knew i loved you for a reason.

Apple1996 · Answer

A guy like that is broke and untraditional. I'm a stay at home mom/housewife and my husband sees how hard I work every day to keep our family running. I definitely got lucky to find a traditional man cause so many men now a days think that women need to work.

AnotherDrinkPlease · Answer

A little of both. But I think by now the main reason is that it's just cultural indoctrination in that men just assume that having a housewife is outdated or even wrong because that's what they've heard for the last fifty years. Yes, a good portion of the male population these days are lazy, stupid, and gutless. But I think they really believe having a working spouse is the preferred state of things. Their mode of thought has to change before anything else.
And I understand the question was about men, but women these days aren't helping. Too much feminism. Women piss on other women that would like to be housewives. They ridicule them. So in turn nobody wants to be a housewife, and that makes it all the more difficult for any man that would prefer to put all the bread on the table.
Additionally, for a man to do all of the providing he's going to have to work a lot. My dad worked 2 jobs and did side work to provide while mom kept house. We hardly saw him. But not once did my mom gripe at him for working so much. Yet, a lot of women do just that if their men work a lot, if they're not there tending to their every single emotional need on top of busting their asses day in and day out putting steaks in the freezer. Men cannot be providers, protectors, and emotional babysitters all at the same time. Women have to toughen up themselves sometimes.

Not_Average · Answer

It’s ideal for me, but it’s not my place to judge someone else’s situation. My dad made enough so that my mom could stay home. My mom did stay home, but after we went into school, she started to work part time. She’s very extroverted and was going crazy only being at home. My dad just wanted my mom happy, so he rather have had her work. She still cooked, cleaned, and raised us full time.

I also think that you don’t need to be able to cover a woman’s expenses entirely just to marry her. That’s an unrealistic expectation. Usually that transition doesn’t happen instantly. The right woman will be able to support her man in many ways and get in him in the direction of accumulating enough wealth to support everyone.

My girl deals with my property managers and helps me put in so many ways when it comes to managing our assets. She’s been there for me emotionally when I’ve lost tons of money in riskier investments. You don’t need to have everything aligned before you marry. I think the beauty of marriage is growing together.

Our goals are for her to stay at home with the kids and I could do that now, but we want a higher quality life style, so she’s helping me get there.

Juxtapose · Answer

A woman is not a child or a helpless house pet, she is a grown-ass adult.

Her having sex with me does not excuse her of normal, adult responsibilities. If you live with me, you are going to pay your fair share of the bills and fucking like it.

I will never have kids anyway, so being a housewife to me is pointless when hiring a maid would be cheaper vs you not working lol.

Before you accuse me of being broke, I have a few thousand saved up while most Americans are in debt. I'm not passive either, I am a passionate person full of life.

kaylaS91 · Answer

Not necessarily.
My boyfriend is neither broke nor passive (quite the opposite in both cases) but I still can't imagine him being okay with my being a housewife (or having that kind of lifestyle).

He doesn't even want me to help him clean, despite me offering since I'm off work for the summer while he's still busy af. He said that I mean more to him than that and that he would hate for me to come over just to do chores or even bring food leftover from what I've already cooked. Something about how he's perfectly capable of taking care of those things on his own so he should get his own matters better organized.

He also mentioned to me in a previous conversation about how one of his dealbreakers has always been if the chick is financially irresponsible. Like if she has no issue spending a lot on things that aren't necessary, especially if she's living paycheque to paycheque as it is.

GingerGuy · Answer

It's not 1920 anymore and things have changed a lot. Even if he has a decent job, 1 income often just isn't enough anymore, not like it used to be. It can be hard enough to support yourself these days never mind a family. The price of everything has gone up so much, but wages haven't for many many years. Finally we are starting to see some increases now, but still, compared to inflation, hardly at all. So unless he's a doctor, lawyer or really really good job, most families can't survive on 1 income alone. Let's reverse it for a minute. If the roles were reversed and you had to work and he stayed home, could you support a family?

BCRanger10 · Answer

I don't know about that, though some guys probably might argue so.

At any rate, I for one do think that a stay-at-home mom is the ideal situation.

As for not being able to afford it, that's the exact situation I'm in now. I wouldn't be able to support my family on just my income. On the good side, I work only four days a week, so I stay at home with my son two days a week and my wife can work from home two other days. Still though, I will need to start looking into other options soon.

BlackBeauty90 · Answer

Most of the people I know are most certainly not broke. Unless you think doctors, lawyers, pharmacists, etc are poor.

Do they care to have a housewife? No. Most of their spouses actually contribute more to the household than drinking booze and throwing popcorn at the TV over the latest soap opera show. A good family friend in fact his wife is also a pharmacist or a work colleague his wife also a doctor. An old colleague who was a pharmacist his fiance is a nurse. My brother is a paramedic and his wife a nurse.

If anything it is the broke guys with the limited education that want a housewife. Like those working class sort I lived near while going to university.

abc3643 · Answer

Absolutely not. This is borders on being a ridiculous question because it shows some immature naïveté about the real world. The real world has real bills and real uncertainty that didn't exist 40+ years ago (back when one income was still common) thanks to the GOP which altered the balance between employer and employee vastly in favor of the employer. This is why even people as old as me are relatively fucked in the real world and why children now cannot expect to have a better life than their parents did which is unlike the entire history of America before 1981.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Well, having a stay at home housewife who doesn't work cuts into the budget for sure. I think it is a function of how much the guy makes and how tight of a budget the couple wants to live on.

A guy who I grew up with has a high paying professional management type job and makes $180,000 a year, and his wife complains that he doesn't make enough! I think almost anyone reading this would agree that is pretty good money. But they have 3 kids and they spend a lot. His wife grew up in a well to do family and never had to watch their spending.

IveGotNoName · Answer

"if you can't afford to take care of your partner should you really have one?"
... this just makes no sense. It's not a parent and child relationship... it's a partnership... they take care of each other, you're making it seem one-sided. The woman should be able to take care of herself.

No, I am not saying housewives don't contribute. My own mother is a housewife, I respect her more than anyone, and my family could not have survived without her. But you make it sound like having a partner is supposed to be an expense, and it isn't. It's a two way street.

If a guy cannot afford to "have a housewife" (and I'm not gonna talk too much about how you make that sound like owning a house cat), there's a simple solution; both should be working. It does not mean he is broke or passive.

K-I-S-S · Answer

Call me untraditional, but what is all this work you guys are always talking about?

I know 7 couples who have anywhere from 1 to 5 kids, even know one with 9 pretty young kids (both brought kids from previous relationships).

Who have 1 staying at home, government pays 70% of income for 1.5 years per kid etc.

Everybody i know finish their daily work in 3 hours, cleaning, cooking etc and then pretty much bored unless a newborn baby is in the house, then it's a bit more chaotic.

Not against people staying at home, but they need to pay their own half of the bills. Guys want to buy boats, a house or other more expensive things too and need to save up. Not always selfish either, some do it for their kids, a nice house around a forest.

J2ohhhhh · Answer

My closest friends partners are doing useful and prestigious things, working as teachers, dentists, physiologist or do a PhD, etc... I'd be just fucking ashamed to answer the question "what's your partner doing?" And probably she'd be to. A housewife would simply just not fit into my environment and life. I think guys whose friends are okay with housewives, themselves will be okay with having one. It's also a sort of appreciation towards women that they have more intellectual potential than to be a cleaner. In economics it's called competitive advantage, everyone should do what they're the best at.

Britchie · Answer

All men should definitely strive to make enough money to support a family on his income alone. If the woman wants to work she can do that. 2 incomes are better than one. Whatever dynamic a couple wants to do should be possible, but like I said, a man should strive to be able to support a family on his income alone. You never know what might happen that could cause her to be unable to work.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

I do see it as that they aren't financially stable enough to have a housewife or they are cheap. I believe each partner has different roles and if your roles are different it doesn't mean it isn't teamwork. To each their own IDC. Personally, I want to have a separate income coming in even if I was a housewife either way.

Not everyone has to agree and I dont care because I wouldn't be interested in the people that disagree anyway.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I'll only marry a girl who wishes to become a devoted housewife cause it's ideal for me and she will be ideal for the whole family too...

A girl should always be encouraged for the housewife role and the ones who underestimate this role should be punished!

DaveToo · Answer

This can be construed as a trick question. For a man to demand his lady be a stay-at-home person, really that is sentencing her to a life with no life. Many women WANT a career, a family, and a home. Some choose to stay at home once the first child is born. Trusting the care of your children to a stranger can be tricky.

Bright_blue_eyes · Answer

No. That's not true. In fact that sounds ridiculous. I can afford it but I have no interest in a lazy mooch who makes no contribution to the world other than spending money. It would be different if we had kids. If I were a parent I wouldn't want my kids raised by daycare workers so in that case I would want her to stay home. Since I don't want kids I have absolutely no use for a woman who is just going to mooch off of me. No thanks.

madgoat · Answer

You appear to be implying that a man should fund his wife's lifestyle and if he doesn't, he's a deadbeat. This is fine for some who are capable of this and want this, but wholly impractical and unfair for others.
We might then ask if she is worth the outlay. He may well think so. But that's a decision he'll have to make for himself.

Belgie · Answer

Of course not. And no, a stay at home wife is not ideal. Some guys just hate the idea of marriage. Some guys are gay. There are plenty of reasons besides the 2 you mention.

crazy8000 · Answer

Sounds like messed up presumption.
It's like saying home wife's are lasy entitled gold digger that are to week to support herself in the first place.

Can't stand home wife. she has to contribute with income otherwise is she at the wrong person to start with.

A lot of guys aren't after home wife and have a lot of money, the opposite of passive.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

There are different ''types'' of housewives.
The one that I could not agree to is the parasite person.
One other would be the ''only cooking-cleaning-mother hen''

This does not answer your question, though.
But I think, that's only two reasons out of many other possibilities.

Caliguy88 · Answer

I could afford one and maybe id do it but I wouldn’t want to waste my fun money. I like to travel, go out... I make a lot of money for the most part but if you cut it in half my lifestyle would change. If we had kids and she wanted to raise them I’d be ok, but not just have her sit around all day.
I really think girls need to be somewhat independent too. Depending on a guys income is not a good spot to be in.

rievious · Answer

Housewives started becoming unpopular when women started getting jobs. Women couldn't have work so men made the money. Now women do work. I get you want to feel safe inside a house where your husband makes money to provide everything for you but you're not incapable. 2 people providing for a happy life with low worry about money is much easier than 1.

Kaamraj · Answer

Men are wising up these days and realizing that marriage itself is an unfavorable social and legal institution for them to be in. Alimony, family court, society are all against men and the odds are stacked against them.

Thatasianlove16 · Answer

No, just like how a woman may not want a man to be a stay at home husband they don’t need to be with them. It’s a preference has nothing to do with their ability to be with someone

Waldoe · Answer

to me, the word "Partner" means sharing the burden of the relationship, and the benefits of the relationship. Any woman looking for a free ride is just stupid, guys can get Sex anytime they want, or do you bring something more tangible to the relationship than your winning smile, cause if you don't you will be divorced soon...

TallAnon · Answer

Not gonna lie, a housewife sounds boring as fuck. I live on my own, I can manage housework and a 9-5, the fuck she gonna do all day? Lazy around? Not on my money she ain't. If you got kids, I can see a point, but otherwise; get to work.

SnakeBoop · Answer

or, he doesn't feel he needs to have one since its 2021 and women do not have to be stay at home wives?

Derekk · Answer

Uh no? I want her to be whatever she wants to be. Coincidentally, most women I've dated have wanted to contribute outside of the home. Unless you're implying that I'm less of a man for not throwing her into the kitchen against her will?

Gry_Odegaard · Answer

In most of the world global economy single income households simply aren't economical anymore for most workers especially those in Blue Collar industries so no that's not true

StunningANDbrave · Answer

Yeah these things are important and ideal, but teach these hoes to be a housewife first. No men are going to provide when 80% of divorces are filed by women due to "boredom" and other superficial shit.

Avicenna · Answer

Broke has zip to do with it. Wealthy guys dont want a woman who will sit around bored.

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

He doesn't have to be broke or passive, there are too many women looking for a free ride these days. Life is expensive in today's world so both people should contribute to pay all the bills.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I don't know what to say, I tell every girl I date or have a relationship with I get an income for persons with disabilities, if she rejects me then I move on it's not a big deal I'm all cool

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Being able to afford one and her wishing to be one seems to be two separate matters anymore. Hence my sentiments of her choosing her own path … but whatever she chooses, to do it well and that it keeps her happy doing it.

Bee-Hatch · Answer

Why would I want to stay at home and be a parasite? I'd prefer to have a life of my own

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Maybe ideal for some. But not for everyone. Just like being a housewife is not ideal for every woman either.

AJRay64 · Answer

Not ideal. Most people would want a relationship with someone who has goals in life. What goals does a housewife have?

TomGarand · Answer

What's wrong with both partners contributing to the income? Some men genuinely just don't want to be the main provider. Ain't nothing wrong with that.

Redstang88 · Answer

No I have zero interest in kids, so what’s the point of having her sit at home all day? If I wanted that I’d get a dog, I want a girl with some drive to enjoy life like I do

bannacookies · Answer

There's pros and cons to that, but if the wife would like to work, volunteer, or do some kind of work outside of the house I believe that she should be able to.

Nazgol · Answer

No, that's not true. A woman working is needed for maternity leave in order to be able to have a child later. Two income is better than one so life would be more comfortable in that sense

AndrewMG · Answer

eh? Does the lass have an opinion in this question?

ARealHonestHuman · Answer

😂😂😂 wtf?, No its not. Where tf did you get that information from? who tf thinks that?

Alejandro3000 · Answer

Partners shouldn't act like a dependent child. Women and men are earning similar wages, so if she's broke wow that's fucked up, undateable.

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

No I don’t want my wife to be a housewife because I rather marry a women that has aspirations outside of cleaning and raising children and wants a career

alance99 · Answer

I would love it if my wife wants to stay home and i will take care of all her needs 🙂🙂

msc545 · Answer

Untrue. You pretty much need two incomes these days unless you happen to be a hedge fund manager or a criminal... oh wait... that is redundant.

slatyb · Answer

No, it’s not ideal. I prefer an intelligent partner, and many women find housework unfulfilling.

anylolone · Answer

Nope. House wives tend to not be in any way passive. They unsurprisingly tend to have a lot of time to control their husbands life.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

I don't know about that; all I know is that whether she's a career woman or a housewife doesn't matter to me.

jerdanro · Answer

Wowwgirl, how could you be traitor to the cause of femanism that fights to give women choices... Uh.. Nevermind.

Edgar991 · Answer

Housewives are con artists. Just get a proper job and support your family instead of staying at home and watching TV while the husband pays for everything

TexasRed95 · Answer

What kind of neighborhood do you live in where one person can afford to pay for the whole family and live a luxurious lifestyle?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Apparently you need to open a dictionary and look up the meaning of the word "partner."

Sam_The_Savage · Answer

First time I agree with big tit wowwgirl.

CreamySeed · Answer

No lazy bitches allowed, we aren't using washboards or milking cows on the homestead anymore

michael1469 · Answer

Sounds rather gold diggerish saying you can't be in love if you dont have money.

Slim57 · Answer

Could also mean they don't want kids and want equality in the relationship

Is it true that if a guy isn't okay with having a housewife he is either broke or passive?

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