566 opinions shared on Relationships topic. If he's being satisfied by another girl who is more to him than a friend with benefits, he may not be comfortable having sex with you because it feels like he is cheating on the other girl. If you're having sex with another guy he may be even less interested in having sex with you.
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I agree with you. That's how he was with me, back in 2014, 2015 he would be tripping about about other guys and get mad if I brought up another dude. Oh Lord knows I better not have mention anything to him about me hooking up with anyone else. I usually didn't anyways he just wanted it to be just him and I. But in between then and there he was a little bit inconsistent. He made time for me a lot more back then. But he definitely was in and out. Even a psychic told me, that he bounces back from you and the other girl. And also. If he feels more close to her and that connect a lot more. Then why won't he just cut sex off with me all together. It feels weird for me to actually play his role, that he did with me years ago. And also.. these purple hearts, that he sends me, are different. πππ. And I guess he would be Ok with us just being friends. Even when I talk about other guys to him or tell him, who I hooked up with or seeing with my boyfriend. He just says WOW that's crazy. And even when I talk dirty.. To him.. He just be like.. Ok. Or like it.. But he never comment anymore. π©π€.. But I guess my thing is.. What would you do... B. c I feel like I am being a bit selfish. Like- we done this on and off thing for 8 years. And now I'm like I DON'T want to share him. I asked him, if he had a girlfriend. And he says No. Your the one with the boyfriend, and he's like. I know you. I know that you are seeing somebody. He's like... How do you think that's suppose to make me feel. But we also established that we was going to work on being just friends.
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But here is the thing. He says now, that he is okay and cool with us being just friends, after 7 years of him fussing me out and asking me why I didn't want sex with him anymore. Btws. My point is. Say Okay we are able to established that friendship! then I stop having the desires of sleeping with him and being with him. And really just stay focus on my current relationship and me and my life. So when we hangout or if we run into each other. He would get friend zone. I know myself, and when I stop having sex with someone.. Or feel as if they don't want me the same. I move on. I think.. I just been horny and have been wanting him to pipe me down. I mean the other guy... is not as good as my 8yer friends with benefits. But he DON'T want me like he says he do. But also... It's his free will do sleep with who he wants. Plus he made it clear to me, that he wasn't going anywhere. He wasn't leading me. But moving on. He's going to some what want to sleep with down the road, when I'm not interested in engaging sexual activities with him. It may make things weird. I mean of course he still has the other girl. But still it's going to be weird.
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It seems like he may have wanted to be in a serious relationship with you at one time, but you had a boyfriend at that time. You could ask him how serious he is with his current girlfriend and if he would prefer that you were his girlfriend. If you think he is your soulmate I think it's important to find out if he feels the same way about you.
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Woah slow down.. soulmate. And him and I already talked about this, this past week. He basically said he can do right now is just wait and he said later on down the road if things are meant to be then it will be. But he also said that he apologized for not giving me the time that I want and he said I see what you're doing and he said understand if you moved on. But he said right now I can't give you the time that you want I said you know I have a son to take care of have these crazy hours that I work and he said just a whole lot of other stuff. And he said how he's just trying to be a better him. and do the right thing. Like we exchange phone numbers and he said but yeah we can still text and talk he said he has no problems with that. He says you know I'm not going anywhere. And he doesn't know that I know about the other girl he's with. I mean I'm sure that she knows that I know that there's another female. But again! We already established that we were going to try to work towards building a friendship. And he said if things I'm going to be later on then it would be.. but he does have a lot going on in his life. I mean regardless of some vagina. He just seems to make more time for her when it comes down to sex. But I don't blame him I mean I'm sure she is a lot closer. And the times that he did and asked me months ago I was giving hom the run arounds. So at this point, Keisha so happy and be happy and you should be able to like and deal with who he wants. 2021. Makes it 8 years. Sooo if I can't have him completely to myself then I'm definitely not going to want him later when I'm by myself because he's going to always be what someone. Unless if we do establish some type of relationship years later. I will be happy but I also wouldn't be completely happy because I don't trust this man. So I rather.. honestly keep this man and arm's length. πβΊπ
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I only said "if he is your soulmate" because I don't totally understand how the two of you feel about each other deep down. Thanks for explaining it.
If you don't trust him totally I think you are best to keep doing what you are doing and work on building a good friendship with him. I think it is best not to say you love him if there is another girl in his life that he wants to be with more. - Asker+1 y
I agree with 100% but sometimes he tells me that he loves me too. Sometimes even before I say it too him. But you right. You're welcome. But like you said it's better to just stay strictly just friends! As he says if anything is meant to be it will be. I mean he still times me that he cares about me a lot and says. I csres about you deeply... And did apologize for not being able to spend as much time with me or give me the time that I want. So that was nice! Also. I had him long enough! So she is all his... and he is all hers.
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Well TBH. I don't know what he really wanted.. He says he has always been physically attractive to me. But by him sleeping with her! He's only bonding and connecting to her, both emotionally and physically. And also. What did he mean when he says! that him and I have good sex chemistry! he says that's one of the best things that we do have. WTF!!
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Well when I do. Or did tell him this past week! That my boyfriend and I was going to cut off the open relationship part. He starts freaking out. Like he says that he can't be mad at me for wanting to do that. But he says. But he also said! I'm sorry that I can't give you the time that you want and need right now. So he was very understanding to my needs. But I have notice when I so so talk about my boyfriend! And when he is coming by to see me. He laughs and says Ok baby. Like... What's do funny π€·π
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And Yeah it's really weird. Like him and I made plans to hang out next weekend. But I told him... Just as friends. And he said! He'll keep his hands off of me. So well see how that goes. But frfr... It's better to just cut things off with him and stay away from him for awhile, until I am completely over him. Whatever God has for him and I in the future, then let that be. But 8 years. Yeah... I'm. good. :)-
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He shouldn't be upset that you no longer will have sex with him. If he never wanted to be exclusive with you he can't expect you will have sex with him indefinitely. Do you think he can keep his hands off you when you see him again? If he doesn't you may have to stop seeing him in person and only be online friends.
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Right and I agree with you. He's like, I'm sorry that I can't give you the time that you want right now. And yes my boyfriend and I are in a open relationship. But him and I talked yesterday, so we may just close off others. I DON'T think, he was ever Ok with me and him sharing are body with others. And it seems like with my friends with benefits, he seems like he's almost trying to respect my relationship with my guy. And respect his person who he is sleeping with. But if him and I did hangout. I'm not sure... It just depends on where we are at and how he is feeling. Now if I told him that my open relationship is no longer open. He may be Okay with it... but he may try something or tell me nvm about meeting up.. but so far he's been avoiding us meeting up and sexual topics. So π€·
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Exactly!! and if that's what it comes down to then that's when I'm willing to do. Like its really hard to avoid my friends with benefits. He makes sure, that I don't get away to far from him. So he's been messaging me here and there. And I'm okay with us just being friends.. But I also have feelings for him. And I also want to feel and be more close to my guy and my my 8yer friends with benefits/friend. He means well and all. But I'm good! I just don't think I am ready to be just his friend. Sooo
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But dealing with my friends with benefits. It really won't benefit me anything. Soo I'm not wasting anymore time! On him
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No. It's not the sex, that I want. I'm okay with us not hooking up. It would just be weird.. Like the psychic mentioned to me! she said you and him could start a friendship build a friendship. But she said, he's going to always be physically attracted to you. So she said. Keep reading.
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You and him could literally have other people, but wouldn't be able to keep y'alls hands off of each other. She said... It would be very tempting. But she said, I do see and feel that he tends to stalk you a bit. She said, people are doing spiritual sex spells on him and spells. So she said, his energy is all over the place here and there. She did say. Also with the other girl, it's like he almost feels as if this other girl is his soulmate like she's the one for him. But she said, but it's also a part of him, that still holds on to you. And I had this conversation with her about a month ago. And she said at that time.
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That he was confused about who he wanted to be with. She said in his mind, he's been thinking about a commitment with her, you and trying to work things out with his baby mama. So I said, well who will he pick.. I said tell me, I rather hear the truth then a lie. So she did her Shuffle on with the cards and said okay let me read into the energies. So she said. Honestly she said it could be you but I'm getting more of a fire sign. She said, those two already established a connection. And she said, he just seems to be unsure still tho. So in a way it makes sense, to reasons why he said what he said, when I mention to him about my boyfriend. He's like.. Well we can still text and talk and chat. He said, if things are meant to be then it will be. Like even know he is a busy person and may not be able to spend his time with me, like he use too. And may have a crazy job that works him like crazy.. And have a son and his other stuff he got going on. He still makes time with this other girl and for her. Then a lot of times when I did ask him to come over for some fun. He was actually turning me down. Woah! Usually he'll be like.. OTW. But it does seem like, it has a lot to do with him being busy but also of his new love interest but also with me telling him about my boyfriend. He doesn't call him my boyfriend just yet. He says it that man or the guy who you are pregnant by. Haha. And when I do bring up my guy to him. He gets a bit quiet and be like Ok. But frfr.. We pretty much are doing the same to each other.. it's just that one of us are in an actual relationship.
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So I guess. I felt some type of way when he was turning down my sex offers. Bc BEFORE he didn't. And with my boyfriend and I. He is always on the road. It's not about sex at the end of the day. But sometimes I do get and want the need to do it. So my friends with benefits is the only person who really satisfied my needs. But from the last time we had sex.. It literally felt like I was fucking her through him. And it made me realize- that I really shouldn't be doing this.. He belongs to someone! Who he claims as his. I felt that. And it made me feel kind of not wanted or special to him. Like he told me back in 2017 when he was trying to convince me so much about sleeping with him. And I asked him why. And he said, well sleeping with you is different then with the others. He says, it was more meaningful and it meant something. Now he tells me, oh I'm sorry if it seems like I always just want sex from you. But he's like, you have to understand. That I am physically attracted to you! And it has always been that way. He says, when him and I have sex. We have good sex chemistry, and that's one of the best things that we do have..
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I'm happy and glad that he was open and honest with me. ππππ€. So that only means that he lie about is having a bond and are sex felt special and it meant something to him. He probably was saying things just to keep me around. But now! oh you are physically attracted to me. Right!! π€π€π€. I mean.. Again it's whatever... Tbh. Like said and you said too. If I didn't tell him about my boyfriend or if he didn't meet this new girl. Trust me and believe, that he would be knocking at my door. But I also came to a conclusion, and said! I have been running after someone who really only seen me as nothing but just sex. But now, he wants to start and considering having a relationship. But when I told him this year, and how I felt about him. He said, I didn't even think that you liked me like that. He said, you always talked about other guys to me, and told me about who you was messing with. So he said, I didn't really think to much of it. WOW!! Wtf! How could he not know this.. After 7 years of 2020. Wtf!π€·π©π€
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So he may have had feelings for me, then and now. But maybe he's assumed that I just wanted SEX with him, bc that's all that I was giving him. πππ.. but again. You live and you learn. So at the moment, it's just best for me to keep my distance, and if we do hangout. It will only be during the day. Like I'm not mad with him... but why else would a girl stick around for this long. π π©πππ
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I can understand how it is difficult for both of you to be faced with not seeing each other especially after all the years of passionate sex. I don't believe you can be with someone like that for that many years and not have strong feelings for them. I suspect if he has a girlfriend she will never equal the connection he has with you. It is also not fair to his girlfriend if he is thinking about you or comparing her to you. I'm afraid I don't know how the two of you are going to deal with this problem.
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I'm not going to deal with anything that has to do with him. I know, that I said: that him and I can be friends and all. But at this point, I'm really willing to let him go and to move on. So truthfully, she is all his. Plus I had him long enough. That's why I said at times! It's hard to trust him and to believe the shit he tells me. But I do believe that he tends to jump back and fourth between her and I. And it's not healthy. Because, it's always going to be that one person, that he makes time for and that one person who wants more of his time. Like he isn't my man. But he did this stuff with me too.
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He likes her! Because this man, usually would be all over me and be texting and buzzing my phone. Asking to sleep with me or wanting to see me. So truth is yes he is busy. But he also makes time for who he wants. And it does seem like after the simple fact I told him about my relationship. That's when he really started to pull back. But again I'd rather things not be awkward and weird between us if I continued to have sex with him. This is the first time that I actually felt this way with anyone and definitely with him. I literally, can feel her energy, through him.
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There's things that I would tell him to get him all hot and bothered. Sometimes he has no reaction or he responds to it in a certain type of way. Then these purple hearts that he's sending to me. Yeah! Not are thing. He's too into her, and I feel it... there's a certain way that he communicates with me and a certain amount of flirtatious that he do.. Now. Truth be told. I do feel and think that there sex is different and hell she may give him what he needs. I'm not saying that I can't satisfy him because he always cums with me. But! I kind of did just pop back up in his life. So those two was already knocking boots together.
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So I can't expect him to be knocking at my door. Plus if she is someone new. I mean he should be able to explore things with her just like I said it with my guy. I honestly no longer want to feel anything for him. Because I feel like that there's another woman who took my place at this time and attention. Plus the sex between him and I is way better, but than with my current, it's not. But at the end of the day I am appreciated that my boyfriend did give me the time and day to actually make me his girlfriend and not someone who he just wants to hook up with.
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With my friends with benefits he tends to sleep with women to see who he connects with. And that's the wrong way and to make connections she needs to learn how to talk to these women. Don't trust me I might feel a little bit but hurt and kind of left out in the cold because he has turned down offers and plus he isn't as busy as he says he is. BUT!! She might be the only person, that he's sexting. But trust and believe if the opportunity comes his way to sleep with someone else he will. He did the exact same thing to me. It was consistent then he would disappear. . I would have him through the week and the weekend. Then once sex was established he would talk either that same day or the next day then the day after that he just disappear.
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Every time I got online he would get off, anytime I would send him a message, he would look at it and read it. Then reply to me like later. I realize that I was a side piece when he had a whole girlfriend back in 2014. And I might be his main chick that he hits up. Even though him and I we aren't dating and we never have. But every time he will come back around he will make assumptions and assume that I was cheating on him or saying I was seeing someone. When he did the whole entire time. He had a girlfriend! But lied to my face. And I'm so trifling and messing with him to do such thing. I knew your lady ain't giving you any so you're desperate to look else where. That's CRAZY- but as you hear me say I'm in an open relationship so it wouldn't be considered cheating. And yes I do like my friends with benefits time and energy. But if he is trying to establish something with this other girl. Then he shouldn't be Ok with sleeping with me, he shouldn't feel comfortable with us hanging out, nor should he still from time to time, want sex from me. Like seriously I was upfront with him and told him about my guy. I'm not saying he has to do that with me about his lady. But I guess he wants me to think that he's always busy, and no telling what he's telling her. Like as crazy as my open relationship is with my significant other I do tell him when and who and who I have done it, and how many times.
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And that's so trifling of him" to do such thing like that to his girlfriend. Because I was really hurt when I found out. About the other girl and back in 2016 or 17 when she was pregnant. And I'm not going to be that girl. Like I said he'll see he understands that I'm willing to close open relationship off and really work on a relationship with me and my boyfriend and not include anyone else. He's one minute saying he's okay with that and how him and I can still be friends. Then the next he's like not really Trippin but acting as if is a crime. So even though he is high over Hills for this new girl. He still be in my DMs. And truthfully if I really wanted him completely and for him to not even pay any time or attention to her. I could have him maybe not that easy, but I could. But my reasons why I'm cutting him off and distance myself just because I don't want to end up taking advantage of him being nice and doing certain things for me. :(. Like one of his friends was arresting me and I told him to tell him to leave me the hell alone. Know what most guys they were saying why can't you tell him for yourself you're the one talking to him. But the only thing he said babes I don't have his phone number but he told me to enjoy my birthday week and basically to forget about him. And I thought that was so nice of him but I said I don't want to start to take advantage of him and asking him for a little favorites then and there. So yeah!!
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He is a very nice guy he definitely has an edge about himself and he has his stubborn ways. But sometimes I see why he has struggled with women taking advantage of him. This is why I say people should be careful and cautious about who they sleep with and who you give your body to. And the amount of respect he has for me and gives I will feel and hate myself for doing anything out of manipulation to him. He obviously trusts his me to a distant but he definitely will be able to pick up anything I'm doing the spiteful or that's not nice. So that's really why I'm putting that space between him and I. Because he is so given and I don't want to over do things. :(. Like with my boyfriend! If I ask him to do something it's because I sincerely need his help. And by the little distance that I did put between me and my friends with benefits/friend. A lot of different feelings are starting to come about. Part of me is holding on, then part of me, is really just trying to let go. And he knows when I'm moving on and father away from him! Because then he starts to pull in. But like I said I wouldn't be surprised if he was dealing with another person, besides her. He was a whore and a cheater, when I met him and he is still one till this day.
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He needs to be up front with the women that he entertains. Because this little girl if she hasn't already been suspicious of his here and there. She's going to end up getting her heart broken and he's going to be repeating the cycle over. And I get it he's not really ready to be in a committed relationship right now. But for real for real if he feel as if this girl is meant to be with him or if she is his soulmate. So the psychic says! Don't f*** all those b****** and hoes that he deals with. And just fuck with one girl. Like I seriously don't understand how he likes certain girls and tries to establish a relationship with them by keeping the sex going. But then yet talks to other women I get it he's keeping his options open. But if you're all about that girl then you should be all about her and her only. That's why I said honestly I don't have a problem with cutting the physical part off with him and I text between him and I was never supposed to happen back in 2014. He wanted sex- I didn't. And he was always pressed on trying to get sum. And basically let's just be honest that's all he kept me around for. Yeah he might have had a thing for me and like me. But that's all we did when we hung out. And at some point you're going to get tired of that. Now if she's giving him the sex that's blowing his mind! And all. Then I can understand. But from the energy that I felt. They definitely get more experience and Creative in the bed. Because I can't recall from my history with him and having sex that he ever has left my leg up. So that was the first. But like I said I can't concern myself with him anymore he's not mines and he never has been to begin with. So good luck to them too
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He needs to be up front with the women that he entertains. Because this little girl if she hasn't already been suspicious of his here and there. She's going to end up getting her heart broken and he's going to be repeating the cycle over. And I get it he's not really ready to be in a committed relationship right now. But for real for real if he feel as if this girl is meant to be with him or if she is his soulmate. So the psychic says! Don't f*** all those b****** and hoes that he deals with. And just fuck with one girl. Like I seriously don't understand how he likes certain girls and tries to establish a relationship with them by keeping the sex going. But then yet talks to other women I get it he's keeping his options open. But if you're all about that girl then you should be all about her and her only. That's why I said honestly I don't have a problem with cutting the physical part off with him and I text between him and I was never supposed to happen back in 2014. He wanted sex- I didn't. Let's keep that in mind. Like even now. If he feels as if that psychic says, that he feels that she is his soulmate. Then why is he still banging other girls or even talking to others. I mean I get it he's not really ready to settle down and commit to one person. But if she was all of that and a bag of chips. He shouldn't be doing that side stuff.
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And trust me. If I really wanted him there's ways that I can get him. She might have him in one way but she doesn't have him completely. Meaning. He may give her 70% or 80% of his time and effort and maybe even 90%. And only give me about 50% or 60% of his time. The one thing I noticed about him he hasn't gave anyone 100% of his time. But for real though if a man is serious about a woman then he's going to give her a hundred percent. I understand he has a job a son and all the other crazy stuff he does. Like, I don't mind him and I, being just friends. But he's definitely the type of guy who can't keep his cock in his pants around certain girls. So even if he tries to be faithful and commits himself to this chick. He wouldn't.. no I'm not saying that he can't and won't be able to have a committed relationship. But there should be no other bodies or females around other than his friends, who are friends and not girls who he hooked up..0 understand he's trying to keep a low profile and also keeping his options open. But he should be mindful about what he does to another. He seriously need to learn how to have just one relationship or be with one person. Like I said this is not self hating or being jealous. I'm just saying if she was all that and a bag of chips he wouldn't be entertaining others. No it doesn't mean that he likes these other women he may just be socially taunting with him.. you have those people who you like those people who are cool with knows people that you want to get down and dirty with and do the nasty. She's definitely in the category and who he likes and who he wants to get down and dirty with. But I don't think that they're they're serious. In his mind he may feel and think that she is the one and they probably do connect and have a different type of connection. But again he can't try to get involved with this young lady and still have me around. Again me and him we can be friends
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But I honestly don't think that he would be able to avoid Temptations with me. And I'm not saying this to be cocky! I mean he's trying to manifest something with her I'm trying to avoid other Temptations with other people, I do feel that. But you can't have in your mind that she's your soulmate but then got your door open for others. And like I said even with my significant other at least I made it clear to him that we were an open relationship. But if those doors happen to close off to others. Then I definitely wouldn't feel the need to socialize with my friends with benefits at all. He reaches out to me more than I do at times. Sometimes he'll be Mia for awhile. But he never goes that long. Like I said it doesn't necessarily mean anything just because he communicates with me. It just shows me that he really does have a serious commitment issues and he is still willing to get down and dirty with ME. He seriously need to cut off all of us or whoever else he's dealing with. Like I'm no better then him. But the difference is my guy gave me a commitment whether if it's open or closed, and at the end of the day was all these sexual tensions from me to my friends with benefits. He doesn't have a chance just sleep with me and he definitely won't have that opportunity again. I'm not going home with my friends with benefits I'm going home with my boyfriend. And if me and my boyfriend are good and every kind of way I don't need somebody from my past. And once the sex gets and become better, my needs doesn't need to be refilled buy another. And the difference between my friends with benefits and my boyfriend. Is, we care about each other deeply I don't think about him in a sexually away nor does he with me. Mike there's ways that we do connect and actually do stuff outside of the bedroom. So I'm willing to take that over anything..ππππ€
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Thanks for explaining. I think you have the right attitude and you will be okay going forward. You need to do what is best for you, put yourself first, and focus on your relationship with your boyfriend. It sounds like he cares for you deeply. You deserve someone who is only interested in you, and not just in the bedroom. If he's not quite as good in bed as your friend, you can always teach him to do the things you enjoy. I'm sure he'll be happy to do anything you want because he cares for you in a way your friend doesn't.
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You are 100% right!! πππ thank you sorry for the long paragraphs. I can't deal with someone who is going to here one day and gone the next. Smh
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Thank You so much! πππ
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It's a collaboration to all that he might have started liking you through the friends with benefits thing and technically you spend more time with your significant other than you do with him y'all just hook ups he might really like you and want to spend that same time you might be jealous of the other guy who knows
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Well I definitely do feel that there is another feminine energy around him. Out the blue and randomly he sending me purple hearts. And last weekend when we had (SEX) it wasn't are kind of sex. With certain people who you make special to you, you just don't forget certain things and. Nor memories. Now it was a year since him and I really touched each other, and seen each other. But anyways, the way and how he was sexting me.. I felt her through him. Like no foreplay, or 69.. And for the 1st time after sex was over. He gets up and try to hurry up and leave besides spending time with me like we used to. Now maybe they DON'T do all of that, or maybe he do with her. I don't know... But it was nice and felt good. But it's just the way and how he was doing me, was weird. ππ³.
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I got a question where is this other guy that supposed to be like the number one cuz you haven't talked about him at all it's all about this guy that's the friend with benefits maybe you like him more than you like the other one you think that's a possibility cuz they're not fairness you should be talking about your number one who is the guy that you actually with would you talk more about the friend with benefits maybe they both have qualities that you like and you can't decide who you want to be with π€π€π€
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Anyways. Moving on. He did most recently tell me last week or this past week about how he felt and how he apologized for not being able to make the time for me. He said, I see what your trying to do here. And he said, understand if you moved on and you're trying to work on things with your relationship I said I can't get mad about that. He said I can't give you the time that you need right now. He said because of his kid, his crazy hours that he works and just don't want other stuff he's personally going through.
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Now regardless about these assumptions that I make of him and things that I actually feel. The 1st thing that he said, was his son. And regardless of what girl comes across him and what vagina he comes across. His kid is way more important, then just sex. I mean, for sure. When he is in the need for it.. He goes too her. With any psychic that I have done a reading and concerning him. They always bring up an fire sign. I'm a cancer! So yeah. I myself dealt with a fire sign. And my use to be neighbor who is an Aries. Him and I and the sex between us was CRAZY... and I was so horny and super WET for him and was always in the mood for him. Like him and I would do it like almost all the times. Woah!! So sex was actually better with him. But with my friends with benefits of 8yers. He was just bigger. And with my neighbor he was really close by like literally next door close by. So I understand, if this is what he is experience. We all have the same stuff. Maybe just fuck different. So π€π€·
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Yes. The other guy is around. But lately! He's been out of town. We talk, almost every day tho. But he is a more newer person in my life, so I'm still getting use to him. With him.. The new dude? It's Easy to be myself around him. And I do like him and he definitely did not wait with wanting a committed relationship with me. Now with the open relationship I'm the one that suggested that! And at 1st he wasn't Okay with it. But after a few months.. he said, if you really want to try this. Then cool! :)- but we aren't keeping this open relationship open for too long.. so he says.. Who ever else you want to sex. Do it now... Before it's just you and I!
- Asker+1 y
Yup! Haha Hi and I bet lol
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- Explorer Age: 56+1 y
He probably feels like second best because you are with another guy already.
113 Reply- Asker+1 y
Right and the other girl she probably loves a lot closer. But he did tell me! How he is sorry that he couldn't give me time right now, and he said I see what you are trying to do. And he said, I can't get mad at you I can't be mad. He said, all he can do is just wait and if things are meant to be then it will be.
- Asker+1 y
Plus. I had him long enough... So she is all his... He also said that he WASN'T going no where, he said. I'm not leaving you baby. If just surprise me how things changed between him and I. I mean.. I do hope things work out for them both.. I mean at least he's not willing to cut me off completely so that's a plus. And plus we are trying to establish just building a friendship. My thing is, I look at like. Once I cut someone off or feel as if I not wanted... Then I no longer entertain that. I mean... Yeah he is connecting to her on a more emotional and physical. But if all he is doing.. Is sex with her. Then.. I'm not missing out on anything..(laughs) tbh. Him and I never went on any dates or did anything outside of the bedroom. I mean.. He's now wanting to do all of that. Or seem okay with us hanging and going places. So I'm good with that.
- Asker+1 y
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- +1 y
Well just do what makes you happy. :)
- Asker+1 y
Oh Yes! Plus.. He knows.. What's up... No matter what girl comes and go! He ain't leaving... And as far as I know... He's going to always come back to me... regardless. But also... what does it mean when a guy tells a girl that they have good sex chemistry?
- +1 y
It means they are compatible but he might get STDs sleeping around with other people so be careful.
- Asker+1 y
Right! Well that's what he told me. He said, him and I, have good sex chemistry, he said that's one of the best things that we do have. And I said, sex chemistry I thought it was sexual chemistry.
- Asker+1 y
But anyways. I have been avoiding him. But see here is my thing. He is involved with someone and I am dating someone. And if he is trying to make things work with her and Him or likes her and ALL. Then why still try to slide in my DM. π€π€. And he still some what tries to make time for me. No I'm not saying but he likes me. But he seems like he still is wanting me around- but I look at it like if he wants to pursue something serious or just have a sexual relationship between him and her. I just don't understand why I'm still around. Yes we agreed that we were going to be friends and he said if things are meant to be then it will be. Like he's still willing to give things a chance between him and I later on in the future or whenever. But even with me! I've been trying to cut my ties with him. And, just focus more on my relationship with the guy I am currently with and with the man above and myself. It's kind of weird to try to be friends with him knowing that we have been on and off again sexually with each other. But it's more harder for me because I developed feelings for this man. I mean at the end of the day I can care less about the sex. I'm emotionally tied to him. πππ«
- +1 y
Well it's good to stay friends with no sex if you have a boyfriend. Does he know about that? Is it an open relationship. You can be friends with him if you care about each other. I would be upset if I had a girlfriend that was having sex with someone else and it would be over if I found that out. But do what makes you happy if you aren't hurting someone.
- AskerNew +1 y
Yes. He knows, about the other guy. I don't think that he's jealous of any sort. But anytime that I mention about my boyfriend to him he doesn't call him my boyfriend he says oh that dude or that guy who got you pregnant. Or sometimes he may say WOW or Ok. Like he'll give me the amount of time and space and distance away from me. But he's never too far for too long. And I do feel as if he likes this other girl and feel as if she is his soulmate. But he should cut all the girls and people who he is seeing even including me. And he might agree and say okay we can still be friends and work and establish with building a friendship. But then yet turn around and want the hook up. The difference is with me my boyfriend we have an open relationship and I tell him about the guys who I have slept with and how many times and the same thing with him. But so far it only has been one for both. But the difference is I'm not going home with my friends with benefits I'm going home with the person who actually committed themselves to me. So if taking away sex and just strictly being friends I'm actually okay with that I will just have to get past the feelings for him.
- AskerNew +1 y
But Remind you back in 2014 was never my idea of sleeping with him he was so pressed on getting at me and getting in my clothes. So trust me I have no problems with cutting off sex. I think I just like sex better with my friends with benefits because he knows my body and how to get me off. But I also like my boyfriend a lot better because we don't base things off of sex, we are able to do other things outside of the bedroom. And plus this young lady that he's saying I'm happy for them I'm happy for her. But it shows that he has commitment issues because he definitely can't even keep away from me and plus he talks to many girls.
- AskerNew +1 y
So he hasn't yet gave anybody 100% of him just yet. So my goal and what I've been doing is trying to avoid him and keep away. But even with that. Lately he has been in my DMs. I'm just trying to make the moving on process a lot easier. But it almost seems as if he doesn't want me to not like him or doesn't want me to stop liking him or being attracted to him. He literally says one thing I say yeah yeah we can be friends I'm cool with us just being friends. Then when I tell him that my boyfriend and I will no longer be having a open relationship. Like he doesn't get mad or anything. He just says oh I'm sorry that I can't give you the time that you need right now and I understand that he can. Or somewhat tries to pull away from her and try to be more assistance with me or talk. Like literally he is under nobody spell but the people who are actually putting spells on him.. and it doesn't necessarily mean anything when he returns back to me. But it definitely shows that maybe he does have somewhat feelings for me but mainly more of me not letting him go. He even said it himself how he wasn't going anywhere. And again I get it we agreed to be just friends. Nothing is wrong with that. But he definitely shouldn't be comfortable was trying to get at me years later or weeks from now or month. Again I got to give him his props he has been avoiding any interactions and meeting up with me. But of course he lets his guard down and definitely give into temptation. So that's all on him nobody's make him do anything but him.
- AskerNew +1 y
So I keep my distance to show him that it's okay if you like someone it's okay if you want to sleep with that person it's okay if you want to be serious with that person and you and her to be the only ones. I'm cool with that. Like I said I only hook up with him because we have good sex as he says. But at the end of the day I'm not going home with him and he said for not staying over at my house it's this one bit bent then I have but I'm going to be the only one to lay in it with my boyfriend or by myself. ππ€. So.. Yup! πππ
- Xper 5 Age: 58+1 y
Just my humble opinion don't send him anymore sexually explicit videos. I don't necessarily mean to hurt your feelings but this guy you're messing with might be married
01 Reply- AskerNew +1 y
No sweetie. He ain't married.. He ain't committed to anyone... he fucks around! And TBH.. if all he is doing is sleeping with her.. Then I'm not missing out on anything. He's just now wanting to go out and do more outside if the bedroom. Or make me his friend. But look.. once I cut something off with someone! Then I'm good. It took him 8 years and for me to tell him that I was dating someone and let him now how I felt about him. And for him to see and maybe wanting to try get at something in the future. He's like, I can't be mad at you.. i see what you doing with your relationship. And he did say, how he was sorry for not making the time for me as I want. He also says all I can do it wait.. And if things are meant to be then it's meant to be. So I'm good. Plus 8 years on and off with him is a long to deal with him. So now we just trying to build and established working on a friendship.
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